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 we was a little unsure just how people see and what there perception of us was but the comments we had were ALOT better than we could have ever imagined  thank you to everyone that sent us a lovely message | |||
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"Absolutely nothing....these types of thread are not for me....Best of luck" I think that it’s a difficult thread to make work for you if you’ve been on the fringes. I’m sorry that it’s been like that for you | |||
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"Absolutely nothing....these types of thread are not for me....Best of luck I think that it’s a difficult thread to make work for you if you’ve been on the fringes. I’m sorry that it’s been like that for you" it’s likely to work more those who post quite a bit and are known faces. It’s not a popularity contest or anything it’s just how people come across to others. | |||
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"Absolutely nothing....these types of thread are not for me....Best of luck" Same best of luck | |||
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"Mine were both lovely and constructive.. I’m kind of aware about a few things that have changed but it was weird hearing it from several people. Gives me a kick to work a bit harder "I don't need to tell you what I think about you as you already know. | |||
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"Mine were both lovely and constructive.. I’m kind of aware about a few things that have changed but it was weird hearing it from several people. Gives me a kick to work a bit harder "I’m glad that it was constructive and helped! That’s exactly the point | |||
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A suprise for us is, we've found someone with mutual attraction and would like to meet us too
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"Mine were both lovely and constructive.. I’m kind of aware about a few things that have changed but it was weird hearing it from several people. Gives me a kick to work a bit harder
I don't need to tell you what I think about you as you already know that you smell of cheese and dogs "Harsh!! | |||
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"Mine were both lovely and constructive.. I’m kind of aware about a few things that have changed but it was weird hearing it from several people. Gives me a kick to work a bit harder
I don't need to tell you what I think about you as you already know. "Ditto bird | |||
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"Mine were both lovely and constructive.. I’m kind of aware about a few things that have changed but it was weird hearing it from several people. Gives me a kick to work a bit harder
I don't need to tell you what I think about you as you already know that you smell of cheese and dogs
Harsh!! "Oi you! | |||
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"I didn’t get any today but you’re all amazing "I love the way you hold your beer | |||
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"Mine were both lovely and constructive.. I’m kind of aware about a few things that have changed but it was weird hearing it from several people. Gives me a kick to work a bit harder
I don't need to tell you what I think about you as you already know that you smell of cheese and dogs
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"I did think it would favour females and couples more than single blokes From the responses here, it looks like it may have been the case " Not on our part. We pm'd 2 single males too
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"I did think it would favour females and couples more than single blokes From the responses here, it looks like it may have been the case Not on our part. We pm'd 2 single males too
Her x"Ones you fancy or ones you have chatted to previously and have already established a bond with? | |||
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"I did think it would favour females and couples more than single blokes From the responses here, it looks like it may have been the case Not on our part. We pm'd 2 single males too
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Ones you fancy or ones you have chatted to previously and have already established a bond with? "Iv messaged single men just because I appreciate there contribution to the forums. | |||
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"I did think it would favour females and couples more than single blokes From the responses here, it looks like it may have been the case " That might have been the case, I think that most threads do on fab. Especially as some will use it as an opportunity to chat to their crushes. I’m sorry that you’re experience of it was less than positive | |||
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"Mine were both lovely and constructive.. I’m kind of aware about a few things that have changed but it was weird hearing it from several people. Gives me a kick to work a bit harder "You never listen to me anyway!
