FabSwingers.com forum: As a single female what do you see as most important?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I’ve done terribly on here and had no luck. I suspect that the reality is there are many men, few women and therefore an “exceptional” pool of men do very well, which average Joe is less lucky. But which of these features do the ladies rate most highly?

A) humongous man part

B) toned abs

C) a pretty face

D) GSOH

E) a pert booty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

C here

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Probably D but more getting on well with each other.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

Not jumping in with a ‘wanna fuck?’ message and the ability to hold a conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

F) The ability to hold a decent conversation and not behave like a total cockwomble personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

D but also intelligence and respect with sexypervert underneath

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

F a great mind

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Not jumping in with a ‘wanna fuck?’ message and the ability to hold a conversation "

Good etiquette, that should be on the list

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire

"So I’ve done terribly on here and had no luck. I suspect that the reality is there are many men, few women and therefore an “exceptional” pool of men do very well, which average Joe is less lucky. But which of these features do the ladies rate most highly?

A) humongous man part

B) toned abs

C) a pretty face

D) GSOH

E) a pert booty"

He has to have a good sense of humor and be able to hold a conversation..then A, B, C, E are a bonus for him..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A combo of C,D and also being respectful, interesting and having a connection.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"F) The ability to hold a decent conversation and not behave like a total cockwomble personally."

Good job coz if you said any of A to E I'm fucked ... Or not as the case may be

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

The man himself, not a part of him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

C & D with the ability to string a sentence together, chat & banter but with a flirty element.

B is appreciated but considered a bonus if you have the above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not jumping in with a ‘wanna fuck?’ message and the ability to hold a conversation "

This, B and D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"F) The ability to hold a decent conversation and not behave like a total cockwomble personally.

Good job coz if you said any of A to E I'm fucked ... Or not as the case may be

Well with A, you may end up in A&E

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"F) The ability to hold a decent conversation and not behave like a total cockwomble personally.

Good job coz if you said any of A to E I'm fucked ... Or not as the case may be

Well with A, you may end up in A&E "

Proud moment of my own joke

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"The man himself, not a part of him."

And Cottage Pie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Initial attraction +intelligence +humour =chemistry.

And I need that.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"The man himself, not a part of him.

And Cottage Pie

The man who can cook cottage pie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Upfront, honest, good portion of self respect, a great laugh and devastatingly handsome

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"F) The ability to hold a decent conversation and not behave like a total cockwomble personally.

Good job coz if you said any of A to E I'm fucked ... Or not as the case may be

Well with A, you may end up in A&E

Proud moment of my own joke "

Well you need a bigger Anus dude or it wouldn't have snapped

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"The man himself, not a part of him.

And Cottage Pie

The man who can cook cottage pie

See I know

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By *oirinMarkusCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands and West London

Able to accommodate, articulate, local, great at oral. I'm sorry but I couldn't care less what his butt is like....

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"The man himself, not a part of him.

And Cottage Pie

The man who can cook cottage pie

See I know

I am happy to wash up, I just can't cook to save my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"F) The ability to hold a decent conversation and not behave like a total cockwomble personally.

Good job coz if you said any of A to E I'm fucked ... Or not as the case may be

Well with A, you may end up in A&E

Proud moment of my own joke

Well you need a bigger Anus dude or it wouldn't have snapped

Working on it ! Asked father xmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"F) The ability to hold a decent conversation and not behave like a total cockwomble personally.

Good job coz if you said any of A to E I'm fucked ... Or not as the case may be

D and E you have McNugget

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

It’s the bit between the ears that gets them going OP.

Plus there’s bonus points if you’ve got a mahoosive todger as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just don't be a dumplin really

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"The man himself, not a part of him.

And Cottage Pie

The man who can cook cottage pie

See I know

I am happy to wash up, I just can't cook to save my life

Deal

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"F) The ability to hold a decent conversation and not behave like a total cockwomble personally.

Good job coz if you said any of A to E I'm fucked ... Or not as the case may be

D and E you have McNugget

I'll take that

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"It’s the bit between the ears that gets them going OP.

Plus there’s bonus points if you’ve got a mahoosive todger as well

Not all women seek large appendages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s the bit between the ears that gets them going OP.

Plus there’s bonus points if you’ve got a mahoosive todger as well

Not all women seek large appendages

He isn't a woman that's why I love fucking him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single female the most important thing to me is they have an excellent sense of direction.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"It’s the bit between the ears that gets them going OP.

Plus there’s bonus points if you’ve got a mahoosive todger as well

Not all women seek large appendages

He isn't a woman that's why I love fucking him "

Ok ok ok, let's not fight over him. He's all yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single female the most important thing to me is they have an excellent sense of dilatation."

