FabSwingers.com forum: Are you a people person?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The older I get the less I want to be around other people.

Especially people I don't know in a busy public place.

This has only happened in the last 5yrs or so.

I used to be a social butterfly - always in company, always out and about.

Now I get irritated very easily.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I run a pub so I have to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like other people

Just not all of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The older I get the less I want to be around other people.

Especially people I don't know in a busy public place.

This has only happened in the last 5yrs or so.

I used to be a social butterfly - always in company, always out and about.

Now I get irritated very easily."

This is me since the menopause

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

No, hate to be around people. Lockdown has been amazing for me as I don't have to go out for weeks if I don't want to.

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

Socially yes we like going out and mingling

at home and privately no.. We are like hermits

we would quite happily go to a friends for a drink or a party but when they come to ours we can't wait for them to leave (not in a bad way) it's just that our house is our space and we don't like friends in it

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"The older I get the less I want to be around other people.

Especially people I don't know in a busy public place.

This has only happened in the last 5yrs or so.

I used to be a social butterfly - always in company, always out and about.

Now I get irritated very easily."

Any excuse to buy more toys LoL

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I'm a social, people person. Mr KC is the opposite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God no

Lockdown has been a delight, no unsuspected callers or having to make excuses not to see people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For short periods yes. I can only cope for so long though, and that’s with people of my choosing.

I think social distancing should stay forever, so we’re always 2m away from strangers

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

"The older I get the less I want to be around other people.

Especially people I don't know in a busy public place.

This has only happened in the last 5yrs or so.

I used to be a social butterfly - always in company, always out and about.

Now I get irritated very easily."

Never been good in larger crowds / parties. Prefer to know the people around me.

I do like people watching though.

Since lockdown i realised I like people possibly more than I thought. I've missed the interaction with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a bit half and half.

U like being able to see people of my choosing if and when but also cherish my own company.

Lockdowns haven't been too bad for me but dreading the return of crowded spaces

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I am only comfortable in small groups. I don’t invite others out but I will go out if I’m invited - occasionally

I don’t socialise as much as I did.

I’m quite happy in my own space and I’m loving the 2m as well

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By *heHungStudentMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I feel like im both love to be around people up untill a point and then once apst the point i hate people again

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Depends on the people lol

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I’m fairly social, and enjoy people around, for a while, but as I’ve grown older I definitely appreciate the lack of noise and chill time when not around as well.

As ever, a balance is important - not disliking our own company and also not being totally anti-social that it affects support or mental health etc. I’ve always worked with people, and enjoyed socialising at usual times, but enjoy that silence and lie in of weekends as well

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I prefer small groups or just the company of one mostly.

The more people in one space the more likely it is that someone will kick off and ruin the atmosphere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im quite happy being alone I hate having people just turn up at my house but in completely different if im out at pub club love being around people.but as some have said loved last year as no one's just popped around

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By *P994Man
over a year ago

Travelling

I never enjoy big social gatherings and things like shopping give me brain ache as I find it laborious and annoying because of people. Although people say lockdown has been bad for mental health because of lack of social interaction I’ve quite enjoyed it at times with how quiet it’s been.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not so sure it is not wanting to be social as much as I cannot be bothered with inane small talk the older I get.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Am I fuck

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By *urtyGentMan
over a year ago

eastleigh

This pandemic has actually made me realise just how social I am. I’ve really missed being with my friends and virtual connections really just don’t cut it for me

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Nope!! I love my own space and being at home. I much prefer being amongst a few close friends than a room full of strangers. I do occasionally love a social event but it takes a lot of thinking through in my head first and takes days to mentally recover.

I choose dogs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a miserable bunch of bastards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I really am.

I like people in general and am very chatty and sociable in 'real life'

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I like certain people

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By *emptressxxWoman
over a year ago

Local

"The older I get the less I want to be around other people.

Especially people I don't know in a busy public place.

This has only happened in the last 5yrs or so.

I used to be a social butterfly - always in company, always out and about.

Now I get irritated very easily."

I totally agree with this... I'm a social butterfly on my terms. The majority of times I'll choose solitary or small group interactions over large groups. Work sadly dictates larger groups and these pesky face masks makes people think you're approachable!!!! Tough times

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

I do like social contact. I feel I need that. I chose my job because it has people contact, I’ve changed my role to engage more with people, but, I’m also a very private person who loves my own space, my own company and peace and quiet away from everyone and everything. I think I cope with one because I have the other.

Lex

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"The older I get the less I want to be around other people.

Especially people I don't know in a busy public place.

This has only happened in the last 5yrs or so.

I used to be a social butterfly - always in company, always out and about.

Now I get irritated very easily."

People general piss me off too. I wouldn't call me a social butterfly, but I give people one chance and that's it.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"What a miserable bunch of bastards

sounds that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I am. Not an annoying happy, clappy type who is ott with anyone though.

I like my people and love being around them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The older I get the less I want to be around other people.

