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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Good morning.

After a verbal conversation with a female friend the other day discussing if one would know if a ‘single’ man attending a club was married and my thought that maybe many do not attend clubs due to discretion, privacy etc. I think it’s a minority, my friend disagrees with me.

So I thought I would put this to the forum and if married men are comfortable visiting clubs as single men?

This is not a let’s bash married people thread. Each to their own if people choose to meet married people.

It could also apply to single married women but single women attending clubs is lower than males and it was a verbal conversation about males hence the inspiration for this thread.

Interested to read your comments.

Thank you in advance of your input.

Bhubaysi x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went to a club with a single mate just to see what it was all about !

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I know of a few married men who visit clubs.

It is very difficult to tell if a man is married when in a club as there can be no tell tale signs.

It does make us think about those people who are adamant that they wont play with married people, yet they go to a club and will play with people spontaneously that they know absolutely nothing about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think od go of i was married.

Unless it had truly become an unhappy marriage that we was stuck in for some reason.

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I’m wondering if they are comfortable attending with being married. What if they see someone they know, they could be found out. It’s more the privacy than the cheating I’m curious on. I think it’s a low number due to the discretion.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Depends on the marital situation I would imagine.

Some would probably be keeping one eye on the door, the other may have his reasons to not be too concerned.

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Depends on the marital situation I would imagine.

Some would probably be keeping one eye on the door, the other may have his reasons to not be too concerned.

This is why I think it’s a low number.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"Depends on the marital situation I would imagine.

Some would probably be keeping one eye on the door, the other may have his reasons to not be too concerned.

This is why I think it’s a low number. "

We think it will be the minority of those who attend clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit like on here, I'd expect up to half of the "single" guys to be married. I doubt they visit their local clubs though for obvious reasons xx

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By *oomarangMan
over a year ago

Chester

I’m married and never visited a club for the fact I’m a bit to shy and nervous to go by myself and it’s also finding the time where I don’t have to explain to my wife where I’ve been

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lordy, where to begin!

One particular club that opened during the day was frequented almost exclusively of married or partnered Guys.

Some were just playing away but most had a story to tell as to why on a wet and cold afternoon in January they were dressed in a towel looking for no strings attached sex.

Ours is not to reason why?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I think married men go to clubs more in the daytime than the evening

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"A bit like on here, I'd expect up to half of the "single" guys to be married. I doubt they visit their local clubs though for obvious reasons xx"

That poses another question. If they travel to a club then how do they explain the mileage to the wife?

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"A bit like on here, I'd expect up to half of the "single" guys to be married. I doubt they visit their local clubs though for obvious reasons xx

That poses another question. If they travel to a club then how do they explain the mileage to the wife? "

Do spouses check mileage?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Is it normal for married couples to inspect the mileage on each others cars ?

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

Married men definitely attend clubs, but I'm imagining that they are more likely to go out of their local area.

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By *oomarangMan
over a year ago

Chester

"A bit like on here, I'd expect up to half of the "single" guys to be married. I doubt they visit their local clubs though for obvious reasons xx

That poses another question. If they travel to a club then how do they explain the mileage to the wife? "

I ride a motorbike which my wife can’t ride and I use her car from time to time but I wouldn’t even dream of going to a club in my motorbike for fear of it getting stolen and having to explain where it got stolen from and secondly to much biker attire to remove and store

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think married men go to clubs more in the daytime than the evening"

Yes most were using work as the reason for being in the establishment.

One chap I chatted to was a carer for his wife almost 24/7 and was devoted to her well being. His Sojourn to the club for an afternoon was nothing more than a sanity break to cope with life.

Always a reason!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A bit like on here, I'd expect up to half of the "single" guys to be married. I doubt they visit their local clubs though for obvious reasons xx

That poses another question. If they travel to a club then how do they explain the mileage to the wife?

Would you not consider taking your wife on the back of the bike?

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By *oomarangMan
over a year ago

Chester

"A bit like on here, I'd expect up to half of the "single" guys to be married. I doubt they visit their local clubs though for obvious reasons xx

That poses another question. If they travel to a club then how do they explain the mileage to the wife?

Would you not consider taking your wife on the back of the bike?"

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I think it would be more than you think op.... Particularly if they work away. I've met many a travelling salesman in the jacuzzi at chams

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Is it normal for married couples to inspect the mileage on each others cars ?"

I used to work with a lady and she checked her husbands mileage every week.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"A bit like on here, I'd expect up to half of the "single" guys to be married. I doubt they visit their local clubs though for obvious reasons xx

That poses another question. If they travel to a club then how do they explain the mileage to the wife?

Do spouses check mileage?

I dint check my own mileage.... I wouldn't check my other half's (if I had one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it normal for married couples to inspect the mileage on each others cars ?

I used to work with a lady and she checked her husbands mileage every week. "

That’s a bit scary?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it would be more than you think op.... Particularly if they work away. I've met many a travelling salesman in the jacuzzi at chams

Have you ever brought a Kirby hoover in the jacuzzi?

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By *oomarangMan
over a year ago

Chester

"Is it normal for married couples to inspect the mileage on each others cars ?

I used to work with a lady and she checked her husbands mileage every week. "

I’ve never checked her mileage on her car and she probably knows if I’ve done extra miles on my motorbike by how many times I have fill up with petrol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A bit like on here, I'd expect up to half of the "single" guys to be married. I doubt they visit their local clubs though for obvious reasons xx

That poses another question. If they travel to a club then how do they explain the mileage to the wife? "

Maybe he works away, separate cars, I have no idea the mileage on my husband's cars.

Daytime attendance is an interesting thought as that would be easier to hide for many I suspect.

Tbh if you play with lone guys off here or in clubs then you have to accept many of them are married regardless of what they say, some do admit it when asked but I imagine most still lie xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I imagine they'd go to clubs, just not ones near where they live

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By *oomarangMan
over a year ago

Chester

"A bit like on here, I'd expect up to half of the "single" guys to be married. I doubt they visit their local clubs though for obvious reasons xx

That poses another question. If they travel to a club then how do they explain the mileage to the wife?

Maybe he works away, separate cars, I have no idea the mileage on my husband's cars.

Daytime attendance is an interesting thought as that would be easier to hide for many I suspect.

Tbh if you play with lone guys off here or in clubs then you have to accept many of them are married regardless of what they say, some do admit it when asked but I imagine most still lie xx"

I let women know straight away that I’m married and playing away it saves a lot of time and messing about trying to hide the fact that I’m married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m married and never visited a club for the fact I’m a bit to shy and nervous to go by myself and it’s also finding the time where I don’t have to explain to my wife where I’ve been "

I am sorry I thought you and her indoors were in it together as it were?