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"I did think it would favour females and couples more than single blokes From the responses here, it looks like it may have been the case Not on our part. We pm'd 2 single males too
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Ones you fancy or ones you have chatted to previously and have already established a bond with? "Well we're not looking for single males so for us it's nothing to do with meeting on why we would've messeged them. We went from on who we've personally seen on threads, communicated with them on here and/or private message | |||
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"I did think it would favour females and couples more than single blokes From the responses here, it looks like it may have been the case That might have been the case, I think that most threads do on fab. Especially as some will use it as an opportunity to chat to their crushes. I’m sorry that you’re experience of it was less than positive " I'm not knocking it Tea The thread was positive in its intentions I didn't message anyone, so it would be unfair of me to complain about a lack of response I am, however, not surprised to see the majority of positive responses have been directed towards women I think, in addition to the obvious opportunity for men to contact women, women are also more comfortable complimenting each other than guys are complimenting each other | |||
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"I did think it would favour females and couples more than single blokes From the responses here, it looks like it may have been the case That might have been the case, I think that most threads do on fab. Especially as some will use it as an opportunity to chat to their crushes. I’m sorry that you’re experience of it was less than positive I'm not knocking it Tea The thread was positive in its intentions I didn't message anyone, so it would be unfair of me to complain about a lack of response I am, however, not surprised to see the majority of positive responses have been directed towards women I think, in addition to the obvious opportunity for men to contact women, women are also more comfortable complimenting each other than guys are complimenting each other" That’s fair, to be honest, I do know a couple of guys on here but there isn’t as much familiarity between guys as there are other genders. Perhaps it’s because guys see each other as competition, rather than potential friends. | |||
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"I think the nicest one I got was ‘bell end’ "Were the words “I can see your...” before it? | |||
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"I think the nicest one I got was ‘bell end’
Were the words “I can see your...” before it? "No, ‘your face looks like a....” | |||
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"I did think it would favour females and couples more than single blokes From the responses here, it looks like it may have been the case That might have been the case, I think that most threads do on fab. Especially as some will use it as an opportunity to chat to their crushes. I’m sorry that you’re experience of it was less than positive I'm not knocking it Tea The thread was positive in its intentions I didn't message anyone, so it would be unfair of me to complain about a lack of response I am, however, not surprised to see the majority of positive responses have been directed towards women I think, in addition to the obvious opportunity for men to contact women, women are also more comfortable complimenting each other than guys are complimenting each other That’s fair, to be honest, I do know a couple of guys on here but there isn’t as much familiarity between guys as there are other genders. Perhaps it’s because guys see each other as competition, rather than potential friends. " Well, I did for a couple of guys but it was nothing suspect or iffy. Just that I’ve seen them post. | |||
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"I sent quite a lot, and received 2 back without me sending one first. Think in general there was a common theme and one message made me properly think " In a good way? | |||
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"I think the nicest one I got was ‘bell end’
Were the words “I can see your...” before it?
No, ‘your face looks like a....” "The latter I’m afraid | |||
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Truly touched by a few that I received and it’s left me smiling.
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"I think the nicest one I got was ‘bell end’
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No, ‘your face looks like a....”
The latter I’m afraid " | |||
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On a more serious note, I did realise that I'm far too harsh on myself and also there are other overthinkers on here - it doesn't mean they are any less brilliant so nor am I.
I have a lot of time for people on here, this exercise confirmed that. | |||
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"I sent quite a lot, and received 2 back without me sending one first. Think in general there was a common theme and one message made me properly think In a good way? " Yes in a good way, always like the opportunity to think. One message still hasn't been opened which is kinda sad, need to put my overthinking hat away and shrug shoulders and move on. | |||
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"I sent quite a lot, and received 2 back without me sending one first. Think in general there was a common theme and one message made me properly think In a good way? Yes in a good way, always like the opportunity to think. One message still hasn't been opened which is kinda sad, need to put my overthinking hat away and shrug shoulders and move on. " I'm the same with one or 2 unopened. One thing that annoyed me just slightly was the ones that did open wouldn't even take 30 seconds to acknowledge what you said or even as little as a thank you. Nice to be nice after all | |||
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"I sent quite a lot, and received 2 back without me sending one first. Think in general there was a common theme and one message made me properly think In a good way? Yes in a good way, always like the opportunity to think. One message still hasn't been opened which is kinda sad, need to put my overthinking hat away and shrug shoulders and move on. I'm the same with one or 2 unopened. One thing that annoyed me just slightly was the ones that did open wouldn't even take 30 seconds to acknowledge what you said or even as little as a thank you. Nice to be nice after all " You sent messages as part of that thread and they read them but didn't reply? Not worth worrying about those types. | |||
