The expectations that you set for yourself will ultimately influence how comfortable you are, as you progress here. Realistic expectations are certainly the best ones to have. Certainly as we're still in a pandemic, things are going to be much more difficult, probably for some great time.
As most people don't find most other people attractive, use this as a guide to how much compatibility there will be. Also accept and understand the Fab norm of a no-reply meaning no interest - this can be for many reasons, including compatibility of person, interests, priorities in life, availability and much more. In short, realistic expectations around the percentage of contacts you have that will reach a deadend immediately or after some interaction, will give you a solid foundation for your wellbeing here.
It's good to grasp that those single men who ably use the site tools to sell themselves well and engage with the most appropriate others, will tend to do better than those who don't. In essence, this means guys who use their profile to give others what they are looking for, helping them to sort the wheat from the chaff - leaving you as a likely prime ear of wheat. The text and photos predominantly have to serve what they will want to see to make such a decision. Not all people here wait to be contacted, many search and try to find others who may fit their needs. Thus it's really helpful to review from the many posts about profile texts and photos, to get a good understanding of those expectations, so you can be guided by them.
Once clubs and socials open again, it's valuable too, to use them, to get to know others and to start to become established. Having a network of friends and contacts is valuable and can help to give you some support.
This may sound tough but you don't need to pressure yourself - be in it for the long haul, so improve things progressively. There's lots of help available in the forum and some great people. Feel free to contact me anytime, if you'd like pointers etc about anything. |