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By *oomarangMan
over a year ago

Chester

"I’m married and never visited a club for the fact I’m a bit to shy and nervous to go by myself and it’s also finding the time where I don’t have to explain to my wife where I’ve been

I am sorry I thought you and her indoors were in it together as it were?"

it’s ok bud you wasn’t to know we’re not

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I think it would be more than you think op.... Particularly if they work away. I've met many a travelling salesman in the jacuzzi at chams

Have you ever brought a Kirby hoover in the jacuzzi?"

No but i suck like a Dyson in one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A bit like on here, I'd expect up to half of the "single" guys to be married. I doubt they visit their local clubs though for obvious reasons xx

That poses another question. If they travel to a club then how do they explain the mileage to the wife?

Maybe he works away, separate cars, I have no idea the mileage on my husband's cars.

Daytime attendance is an interesting thought as that would be easier to hide for many I suspect.

Tbh if you play with lone guys off here or in clubs then you have to accept many of them are married regardless of what they say, some do admit it when asked but I imagine most still lie xx

I let women know straight away that I’m married and playing away it saves a lot of time and messing about trying to hide the fact that I’m married "

I always ask and to be fair to them I've had a lot of guys admit it, but I obviously have no idea how many didn't. Although they're also trusting me, I'm married and don't hide it, my husband does know I play around but they have to take my word for it too xx

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

"Is it normal for married couples to inspect the mileage on each others cars ?"

I don’t know about normal, but it is common, as it is checking credit card transactions for hotel bookings, club payments, etc...

It is the downside of meeting married men. *yawn* most of the ones I’ve met would not set a foot in a club because of the reasons stated above- how do they explain an evening’s absence, what if someone in there knows them, what if the wife turns out and drags them out... *yawns again* ....

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I, like many mrried people (male and female) attend clubs. There's about 5 different one that I go to. I work on the principal that that the majority people attending don't wish to be exposed as swingers so we all feel safe from being "outed".

On my last visit to a club, there were at least 3 females there without the knowledge of their partners. This thread poses a universal question, there's no reason to make it male orientated... Is there?

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By *estman for the jobMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Never been to a club but if I was to go I'd go to one that wasn't toolocal but the chance of someone knowing you and then telling in you would be rare as who wants to expose their own personal life to point score

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

When I was married I went to clubs sometimes. It hadn't really occurred to me that I might be spotted by somebody I knew. The risk was low because it's quite a niche thing. Anybody there I knew would also equally have a problem being spotted.

I also didn't conceal that I was married when I talked to people there. I had my reasons and was open about my situation and why I was there. That journey had been instigated by my wife anyway.

There was one occasion when my swinging partner of the time spotted a married guy she knew whose other half was pregnant. We just chose to leave their relationship to them. Luke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I, like many mrried people (male and female) attend clubs. There's about 5 different one that I go to. I work on the principal that that the majority people attending don't wish to be exposed as swingers so we all feel safe from being "outed".

No, women cheat as much as men to xx

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By *oomarangMan
over a year ago

Chester

"A bit like on here, I'd expect up to half of the "single" guys to be married. I doubt they visit their local clubs though for obvious reasons xx

That poses another question. If they travel to a club then how do they explain the mileage to the wife?

Maybe he works away, separate cars, I have no idea the mileage on my husband's cars.

Daytime attendance is an interesting thought as that would be easier to hide for many I suspect.

Tbh if you play with lone guys off here or in clubs then you have to accept many of them are married regardless of what they say, some do admit it when asked but I imagine most still lie xx

I let women know straight away that I’m married and playing away it saves a lot of time and messing about trying to hide the fact that I’m married

Everyone has their reasons for being on here and go to clubs without their other half knowing. Some are just greedy some are desperate and some just like the chase

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

90% men on here are attached in some way.

100% of men on here lie.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"I think married men go to clubs more in the daytime than the evening"

This. When visiting areas for work. I’ve also met married women in clubs too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"90% men on here are attached in some way.

100% of men on here lie.

What have you lied about?

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By *oomarangMan
over a year ago

Chester

"90% men on here are attached in some way.

100% of men on here lie.

Speak for yourself I don’t lie I let people know I’m married and my doesn’t know I’m using this website

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A bit like on here, I'd expect up to half of the "single" guys to be married. I doubt they visit their local clubs though for obvious reasons xx

That poses another question. If they travel to a club then how do they explain the mileage to the wife?

Maybe he works away, separate cars, I have no idea the mileage on my husband's cars.

Daytime attendance is an interesting thought as that would be easier to hide for many I suspect.

Tbh if you play with lone guys off here or in clubs then you have to accept many of them are married regardless of what they say, some do admit it when asked but I imagine most still lie xx

I let women know straight away that I’m married and playing away it saves a lot of time and messing about trying to hide the fact that I’m married

Everyone has their reasons for being on here and go to clubs without their other half knowing. Some are just greedy some are desperate and some just like the chase "

Greedy and desperate............bit harsh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't deny I fall into the greedy camp lol xx

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By *oomarangMan
over a year ago

Chester

"A bit like on here, I'd expect up to half of the "single" guys to be married. I doubt they visit their local clubs though for obvious reasons xx

That poses another question. If they travel to a club then how do they explain the mileage to the wife?

Maybe he works away, separate cars, I have no idea the mileage on my husband's cars.

Daytime attendance is an interesting thought as that would be easier to hide for many I suspect.

Tbh if you play with lone guys off here or in clubs then you have to accept many of them are married regardless of what they say, some do admit it when asked but I imagine most still lie xx

I let women know straight away that I’m married and playing away it saves a lot of time and messing about trying to hide the fact that I’m married

Everyone has their reasons for being on here and go to clubs without their other half knowing. Some are just greedy some are desperate and some just like the chase

Greedy and desperate............bit harsh?"

What would you call it then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"90% men on here are attached in some way.

100% of men on here lie.

Speak for yourself I don’t lie I let people know I’m married and my doesn’t know I’m using this website "

I think the point the chap was making is that by not telling her indoors you are on a recreational sex site you maybe telling porkies?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A bit like on here, I'd expect up to half of the "single" guys to be married. I doubt they visit their local clubs though for obvious reasons xx

That poses another question. If they travel to a club then how do they explain the mileage to the wife?

Maybe he works away, separate cars, I have no idea the mileage on my husband's cars.

Daytime attendance is an interesting thought as that would be easier to hide for many I suspect.

Tbh if you play with lone guys off here or in clubs then you have to accept many of them are married regardless of what they say, some do admit it when asked but I imagine most still lie xx

I let women know straight away that I’m married and playing away it saves a lot of time and messing about trying to hide the fact that I’m married

Everyone has their reasons for being on here and go to clubs without their other half knowing. Some are just greedy some are desperate and some just like the chase

Greedy and desperate............bit harsh?

