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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP   Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

A conversation I had yesterday got me to thinking on this .

If you were really honest do you come across as confident on fab but are actually quite shy in person , or are you rather quiet in here but come to life in real life meets or social situations?

Just musing really xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always the same, doesn't matter who I'm with or if it's in person or virtual.

I don't know how to be any other way

Lu

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

I’ll let the people that know me answer that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends how much booze I've had

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP   Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"I'm always the same, doesn't matter who I'm with or if it's in person or virtual.

I don't know how to be any other way

Lu "

You're not wrong there Lu

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP   Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"It depends how much booze I've had "

I say nothing

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP   Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"I’ll let the people that know me answer that! "

Sounds fair

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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It depends on the social situation really - if I'm uncomfortable and unfamiliar with my surroundings I'll probably be a bit overwhelmed and might come across as shy - joys of being Aspie.

If I'm feeling positive in myself and comfortable with those I'm with I'm confident.

Not sure if that makes any sense.

Most of the time I'm relatively confident for a short answer!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I think I'm as confident in real life. Mr KC is as confident as his forum posts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Much the same really, I sometimes describe myself as shy and people with me usually splurt their coffee over me at this point

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP   Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"It depends on the social situation really - if I'm uncomfortable and unfamiliar with my surroundings I'll probably be a bit overwhelmed and might come across as shy - joys of being Aspie.

If I'm feeling positive in myself and comfortable with those I'm with I'm confident.

Not sure if that makes any sense.

Most of the time I'm relatively confident for a short answer! "

I understood perfectly Meli and thankyou xx

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP   Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"I think I'm as confident in real life. Mr KC is as confident as his forum posts "

Never a bad thing yay

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP   Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"Much the same really, I sometimes describe myself as shy and people with me usually splurt their coffee over me at this point "

Then you're clearly not

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I’m quiet, restrained in real life like I am here until I get to know someone.

However, I do have the confidence to say hi, start a conversation in person but I’ve been like that since a child, don’t wait for things to happen or appear make the first move.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About the same, slightly shy at first, mostly easygoing.

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

To shy to answer.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP   Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"I’m quiet, restrained in real life like I am here until I get to know someone.

However, I do have the confidence to say hi, start a conversation in person but I’ve been like that since a child, don’t wait for things to happen or appear make the first move. "

And you know your films better than me too

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP   Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"About the same, slightly shy at first, mostly easygoing."

I used to be here at first

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP   Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"To shy to answer. "

Yeah right

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

What is this 'shy' you speak of?

I jest. If people admit they like me in a romantic sense I'm all coz I don't expect it.

Large groups that already know each other, I ain't gonna bound in like tigger after 18 packets of smarties, and it can take me a while to settle.

Doing the job that I do, I've had to overcome it for the most part and I'm great in work, if a curveball gets thrown tho I can get a wobble.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP   Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"What is this 'shy' you speak of?

I jest. If people admit they like me in a romantic sense I'm all coz I don't expect it.

Large groups that already know each other, I ain't gonna bound in like tigger after 18 packets of smarties, and it can take me a while to settle.

Doing the job that I do, I've had to overcome it for the most part and I'm great in work, if a curveball gets thrown tho I can get a wobble."

That's great honesty Peach and I can understand that totally

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"I’m quiet, restrained in real life like I am here until I get to know someone.

However, I do have the confidence to say hi, start a conversation in person but I’ve been like that since a child, don’t wait for things to happen or appear make the first move.

And you know your films better than me too "

Even some that are your favourites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm shy in any circumstance until I get comfortable in my surroundings and then I'm pretty confident. I read the phrase "introverted extrovert" a while ago and I think that sums me up quote well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I’m confident in real life too

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP   Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"I’m quiet, restrained in real life like I am here until I get to know someone.

However, I do have the confidence to say hi, start a conversation in person but I’ve been like that since a child, don’t wait for things to happen or appear make the first move.

And you know your films better than me too

Even some that are your favourites "

I was tired those days

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP   Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"I'm shy in any circumstance until I get comfortable in my surroundings and then I'm pretty confident. I read the phrase "introverted extrovert" a while ago and I think that sums me up quote well."

I like that actually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think in certain situations im exactly the same online as irl.

other times, im more shy.

Px

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP   Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"No I’m confident in real life too "

And that's a great attribute

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP   Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"i think in certain situations im exactly the same online as irl.

other times, im more shy.

Px "

Well you come across as fun and bubbly xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m less inclined to join more serious conversations on here, in real life I love them but it’s too easy to be misconstrued or inadvertently offend so I tend to have a read and scroll on....

Otherwise I think I’m fairly the same

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I think I'm mostly the same. I tend to blend into the crowd but will engage more on a one to one basis or smaller groups or conversations.

Kx

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP   Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"I’m less inclined to join more serious conversations on here, in real life I love them but it’s too easy to be misconstrued or inadvertently offend so I tend to have a read and scroll on....

Otherwise I think I’m fairly the same "

Yes I get that, words on a page can be easily misconstrued

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP   Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"I think I'm mostly the same. I tend to blend into the crowd but will engage more on a one to one basis or smaller groups or conversations.

Kx"

Yes totally. A large group if I didnt know everyone can be daunting at first for sure x

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Reserved around people I don’t know/trust.

But otherwise pretty much the same.

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By *randmrsc30Couple
over a year ago

East Riding

I’m much more confident in my swinging life than I’m my regular life. I wear the clothes I feel sexier in and I’m comfortable being with like minded people. I find I’m much more reserved and keep to my self in my everyday life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m less inclined to join more serious conversations on here, in real life I love them but it’s too easy to be misconstrued or inadvertently offend so I tend to have a read and scroll on....