I can understand why she would need that with you and your weapon

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

"As a single female the most important thing to me is they have an excellent sense of direction."

This.

Seriously. This.

Nothing sexier than a man who’s part homing pigeon. And can reverse park.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s the bit between the ears that gets them going OP.

Plus there’s bonus points if you’ve got a mahoosive todger as well

Not all women seek large appendages

He isn't a woman that's why I love fucking him

Ok ok ok, let's not fight over him. He's all yours

I don't want him anymore, he has slept with John !

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"It’s the bit between the ears that gets them going OP.

Plus there’s bonus points if you’ve got a mahoosive todger as well

Not all women seek large appendages

He isn't a woman that's why I love fucking him "

Amen

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"As a single female the most important thing to me is they have an excellent sense of direction."

Women actually have an excellent inate sense of direction, but not good map readers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"F) The ability to hold a decent conversation and not behave like a total cockwomble personally.

Good job coz if you said any of A to E I'm fucked ... Or not as the case may be

D and E you have McNugget

I'll take that

Well you can't be fussy

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"As a single female the most important thing to me is they have an excellent sense of direction.

Women actually have an excellent inate sense of direction, but not good map readers."

*Innate* damn auto correct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A) humongous man part

B) toned abs

C) a pretty face

D) GSOH

E) a pert booty"

Personally I like an honest open person that doesn't play games or try and control and is down to earth and respectful.

The list above are added perks if they have them.

Though if I had to chose just one it would be D. That's more likely to be lasting too.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Thing is OP you say you've done "terribly" - yet have had two meets since being on here which is a lot better than some guys.

You also say you've had no "luck" - yet it doesn't come down to luck in the slightest, nor does it come down to being gym fit or having a big cock - what it does come down to is all actually within your control to at least get a positive perception and experience of the site, even if that alone doesn't guarantee a meet.

Yes, personality, sense of humour and to an extent looks come into it, but it's perfectly possible as an "average joe" to have a positive experience of the site - you just have to have the right expectations, attitude and approach coupled with a decent profile and pics, all of which, as I said, are within your control.

The imbalance of men to women is often given as a reason for lack of "success" on the site, yet firstly it doesn't matter if the ratio is 1:1 or 100:1 if you don't have the right attitude, expectations etc you'll not fare any better, and secondly if you take out those guys that don't get it right then the numbers are actually a lot more evenly balanced.

One of the biggest mistakes some guys make is thinking sending blind messages to other users is the only approach to use, and whilst that may work for some, it's also one of the most soul destroying approaches if you let it be - the forums and chat rooms are great ways to get to know people and spark conversations that can lead to meets, likewise clubs and group socials when they are open/allowed.

You also have to remember that for a year now no-one has been meeting (or supposed to be) so don't let your perception be skewed by that.

Hope that's helped a little.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

D all the way for me.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"F) The ability to hold a decent conversation and not behave like a total cockwomble personally.

Good job coz if you said any of A to E I'm fucked ... Or not as the case may be

D and E you have McNugget

I'll take that

Well you can't be fussy"

Oh shush you . You know what I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forum is a hugely valuable resource. I've found people through the forums that I might not otherwise have noticed. Even being able to check out a members forum history is very informative about how they interact with others.

I must admit that my main concern is not ending up in tiny pieces in somebody's freezer. Anything else is a bonus!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest when I was meeting on here none of that would have even been anywhere near what I was looking for. And didnt really figure with anyone I subsequently met either so I am not much help I am afraid. Lots of people in this world get sex and not just because they are an underpants model for Kays catalogue.

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By *oris888Woman
over a year ago

Suffolk

C is a great start, but needs to be backed up with the ability to hold a conversation!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"F) The ability to hold a decent conversation and not behave like a total cockwomble personally.

Good job coz if you said any of A to E I'm fucked ... Or not as the case may be

D and E you have McNugget

I'll take that

Well you can't be fussy

Oh shush you . You know what I think

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

D closely followed by c.

The others are nice not gonna lie but not a huge factor for me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single female the most important thing to me is they have an excellent sense of direction.

This.

Seriously. This.

Nothing sexier than a man who’s part homing pigeon. And can reverse park. "

Yep, I do that thing where I put my arm behind the headrest and everything.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"As a single female the most important thing to me is they have an excellent sense of direction.

Women actually have an excellent inate sense of direction, but not good map readers."

I'm an excellent map reader. I was the only orienteering partnership that stamoed off every marker.

And I can do better than a Sat nav.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"As a single female the most important thing to me is they have an excellent sense of direction.

Women actually have an excellent inate sense of direction, but not good map readers.

I'm an excellent map reader. I was the only orienteering partnership that stamoed off every marker.

And I can do better than a Sat nav."

