FabSwingers.com forum: It is OK to not be OK

By *hrista Bellend OP Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I am not OK, but my friends are supporting me

Use this thread to speak out if you are not OK, remember everyone has down days and let's not gloss it over and say actually today no I am not OK, but one day I will be

Love to all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending a virtual hug OP.

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By *awk90Man
over a year ago

Amsterdam

I am not okay, but I am getting there. Soon the stress will ease and things will get better

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By *otkisses33Woman
over a year ago

felpham

My life is a nightmare at the moment I’m losing both my dad and brother to cancer at the same time it’s really getting to me.. but I do have friends checking on me but as a single woman it’s very lonely going through this..I’m keeping busy as much as I can but i just miss a good cuddle and hugs from friends.. lockdown sucks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww sending hugs to OP and all who need just an ear to listen friends help so much.

Nice and hard too we we need to open up yesterday upsetting news so not ok, trying to keep positive and not allow to floor me fully today new day and Healthy

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Kent

No I’m not ok....far from it if I’m honest.

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By *elgaWoman
over a year ago

northallerton

Virtual hugs are not the same but sending them anyway. ??????

"My life is a nightmare at the moment I’m losing both my dad and brother to cancer at the same time it’s really getting to me.. but I do have friends checking on me but as a single woman it’s very lonely going through this..I’m keeping busy as much as I can but i just miss a good cuddle and hugs from friends.. lockdown sucks

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By *ermite12ukMan
over a year ago

Solihull and Brentwood

"Nice and hard too we we need to open up yesterday upsetting news so not ok, trying to keep positive and not allow to floor me fully today new day and Healthy

Floor me fully: Is that Missionary or doggy? Asking for a friend.

I apologise in advance for my smuttyness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not ok, I'm struggling with my mental health, partly due to the lock down during winter (it didn't bother me as much in the summer), partly due to deteriating health, lots of pain, the loss of my mum and not being allowed to see her for almost a year and then restrictions on visiting when she was in her very last days. Also I'm being told i have to return to work from shielding even though i havn't had my 2nd jab and we don't wear PPE at work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's ok to not be ok, what's even better is saying it out loud. I felt such a struggling mess trying to manage lockdown with 4 kids after always seeing other mums on social media doing amazing things with their kids, face full of make up with a spotless house. Today feels like a good day here in our house, dunno about tomorrow, I just go with the flow now a days. Big hugs to you all xxx

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great thread OP.. I'm kinda OK at the momen.

Hugs to all who are going through really though times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not ok, I'm struggling with my mental health, partly due to the lock down during winter (it didn't bother me as much in the summer), partly due to deteriating health, lots of pain, the loss of my mum and not being allowed to see her for almost a year and then restrictions on visiting when she was in her very last days. Also I'm being told i have to return to work from shielding even though i havn't had my 2nd jab and we don't wear PPE at work."

So sorry

. That must have been incredibly hard. Sending hugs.

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By *aturing bullMan
over a year ago

TOOTING

"I am not OK, but my friends are supporting me

Use this thread to speak out if you are not OK, remember everyone has down days and let's not gloss it over and say actually today no I am not OK, but one day I will be

Love to all

Thank you for the thoughtfulness of the post. It has given a space for Fabbers who want to open up. Thanks again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have good days and down days. Work is killing me, it's always been stressful but I suppose before lockdown I could always balance that with friends, family and fun. Now it's just work, then sleep. I had a bit of a wobble the other day where I just had to sit and have a good cry. I'm looking forward to things starting to open back up again, and the weather improving is helping too.

Thanks for asking OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry

. That must have been incredibly hard. Sending hugs."

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending hugs to everyone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am also not doing that well. Lockdown has been so hard, especially this last one, and I’ve had other stuff going on too, so I’ve been feeling quite low recently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am not OK, but my friends are supporting me

Use this thread to speak out if you are not OK, remember everyone has down days and let's not gloss it over and say actually today no I am not OK, but one day I will be

Love to all

Sending you love

And no, I'm not ok. Not sure I have been for a while. Small steps though

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

I've not been okay since I was a teenager, decided recently to try to do something about it so I'm now on medication and waiting for NHS counselling

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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

I'm not ok at the moment. It's so insignificant compared to all of you. I'm so down at the moment winter was tough on my mental health.

