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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I (F) might be alone in this but I find people referring to "the" wife or "the" girlfriend disrespectful. I feel that you refer to "the" table or "the" chair but when it's a person and someone you care about it should be "my" wife or "my" girlfriend. I don't often hear people talk about "the" husband or "the" boyfriend though.

What do you think?

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By *inkyScot22Man
over a year ago

Anniesland

Isn't "my" wife more disrespectful? Implying ownership?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you worry too much

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

interesting. Possibly but a wife is able to say my husband too. I think the use of "the" implies that a person is an object that's why I find it disrespectful.

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think you worry too much "

Lol, maybe

or maybe I have a day off work and the weather is horrible so I'm posting in here instaed of doing useful things around the house

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think 'The' objectifies, much like you'd say 'the' car...

Wolf

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think 'The' objectifies, much like you'd say 'the' car...

Wolf

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you see this is what I would have said if I could have remembered the word objectifiies lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it depends where you come from.

In my town its " our lass"

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By * Grand NagusMan
over a year ago

Leicester

what about ' the old man ', seems peeps worry too much

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"what about ' the old man ', seems peeps worry too much "

I don't like that either.

I'm not worried just interested and it's raining

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Maybe it depends where you come from.

In my town its " our lass""

that has an affectionate feel to it though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

heard wives called much worse before lol

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I was under the impression, perhaps wrongly so, that this a moer northern thing and not disrespectful just a linguistic variation?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

ones significant other and i call each other a cpl of nicknames which we have had someone ask us in public 'you two are a bit rude to each other'..

we dont think any less of each other in doing so..

if you and your oh are cool with how you address each other, why worry about what others say?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I (F) might be alone in this but I find people referring to "the" wife or "the" girlfriend disrespectful. I feel that you refer to "the" table or "the" chair but when it's a person and someone you care about it should be "my" wife or "my" girlfriend. I don't often hear people talk about "the" husband or "the" boyfriend though.

What do you think?"

If one capitalises the words 'The' and 'Wife' then that elevates her to a position of importance, doesn't it?

'The Wife' as opposed to 'the wife'.

I usually address Siren as 'here, chomp on this for a bit will ya, sweetheart." and I find that I could pretty much say anything so long as I put 'sweetheart' or 'babe' at the end and I won't be wearing my testicles as earrings immediately afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am guessing the OP doesn't like to be called a dirty slut as she is getting fucked if she is getting upset about being called 'The wife'

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I (F) might be alone in this but I find people referring to "the" wife or "the" girlfriend disrespectful. I feel that you refer to "the" table or "the" chair but when it's a person and someone you care about it should be "my" wife or "my" girlfriend. I don't often hear people talk about "the" husband or "the" boyfriend though.

What do you think?

If one capitalises the words 'The' and 'Wife' then that elevates her to a position of importance, doesn't it?

'The Wife' as opposed to 'the wife'.

I usually address Siren as 'here, chomp on this for a bit will ya, sweetheart." and I find that I could pretty much say anything so long as I put 'sweetheart' or 'babe' at the end and I won't be wearing my testicles as earrings immediately afterwards. "

I sometimes wonder when you go quiet for a day or so whether perhaps you may have been wearing said earrings for a bit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I usually address Siren as 'here, chomp on this for a bit will ya, sweetheart." and I find that I could pretty much say anything so long as I put 'sweetheart' or 'babe' at the end and I won't be wearing my testicles as earrings immediately afterwards. "

I'll give that one a try later

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I (F) might be alone in this but I find people referring to "the" wife or "the" girlfriend disrespectful. I feel that you refer to "the" table or "the" chair but when it's a person and someone you care about it should be "my" wife or "my" girlfriend. I don't often hear people talk about "the" husband or "the" boyfriend though.

What do you think?

If one capitalises the words 'The' and 'Wife' then that elevates her to a position of importance, doesn't it?

'The Wife' as opposed to 'the wife'.

I usually address Siren as 'here, chomp on this for a bit will ya, sweetheart." and I find that I could pretty much say anything so long as I put 'sweetheart' or 'babe' at the end and I won't be wearing my testicles as earrings immediately afterwards.

I sometimes wonder when you go quiet for a day or so whether perhaps you may have been wearing said earrings for a bit?"

Oh no, that's usually cos I've been concentrating on getting into her knickers. After three years of childbearing/breastfeeding it takes a bit to get her natural lubes going (and her labido) but I eventually win her over.

