FabSwingers.com forum: Face pics

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m sat here thinking about the above. I’m back on here after a break through the lockdowns and I’ll be honest like everyone right now I’m missing the fun and being honest I’d like to start building some momentum for when things start to hopefully return to normal soon.

So I’m back to the cliche issue on here about standing out as a genuine, fun, (cough) handsome single man. We get lost in the noise.

So I’m pondering the use of face pics on profiles to get people’s attention immediately to start some friendly rapport building. I’m a professional and need to protect that but wondered what the masses thought to this. I would really like to meet a like minded friend on here.... but it’s a struggle... thoughts?...

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

We are all here for the same reason.

Sadly some jobs frown on us being on a site like this.

So it's up to you really.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I don't have face picture in my profile and that doesn't affect nothing at all

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We are all here for the same reason.

Sadly some jobs frown on us being on a site like this.

So it's up to you really. "

Risk vs reward

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I only started showing my face recently. It is a big gamble but the risk excites me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't have face picture in my profile and that doesn't affect nothing at all "

That’s good you don’t find an issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could always post one with a covid mask on. That might be enough for some people?

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I show my face but nothing else. It’s always one or the other for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I only started showing my face recently. It is a big gamble but the risk excites me. "

Good on you! That seems to be the big thing held back. I suppose I’m looking for the opinion of ladies like yourself to show if that would help a guy stand out from the crowd

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Don't do it.

Anyone local to you will be able to see them, and potentially make trouble for you.

I've seen someone's partner on here, with his face showing.

On Facebook she's saying they have a great relationship. On here he's single. He's looking for trouble.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m sat here thinking about the above. I’m back on here after a break through the lockdowns and I’ll be honest like everyone right now I’m missing the fun and being honest I’d like to start building some momentum for when things start to hopefully return to normal soon.

So I’m back to the cliche issue on here about standing out as a genuine, fun, (cough) handsome single man. We get lost in the noise.

I have face pics but then I don't have the dilemma of having to worry about being discreet ....if I did then I woukd protect my anonymity over putting it out on fab

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I show my face but nothing else. It’s always one or the other for me. "

I really don’t like exposing too much. My simple view is it ruins the mystery. Remove the face the option is a torso shot. I’m probably looking for the winning formula to get my profile notices a little more

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I have them in my friends only section, but will send with a message

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"We are all here for the same reason.

Sadly some jobs frown on us being on a site like this.

So it's up to you really.

Risk vs reward "

Kind of yes.

I had my face in public pics and someone told my boss, it doesn't affect my work so no issues, the place of work not best impressed, until I point out that I knew of others on the site at work and nothing was done.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't do it.

Anyone local to you will be able to see them, and potentially make trouble for you.

I've seen someone's partner on here, with his face showing.

On Facebook she's saying they have a great relationship. On here he's single. He's looking for trouble. "

That’s a situation that really isn’t good. I’m very much single and on dating sites I’m clear that I’m not expecting to settle down soon!

That is the biggest risk though being seen and the trouble that comes from that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I’m back to the cliche issue on here about standing out as a genuine, fun, (cough) handsome single man. We get lost in the noise.

I have face pics but then I don't have the dilemma of having to worry about being discreet ....if I did then I woukd protect my anonymity over putting it out on fab "

Fair play on that mate

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Think mine reduces my chances but unless showing up with a bag over head then can't hide it forever.

Could always just have face photos for friends or send them privately

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

So I’m back to the cliche issue on here about standing out as a genuine, fun, (cough) handsome single man. We get lost in the noise.

I think putting one pic taken at every angle of your face would attract attention

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"I show my face but nothing else. It’s always one or the other for me.

Your avatar is lovely. Chest shots are always popular but very common.. it’s hard on here regardless at the mo as many are lacking motivation to chat. Just do whatever you are comfortable with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only started showing my face and being less anonymous when some bell end screen shot my profile and sent it to my mum... My boss is on here and was like fancy seeing you here and every other local person I sent my face pic to was like oh Hay you work at x I say you yesterday so I just thought fuck it... What does it matter we're all adults and can do as we please

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We are all here for the same reason.

Sadly some jobs frown on us being on a site like this.

So it's up to you really.

Risk vs reward

Kind of yes.

It’s that right there that is the big risk for me, with what I do

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I show my face but nothing else. It’s always one or the other for me.