What would you call it then "

I wouldn’t call it anything. I would simply say if I was married I wouldn’t be on this site, unless it was as a couple I could be accused of being greedy even perhaps desperate?

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By *oomarangMan
over a year ago

Chester

"I can't deny I fall into the greedy camp lol xx"

there’s nothing wrong with that I’m not saying it’s bad thing.

I fall into the desperate category

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"90% men on here are attached in some way.

100% of men on here lie.

I expect you can back those statistics up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"90% men on here are attached in some way.

100% of men and women on here lie.

FIFY

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"90% men on here are attached in some way.

100% of men on here lie.

Speak for yourself I don’t lie I let people know I’m married and my doesn’t know I’m using this website "

So you're not lying to your wife?

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

"90% men on here are attached in some way.

100% of men on here lie.

I find that most offensive and condescending.

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By *luebellRacerCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

Married and partner doesn't know do you mean?

As we'd be happy for each other to go solo, but I have to say I'd still go with a known friend purely for safety

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"90% men on here are attached in some way.

100% of men on here lie.

So you're lying right now?

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"Is it normal for married couples to inspect the mileage on each others cars ?

I used to work with a lady and she checked her husbands mileage every week. "
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Their relationship has issues then.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"90% men on here are attached in some way.

100% of men on here lie.

They really don't.

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

If you read my OP it was about a conversation I had with a female friend but it can apply to married women too.

It’s not a bashing married people thread.

Please read the OP.

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The premise of such a club visit is the possibility to have sexual interactions with one or more relative strangers, based mainly on physical attraction and less on an emotional connection.

So the people’s background and circumstances matter little.

I’m unlikely to want a relationship with someone with certain political views because they don’t sit well with me. But I’m not going to ask people in a club who they vote for. I’m not going there to find a life partner.

And I could well have a very good time one night in a club with someone I wouldn’t keep as a friend in every day life.

To that respect I find the question a little strange.

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By *oomarangMan
over a year ago

Chester

"90% men on here are attached in some way.

100% of men on here lie.

Speak for yourself I don’t lie I let people know I’m married and my doesn’t know I’m using this website

So you're not lying to your wife?"

Yep but I don’t lie to people on here which is what the OP is asking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The premise of such a club visit is the possibility to have sexual interactions with one or more relative strangers, based mainly on physical attraction and less on an emotional connection.

So the people’s background and circumstances matter little.

And I could well have a very good time one night in a club with someone I wouldn’t keep as a friend in every day life.

To that respect I find the question a little strange."

No, that post makes a lot of sense xx

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By *estman for the jobMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Just for equality reasons how many ladies on this post are playing away and have to be discrete I bet not many will admit it

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Just for equality reasons how many ladies on this post are playing away and have to be discrete I bet not many will admit it"

They just crack on with it. It's mostly men who come on trying to justify it and moaning they can't meet anyone etc.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

When we used to go to Eurekas and Silverleigh in the day there were loads of married men there. Obviously we didn't know their individual circumstances but IF their wives were unaware, we guess they assumed they were at work. Some we chatted to mentioned their wife, some didn't.

We won't knowingly meet married men without their partners present but there must have been occasions when we have unwittingly.

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By *estman for the jobMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"Just for equality reasons how many ladies on this post are playing away and have to be discrete I bet not many will admit it

They just crack on with it. It's mostly men who come on trying to justify it and moaning they can't meet anyone etc. "
I don't moan unless I'm cumming lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been to a few clubs, not necessarily on a regular basis and have no qualms about going again after Covid if I'm in the mood.

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Just for equality reasons how many ladies on this post are playing away and have to be discrete I bet not many will admit it"

Remember it’s not a bash married people thread. Read the OP properly please. If people are married and not being honest it’s up to them as is if people choose to meet married people.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I was on here years ago, married and unhappy, I admitted I was married, I went to clubs.

In the end I left the wife because I actually found a life lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To clarify, and I'm sorry its confusing ,but;

90% of men on here are attached and 100% lie.me included.

I dont need to prove this.its not a kpi bullet point companies merger but a sex site.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Mr N knows the mileage on my car. He quite often checks it when he's a passenger. It's nothing to do with him wondering if I've been zooming about to clubs behind his back though, more incredulity that in the past 18 months I've only driven about 3k miles.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"Is it normal for married couples to inspect the mileage on each others cars ?

I used to work with a lady and she checked her husbands mileage every week. .

Their relationship has issues then."

Agree with that if a man was doing this to a woman, there would be an outcry. Hopefully, she won't think of getting a dash cam.

In my opinion if you have to go to such lengths the relationship isn't functional

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

"90% men on here are attached in some way.

100% of men on here lie.

Lol I have never lied, being male and all that. The irony is even if you're telling truth nobody believes you and accuses you of lying anyway

Answer the OPS, post a lot of married guys clubs as well as strip clubs how the clubs make money. Club entry for a guy if usually at least double for a solo guy. I always mused that clubs only allowed couples and solo fems at weekends but that's a whole other subject.

So if you only attend clubs at weekends then you are unlikely to see solo guys let alone married ones.

Final note if you are checking each others milage and phones etc. Problems running much deeper than just attending clubs.

Finally in all the years been on the the scene there is one consistency. People views on married solos are very fluid

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"Mr N knows the mileage on my car. He quite often checks it when he's a passenger. It's nothing to do with him wondering if I've been zooming about to clubs behind his back though, more incredulity that in the past 18 months I've only driven about 3k miles. "

But that's not monitoring as such on a weekly basis. M knows my mileage because every so often he checks how many miles per gallon my car does, so he has a rough idea. If he was checking weekly and then asking why have you done 10 extra miles I wouldn't be happy.

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over a year ago

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So I thought I would put this to the forum and if married men are comfortable visiting clubs as single men?

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Bhubaysi x "

Is these ‘married men’ you are referring to pretending to be single....

This is a swinging website after all.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Neither would I, I expect there would be other examples of trust issues too.

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By *estman for the jobMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"Just for equality reasons how many ladies on this post are playing away and have to be discrete I bet not many will admit it

Remember it’s not a bash married people thread. Read the OP properly please. If people are married and not being honest it’s up to them as is if people choose to meet married people. "
I'm not bashing anyone but it seems to be a one way street regarding just married men when there's as many unhappy and happy married ladies doing the same thing with and without consent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A tank of petrol lasts forever these days!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I imagine they'd go to clubs, just not ones near where they live"

So they still bump into all their local neighbours. Just miles away!