I tried to use coping mechanisms of exercise and have picked up injuries throughout meaning I can do as much. Came to a melt down on Monday when I thought I'd recovered to only get 2 mins in when injury struck again.

I'm so down about it.. you know what it's like when you have a switch in your head that flicks and send you spiralling? That's what happened Monday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thoughts go out to all who are struggling, finding it hard to cope, pissed off or just feeling meh.

Inbox is open of anyone whats to chat, vent or whatever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's definitely OK not to be OK, and more importantly it's OK to talk about it.

Whether that's writing down how you feel, or talking to family and friends.

We need to talk more as a society, especially men who often bottle their emotions up.

Nobody can change the situation you are in, but they can listen... Its why we have two ears.

For those who have lost love ones, allow the grief to come out, remember there's no right or wrong way.

This last year has been one of the hardest experiences we've all had to endure, and everyone has, and will deal with it in their own way.

Be kind to yourselves people, you are allowed to be.

Sometimes, we have to take off our Superhero Cape.

I'm not around in the day, but please feel free to message me if you want to talk.

I will always respond.

Sending love and hugs xxx

Sarah xxx

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Kent

"I'm not ok at the moment. It's so insignificant compared to all of you. I'm so down at the moment winter was tough on my mental health.

I'm so down about it.. you know what it's like when you have a switch in your head that flicks and send you spiralling? That's what happened Monday.

As someone who trains regularly and have picked up injuries I can totally relate to your frustration.

Try to focus on fully repair and get the mindset that rest and repair are as important as pumping iron and tearing fibres.

It’s tough out there right now and I’d never thought I’d admit it but it’s actually rocked me.

Life’s thrown me the biggest challenges and all during a pandemic.....but we got to keep moving forward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not ok at the moment. It's so insignificant compared to all of you. I'm so down at the moment winter was tough on my mental health.

I'm so down about it.. you know what it's like when you have a switch in your head that flicks and send you spiralling? That's what happened Monday.

As someone who trains regularly and have picked up injuries I can totally relate to your frustration.

Try to focus on fully repair and get the mindset that rest and repair are as important as pumping iron and tearing fibres.

It’s tough out there right now and I’d never thought I’d admit it but it’s actually rocked me.

Life’s thrown me the biggest challenges and all during a pandemic.....but we got to keep moving forward.

J "

Can you both get your injuries treated?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not ok at the moment. It's so insignificant compared to all of you. I'm so down at the moment winter was tough on my mental health.

I'm so down about it.. you know what it's like when you have a switch in your head that flicks and send you spiralling? That's what happened Monday.

Can you/have you thought about self referring to your local physio department?

Physio has worked throughout the pandemic and are there to support, whether that's via telephone, virtual or face to face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

haven't been okay for a long time, and doubt i ever will be.

you are not alone OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love this thread OP.

Well the sentiment of it anyway, not the things people are going through. I’m not that wrapped up in my own mess.

I’m so glad that people are opening up. For me personally that’s the hardest part, admitting I’m not ok. I kind of think though that admitting you’re not okay is one of the first steps to getting back to being ok.

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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

"I'm not ok at the moment. It's so insignificant compared to all of you. I'm so down at the moment winter was tough on my mental health.

I'm so down about it.. you know what it's like when you have a switch in your head that flicks and send you spiralling? That's what happened Monday.

Can you/have you thought about self referring to your local physio department?

Physio has worked throughout the pandemic and are there to support, whether that's via telephone, virtual or face to face.

I've been to a physio.. had muscle massages and been told it's a time thing... its my calf so have rested it and tried stretching and strength exercises given.

It just goes as soon as I bike or run. Which is so frustrating.

When I was very bad with depression exercise was my main coping mechanism I found and still is... just frustrating me at the moment

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Its shit you're not OK OP you seem lovely .

I've been far from ok for a fair while too , just getting back to a semblance of normality lately .