Your avatar is lovely. Chest shots are always popular but very common.. it’s hard on here regardless at the mo as many are lacking motivation to chat. Just do whatever you are comfortable with

Thanks for the nice comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have as I don’t give two hoots who sees me.

If someone you know sees you on here, means they’re on here too so doesn’t make them any better or any worse than you.

Always nice to see who you’re talking too as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only have pics in our friend's pics.

For us it's a work and having children thing.

You can always put a face pic in with a message.

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I only started showing my face and being less anonymous when some bell end screen shot my profile and sent it to my mum... My boss is on here and was like fancy seeing you here and every other local person I sent my face pic to was like oh Hay you work at x I say you yesterday so I just thought fuck it... What does it matter we're all adults and can do as we please "

Being honest looking at your pics all I can say is wow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go with worst case scenario, and use that to make your decision. For some, it would make life less happy, for some they could lose jobs or family. For most, I expect it’s hardly a legal thing, perhaps an employment issue, or family, but some just prefer privacy and having a little more control of who can see it etc.

Why not just message people with a face pic and see how that goes, alongside a message? If you don’t get responses then that’s not going to change your influence, if you message people you’re able to, and interested in, anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have as I don’t give two hoots who sees me.

If someone you know sees you on here, means they’re on here too so doesn’t make them any better or any worse than you.

Always nice to see who you’re talking too as well. "

That was my devils advocate argument. Anyone seeing me is just as much as a pervert as me haha

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Like to see faces makes the world of difference to me x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We only have pics in our friend's pics.

For us it's a work and having children thing.

You can always put a face pic in with a message.

Mrs x"

Thanks for that try to do that quick if I get a reply to see if I can build some rapport

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Go with worst case scenario, and use that to make your decision. For some, it would make life less happy, for some they could lose jobs or family. For most, I expect it’s hardly a legal thing, perhaps an employment issue, or family, but some just prefer privacy and having a little more control of who can see it etc.

Thanks for the sensible view pal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We only have pics in our friend's pics.

For us it's a work and having children thing.

You can always put a face pic in with a message.

Mrs x

Thanks for that try to do that quick if I get a reply to see if I can build some rapport"

I must say though that I really do appreciate a man in a suit. So your winning already for me.

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"Don't do it.

Anyone local to you will be able to see them, and potentially make trouble for you.

I've seen someone's partner on here, with his face showing.

On Facebook she's saying they have a great relationship. On here he's single. He's looking for trouble. "

Wouldn’t that be the problem that he’s cheating rather than it’s someone local though?

I’ve got my face pics up. At the end of the day, if I’m recognised then I’m recognised. Why be ashamed? Unless the OP is cheating then we’re all here for the same thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We only have pics in our friend's pics.

For us it's a work and having children thing.

You can always put a face pic in with a message.

Mrs x

Thanks for that try to do that quick if I get a reply to see if I can build some rapport

I must say though that I really do appreciate a man in a suit. So your winning already for me. "

Why thank you! Still have the dinner jacket for the right occasions too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't do it.

Anyone local to you will be able to see them, and potentially make trouble for you.

I've seen someone's partner on here, with his face showing.

On Facebook she's saying they have a great relationship. On here he's single. He's looking for trouble.

Wouldn’t that be the problem that he’s cheating rather than it’s someone local though?

I’ve got my face pics up. At the end of the day, if I’m recognised then I’m recognised. Why be ashamed? Unless the OP is cheating then we’re all here for the same thing."

No cheating here mate. I’m a good boy.... well not really but you get what I mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have my face on show, don’t need to be discreet and not bothered about anyone knowing I’m on here. I’m single, think it’s not much different than a dating profile.

Most of my friends know I am and I couldn’t care less about what anyone I don’t know thinks.

My oldest kids (in their 20’s) know as well, as I wouldn’t want any of their friends to come across my profile & spring it on them. They are cool & sex has never been a taboo topic in our family.

My photos show no more than I would in a bikini on the beach, my profile blurb is polite.

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"Don't do it.

Anyone local to you will be able to see them, and potentially make trouble for you.

I've seen someone's partner on here, with his face showing.

On Facebook she's saying they have a great relationship. On here he's single. He's looking for trouble.

Wouldn’t that be the problem that he’s cheating rather than it’s someone local though?