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"A bit like on here, I'd expect up to half of the "single" guys to be married. I doubt they visit their local clubs though for obvious reasons xx

That poses another question. If they travel to a club then how do they explain the mileage to the wife?

Do spouses check mileage?

Maybe if they suspect there partner cheating. Although it’s relatively simple to track journeys by phone or insurance apps.

OP just ask him / her.

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over a year ago

"The premise of such a club visit is the possibility to have sexual interactions with one or more relative strangers, based mainly on physical attraction and less on an emotional connection.

So the people’s background and circumstances matter little.

And I could well have a very good time one night in a club with someone I wouldn’t keep as a friend in every day life.

To that respect I find the question a little strange.

No, that post makes a lot of sense xx"

Care to elaborate? Some people are comfortable going to clubs, some aren’t irrespective of their marital situation.

The OP states in her profile that she doesn’t want to interact with married men. So I’m under the impression that she worries about unknowingly interacting with one in a club because the usual tell tale signs are missing in such an environment.

And my point is that if you’re so concerned about going against your principles, a club might not be the right environment because most go there to engage with people they know little about.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

A tank of petrol lasts forever these days!"

, it does. In March 2020 I filled up, I didn't put any more in until October 2020

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Just for equality reasons how many ladies on this post are playing away and have to be discrete I bet not many will admit it

Remember it’s not a bash married people thread. Read the OP properly please. If people are married and not being honest it’s up to them as is if people choose to meet married people. I'm not bashing anyone but it seems to be a one way street regarding just married men when there's as many unhappy and happy married ladies doing the same thing with and without consent"

If you read my OP it’s pretty clear.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"A bit like on here, I'd expect up to half of the "single" guys to be married. I doubt they visit their local clubs though for obvious reasons xx

That poses another question. If they travel to a club then how do they explain the mileage to the wife?

Do spouses check mileage?

If they have a suspicion their partner is cheating, yes. Women do all sorts.

My mum had a friend who suspected her partner was cheating and she roped my mum in to drive her (the friend didn’t drive) to follow her partner when he went out one night. Sure enough, she caught him out.

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"The premise of such a club visit is the possibility to have sexual interactions with one or more relative strangers, based mainly on physical attraction and less on an emotional connection.

So the people’s background and circumstances matter little.

And I could well have a very good time one night in a club with someone I wouldn’t keep as a friend in every day life.

To that respect I find the question a little strange.

No, that post makes a lot of sense xx

Care to elaborate? Some people are comfortable going to clubs, some aren’t irrespective of their marital situation.

And my point is that if you’re so concerned about going against your principles, a club might not be the right environment because most go there to engage with people they know little about."

The thread isn’t about my profile or my feelings about married people. I’ve not asked for feedback on my profile or for men to assume about me in clubs and tell me it’s the wrong environment for me. If you read the OP it’s very clear what I’m asking. It was a discussion with a female friend that inspired this. I just wondered regarding the privacy aspect of a married man attending a club.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

"A bit like on here, I'd expect up to half of the "single" guys to be married. I doubt they visit their local clubs though for obvious reasons xx

That poses another question. If they travel to a club then how do they explain the mileage to the wife?

Maybe he works away, separate cars, I have no idea the mileage on my husband's cars.

Daytime attendance is an interesting thought as that would be easier to hide for many I suspect.

Tbh if you play with lone guys off here or in clubs then you have to accept many of them are married regardless of what they say, some do admit it when asked but I imagine most still lie xx

I let women know straight away that I’m married and playing away it saves a lot of time and messing about trying to hide the fact that I’m married "

Something wrong with your marriage then?

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over a year ago

People playing away from their partners may be put off attending local clubs for reasons of possibly being spotted. However there's plenty other ones they may go to. So you may never know.

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over a year ago

"A bit like on here, I'd expect up to half of the "single" guys to be married. I doubt they visit their local clubs though for obvious reasons xx

That poses another question. If they travel to a club then how do they explain the mileage to the wife?

Do spouses check mileage?

I thought the same thing

A lot of distrust out there - verging on paranoia

I could not be arsed constantly looking for evidence, constantly worrying that someone is up to no good if they aren't with you

It must be so tiring

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over a year ago

"The premise of such a club visit is the possibility to have sexual interactions with one or more relative strangers, based mainly on physical attraction and less on an emotional connection.

So the people’s background and circumstances matter little.

And I could well have a very good time one night in a club with someone I wouldn’t keep as a friend in every day life.

To that respect I find the question a little strange.

No, that post makes a lot of sense xx

Care to elaborate? Some people are comfortable going to clubs, some aren’t irrespective of their marital situation.

And my point is that if you’re so concerned about going against your principles, a club might not be the right environment because most go there to engage with people they know little about.

I’m not giving feedback on your profile or judging it, I’m simply explaining why I found your question a little strange.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"90% men on here are attached in some way.

100% of men on here lie.

I expect you can back those statistics up."

In approximately 96% of the time, yes.

Everyone knows that 85.3% of statistics are made up though

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"The premise of such a club visit is the possibility to have sexual interactions with one or more relative strangers, based mainly on physical attraction and less on an emotional connection.

So the people’s background and circumstances matter little.

And I could well have a very good time one night in a club with someone I wouldn’t keep as a friend in every day life.

To that respect I find the question a little strange.

No, that post makes a lot of sense xx

Care to elaborate? Some people are comfortable going to clubs, some aren’t irrespective of their marital situation.

And my point is that if you’re so concerned about going against your principles, a club might not be the right environment because most go there to engage with people they know little about.

I’m not giving feedback on your profile or judging it, I’m simply explaining why I found your question a little strange. "

You quoted my profile and assumed things about me. I never asked for that and it’s against site rules to give feedback on profiles if it hasn’t been asked for. It’s pretty clear what I’m asking for in my OP. Oh and clubs are for me.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Is married men all that you and your mates talk about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know of a few married men who visit clubs.

It is very difficult to tell if a man is married when in a club as there can be no tell tale signs.

Some of us would ask questions beforehand.

If they still lie and we don’t have a clue, then that’s on them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"90% men on here are attached in some way.

100% of men on here lie.

I expect you can back those statistics up.

In approximately 96% of the time, yes.

Everyone knows that 85.3% of statistics are made up though"

But only 32% of people believe the made up statistics

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Is married men all that you and your mates talk about? "

Yes you’ve sussed it, it’s the main topic of discussion all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good morning.

So I thought I would put this to the forum and if married men are comfortable visiting clubs as single men?

This is not a let’s bash married people thread. Each to their own if people choose to meet married people.

It could also apply to single married women but single women attending clubs is lower than males and it was a verbal conversation about males hence the inspiration for this thread.