And its mainly down to lovely people on here as I lost most of my real world "friends" lately .

Firstly thankyou to all that have helped me .

And secondly I'm in a better place and anyone struggling feel free to message me , I've come out the other side and even though my help was brutally brushed aside recently I am always available for anyone in need .

Much love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has been the weirdest, hardest year and it’s understandable so many are not ok.

Take one day at a time, remember that each and everyone of you is uniquely awesome even if you don’t feel it at the moment.

Sending

, hugs & positive vibes to you all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not ok at the moment. It's so insignificant compared to all of you. I'm so down at the moment winter was tough on my mental health.

I'm so down about it.. you know what it's like when you have a switch in your head that flicks and send you spiralling? That's what happened Monday.

It’s not insignificant, your feelings are valid, whatever they are about.

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By *ugarboobs2009Couple
over a year ago

chesterfield

Am not ok at the moment but hopefully will be soon,

5 weeks in from a partial Knee replacement and they could be a problem with it,

I was warned that I would have bad days along the way but I feel at the moment everyday is a bad day,

I will keep going and hopefully resolve the problem as right now there is people out there going thou a lot more then what I am at the moment,

Hoping this will make me a stronger person xxx

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Kent

"I'm not ok at the moment. It's so insignificant compared to all of you. I'm so down at the moment winter was tough on my mental health.

I'm so down about it.. you know what it's like when you have a switch in your head that flicks and send you spiralling? That's what happened Monday.

As someone who trains regularly and have picked up injuries I can totally relate to your frustration.

Try to focus on fully repair and get the mindset that rest and repair are as important as pumping iron and tearing fibres.

It’s tough out there right now and I’d never thought I’d admit it but it’s actually rocked me.

Life’s thrown me the biggest challenges and all during a pandemic.....but we got to keep moving forward.

Can you both get your injuries treated? "

Mine are beyond treatment so I manage them with strength and conditioning training.

Thank you very much for asking.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Hugs OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I missed them kecks, hope you are ok today x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to be good humoured about most things, sometimes it feels like a mask, not a lie exactly but something that is not entirely truthful. Probably not explaining this very well, suffice to say I have not been good of late

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

We all av dark days .we all feel alone . U can b in a crowd and still be lost ...as the song says

Everybody hurts sometimes x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending big hugs OP

Not gonna lie, I'm struggling myself a bit atm

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

OP, great thread and it is OK to not be ok.

It sounds like you have support which is paramount, having said that I'm only a message away if you need to vent xxx

I am not OK. I say I am but I'm not. I have severe PTSD following a very traumatic event, I've lost 3 children and my mum, I need another brain surgery but due to covid its delayed so I'm in crippling pain every day.

But I have support from my family and Teamonkey is fantastic. Eventually I will be ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not ok, My mask is good but it has slipped in the recent past. I am widowed but found a new partner and we were on here together. Lockdown systematically stripped all of my coping mechanisms leading to where my mental health caused a breakdown of our relationship. I am bruised battered and feel like I am drowning.

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

"I try to be good humoured about most things, sometimes it feels like a mask, not a lie exactly but something that is not entirely truthful. Probably not explaining this very well, suffice to say I have not been good of late "

I've always referred to is at false facing, there the face that everyone sees and then there's the real one underneath

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By *hrista Bellend OP Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Thank you for your thoughts and hugs x

All of your feelings are valid, recognising those feelings are a key starting point and I hope everyone has some sort of support for whatever they need, remember when feeling that you are in the gutter crawled in a ball, one day a ray of sunshine will give a you a feeling of hope to take steps you couldn't possible comprehend of doing before xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always referred to is at false facing, there the face that everyone sees and then there's the real one underneath"

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Some days are more challenging than others.