Otherwise I think I’m fairly the same

Yes I get that, words on a page can be easily misconstrued "

Exactly!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm more engaged in real life situations, but dip in and out on here. I guess that could be construed as I'm less confident on here, but it's more a case of involvement.

I think I'm generally confident, but then don't want to come across as an arrogant prick so I can end up being quite quiet sometimes. Overthinking much?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I'm not shy at all here or real life x

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

More shy in real life. I’m very socially awkward as a result. Although I can be shy on here in DM’s.

I guess I’m all bluster

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

About the same but mrs4 comes in to her own when meeting others as she hates typing !! and people tend to think mr4 is making up some of the stuff she can and does come out with ..sarcasm is her fave ..

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP   Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Thanks for your replies guys , will be back soon to reply I have some shit to do so carry on .

Thankyou

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Neither I'm guarded

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

Depends on whether I am dealing with idiots or not, whether in the real world, or in the swinging world. If I've got clowns to bring down a peg or two, then I'm not backward at coming forward, but when I'm around nice people I always treat them with the same respect that I would expect from them, and don't take over the conversation, or do anything that might leave them feeling uncomfortable.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Real life for sure, I certainly find it easier to talk on here than I do in person. Although sometimes I do even get tongue tied when thinking of replies to messages on here

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

I'm a mixture of both especially if I like some 1 x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say I'm far shyer in real life, than I am on here. On here, I will happily make first contact with someone, no way I'd do that in real life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I am the same.

I am a confident woman, this shows in person too

I think I may seem more serious/argumentative on here than in person at times though, as most the time I am happy and laughing x

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I am the same and very confident, I do like to appraise situations so can be thoughtful in the corner people watching

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm always the same, doesn't matter who I'm with or if it's in person or virtual.

I don't know how to be any other way

Lu "

Exactly what I was going to say!

Her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm the same in person, confident in most things, few in here I've met may agree, or just think I'm a cock

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By *hristopherd999Man
over a year ago

Brentwood

My shyness has affected me all my life

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Here probably to be honest, I'm a talker not a writer. Conversation flows easier when I speak maybe due to being dyslexic and not being as confident with the written word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality wise im the same regardless to where I am.

I can be shy meeting new people but after a while I'm usually okay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who have met me from the forums have said I am exactly the same on here as I am in real life.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

The thing about SM is that you can pick it up and put it down whenever you want. People can see the picture that people choose to portray. Someone who appears confident on here could be wracked with anxiety and not see the emotional cost.

Some people are genuine, some put up a mask, sometimes the mask matches, sometimes it’s fake. You’re unlikely to get honest answers from fakes of those trying to portray a different picture

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

Shy in real life but more confident since joining the site and not as nervous as I once would have been after chatting with someone for a while, difficult on here if you are just a wallflower so you have to come out of your shell a bit.

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

I’m a shy/introvert person in nature but it doesn’t stay long as soon as I feel mutual attraction there

I don’t believe it’s related to my confidence because I am a confident person, I know who I am and what I want it’s just case of me not being a flirty chatter and feel weird during awkward silences when happens x

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I’m an ambivert so can be quite shy in crowds if I don’t really know people but chatty and open with people I do know

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By *ikkiHbiWoman
over a year ago

Cleethorpes

Not shy on here but shy in real life, well until I'm wet anyway

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP   Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Okay had to shuffle off for a while there but thankyou for your answers , it's been extremely interesting to see how people see themselves .

It would take forever to respond to everyone but I do appreciate your answers and honesty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on who I'm meeting.

On here, I'm usually confident but have found it harder since being away from the forums for a while.

If its a meet, then I'm shy at first, until I feel comfortable in their presence (and confident they aren't about to run away )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no idea how I come across on fab. In the real world I would say I am more reserved than shy. I'm very selective about who I talk to about anything other than casual conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m just the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m just the same "

So you will copter for me in person then?

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

I’m a confident woman both in person and on here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m just the same

So you will copter for me in person then? "

Of course I would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be more likely to join in conversations in the real world instead of just Reading/listening to other people's responses. I usually get very hesitant, almost critical, about posting responses. Too much time to think about it here whereas in life it just comes out unedited, usually fine too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much similar. I don't have energy for creating a different persona online. And it will clash with reality eventually. Its also about the growth. I started here very shyly, but that is a thing or the past.

So fairly confident and out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As for approaching women, then I'm just as much of a clowns arsenal here as I am in reality it would seem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As for approaching women, then I'm just as much of a clowns arsenal here as I am in reality it would seem. "

*arse. ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Used to be shy now no more

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By *ungirl1412Couple
over a year ago

Newport

I am definately more shy in real life...but after a few gins I relax.?? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm definitely more shy and not as confident in real life. I'll happily send a first message to men on here, I'd never approach a guy first in the real world

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I’m confident on and off here but I’m quieter on here as I’m crap at messaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quite shy in person! Total hoot on here though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am proper shy honest.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m confident on and off here but I’m quieter on here as I’m crap at messaging."

You just need more practice..

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By *issMeSlowlyMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I'm quiet and shy in real life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm shy in real life. I think I come across as very confident on here but unless I'm comfortable with you, you won't get much conversation from me and I'll be very awkward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not shy, I am socially awkward

There is a difference

1 on 1 is fine

Put me in a room with a group of people, however, and watch me melt into the soft furnishings and walls

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By *ocksareoffMan
over a year ago

Out n About

Oh I'm really quiet and shy in the real world. I've always been socially awkward around people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really shy on hear and much more confident in real life as I am very good at reading body language

Witch means I can pick up on the tell tail sights some one likes me

Whare on hear can never really tell if they really like you or just playing you for a kick

Or a any holes a gole type thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shyer on here. Much more relaxed and confident in real world.

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