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"I sent quite a lot, and received 2 back without me sending one first. Think in general there was a common theme and one message made me properly think In a good way? Yes in a good way, always like the opportunity to think. One message still hasn't been opened which is kinda sad, need to put my overthinking hat away and shrug shoulders and move on. I'm the same with one or 2 unopened. One thing that annoyed me just slightly was the ones that did open wouldn't even take 30 seconds to acknowledge what you said or even as little as a thank you. Nice to be nice after all You sent messages as part of that thread and they read them but didn't reply? Not worth worrying about those types. " Yeah even used the thread name in the message title
I know your right was just a little thing that left you kinda going "oh.....ok then"
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"I sent quite a lot, and received 2 back without me sending one first. Think in general there was a common theme and one message made me properly think In a good way? Yes in a good way, always like the opportunity to think. One message still hasn't been opened which is kinda sad, need to put my overthinking hat away and shrug shoulders and move on. I'm the same with one or 2 unopened. One thing that annoyed me just slightly was the ones that did open wouldn't even take 30 seconds to acknowledge what you said or even as little as a thank you. Nice to be nice after all You sent messages as part of that thread and they read them but didn't reply? Not worth worrying about those types. " I sent a few out and had responses back I haven't replied to the responses though I was happy enough just to unnerve them with the initial 'I'm watching you' message | |||
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"I sent quite a lot, and received 2 back without me sending one first. Think in general there was a common theme and one message made me properly think In a good way? Yes in a good way, always like the opportunity to think. One message still hasn't been opened which is kinda sad, need to put my overthinking hat away and shrug shoulders and move on. I'm the same with one or 2 unopened. One thing that annoyed me just slightly was the ones that did open wouldn't even take 30 seconds to acknowledge what you said or even as little as a thank you. Nice to be nice after all You sent messages as part of that thread and they read them but didn't reply? Not worth worrying about those types. Yeah even used the thread name in the message title
I know your right was just a little thing that left you kinda going "oh.....ok then"
If you say your in be actually in and involved. "Yes, that sounds a bit crap. | |||
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"I sent quite a lot, and received 2 back without me sending one first. Think in general there was a common theme and one message made me properly think In a good way? Yes in a good way, always like the opportunity to think. One message still hasn't been opened which is kinda sad, need to put my overthinking hat away and shrug shoulders and move on. I'm the same with one or 2 unopened. One thing that annoyed me just slightly was the ones that did open wouldn't even take 30 seconds to acknowledge what you said or even as little as a thank you. Nice to be nice after all You sent messages as part of that thread and they read them but didn't reply? Not worth worrying about those types. Yeah even used the thread name in the message title
I know your right was just a little thing that left you kinda going "oh.....ok then"
If you say your in be actually in and involved. "Well that's just not cricket | |||
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"I sent quite a few, and had a few myself. It was a nice exercise, but everyone was really nice
(Not complaining though )"There is that problem. On here, where people want to be seen in a positive light and where perceptions can mean an awful lot, giving criticism can be a tough thing to do. Especially so if you desperately want the person you’re talking to to react positively to you. It’s nice but in terms of the thread, kind of contrary | |||
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"I sent quite a few, and had a few myself. It was a nice exercise, but everyone was really nice
(Not complaining though )
There is that problem.
On here, where people want to be seen in a positive light and where perceptions can mean an awful lot, giving criticism can be a tough thing to do. Especially so if you desperately want the person you’re talking to to react positively to you.
It’s nice but in terms of the thread, kind of contrary"I did deliberately avoid sending messages out to anyone that wouldn't be pure nice because I didn't want a) the person to be upset and b) them to think I'm a dick. A few I sent I was very honest about things and it was (I think) well received. You don't want to upset people by saying "Oh sometimes you do x and it is y" because that's your impression and it might be taken badly. | |||
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"I sent quite a few, and had a few myself. It was a nice exercise, but everyone was really nice
(Not complaining though )
There is that problem.
On here, where people want to be seen in a positive light and where perceptions can mean an awful lot, giving criticism can be a tough thing to do. Especially so if you desperately want the person you’re talking to to react positively to you.
It’s nice but in terms of the thread, kind of contrary"I was hoping for some not nice ones, to make me think, as I find them more interesting and an individual’s perception. Did I send not nice ones, no.... as one they would go to individuals I don’t like their ways and they know it already, and two I didn’t know enough of the other individuals on the thread to be constructive in that way. | |||
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"I sent quite a few, and had a few myself. It was a nice exercise, but everyone was really nice
(Not complaining though )
There is that problem.
On here, where people want to be seen in a positive light and where perceptions can mean an awful lot, giving criticism can be a tough thing to do. Especially so if you desperately want the person you’re talking to to react positively to you.
It’s nice but in terms of the thread, kind of contrary
I was hoping for some not nice ones, to make me think, as I find them more interesting and an individual’s perception.
Did I send not nice ones, no.... as one they would go to individuals I don’t like their ways and they know it already, and two I didn’t know enough of the other individuals on the thread to be constructive in that way. "I agree, that something to make me think could have been useful, as long as it isn’t just being mean. | |||
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"I didn’t send or receive anything not nice or negative so to speak. I just sent my honest opinions of what I thought about them "Likewise in my usual, no fluff blunt way | |||
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"I sent quite a few, and had a few myself. It was a nice exercise, but everyone was really nice
(Not complaining though )
There is that problem.
On here, where people want to be seen in a positive light and where perceptions can mean an awful lot, giving criticism can be a tough thing to do. Especially so if you desperately want the person you’re talking to to react positively to you.