Especially people I don't know in a busy public place.

This has only happened in the last 5yrs or so.

I used to be a social butterfly - always in company, always out and about.

Now I get irritated very easily."

I think it's mostly age related but it could happen if you've stopped working with the public too. The older we get the more our world grows smaller, so any interruption of that, then it becomes an irritation. To deal with that I create 'zones' 1 to 5. Got the idea years ago from the London Tube

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, not really. I like small groups and one to one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really, I prefer people I know or strangers in a smaller group.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think my recent posts prove what I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m coming up to get this partly started.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never thought I was really.. quite happy in my own company etc.

Since lockdown, though, I've changed jobs and work from home... and now I really miss having a team and the work / social side of that. Also missed trips to the pub with mates etc more than I expected too, so maybe I am!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can be content on my own but do not dislike being in groups at all. I am very easy

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"I do like social contact. I feel I need that. I chose my job because it has people contact, I’ve changed my role to engage more with people, but, I’m also a very private person who loves my own space, my own company and peace and quiet away from everyone and everything. I think I cope with one because I have the other.

Lex"

Couldn't say it better

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I’m coming up to get this partly started."

Everyone's waiting for you to arrive, though...

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Like Lex above, I chose my job because I thrive on social contact and love talking (I know, shocker isn't it). I'm not sure I'm a people's person, there are some I'm not fond of and I do find myself increasingly cynical but on the whole I like being social (when I feel comfortable, like most). I'm possibly better in smaller groups rather than one to one, I can find that a bit overwhelming and I'm really, really bad at eye contact.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

Not one bit. I am with people I know and like but dont have the patience or energy to make the effort with those I don’t. Most people think I don’t like them when I first meet them.

I had a 360 review at work which told me all of the above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What a miserable bunch of bastards

sounds that way. "

I will be sociable with you Babs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes you get to a crossroads in life and I chose the sociopath.

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By *ncutthickness13Man
over a year ago

newbridge

I used to be a massive people person but since I started my job about 6 years ago I've had a full u turn

I still like people but people are changing it seems

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By *lappyMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I have to be in my line of work as I work with the public

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"What a miserable bunch of bastards

sounds that way.

I will be sociable with you Babs

Waiiit. Estragon called folk above a bunch of miserable bastards? Estragon?

Fuck they must be bad if he thinks that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, people are irritating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What a miserable bunch of bastards

sounds that way.

I will be sociable with you Babs

Waiiit. Estragon called folk above a bunch of miserable bastards? Estragon?

Fuck they must be bad if he thinks that."

I called them a miserable bunch of bastards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What a miserable bunch of bastards

sounds that way.

I will be sociable with you Babs

Waiiit. Estragon called folk above a bunch of miserable bastards? Estragon?

Fuck they must be bad if he thinks that."

I will be sociable with you too Meli

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

After the pandemic malarkey when I go out now it’s too ‘people-y’ some days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What a miserable bunch of bastards

sounds that way.

I will be sociable with you Babs

Waiiit. Estragon called folk above a bunch of miserable bastards? Estragon?

Fuck they must be bad if he thinks that.

I called them a miserable bunch of bastards. "

It isn't so much being a miserable bastard more that my time is precious so I prefer to spend it how I want to.

At work I can chat for Queen and Country.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"What a miserable bunch of bastards

sounds that way.

I will be sociable with you Babs

Waiiit. Estragon called folk above a bunch of miserable bastards? Estragon?

Fuck they must be bad if he thinks that.

I will be sociable with you too Meli

Yay Hope! I'd like that + Percy Pigs.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I enjoy being out and about.

I also enjoy my own company.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What a miserable bunch of bastards

sounds that way.

I will be sociable with you Babs

Waiiit. Estragon called folk above a bunch of miserable bastards? Estragon?

Fuck they must be bad if he thinks that.

I will be sociable with you too Meli

Yay Hope! I'd like that + Percy Pigs."

Well as I have a free bag on my Sparks card you might be in luck there

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"The older I get the less I want to be around other people.

Especially people I don't know in a busy public place.

This has only happened in the last 5yrs or so.

I used to be a social butterfly - always in company, always out and about.

Now I get irritated very easily."

I prefer animals. Quite happy to lock myself away with my dogs and only come out for work and sex.

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

these pesky face masks makes people think you're approachable!!!! Tough times

Thats a very good point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a day to day basis I am, especially at work, but for my intimate contacts I am highly selective.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I can’t stand people, they are so annoying!

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

The general public piss me off but I love being around friends.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I’m a miserable sod

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

"What a miserable bunch of bastards

sounds that way.

I will be sociable with you Babs

Waiiit. Estragon called folk above a bunch of miserable bastards? Estragon?

Fuck they must be bad if he thinks that.

I will be sociable with you too Meli

Yay Hope! I'd like that + Percy Pigs."

I have a large supply of Percy pigs......

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

"The older I get the less I want to be around other people.