Hug of support to anyone who needs one.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I have been feeling down for a long time. Tired of painting on a smile and pretending everything is ok. I have given so much of myself to others this past year that I feel I've nothing left x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i struggled for a bit last year with the relentlessness of work.

whilst not NHS or what people would think of as frontline i do work in an industry that cannot close and my area of that industry saw fast paced and often contradictory changes that had to be communicated to the workforce.

i worked for 3 months without a day off thanks to the reporting that senior managers were requiring. i was also studying for an apprenticeship and found that i had no tome to do the required learning. i felt that i was forever apologising for not performing well and just cried at a colleague one day.

she made me realise i was putting myself through too much and told me to contact our employee assist company and talk to my boss. i took a learning break from my apprenticeship and gave myself time to reflect on what has been a very odd year for us all.

for anyone who feels that they need someone to talk to, my inbox is always open.

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By *aver999Couple
over a year ago

East Mids

Browsing the forums with the occasional post is the only thing to look forward to at the moment and thank you as there always seems to be a daily post somewhere that brings a smile no matter how brief.

I send hugs to all of you suffering the same. Hopefully as a group we can help each other though to brighter days ahead whatever the issue. (Mr)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to you all, im finally leaving that dark cloud behind after two suicide attempts, things do get better but it takes time and please speak to someone as it wont until you do.

And cry! Let it out and cry! It helps and isnt weak.

Dont be a statistic

My inbox is always open

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

to you all, im finally leaving that dark cloud behind after two suicide attempts, things do get better but it takes time and please speak to someone as it wont until you do.

And cry! Let it out and cry! It helps and isnt weak.

Dont be a statistic

My inbox is always open "

I really admire you Gatsby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am never ok, but I’ve learnt to rise above my demons.... we have to force positivity to remain strong xxx

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

to you all, im finally leaving that dark cloud behind after two suicide attempts, things do get better but it takes time and please speak to someone as it wont until you do.

And cry! Let it out and cry! It helps and isnt weak.

Dont be a statistic

My inbox is always open "

Well said that man

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By *lappyMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I think this has been the most important topic posted in a while so sincerest thanks go to OP. Like it has been said previously, it’s completely OK to not be OK and everyone has difficulties and struggles and over the past year given all the restrictions, everyone’s levels of anxiety and mental health has severely been impacted. if you have read any of the messages and compared any of your problems and thought that your problems or issues are irrelevant then please don’t as your problems however big or small are justified just the same as anyone else’s. Being able to talk about what your experiencing isn’t easy buts it’s nothing to remain silent as everyone struggles and whilst we would automatically turn to our family and friends however sometimes it can help to talk to someone completely out of the situation to get a fresh pair of eyes and perspective on the situation. If anyone feels they could benefit from talking then please remember my inbox is always open and I’m happy to listen. Sorry for war and peace but if only one person reads my post and reaches out then surely it’s worth it. Every single one of us is very much loved amazing in our own ways and every one is unbelievable and I know this too be true because unbelievable starts with U . Take care Slappy / Shaun xxx

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I think this has been the most important topic posted in a while so sincerest thanks go to OP. Like it has been said previously, it’s completely OK to not be OK and everyone has difficulties and struggles and over the past year given all the restrictions, everyone’s levels of anxiety and mental health has severely been impacted. if you have read any of the messages and compared any of your problems and thought that your problems or issues are irrelevant then please don’t as your problems however big or small are justified just the same as anyone else’s. Being able to talk about what your experiencing isn’t easy buts it’s nothing to remain silent as everyone struggles and whilst we would automatically turn to our family and friends however sometimes it can help to talk to someone completely out of the situation to get a fresh pair of eyes and perspective on the situation. If anyone feels they could benefit from talking then please remember my inbox is always open and I’m happy to listen. Sorry for war and peace but if only one person reads my post and reaches out then surely it’s worth it. Every single one of us is very much loved amazing in our own ways and every one is unbelievable and I know this too be true because unbelievable starts with U . Take care Slappy / Shaun xxx"

Wonderful words Sir

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

If you have a support network, then yes it is.

Hardest part is actually admitting you are not ok, and reaching out

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

There are so many in this thread who appear stronger than they really. It’s very touching to see you all able to share your personal struggles and thoughts here and I send a big hug

to all of you.