I should have been clearer. The programme I saw was when women were given ordnance survey type maps, and given a destination in countryside. Given road maps, they did not fair as well as the men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

C please, as long as its attached to someone who I get on with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know it’s not picking a letter - but I think if men realise that this is a swinging site and not a shagging site. It’s about respect and boundaries within what people are seeking from swinging.

You generally find that the guys that attend clubs (when they are open) for social events will do much better rather than those that just want to come on and Exchange a few messages and shag. This isn’t how it works for the most part x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

D very important because I have none, and A and F

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fucked A + B, C isn't great, D is good, E I can definitely do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single female the most important thing to me is they have an excellent sense of direction.

This.

Seriously. This.

Nothing sexier than a man who’s part homing pigeon. And can reverse park.

Yep, I do that thing where I put my arm behind the headrest and everything. "

Can you actually park neatly between the lines though or do you just look cool with you arm on the headrest but actually abandon it on a jaunty angle like a grandad in a massive BMW?

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

"As a single female the most important thing to me is they have an excellent sense of direction.

This.

Seriously. This.

Nothing sexier than a man who’s part homing pigeon. And can reverse park.

Yep, I do that thing where I put my arm behind the headrest and everything. "

I’m swooning

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

"As a single female the most important thing to me is they have an excellent sense of direction.

This.

Seriously. This.

Nothing sexier than a man who’s part homing pigeon. And can reverse park.

Yep, I do that thing where I put my arm behind the headrest and everything.

Can you actually park neatly between the lines though or do you just look cool with you arm on the headrest but actually abandon it on a jaunty angle like a grandad in a massive BMW?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single female the most important thing to me is they have an excellent sense of direction.

This.

Seriously. This.

Nothing sexier than a man who’s part homing pigeon. And can reverse park.

Yep, I do that thing where I put my arm behind the headrest and everything.

Can you actually park neatly between the lines though or do you just look cool with you arm on the headrest but actually abandon it on a jaunty angle like a grandad in a massive BMW?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the women saying D, yeah right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All the women saying D, yeah right!

D was the dick wasnt it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a sense of humour, a good personality, someone who makes me feel safe, and chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Starting with D, then C then any combination. Letter A rarely matters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

C first and foremost.

If I don’t fancy you, it won’t go any further!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will take them all please, I am greedy!

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By *wistedbambi69Woman
over a year ago

Somerset

C...If there is no connection mentally, then it doesn't matter about the rest, but there does have to be some kind of physical attraction for me to want to get naked with someone

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By *elloWoman
over a year ago

alpha centauri

"F) The ability to hold a decent conversation and not behave like a total cockwomble personally."

Definitely F

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

A good sense of humour, that’s what I find most attractive

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By *isces WomanWoman
over a year ago

West London

Quality consistent communication. GSOH helps.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

They all love 'D'

(Close the thread)

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

C but not exactly a pretty face but a nice looking face as pretty boys tend to be dick heads.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"All the women saying D, yeah right!

Preach. Watch a pretty man post on the forums and the knickers sliding off with a flurry of fluttery eyelashes.

Anyway, I don't have a particular aesthetic I like, a big penis hurts and I'm not one for "pretty" faces. The most important thing for me is h) they're not a dick.

OP, to echo what GM says - regardless of what women coo over in the forums or on hotpics you don't have to be equipped with 9 inches or a six pack to be attractive. Be confident in yourself, don't expect anything from the site and enjoy yourself. That's attractive, people respond well to others happiness and self confidence.

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By *1011Woman
over a year ago

Barnsley

All of the above .....too much to ask?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be honest when I was meeting on here none of that would have even been anywhere near what I was looking for. And didnt really figure with anyone I subsequently met either so I am not much help I am afraid. Lots of people in this world get sex and not just because they are an underpants model for Kays catalogue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All the women saying D, yeah right!

Preach. Watch a pretty man post on the forums and the knickers sliding off with a flurry of fluttery eyelashes. "

Exactly, ignoring all the brilliantly original well constructed jokes on the way.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

A) humongous man part

B) toned abs

C) a pretty face

D) GSOH

E) a pert booty"

I can't answer simply.

If I am responding to a forum post it is without doubt - intelligent comment and sense of humour nothing else.

The above would also count for me in a social meet. I'd rather sit with someone I click and laugh with than a dumb muscle flexing adonis.... and to be fair once you get to know a person like this they become sexually attractive to you too....

If I am after sex then it's trustworthiness followed by physique/face for attraction followed by personality.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

C, and D

Nothing else matters me.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

The mind always. If he cannot get into my mind, then he definitely won't be getting into my pants... When I'm wearing them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The mind always. If he cannot get into my mind, then he definitely won't be getting into my pants... When I'm wearing them

Free the mind and the rest will follow.

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