I’ve got my face pics up. At the end of the day, if I’m recognised then I’m recognised. Why be ashamed? Unless the OP is cheating then we’re all here for the same thing.

No cheating here mate. I’m a good boy.... well not really but you get what I mean"

Then I’d say own it. Stand out from the crowd lol

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

After sending someone a face pic during a conversation he spotted me in the street,followed me to my daughter's flat; where he knocked on the door, and tried to stop me closing it, after telling him to go away, by putting his foot in the door.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"After sending someone a face pic during a conversation he spotted me in the street,followed me to my daughter's flat; where he knocked on the door, and tried to stop me closing it, after telling him to go away, by putting his foot in the door.

Jesus, that highlights another risk then.... the random crazies that are lurking around. Hope you are ok

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By *onochrome2Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I have as I don’t give two hoots who sees me.

If someone you know sees you on here, means they’re on here too so doesn’t make them any better or any worse than you.

Always nice to see who you’re talking too as well.

That was my devils advocate argument. Anyone seeing me is just as much as a pervert as me haha"

Maybe in an ideal world... But there seem to be a higher number of fake profiles on here than normal at the moment (probably due to lockdown), so I would be careful if being identified will cause you issues.

You can't assume that everyone is on here to use the site the way it was intended.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have as I don’t give two hoots who sees me.

If someone you know sees you on here, means they’re on here too so doesn’t make them any better or any worse than you.

Always nice to see who you’re talking too as well.

That was my devils advocate argument. Anyone seeing me is just as much as a pervert as me haha

You can't assume that everyone is on here to use the site the way it was intended."

I’d say the lady above just highlighted that. Fake profiles seem to be a scary one.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

I’ve shown my face from day one.

I’ve been recognised quite a few times. But I’m not bothered.

I’m open that I’m on here.

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

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By *onochrome2Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

What a psycho!!

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"I’ve shown my face from day one.

I’ve been recognised quite a few times. But I’m not bothered.

I’m open that I’m on here. "

One of the reasons why I love you is how open you are x

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

"I’ve shown my face from day one.

I’ve been recognised quite a few times. But I’m not bothered.

I’m open that I’m on here.

One of the reasons why I love you is how open you are x"

Gapping?

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I understand your dilemma. I don't show my face on my public gallery for a reason but I do show it on my friends gallery though. I normally add those that I have built a friendship with so I don't mind sharing that. I'm quite open with my life but I had a bad experience the last time I was on fab so I'm just being cautious this time around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s absolutely horrendous

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I understand your dilemma. I don't show my face on my public gallery for a reason but I do show it on my friends gallery though. I normally add those that I have built a friendship with so I don't mind sharing that. I'm quite open with my life but I had a bad experience the last time I was on fab so I'm just being cautious this time around "

Seems the right thing is to be cautious, and this highlights it again. You forget that this place would draw people that are not well balanced

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Fucking hell.. thats so wrong. Whatever possess people to behave that way

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By *reat me rightWoman
over a year ago

Rotherham

I have a face pic - not that I think I'm particularly recognisable in it- just was a pix of me I actually liked for once! I dont have a problem showing my face but can understand why certain folk can't

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Seems the right thing is to be cautious, and this highlights it again. You forget that this place would draw people that are not well balanced"

Exactly.. you don't really know who could be on the other side of the screen. Yes, am I a perv? Yo damn right I am. Do I flirt with people? Naturally lol but would I behave like those that I've experience before? Well, no but you just never know with some people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If u don't have anything to hide.. I don't think it's a problem to share with ur first msg?! Maybe i am wrong lol

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

So I’m back to the cliche issue on here about standing out as a genuine, fun, (cough) handsome single man. We get lost in the noise.

I'm professional, I've had guys come up to me at conferences and whisper something 'naughty' and tried to black mail me into having sex. I stare them back in the face, and say yes I'm on the site, and if you can't be grown up and respect my decision, then I'm quite happy to do the same back to them. They creep away.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If u don't have anything to hide.. I don't think it's a problem to share with ur first msg?! Maybe i am wrong lol"

As per some of the comments it’s more around balancing the risk vs reward. A lot do risks reading some of this with nut cases and people keen to cause trouble.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t have face pics on show, I genuinely would get sacked if I was found out. Also, I have kids and live in a very gossipy village.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I’m back to the cliche issue on here about standing out as a genuine, fun, (cough) handsome single man. We get lost in the noise.