This is what fab should be for - to listen and support those who need it. I hope you all find support amongst friends and family too xx

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

For me the one of the hardest things is working in an industry ( building trade) where mental health is something you still get the piss taken out of for and management and office staff assume that because we are hairy arsed builder's we don't have feelings or emotions.

Found out an interesting and sad statistic the other day.

The building trade accounts for the largest suicide rates in the country of any industry.

Doesn't surprise me one bit.

Mention that you are having a bad day or struggling and the usual comments are along the lines of

" What's up, you on your period?"

Can't think of many workplaces where you can get away with comments like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Extremely kind of you..... I’d second this but nit write it as well..... sometimes we all need to let loose and get things off our mind..... im here if anyone want to chat, vent , bitch or have a laugh ..... mostly I will listen and never judge xxxx

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By *aver999Couple
over a year ago

East Mids

"If you have a support network, then yes it is.

Hardest part is actually admitting you are not ok, and reaching out"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm ok now, but between the ages of 13 to 37 I was most definitely not. Being autistic means dealing with a load of comorbid MH issues, mostly anxiety and depression, yet services only really cater for neurotypical people. People like me fall through the cracks. The life expectancy of a person with Asperger's or other "high functioning" autism profiles is only 57 as so many of us commit suicide.

Hopefully as awareness and acceptance of mental illness filters through society services will improve. Threads like this are so beneficial to those of us who struggle.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Being not ok is exhausting.

Pretending to be ok is even more exhausting.

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By *ememberTheNameMan
over a year ago

barnsley

"I am not OK, but my friends are supporting me

Use this thread to speak out if you are not OK, remember everyone has down days and let's not gloss it over and say actually today no I am not OK, but one day I will be

Love to all

Sorry to hear you’re not ok

Sending a big warm squeeze / hug

My in box is open if you need another friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've not been okay since I was a teenager, decided recently to try to do something about it so I'm now on medication and waiting for NHS counselling "

This is what im considering. Counselling. Not sure if I will get better on my own or not. I think the covid thing has reopened old problems

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By *lappyMan
over a year ago

Manchester

It seems like a lot of people are struggling and it’s very heartening to read all the messages of support ( and my offer to message me without judgement and in confidence is still true ) but if you feel you could benefit from some professional counselling then please use the shout service, which is a free 24/7 confidential service and all you have to do is text the word shout to 85258

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not ok, I’ve been struggling for a while. Trying to keep myself from showing the family how I’m feeling as they need me to be strong to support them and their MH.

I’m not good at talking about myself and my feelings as I learned to keep all that hidden in my abusive marriage.

I just need some time to myself and some normality. Oh and lots of cuddles, x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not ok, I’ve been struggling for a while. Trying to keep myself from showing the family how I’m feeling as they need me to be strong to support them and their MH.

I’m not good at talking about myself and my feelings as I learned to keep all that hidden in my abusive marriage.

I just need some time to myself and some normality. Oh and lots of cuddles, x "

Have you/anyone here tried mindfulness? Seems to help me . Google it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is OK not to be OK. Some of us just have to continue to be OK though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went for a scan on my balls today

Why do they type loadsa shit and then when you ask if they've seen anything they say 'we'll send a report to your GP'

I'm demented

On the bright side, the guy that did it was a munter so my knob stayed in Walnut Whip mode, which is always a blessing when a professional messes with your bits

I will, however, deal with whatever the results throw back

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

Finally got to see a doctor his first words were. What do you think is wrong with you grr. My reply was your the doctor you tell me. So I still don't know ,just more tests

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By *lappyMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Great topic last night and please remember everyone that’s it’s completely fine to not be OK, it’s good to talk and as stated in my previous posts if you feel you need someone to talk too my inbox is always open

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not ok becoz my mum died on Saturday. I havent cried much which is surprising but feel a sense of emptiness. She didn't suffer for long and had a peaceful death and I am sure she is in a better place now.

Thanks to my friends and family who keep checking on me.

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By *lappyMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I am not ok becoz my mum died on Saturday. I havent cried much which is surprising but feel a sense of emptiness. She didn't suffer for long and had a peaceful death and I am sure she is in a better place now.