It’s nice but in terms of the thread, kind of contrary
I did deliberately avoid sending messages out to anyone that wouldn't be pure nice because I didn't want a) the person to be upset and b) them to think I'm a dick. A few I sent I was very honest about things and it was (I think) well received. You don't want to upset people by saying "Oh sometimes you do x and it is y" because that's your impression and it might be taken badly."I see what you’re saying but at the same point there’s a lot of difference between being a dick and being constructive. It is your opinion but that was kind of the point; for external opinions. | |||
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"This is probably for another thread but what if you said something to someone which you didn't think was mean but they took it as being mean. What makes it mean? The intention or the response? Is it both? Is it neither? Pick the bones out of that one. " Well, you have a good point, and I’m not sure you can prevent it. I did ask someone a question which hopefully made her think, but it wasn’t my thoughts, it was a question about her thoughts Does that make sense? | |||
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"This is probably for another thread but what if you said something to someone which you didn't think was mean but they took it as being mean. What makes it mean? The intention or the response? Is it both? Is it neither? Pick the bones out of that one. " Coukd you not have a discussion about it and try to see what the writer meant, words could have been misconstrued and if not, the writer then listens and tries to understand why the reviver might be upset by it. It could be something the receiver wasn’t aware of, but shocked and likewise the writer’s style. If people aren’t open to receiving constructive thoughts about them (good or bad) then maybe best not to join in if only want fluffy, slap on the back comments. | |||
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"This is probably for another thread but what if you said something to someone which you didn't think was mean but they took it as being mean. What makes it mean? The intention or the response? Is it both? Is it neither? Pick the bones out of that one. " I think when you opt into the thread there is that possibility. You're asking people for their opinions on you, so that's the chance you take. | |||
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"This is probably for another thread but what if you said something to someone which you didn't think was mean but they took it as being mean. What makes it mean? The intention or the response? Is it both? Is it neither? Pick the bones out of that one. Coukd you not have a discussion about it and try to see what the writer meant, words could have been misconstrued and if not, the writer then listens and tries to understand why the reviver might be upset by it. It could be something the receiver wasn’t aware of, but shocked and likewise the writer’s style. If people aren’t open to receiving constructive thoughts about them (good or bad) then maybe best not to join in if only want fluffy, slap on the back comments. " Exactly this! The intent was for criticism to be constructive so as to not be offensive but sometimes it can be taken that way. If someone is sensitive to receiving constructive opinions or negative feedback, joining a thread specifically intended for that, probably isn’t the best idea. If people only want their egos massaged, there are plenty of those around | |||
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" I see what you’re saying but at the same point there’s a lot of difference between being a dick and being constructive. It is your opinion but that was kind of the point; for external opinions. " Yes this is true but come now AlphaMonkey. You know how things can be misconstrued, messages shared and taken out of context. Even on the thread people asked for only nice comments etc because of external factors. You learn when not to say particular things, when to. Or you become like me, who shies away from anything that's not daftness in case it unleashes the inner dick. I do think that's the sort of thread that invites more rounded opinions than the usual saccharine nonsense but you still need to tread carefully with people. | |||
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"This is probably for another thread but what if you said something to someone which you didn't think was mean but they took it as being mean. What makes it mean? The intention or the response? Is it both? Is it neither? Pick the bones out of that one. Coukd you not have a discussion about it and try to see what the writer meant, words could have been misconstrued and if not, the writer then listens and tries to understand why the reviver might be upset by it. It could be something the receiver wasn’t aware of, but shocked and likewise the writer’s style. If people aren’t open to receiving constructive thoughts about them (good or bad) then maybe best not to join in if only want fluffy, slap on the back comments. Exactly this! The intent was for criticism to be constructive so as to not be offensive but sometimes it can be taken that way. If someone is sensitive to receiving constructive opinions or negative feedback, joining a thread specifically intended for that, probably isn’t the best idea. If people only want their egos massaged, there are plenty of those around" That’s all well and good in theory but we both know that some would take any criticism as mean so it’s pointless communicating because it will just end in a huff. | |||
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"No one played with me!!" same. I don’t actually believe I’m a jerkoff so that doesn’t count. | |||
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"I did think it would favour females and couples more than single blokes From the responses here, it looks like it may have been the case " Filters don't help in these situations. | |||
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"I sent quite a few, and had a few myself. It was a nice exercise, but everyone was really nice
(Not complaining though )
There is that problem.
On here, where people want to be seen in a positive light and where perceptions can mean an awful lot, giving criticism can be a tough thing to do. Especially so if you desperately want the person you’re talking to to react positively to you.
It’s nice but in terms of the thread, kind of contrary
I did deliberately avoid sending messages out to anyone that wouldn't be pure nice because I didn't want a) the person to be upset and b) them to think I'm a dick. A few I sent I was very honest about things and it was (I think) well received. You don't want to upset people by saying "Oh sometimes you do x and it is y" because that's your impression and it might be taken badly."Personally I would have taken it fine and stepped back and taken anything on board that was said | |||
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