Big respect as that behaviour shown to you is shite

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don’t have face pics on show, I genuinely would get sacked if I was found out. Also, I have kids and live in a very gossipy village. "

That was similar for me too until recently. Nosey neighbours haha

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By *luebellRacerCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

It's a very individual thing.

We're not comfortable doing so, so we don't. Simple as that!

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"I don’t have face pics on show, I genuinely would get sacked if I was found out. Also, I have kids and live in a very gossipy village. "

Surely it’s illegal to sack someone for doing things outside of work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t have face pics on show, I genuinely would get sacked if I was found out. Also, I have kids and live in a very gossipy village.

Surely it’s illegal to sack someone for doing things outside of work?"

Depends on what you do for a living doesn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t have face pics on show, I genuinely would get sacked if I was found out. Also, I have kids and live in a very gossipy village.

Surely it’s illegal to sack someone for doing things outside of work?"

'Bringing the company into disrepute' is in our contract as a sackable offence.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"I don’t have face pics on show, I genuinely would get sacked if I was found out. Also, I have kids and live in a very gossipy village.

Surely it’s illegal to sack someone for doing things outside of work?"

My professional body can take my professional licence if it was brought to their attention. Classed as not in the public interest sort of thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t have face pics on show, I genuinely would get sacked if I was found out. Also, I have kids and live in a very gossipy village.

Surely it’s illegal to sack someone for doing things outside of work?"

There are some jobs that this would not apply to.

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By *lappyMan
over a year ago

Manchester

my face is on my profile

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"I don’t have face pics on show, I genuinely would get sacked if I was found out. Also, I have kids and live in a very gossipy village.

Surely it’s illegal to sack someone for doing things outside of work?

'Bringing the company into disrepute' is in our contract as a sackable offence. "

But it could be argued (and it has been) that your personal life has no connection to the company so you’ve not brought it into disrepute. Unless it directly affects your work (and isn’t illegal) then it’s discrimination against your basic human rights.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"I don’t have face pics on show, I genuinely would get sacked if I was found out. Also, I have kids and live in a very gossipy village.

Surely it’s illegal to sack someone for doing things outside of work?

'Bringing the company into disrepute' is in our contract as a sackable offence.

I would lose my professional licence and effectively lose my job.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

My podiatrist would recognise me

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By *ig9incherforuMan
over a year ago

Welwyn

"I don’t have face pics on show, I genuinely would get sacked if I was found out. Also, I have kids and live in a very gossipy village. "

To be honest looking through your pics ( very nice)

I think maybe anyone in your village might recognise you from what you do show

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

Understand the need for discretion OP.

2 thoughts, firstly keep your face pics on friends only and share there ?

Second, if "someone" you know finds you on here. That someone is also on here, so how do they bust you, without exposing themselves, figuratively speaking.

Good Luck.

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"I show my face but nothing else. It’s always one or the other for me.

If I want to sleep with someone, I don't want mystery.

I always ask for a face pic on first contact, would save a lot of time if you had one on your profile that was public

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

You could post some friends only and attach them to messages you send. Then they're not up there for all to see but those you approach can see your face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You could post some friends only and attach them to messages you send. Then they're not up there for all to see but those you approach can see your face. "

That’s what I’ve done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Understand the need for discretion OP.

2 thoughts, firstly keep your face pics on friends only and share there ?

Second, if "someone" you know finds you on here. That someone is also on here, so how do they bust you, without exposing themselves, figuratively speaking.

Good Luck. "

"My mate Brian's cousin Kevin saw that couple XYZ on some Swingers website. Have a look!!!!"

Brian and Kevin don't exist but now everyone in the pub has seen their pics and knows their profile name....

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"You could post some friends only and attach them to messages you send. Then they're not up there for all to see but those you approach can see your face.

That’s what I’ve done

I think I remember it

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"You could post some friends only and attach them to messages you send. Then they're not up there for all to see but those you approach can see your face.

That’s what I’ve done

And what a jolly gorgeous face yours is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You could post some friends only and attach them to messages you send. Then they're not up there for all to see but those you approach can see your face.

That’s what I’ve done

I think I remember it

Oh do you now

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