Thanks to my friends and family who keep checking on me. "

So sorry to hear of your loss my friend, grief can affect everyone differently, for some it can hit them immediately and for others it can be triggered by something as simple as a certain song or certain smell. It’s only natural that you will feel a sense of loss or emptiness just like it’s natural to not have cried yet as everyone grief is handled differently. If you feel you could benefit from talking to some professionals whom are trained in dealing with grief cruse bereavement counselling can be found on line or can be called on 0808 808 1677, thinking of you buddy

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By *ldbluMan
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Great thread

I've had moments when i haven't been ok and have found talking to people helped me.

Virtual hugs to all xx

And if you need an ear to listen I'm here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks to my friends and family who keep checking on me.

Thanks mate. It's very true everyone react to loss differently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brilliant idea/thread by the OP

Even on an open thread I find it hard to say I'm not okay. Haven't been for a long time and its just going bad to worse.

As the saying goes it is ok to not be ok

Even if your just reading this, your not alone, if you can call a friend or family, if not my inbox is open no judgement

Sending massive hugs to everyone posting before it was an emotional read through but your all great people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m currently not amazing but i guess i am OK

but posting because I’ve definitely been up and down repeatedly in that scale over the last few months and hopefully someone else can relate and it makes them feel a little less alone in their own head just now

virtual hugs to anyone who needs them, so many of us are suffering just now and we all gotta hang in there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear that - hugs.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

My woes might be smaller than others’ but they bring me down every day.

Took redundancy from my old job thinking I’d walk into another job quite easily- even an interim one ... been applying since January and I’m not getting absolutely anywhere. I know these are tough times, but it’s really hit my confidence and self esteem.

My oldest son is failing spectacularly at college. He is a good boy, he tries hard, he has tutors and puts the effort in and he is still failing. I fear for his future.

This two things keep me up at night and with a constant feeling of anxiety which I hate. I exercise intensively for 2+ hrs a day because I get some relief from these invasive thoughts at least some of the time...

Hugs and lots of empathy to everyone who is struggling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am most definitely not ok today and have been on the verge of breaking into tears since waking up. Feel completely run down, exhausted and overly emotional. Problem is I'm holding it all in so people can't tell I'm on the edge.

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By *alentino7Man
over a year ago

London

"I am not OK, but my friends are supporting me

Use this thread to speak out if you are not OK, remember everyone has down days and let's not gloss it over and say actually today no I am not OK, but one day I will be

Love to all

Sending a big hug xox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not ok really.

But I've just learnt to deal with my own feelings and then put them to one side and get on with life

I just don't have that person now in life that I could just turn to for a chat over anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't been ok close to 10 years. I don't think I ever will be again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This year has made me feel very lonely and totally unwanted . All the dating apps and here have made it worse as no one seems to want to get to know me either .

It’s like pulling teeth making new friends these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont feel ok today, internally restless, but am lucky have a support network and it will pass its only feelings...tomorrow is a new day

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By *lappyMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Just to provide all posters and viewers of this thread with an update, its bluntly obvious that theres a lot of people whom are suffering due to different issues. Its heartening to read that people have support from family and friends but having the pleasure of some reaching out and chatting with a couple of members bot everyone has that support network, so with this in mind I have sent a message to the powers that be to see if we can get something permanent in place so we can all help each other out through these tough and uncertain times, I'll keep everyone unto date Slappy / Shaun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have felt like this for a while after I lost someone close to me. Thankfully I am slowly seeing better days. I reached out to my gp and he percribed antidepressants. I swore to myself I would never take them but I have done and am slowly feeling better. Have also been getting out more. Talking more with friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not ok but who really cares. it’s all for show with most people

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

I feel like in a maze without an exit. Not a great week for me.

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By *lappyMan
over a year ago

Manchester

really sorry to hear this buddy , what seems to be the problem ???? Feel free to end me a private message if it helps

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By *lappyMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I feel like in a maze without an exit. Not a great week for me."