Interested to read your comments.

Thank you in advance of your input.

Bhubaysi x "

Why does it matter? People from all situations attend clubs and quite frankly it is nobody's business but there's.

I attend clubs, and don't question peoples homelifes, a club is where people go to get away from all that

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over a year ago

"The premise of such a club visit is the possibility to have sexual interactions with one or more relative strangers, based mainly on physical attraction and less on an emotional connection.

So the people’s background and circumstances matter little.

And I could well have a very good time one night in a club with someone I wouldn’t keep as a friend in every day life.

To that respect I find the question a little strange.

No, that post makes a lot of sense xx

Care to elaborate? Some people are comfortable going to clubs, some aren’t irrespective of their marital situation.

And my point is that if you’re so concerned about going against your principles, a club might not be the right environment because most go there to engage with people they know little about.

I’m not giving feedback on your profile or judging it, I’m simply explaining why I found your question a little strange.

I don’t think I broke site rules.

And you’re right I made assumptions about why you asked this question. I tried to put your question into context because on its own it made little sense in my view.

I accept the possibility that my assumptions are wrong but still stand by my original comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is married men all that you and your mates talk about? "

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over a year ago

"The premise of such a club visit is the possibility to have sexual interactions with one or more relative strangers, based mainly on physical attraction and less on an emotional connection.

So the people’s background and circumstances matter little.

And I could well have a very good time one night in a club with someone I wouldn’t keep as a friend in every day life.

To that respect I find the question a little strange.

No, that post makes a lot of sense xx

Care to elaborate? Some people are comfortable going to clubs, some aren’t irrespective of their marital situation.

And my point is that if you’re so concerned about going against your principles, a club might not be the right environment because most go there to engage with people they know little about.

I’m not giving feedback on your profile or judging it, I’m simply explaining why I found your question a little strange.

I don’t think I broke site rules.

And you’re right I made assumptions about why you asked this question. I tried to put your question into context because on its own it made little sense in my view.

I accept the possibility that my assumptions are wrong but still stand by my original comment."

I think her question makes perfect sense.

I don’t see why what she has in her profile has any bearing in what she is asking.

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

In my experience its quite a high ratio of married men forming the single man element, particularly during the daytime. Many are from out of area and working away from their home town so can get away with it easily.

The ration is less so on an evening but still fairly high imho

Im definitely in the category of not wanting to unknowingly meet a married man as i have been the injured party and i want more than a one off, so i apply that principle here as much as i can because ongoing conversations, texts, etc can be discovered by the unsuspecting wife/gf and i do not want to be the target of that vitriol when she finds out.

When im in a club however its a personal dilemma as i only tend play with single guys...i dont want to fuck a cheater, but then i have a sexual need that drives me to be there in the first place. I do tend to chat with the guys first and ask them outright, then i can make an informed choice whether to go ahead.

Its the deceipt thats the most damaging thing...and those who willingly deceive the people they claim to love are the ones in the wrong, not me, and i dont want to be the one they are deceiving.

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By *estman for the jobMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

How would anyone know if a club attendee was married if you didn't know them and they were not wearing a ring ,if your playing solo would u admit it publicly just to be condoned by the self righteous brigade answer no and that goes for everyone not just men

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"The premise of such a club visit is the possibility to have sexual interactions with one or more relative strangers, based mainly on physical attraction and less on an emotional connection.

So the people’s background and circumstances matter little.

And I could well have a very good time one night in a club with someone I wouldn’t keep as a friend in every day life.

To that respect I find the question a little strange.

No, that post makes a lot of sense xx

Care to elaborate? Some people are comfortable going to clubs, some aren’t irrespective of their marital situation.

And my point is that if you’re so concerned about going against your principles, a club might not be the right environment because most go there to engage with people they know little about.

I’m not giving feedback on your profile or judging it, I’m simply explaining why I found your question a little strange.

I don’t think I broke site rules.

And you’re right I made assumptions about why you asked this question. I tried to put your question into context because on its own it made little sense in my view.

I accept the possibility that my assumptions are wrong but still stand by my original comment."

Why would you make assumptions about me? Why would you comment about my profile in the forum? What are your intentions?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The premise of such a club visit is the possibility to have sexual interactions with one or more relative strangers, based mainly on physical attraction and less on an emotional connection.

So the people’s background and circumstances matter little.

And I could well have a very good time one night in a club with someone I wouldn’t keep as a friend in every day life.

To that respect I find the question a little strange.

No, that post makes a lot of sense xx

Care to elaborate? Some people are comfortable going to clubs, some aren’t irrespective of their marital situation.

And my point is that if you’re so concerned about going against your principles, a club might not be the right environment because most go there to engage with people they know little about.

I’m not giving feedback on your profile or judging it, I’m simply explaining why I found your question a little strange.

I don’t think I broke site rules.

And you’re right I made assumptions about why you asked this question. I tried to put your question into context because on its own it made little sense in my view.

I accept the possibility that my assumptions are wrong but still stand by my original comment.

I think her question makes perfect sense.

I don’t see why what she has in her profile has any bearing in what she is asking. "

I explained that already: I read her profile to try and put some contexts into a question which in my eyes makes little sense by itself. Clubs are not an environment where people’s background and circumstances matter much, so why ask if a majority of people with a specific set of circumstances are comfortable with this environment? I felt there was more to this question than meet the eye hence try and put it in context. And again I accept my assumptions can be wrong.

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over a year ago

"How would anyone know if a club attendee was married if you didn't know them and they were not wearing a ring ,if your playing solo would u admit it publicly just to be condoned by the self righteous brigade answer no and that goes for everyone not just men "

Well I think women who don’t want to meet married men should be offered the choice rather than a married man be dishonest just to get his end away.

It comes out in the end.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

In response to the OP; I find it very hard to give anything beyond the wildest conjecture regarding married or partnered singles at clubs. You can’t tell and you never will be able to, unless you can see a tan line on their finger.

There might be subtle anxiety tells but there might not be, some people have affairs with next door neighbours for years and betray no signs.

As for the secondary discussions about married people on here as singles. The implicit judgement of it has always been on here, as has single married men = bad, single married women = ok.

Mainly it’s because of the target ‘audience’, guys don’t care but women do and that’s unlikely to change.

Personally I think there are hundreds of reasons as to why married folks are here as singles, some I’d deem as valid, some not but it’s not my life to judge and it’s not on us to judge others without knowing the full story.

The basic double standards exhibited on here can be pretty stark at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The premise of such a club visit is the possibility to have sexual interactions with one or more relative strangers, based mainly on physical attraction and less on an emotional connection.

So the people’s background and circumstances matter little.