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Am guessing the OP doesn't like to be called a dirty slut as she is getting fucked if she is getting upset about being called 'The wife'"

I don't think my partner has ever called me "the wife".

never guess about what a woman likes and doesn't like it's a dangerous game to play

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"

I don't think my partner has ever called me "the wife".

never guess about what a woman likes and doesn't like it's a dangerous game to play "
Very true

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By *abloBackMan
over a year ago

London

To people who know her, it's the bitch

But if I'm introducing her, it "my bitch"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's subjective. I've heard 'the boyfriend' or 'the husband' said too.

Even though 'my' could link toward ownership. People who are happy being together usually don't mind. When people say 'the' it's obviously hiding some underlying problems. Then again it could be just a public front so that they don't come across as the sick bucket type in front of friends lol

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By *abloBackMan
over a year ago

London

If I'm talking to her it's @oy bitch!"

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

What about when your talking to others and describing the relationship of said person?

She is 'the wife' of john over there.

Is that ok? Or am I a candidate for a new set of earings as well?

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"What about when your talking to others and describing the relationship of said person?

She is 'the wife' of john over there.

Is that ok? Or am I a candidate for a new set of earings as well?

"

say that's John's wife

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish


"What about when your talking to others and describing the relationship of said person?

She is 'the wife' of john over there.

Is that ok? Or am I a candidate for a new set of earings as well?

say that's John's wife "

That's far to informal for me sorry!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes its a regional thing, sometimes it can be endearing depending on the way the couple is..... its only offensive if you let it be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about when your talking to others and describing the relationship of said person?

She is 'the wife' of john over there.

Is that ok? Or am I a candidate for a new set of earings as well?

say that's John's wife "

That?!

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"What about when your talking to others and describing the relationship of said person?

She is 'the wife' of john over there.

Is that ok? Or am I a candidate for a new set of earings as well?

say that's John's wife

That?! "

ha ha lol I see your point. Minefield innit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about when your talking to others and describing the relationship of said person?

She is 'the wife' of john over there.

Is that ok? Or am I a candidate for a new set of earings as well?

say that's John's wife

That?!

ha ha lol I see your point. Minefield innit. "

Put your shovel away and have a brew, you've done enough digging for one day

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"I (F) might be alone in this but I find people referring to "the" wife or "the" girlfriend disrespectful. I feel that you refer to "the" table or "the" chair but when it's a person and someone you care about it should be "my" wife or "my" girlfriend. I don't often hear people talk about "the" husband or "the" boyfriend though.you dont hear "the husband" or "the boyfreind" because they are usually reffered to as "the walking wallet" lol

What do you think?"

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"What about when your talking to others and describing the relationship of said person?

She is 'the wife' of john over there.

Is that ok? Or am I a candidate for a new set of earings as well?

say that's John's wife

That?!

ha ha lol I see your point. Minefield innit.

Put your shovel away and have a brew, you've done enough digging for one day "

Hanging shovel up and pouring vodka as we speak.........

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By *aul04Man
over a year ago

glasgow

easier to use names like "the dishwasher ,the cleaner ,the cook ", pmsl , waiting for the backlash now !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely its the same as the way we all refer to cars, computers, whitegoods and anything that is expensive and troublesome, as "She..."

*Places tin hat carefully over testicles...*

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By *lassic1Man
over a year ago

bellshill


"I (F) might be alone in this but I find people referring to "the" wife or "the" girlfriend disrespectful. I feel that you refer to "the" table or "the" chair but when it's a person and someone you care about it should be "my" wife or "my" girlfriend. I don't often hear people talk about "the" husband or "the" boyfriend though.

What do you think?"

Two swingers met in a pub, one asks "hows the wife?"....."she's fine" was the reply...."hows mine"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not offended by it but 'my' is better than 'the'. I don't like the saying 'the mrs'. I think the term 'our lass' is quite cute though.

Mind you its not as bad as 'the old biddy' which I heard my youngest son refer to me as.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think a lot say that because they are proud to say they have a partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (Pebbles) personally think that the best way to refer to the lady in your life is as an old boss of mine once referred to his partner, his name for her was Swmbo (pronounced Swumbo), when asked what it meant he said it was an acronym for :

She Who Must Be Obeyed!

I now live by that acronym with everyone in my life ... I am Swmbo!!!!!

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I'll just go & ask 'er indoors

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