Whats wrong Lorraine not like you this ??? You live in a truly beautiful part of the world with the ocean on your doorstep and your loving family close by, I know at times can feel like a bit of a struggle but try to focus on these positives

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By *aver999Couple
over a year ago

East Mids

To all those here that don't feel their problems are significant, don't feel like they can talk to anyone close or otherwise, don't want to burden others with their issues, feel they can get though it on their own - please realise these feelings and thoughts are all the common symptoms.

I was coerced into speaking to someone yesterday (before seeing this thread) and their diagnosis ? I needed professional help, despite having the T-shirt and thinking I could see it through myself.

Please talk even if that is just here your're not alone

(Mr)

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By *uper SaiyanMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

If any of you feel the need to chat or get something off your chest, send me an email. You dont know me and I dont know you, so you can be free to say what you want as ill be just some random person on here.

You will all get through it. You just dont know it yet.

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

I doubt that I'll ever be OK because, I'm dyslexic, as such, dyslexia is always likely to make me KO.

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By *amesoflondonMan
over a year ago

London

Likewise - the kindness here warms my heart. If I can help, get in touch, I'm not ok either but, a problem shared is a problem halved, they say.

Great post OP, very best to all here x

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

Haven't been properly okay for years. Can't really remember a time when i was, just sometimes a bit one way, sometimes the other. I keep wobbling along, make the best of it i can, take the good times on the infrequent occasions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To all those here that don't feel their problems are significant, don't feel like they can talk to anyone close or otherwise, don't want to burden others with their issues, feel they can get though it on their own - please realise these feelings and thoughts are all the common symptoms.

I was coerced into speaking to someone yesterday (before seeing this thread) and their diagnosis ? I needed professional help, despite having the T-shirt and thinking I could see it through myself.

Please talk even if that is just here your're not alone

(Mr)"

Tried that with a few different agencies but no help.

I'm not communicating with anyone anymore apart from the superficial. It's not ok but there's no alternative. I've lived this way for the past two years and will continue. I'm not depressed, I'm trapped in a nightmare that someone else created.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Haven't been properly okay for years. Can't really remember a time when i was, just sometimes a bit one way, sometimes the other. I keep wobbling along, make the best of it i can, take the good times on the infrequent occasions."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sending a virtual hug OP.

xx"

Me too

Group hug

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs for all who needs one in here.

You may not feel ok now, but you will be.

If anyone needs a chat or friend or just feels alone. Msg me anytime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember everything is temporary.

Hugs x

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By *elshhorseMan
over a year ago

ogmore valley

Not in a good place,look after my father who has dementia and is 90,trying to get things put in place to help with social services etc etc,but a long drawn out process,its heart breaking to see a strong man go like this, its like looking at a shell of a man,not my father,

,yes I know there's help out there, but heart breaking going through this. Daily life is hard .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not in a good place,look after my father who has dementia and is 90,trying to get things put in place to help with social services etc etc,but a long drawn out process,its heart breaking to see a strong man go like this, its like looking at a shell of a man,not my father,

,yes I know there's help out there, but heart breaking going through this. Daily life is hard ."

I hear you

My Dad is 'head poorly', my Mum is 'body poorly'

On top of being concerned and heartbroken, what plays on my mind is 'is this what I've got to look forward to?'

Trying to turn it into a positive though, he is blessed to have a family, a family that does care and will do their best for him

Likewise, you are lucky to still have a Dad - I have known parents and strong parenting for 50 years, some people just aren't that lucky

End of life can be cruel, but I think seeing and living it first hand adds to us as people

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By *elshhorseMan
over a year ago

ogmore valley

,yes I know there's help out there, but heart breaking going through this. Daily life is hard .

I hear you

My Dad is 'head poorly', my Mum is 'body poorly'

On top of being concerned and heartbroken, what plays on my mind is 'is this what I've got to look forward to?'

Trying to turn it into a positive though, he is blessed to have a family, a family that does care and will do their best for him

Likewise, you are lucky to still have a Dad - I have known parents and strong parenting for 50 years, some people just aren't that lucky

End of life can be cruel, but I think seeing and living it first hand adds to us as people "

Thank you for that , it is hard for you and everyone else in their own way,the ways things are at the moment.

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