FabSwingers.com forum: Grips my shit. Grrr

By *it-of-Alright OP Man
over a year ago

South west

When you get a message from someone, you reply within a minute, and you know in your heart they're off onto others. And don't even bother looking at your reply. Definitely a "NEXT" theme currently driving me mental lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

The nature of site does mean that most of us will be talking to more than one person. Is it because they don't reply as quickly as you'd like?

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By *it-of-Alright OP Man
over a year ago

South west

"The nature of site does mean that most of us will be talking to more than one person. Is it because they don't reply as quickly as you'd like?"

It's getting to the point sometimes where a 5 minute chat, is broken down over a month.

1 week later

You good?

6 days later

Yeah, not so bad you?

7 days later

And on and on lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"The nature of site does mean that most of us will be talking to more than one person. Is it because they don't reply as quickly as you'd like?

It's getting to the point sometimes where a 5 minute chat, is broken down over a month.

1 week later

You good?

6 days later

Yeah, not so bad you?

7 days later

And on and on lol

Ah! Totally understand that. It's difficult isn't it. We tend to bring such conversations to a close.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

You know what grips my shit? My sphincter

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By *it-of-Alright OP Man
over a year ago

South west

"You know what grips my shit? My sphincter "

I'm fairness, I'd grip your shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens all the time .. which puts me off and I feel I don’t want to engage after that .. courtesy don’t cost much .... know your worth peeps

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Happens all the time .. which puts me off and I feel I don’t want to engage after that .. courtesy don’t cost much .... know your worth peeps

.. "

Oooooo twix and a carton of five alive for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happens all the time .. which puts me off and I feel I don’t want to engage after that .. courtesy don’t cost much .... know your worth peeps

Oooooo twix and a carton of five alive for me."

five alive lol .... and breakaway

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Happens all the time .. which puts me off and I feel I don’t want to engage after that .. courtesy don’t cost much .... know your worth peeps

Oooooo twix and a carton of five alive for me.

five alive lol .... and breakaway

Fuck knows where that came from. The recess of the back of my suppressed memories

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might seem harsh, but they’re probably just not that into you.

If I’m interested in someone it won’t take me weeks to reply back.

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By *it-of-Alright OP Man
over a year ago

South west

"Happens all the time .. which puts me off and I feel I don’t want to engage after that .. courtesy don’t cost much .... know your worth peeps

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Amen to that ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happens all the time .. which puts me off and I feel I don’t want to engage after that .. courtesy don’t cost much .... know your worth peeps

Oooooo twix and a carton of five alive for me.

five alive lol .... and breakaway

Fuck knows where that came from. The recess of the back of my suppressed memories

I was questioning that too ...

... some good memeories be locked away in there I bet ..

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By *it-of-Alright OP Man
over a year ago

South west

"Might seem harsh, but they’re probably just not that into you.

If I’m interested in someone it won’t take me weeks to reply back. "

Appreciate that, but they reply and sound really keen lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Classic mistake, you replied too fast, always wait, then when you think it’s time, wait a bit longer, women love to be kept waiting. In summary, ping them a reply two weeks later. All the best and watch the messages flood in x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happens all the time .. which puts me off and I feel I don’t want to engage after that .. courtesy don’t cost much .... know your worth peeps

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

It’s the nature of the site that people will be talking to others, kind of the point!

I’m not so entitled to expect people to drop their lives, other contacts and friends, just to chat rubbish with me, the very second that I send a message.

The messaging system on here is also pretty unwieldy and with full inboxes, folks easily miss messages.

If you feel that the person isn’t interested, then why pursue the interactions?

I’ve had some conversations last for months, it’s just how it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a word to the wise, women don’t like to receive a reply in about a minute, that’s just one of the basics you learn at Fab camp.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Classic mistake, you replied too fast, always wait, then when you think it’s time, wait a bit longer, women love to be kept waiting. In summary, ping them a reply two weeks later. All the best and watch the messages flood in x "

This guy gets it.

Messaging level: Jedi

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Happens all the time .. which puts me off and I feel I don’t want to engage after that .. courtesy don’t cost much .... know your worth peeps

Oooooo twix and a carton of five alive for me.

five alive lol .... and breakaway

Fuck knows where that came from. The recess of the back of my suppressed memories

I was questioning that too ...

... some good memeories be locked away in there I bet .. "

Plenty of daft stuff I would imagine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Damn class I thought that you actually had a stick that grabs your shit!!!

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I’d take that as not interested.

If someone was interested in you they’d be searching out your message in the sea of other messages.