And I could well have a very good time one night in a club with someone I wouldn’t keep as a friend in every day life.

To that respect I find the question a little strange.

No, that post makes a lot of sense xx

Care to elaborate? Some people are comfortable going to clubs, some aren’t irrespective of their marital situation.

And my point is that if you’re so concerned about going against your principles, a club might not be the right environment because most go there to engage with people they know little about.

I’m not giving feedback on your profile or judging it, I’m simply explaining why I found your question a little strange.

I don’t think I broke site rules.

And you’re right I made assumptions about why you asked this question. I tried to put your question into context because on its own it made little sense in my view.

I accept the possibility that my assumptions are wrong but still stand by my original comment.

I think her question makes perfect sense.

I don’t see why what she has in her profile has any bearing in what she is asking.

Because why not ask? You may not ask and that’s your right, but others may well ask, that’s their right too.

You felt there was more to the question than meets the eye because what? You’re married? Is that it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do any of us really know about anyone we meet in this lifestyle.

Especially in a club setting.

Getting to know people is the only way we will find out truths about their lives.

Otherwise how do you know that the 'straight, single ' male / female you just met hadn't just got back from a bareback gangbang?

If you're easily put off by people's circumstances or sexual histories then casual sex probably isn't for you

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I am a married man who plays away from home, and have visited several clubs as a solo male. I never worried about discretion or privacy about my situation, as it’s well know that “what happens in a club, stays in a club”.

I will say though, that I have been questioned on more than one occasion, by people I’ve met in the clubs, about my home situation, and where a married man using clubs for no strings fun is generally frowned upon, a female in a similar situation is more likely to be celebrated and actively encouraged

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By *estman for the jobMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Well I think women who don’t want to meet married men should be offered the choice rather than a married man be dishonest just to get his end away.

It comes out in the end. "
and do u think women should extend the same curtesy

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over a year ago

"I am a married man who plays away from home, and have visited several clubs as a solo male. I never worried about discretion or privacy about my situation, as it’s well know that “what happens in a club, stays in a club”.

But said female is likely to be celebrated and encouraged by men, because men tend to care less about others marital status, whereas women tend to care.

I see people talk about double standards a lot but I don’t see the same people condemning a married man and then praising a married women, it’s usually completely different people and it has a lot to do with the fact men care less about those things.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"What do any of us really know about anyone we meet in this lifestyle.

Especially in a club setting.

Getting to know people is the only way we will find out truths about their lives.

Otherwise how do you know that the 'straight, single ' male / female you just met hadn't just got back from a bareback gangbang?

If you're easily put off by people's circumstances or sexual histories then casual sex probably isn't for you

That last line rules out anyone who has blocked or cut contact with anyone because of who they’ve met from here in the past. That’s an awful lot of people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I think women who don’t want to meet married men should be offered the choice rather than a married man be dishonest just to get his end away.

It comes out in the end. and do u think women should extend the same curtesy"

I’ll rephrase for those quick to assume.

I think people who don’t want to meet married people should be offered the choice rather than a married person be dishonest to get their end away.

Hope that clears up any confusion.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I’ll rephrase for those quick to assume.

I think people who don’t want to meet married people should be offered the choice rather than a married person be dishonest to get their end away.

Hope that clears up any confusion.

Agree totally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do any of us really know about anyone we meet in this lifestyle.

Especially in a club setting.

Getting to know people is the only way we will find out truths about their lives.

Otherwise how do you know that the 'straight, single ' male / female you just met hadn't just got back from a bareback gangbang?

If you're easily put off by people's circumstances or sexual histories then casual sex probably isn't for you

I agree with you.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Well I think women who don’t want to meet married men should be offered the choice rather than a married man be dishonest just to get his end away.

It comes out in the end. and do u think women should extend the same curtesy

I’ll rephrase for those quick to assume.

I think people who don’t want to meet married people should be offered the choice rather than a married person be dishonest to get their end away.

Hope that clears up any confusion.

I agree, except the honest person will end up not meeting, whereas the dishonest person won’t.

When we’re discussing people who are already lying to those that they claim to love, deceiving a person from the internet, for their own gain, will hardly cause them concern.

I think that hoping for or expecting honesty in these situations could be a bit naive, as awful as it is

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over a year ago

Well I think women who don’t want to meet married men should be offered the choice rather than a married man be dishonest just to get his end away.

It comes out in the end. and do u think women should extend the same curtesy

I’ll rephrase for those quick to assume.

I think people who don’t want to meet married people should be offered the choice rather than a married person be dishonest to get their end away.

Hope that clears up any confusion.

I agree, except the honest person will end up not meeting, whereas the dishonest person won’t.

When we’re discussing people who are already lying to those that they claim to love, deceiving a person from the internet, for their own gain, will hardly cause them concern.

I think that hoping for or expecting honesty in these situations could be a bit naive, as awful as it is"

Very true & I agree it is awful.

And it’s very much one of the reasons I haven’t yet been to club, as much as I’d like to!

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

It is awful, but that's life I suppose. Not everyone is honest or a decent human.

(Fancy a non sex game TM?

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

"Is it normal for married couples to inspect the mileage on each others cars ?"

Been with my husband for 27 years and have never checked the mileage

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By *herry OnatopWoman
over a year ago

Just over there

"What do any of us really know about anyone we meet in this lifestyle.

Especially in a club setting.

Getting to know people is the only way we will find out truths about their lives.

Otherwise how do you know that the 'straight, single ' male / female you just met hadn't just got back from a bareback gangbang?

If you're easily put off by people's circumstances or sexual histories then casual sex probably isn't for you

Exactly this!

Club visits for most are to enjoy like minded company, have safe, consensual fun with people in that moment! Usually this means I won't find out your surname, age, marital status, job or hobbies. I don't need to know that to enjoy some nsa fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The premise of such a club visit is the possibility to have sexual interactions with one or more relative strangers, based mainly on physical attraction and less on an emotional connection.

So the people’s background and circumstances matter little.

And I could well have a very good time one night in a club with someone I wouldn’t keep as a friend in every day life.

To that respect I find the question a little strange.

No, that post makes a lot of sense xx

Care to elaborate? Some people are comfortable going to clubs, some aren’t irrespective of their marital situation.

And my point is that if you’re so concerned about going against your principles, a club might not be the right environment because most go there to engage with people they know little about.

I’m not giving feedback on your profile or judging it, I’m simply explaining why I found your question a little strange.

I don’t think I broke site rules.

And you’re right I made assumptions about why you asked this question. I tried to put your question into context because on its own it made little sense in my view.

I accept the possibility that my assumptions are wrong but still stand by my original comment.

I think her question makes perfect sense.

I don’t see why what she has in her profile has any bearing in what she is asking.