Especially people I don't know in a busy public place.

This has only happened in the last 5yrs or so.

I used to be a social butterfly - always in company, always out and about.

Now I get irritated very easily.

This is me since the menopause

Same here. And then lockdown made it worse. I’m in no rush to go “back to normal”

J x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to think I wasn't, but realized that it was because I didn't have any friends which kind of forced myself to like being in my own.

Although I now like being around people, they can grate on me if I'm around them too long which I'm trying to work on

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Am I the only person desperate to be around lots of people again?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love being around people and also love living and doing things on my own! Generally a social old soul ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m very much a people person & thrive on social contact.

Comfortable in small groups & large gatherings & being out and about day to day.

I talk waaaay to much & am an open book, will chat about most things.

I’m that irritating person who chats to randoms in queues, the people on the check outs, people on the train .

This year has been pretty tough for me.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"What a miserable bunch of bastards

sounds that way.

I will be sociable with you Babs

Waiiit. Estragon called folk above a bunch of miserable bastards? Estragon?

Fuck they must be bad if he thinks that.

I will be sociable with you too Meli

Yay Hope! I'd like that + Percy Pigs.

I have a large supply of Percy pigs......

You're in! You're the perfect person to let my hair down with.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Once I'm around people I'm very sociable.

Getting me out of the house is the difficult part.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

"What a miserable bunch of bastards

sounds that way.

I will be sociable with you Babs

Waiiit. Estragon called folk above a bunch of miserable bastards? Estragon?

Fuck they must be bad if he thinks that.

I will be sociable with you too Meli

Yay Hope! I'd like that + Percy Pigs.

I have a large supply of Percy pigs......

You're in! You're the perfect person to let my hair down with.

We can hunt some decent penis and scoff Percy pigs

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By *rostgiantMan
over a year ago

Chippenham

I worked for NHS 111 until recently, that job completely warped my perspective on people, I used to like being around people, now I can't really stand it, however, I still greatly enjoy the company of people I care about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say I’m a listening person.... I like hearing what others have to say and sussing themxx

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"What a miserable bunch of bastards

sounds that way.

I will be sociable with you Babs

Waiiit. Estragon called folk above a bunch of miserable bastards? Estragon?

Fuck they must be bad if he thinks that.

I will be sociable with you too Meli

Yay Hope! I'd like that + Percy Pigs.

I have a large supply of Percy pigs......

You're in! You're the perfect person to let my hair down with.

We can hunt some decent penis and scoff Percy pigs

Count me in.....minus the penis searching haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I pick both? I can be very sociable, enjoy the company of others and easily talk to strangers. But at the same time, I enjoy solitude, peace and quiet, especially after a 15 hour shift.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The older I get the less I want to be around other people.

Especially people I don't know in a busy public place.

This has only happened in the last 5yrs or so.

I used to be a social butterfly - always in company, always out and about.

Now I get irritated very easily."

You are me with a fanny

I was gonna say you are me with tits, then I realised I have them too

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By *ent and bratCouple
over a year ago

here there everywhere

Read a meme the other day I could relate to..... "there are over 7 billion people on planet earth and I like about 9 tops of you c**ts". Made me chuckle anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use to regularly boast about not liking people like it was clever. I also have had times where I would be anxious and not want to be around others so much. (Possibly caffeine provoked)

What I would say is we all a people person... depending on the people.

It’s ingrained in our DNA. Remember we are all on here conversing in some way or another with other people. What can happen is people can become so recluse they forget what it’s like to enjoy other peoples company, and I imagine that will happen post covid until people remember the joys of others.

But I think as I’ve gotten older I just have less patience for peoples bullshit, combined with my own self confidence to say this person ain’t for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love being around people and really miss that contact.

I'm intolerant of people that come across as insincere though. And mostly that is what the Internet is made up of... Hence why I seem so harsh when in forum mode.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Lex"

Could be talking about me here!

I love spending time with people and I'm genuinely interested in them. I am in my element in a group, whether a small group of friends or a larger group - I'm very chatty and at ease with most people, and my job has a huge element of relationship building to it.

I do need to balance that with a fair amount of silent time on my own or I quickly feel frazzled and burned out.

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

"The older I get the less I want to be around other people.

Especially people I don't know in a busy public place.

This has only happened in the last 5yrs or so.

I used to be a social butterfly - always in company, always out and about.

Now I get irritated very easily.

This is me since the menopause

Join the club

know what you mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The older I get the less I want to be around other people.

Especially people I don't know in a busy public place.

This has only happened in the last 5yrs or so.

I used to be a social butterfly - always in company, always out and about.

Now I get irritated very easily."

I hear ya! I love being with my people but don't like people. If that makes any sense? Apparently the introvert stuff relates. You can be the life of the party but if you're introverted you get your energy from being with yourself. Recharging like.

Or you could just be sick of how people treat each other, disagree with what society deems as happiness etc.

Or you might have just caught Goth

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