If you are batting back and forth, with little getting said then it sounds like you a just one of a number of plates being spun...

...so it’s up to you if you don’t want to be a plate

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over a year ago

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Perhaps take it beyond a "chat" format with one liners back and forth and send something a little lengthier and more meaningful? It may not change the time between replies but it will make it seem like it's been worthwhile if they reply in kind and you establish a rapport that way - may even have the effect of them looking out for your messages rather than them being just another one-liner in a sea of ping pong messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...so it’s up to you if you don’t want to be a plate

Quote of the day - "don't be a plate"

As others have said, the messaging system here isn't great for back-and-forth short messages, better for longer ramblings. But not everyone wants to type long messages on their mobile, assuming they've even seen it amongst an inbox full.

Like people writing "fill in later", it's just yet another Fact-of-Fab-Life.

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I’d take that as not interested.

If someone was interested in you they’d be searching out your message in the sea of other messages.

If you are batting back and forth, with little getting said then it sounds like you a just one of a number of plates being spun...

...so it’s up to you if you don’t want to be a plate

I’m a little teapot...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 weeks for a reply :o

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The nature of site does mean that most of us will be talking to more than one person. Is it because they don't reply as quickly as you'd like?

It's getting to the point sometimes where a 5 minute chat, is broken down over a month.

1 week later

You good?

6 days later

Yeah, not so bad you?

7 days later

And on and on lol

Crikey sod that. I would just assume they're not interested.

Many people aren't really into chatting at the mo.

Wuu2

Lockdown

Yeah me 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 weeks for a reply :o

You’re saying it should be longer ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 weeks for a reply :o

Be like Del Boy, play it cool.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Was a good one thanks, even though the dog ate the turkey and we couldn't get any Christmas pudding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 weeks for a reply :o

You’re saying it should be longer ? "

Depends how much you like them. If you really like them wait 3

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

"Just a word to the wise, women don’t like to receive a reply in about a minute, that’s just one of the basics you learn at Fab camp. "

What's the hurry anyway, while we are not supposed to be meeting anyone outside our bubble?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 weeks for a reply :o

Be like Del Boy, play it cool."

*falls through the bar*

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By *it-of-Alright OP Man
over a year ago

South west

Since posting this, it's happened 3 times. Lol thought "this must be a wind up" lmfao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was a good one thanks, even though the dog ate the turkey and we couldn't get any Christmas pudding. "

Thanks for the prompt reply, look forward to your confirmation of this message in July, have a great Summer.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"The nature of site does mean that most of us will be talking to more than one person. Is it because they don't reply as quickly as you'd like?

It's getting to the point sometimes where a 5 minute chat, is broken down over a month.

1 week later

You good?

6 days later

Yeah, not so bad you?

7 days later

And on and on lol

I avoid this by not replying to opening messages that just say “hi”.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"The nature of site does mean that most of us will be talking to more than one person. Is it because they don't reply as quickly as you'd like?

It's getting to the point sometimes where a 5 minute chat, is broken down over a month.

1 week later

You good?

6 days later

Yeah, not so bad you?

7 days later

And on and on lol

The way I would look at it is that actions speak louder than words. If someone is logging on but not responding, it is most likely that they don’t really want to chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The nature of site does mean that most of us will be talking to more than one person. Is it because they don't reply as quickly as you'd like?

It's getting to the point sometimes where a 5 minute chat, is broken down over a month.

1 week later

You good?

6 days later

Yeah, not so bad you?

7 days later

And on and on lol

It sounds as if they’re not really interested if I’m honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The nature of site does mean that most of us will be talking to more than one person. Is it because they don't reply as quickly as you'd like?

It's getting to the point sometimes where a 5 minute chat, is broken down over a month.

1 week later

You good?

6 days later

Yeah, not so bad you?

7 days later

And on and on lol

Haha I am with you on that one!

If someone message to ignite a conversation but don't reply in my message after a week while being quite active online, I'll just block them to avoid going on and on again.

I can do a monologue by sending message to myself

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir

"The nature of site does mean that most of us will be talking to more than one person. Is it because they don't reply as quickly as you'd like?

It's getting to the point sometimes where a 5 minute chat, is broken down over a month.

1 week later

You good?

6 days later

Yeah, not so bad you?

7 days later

And on and on lol

That's a non burner! Yes people are busy but bloody hell. I won't entertain needy,demanding or rude. I try to reply to the other meggages but if I am not interested I will state that.

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By *it-of-Alright OP Man
over a year ago

South west

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