Because why not ask? You may not ask and that’s your right, but others may well ask, that’s their right too.

You felt there was more to the question than meets the eye because what? You’re married? Is that it?

Why not ask what? If the people you engage with are attached or not? Yes, it’s a perfectly legitimate question IMO.

But I don’t plan on engaging with you, so your question about my own circumstances is irrelevant. Assume what you want from my answer.

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over a year ago

"I’m wondering if they are comfortable attending with being married. What if they see someone they know, they could be found out. It’s more the privacy than the cheating I’m curious on. I think it’s a low number due to the discretion. "

I think being spotted and 'outed' as a Swinger is a risk for anyone going.

It is more risky for a married person.

Meeting in hotels they could still bump into someone they know, but less likely maybe.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But I don’t plan on engaging with you, so your question about my own circumstances is irrelevant. Assume what you want from my answer."

It’s interesting that you don’t want to answer questions but are happy to ask question yourself...

Your lack of answer is an answer in itself.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

Assuming the mans wife don’t check the mileage then going further afield to clubs would probably be the safest option for them.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

Face it .. if you're married and cheating you're a piece of shite... just saying .. I don't care what excuses you come up with .. you're a "kernt" sorry to all those whome are presumably politically correct .. meh go on .. hate on me ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think your friend is right and you are wrong.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

oh wait.. I love my wife... erm... no you fucking don't ... you're a total twat ...

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

go on.. give me your phone number.. oh dear of course you can't can you ... twat ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"go on.. give me your phone number.. oh dear of course you can't can you ... twat ..."

I think it's very wise not to give strangers your phone number. Irrespective of marital status.

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By *eardyBikerMan
over a year ago

nr stonehaven

Had a wee look into cjs in Glasgow December before last ....

,..christ..

...its weird thinking more than a year has passed

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

"go on.. give me your phone number.. oh dear of course you can't can you ... twat ...

I think it's very wise not to give strangers your phone number. Irrespective of marital status. "

Meh, get outta here ... the married cheating twats .. please don't condone this xx I'm happy to give out my phone number to those to whome are not cheating on their spouses ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But I don’t plan on engaging with you, so your question about my own circumstances is irrelevant. Assume what you want from my answer.

It’s interesting that you don’t want to answer questions but are happy to ask question yourself...

Your lack of answer is an answer in itself.

Your comment doesn’t make much sense to me (but that seems to be the theme of the day for me): I haven’t asked anybody about their personal circumstances on this thread. So where do you see me asking questions I don’t want to answer myself?

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

Does anyone want my phone number? ... oh what .. the marrieds are going to say yeah.. yeah .. I'm single .. honestly, I'm single. really yeah I am ... ... yeah of course you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But I don’t plan on engaging with you, so your question about my own circumstances is irrelevant. Assume what you want from my answer.

It’s interesting that you don’t want to answer questions but are happy to ask question yourself...

Your lack of answer is an answer in itself.

I’m not sure why it doesn’t make sense, you asked the OP a question but when asked a question yourself you’re not forthcoming, which is your right of course.

But no answer is an answer in my opinion!

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"The premise of such a club visit is the possibility to have sexual interactions with one or more relative strangers, based mainly on physical attraction and less on an emotional connection.

So the people’s background and circumstances matter little.

And I could well have a very good time one night in a club with someone I wouldn’t keep as a friend in every day life.

To that respect I find the question a little strange.

No, that post makes a lot of sense xx

Care to elaborate? Some people are comfortable going to clubs, some aren’t irrespective of their marital situation.

And my point is that if you’re so concerned about going against your principles, a club might not be the right environment because most go there to engage with people they know little about.

I’m not giving feedback on your profile or judging it, I’m simply explaining why I found your question a little strange.

I don’t think I broke site rules.

And you’re right I made assumptions about why you asked this question. I tried to put your question into context because on its own it made little sense in my view.

I accept the possibility that my assumptions are wrong but still stand by my original comment.

I think her question makes perfect sense.

I don’t see why what she has in her profile has any bearing in what she is asking.

Because why not ask? You may not ask and that’s your right, but others may well ask, that’s their right too.

You felt there was more to the question than meets the eye because what? You’re married? Is that it?

Why not ask what? If the people you engage with are attached or not? Yes, it’s a perfectly legitimate question IMO.

But I don’t plan on engaging with you, so your question about my own circumstances is irrelevant. Assume what you want from my answer."

It’s you who is doing the assuming about me and reading my profile and making public comments about it on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you two just shag and be done with it!

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

"What do any of us really know about anyone we meet in this lifestyle.

Especially in a club setting.

Getting to know people is the only way we will find out truths about their lives.

Otherwise how do you know that the 'straight, single ' male / female you just met hadn't just got back from a bareback gangbang?

If you're easily put off by people's circumstances or sexual histories then casual sex probably isn't for you

Exactly this!

This

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Can you two just shag and be done with it!

Which two?

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over a year ago

But I don’t plan on engaging with you, so your question about my own circumstances is irrelevant. Assume what you want from my answer.

It’s interesting that you don’t want to answer questions but are happy to ask question yourself...

Your lack of answer is an answer in itself.

I’m not sure why it doesn’t make sense, you asked the OP a question but when asked a question yourself you’re not forthcoming, which is your right of course.

But no answer is an answer in my opinion! "

I went back to read every single one of my comments and couldn’t find a single question I asked to the OP. So I’m puzzled.

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over a year ago

"The premise of such a club visit is the possibility to have sexual interactions with one or more relative strangers, based mainly on physical attraction and less on an emotional connection.

So the people’s background and circumstances matter little.

And I could well have a very good time one night in a club with someone I wouldn’t keep as a friend in every day life.

To that respect I find the question a little strange.

No, that post makes a lot of sense xx

Care to elaborate? Some people are comfortable going to clubs, some aren’t irrespective of their marital situation.

And my point is that if you’re so concerned about going against your principles, a club might not be the right environment because most go there to engage with people they know little about.

I’m not giving feedback on your profile or judging it, I’m simply explaining why I found your question a little strange.

I don’t think I broke site rules.

And you’re right I made assumptions about why you asked this question. I tried to put your question into context because on its own it made little sense in my view.

I accept the possibility that my assumptions are wrong but still stand by my original comment.

I think her question makes perfect sense.

I don’t see why what she has in her profile has any bearing in what she is asking.

Because why not ask? You may not ask and that’s your right, but others may well ask, that’s their right too.

You felt there was more to the question than meets the eye because what? You’re married? Is that it?

Why not ask what? If the people you engage with are attached or not? Yes, it’s a perfectly legitimate question IMO.

But I don’t plan on engaging with you, so your question about my own circumstances is irrelevant. Assume what you want from my answer.

It’s you who is doing the assuming about me and reading my profile and making public comments about it on here! "

Oh I forgot the first rule of Fab club: men are to read profile under any circumstances

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*men are NOT to read profiles...

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over a year ago

But I don’t plan on engaging with you, so your question about my own circumstances is irrelevant. Assume what you want from my answer.

It’s interesting that you don’t want to answer questions but are happy to ask question yourself...

Your lack of answer is an answer in itself.

I’m not sure why it doesn’t make sense, you asked the OP a question but when asked a question yourself you’re not forthcoming, which is your right of course.

But no answer is an answer in my opinion!

I went back to read every single one of my comments and couldn’t find a single question I asked to the OP. So I’m puzzled. "

It was this I was referring to “ Care to elaborate? Some people are comfortable going to clubs, some aren’t irrespective of their marital situation.”

But I realise now it wasn’t to the OP, but someone else in regards to them saying the post made sense, apologies!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

But said female is likely to be celebrated and encouraged by men, because men tend to care less about others marital status, whereas women tend to care.

We will have to agree to disagree on this point, as I know people happy to play with married women playing away, including single women who won’t play with married men

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

"Is it normal for married couples to inspect the mileage on each others cars ?

I used to work with a lady and she checked her husbands mileage every week. "

lol love it. Been caught out before then!

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over a year ago

But I don’t plan on engaging with you, so your question about my own circumstances is irrelevant. Assume what you want from my answer.

It’s interesting that you don’t want to answer questions but are happy to ask question yourself...

Your lack of answer is an answer in itself.

I’m not sure why it doesn’t make sense, you asked the OP a question but when asked a question yourself you’re not forthcoming, which is your right of course.

But no answer is an answer in my opinion!

I went back to read every single one of my comments and couldn’t find a single question I asked to the OP. So I’m puzzled.

It was this I was referring to “ Care to elaborate? Some people are comfortable going to clubs, some aren’t irrespective of their marital situation.”

But I realise now it wasn’t to the OP, but someone else in regards to them saying the post made sense, apologies! "

No worries

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over a year ago

But said female is likely to be celebrated and encouraged by men, because men tend to care less about others marital status, whereas women tend to care.

We will have to agree to disagree on this point, as I know people happy to play with married women playing away, including single women who won’t play with married men

Interesting! I’ve never come across this! Has anyone ever explained the reasoning behind that?

It’s definitely double standards.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

But said female is likely to be celebrated and encouraged by men, because men tend to care less about others marital status, whereas women tend to care.

We will have to agree to disagree on this point, as I know people happy to play with married women playing away, including single women who won’t play with married men

Interesting! I’ve never come across this! Has anyone ever explained the reasoning behind that?

It’s definitely double standards."

One of my regular play friends is married, and plays away. There are two couples close to us, who “Do not play with married men!”, but are wanting to meet her when the restrictions are lifted. She has also met two single women for 121 fun, both of whom “Do not play with married men!”, one of them I actually met in a club (no, we did not play).

It’s people’s personal choice, but in this particular case, double standards completely

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

But said female is likely to be celebrated and encouraged by men, because men tend to care less about others marital status, whereas women tend to care.

We will have to agree to disagree on this point, as I know people happy to play with married women playing away, including single women who won’t play with married men

Interesting! I’ve never come across this! Has anyone ever explained the reasoning behind that?

It’s definitely double standards."

It is, but ive never seen anyone condone or encourage a woman to play away...is it a myth or an excuse used by men to justify them doing it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A bit like on here, I'd expect up to half of the "single" guys to be married. I doubt they visit their local clubs though for obvious reasons xx

That poses another question. If they travel to a club then how do they explain the mileage to the wife?

Do spouses check mileage?

that was my initial reaction too , but plenty of guys travelling for work that use those opportunities both for meets in their hotel or to visit a club somewhere else

honestly having been the other woman sat at a lunch table when folk he knew were seated beside us and then couldn’t eat my meal for the stress of trying to make it sound like work colleague small talk, while he sat there calm as anything, i now believe once its gotten to the point you will cheat, you either think you are invisible or just don’t care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it normal for married couples to inspect the mileage on each others cars ?

I don’t know about normal, but it is common, as it is checking credit card transactions for hotel bookings, club payments, etc...

i would rather not be married than have to live my life monitoring a spouses movements and expenditure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"90% men on here are attached in some way.

100% of men on here lie.

Speak for yourself I don’t lie I let people know I’m married and my doesn’t know I’m using this website "

while i disagree with his generalisation, your example doesn’t disprove it because you are in effect lying to your wife

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"*men are NOT to read profiles..."

Men can read profiles but not to critique it on a public forum!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I think women who don’t want to meet married men should be offered the choice rather than a married man be dishonest just to get his end away.

It comes out in the end. and do u think women should extend the same curtesy

I’ll rephrase for those quick to assume.

I think people who don’t want to meet married people should be offered the choice rather than a married person be dishonest to get their end away.

Hope that clears up any confusion.

I agree, except the honest person will end up not meeting, whereas the dishonest person won’t.

When we’re discussing people who are already lying to those that they claim to love, deceiving a person from the internet, for their own gain, will hardly cause them concern.

I think that hoping for or expecting honesty in these situations could be a bit naive, as awful as it is"

im not naive enough to think that everyone cheating on here would be honest when asked, but the number of “single” guys who admit it when asked is relatively high - i can only assume its because they either think the honesty will win them points or that they feel admitting to a relative stranger on the internet comes with low risk and possibly even lets then unload some of the stress of carrying around the secret

i dont message women so can’t say if the pattern is similar in reverse

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over a year ago

But said female is likely to be celebrated and encouraged by men, because men tend to care less about others marital status, whereas women tend to care.

We will have to agree to disagree on this point, as I know people happy to play with married women playing away, including single women who won’t play with married men

Interesting! I’ve never come across this! Has anyone ever explained the reasoning behind that?

It’s definitely double standards.

It’s people’s personal choice, but in this particular case, double standards completely

Yeah that’s absolutely double standards.

Genuinely never come across it but I don’t doubt you at all.

People are strange!

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

"Good morning.

So I thought I would put this to the forum and if married men are comfortable visiting clubs as single men?

This is not a let’s bash married people thread. Each to their own if people choose to meet married people.

It could also apply to single married women but single women attending clubs is lower than males and it was a verbal conversation about males hence the inspiration for this thread.

Interested to read your comments.

Thank you in advance of your input.

Bhubaysi x "

I imagine it is the minority, I dont know any married men that go to clubs, however I know 3 women that do, 1 with permission and 2 without their partners knowledge

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