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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is my weight.

It's taken many years for me to be able to say this truthfully.

My weight/size is not who I am.

It doesn't make me less beautiful, less worthy, or less capable.

Of all the hangups I have about my body, my weight is bottom of the list.

It makes me wince when I see others put themselves down over their weight. It's painful to see. Every time a fat person says they're wrong for being that way, they're talking about me.

I'm not for everyone, no one is.

Losing weight won't change that.

I've been seeing so many people harping on about how they've gained weight, need to lose it etc etc and honestly it's starting to drive me batty!

I try and avoid the weight loss threads and diet chat but it's everywhere!

(I'm not anti weight loss btw, I'm anti diet culture)

So I just wanted to post something for the fatties.....

If you're losing weight, do it for your health and well being,to feel better, not to "look better", you won't, you will just appeal to other people.

If you're not losing weight, that's cool, you can be happy as you are.

Focus on who you are, what you do, not what size your jeans are

It is possible to be fat AND sexy as fuck!

Please keep fatshamey comments to yourself. Cheers

Lu

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Bravo!

Sexy isn’t a size, it’s a feeling.

Personally I lost weight because I was unhappy as the size that I was. I actually had far more interest as the shape that I was but I did what made me happy.

Whatever a person feels happiest as, that’s what works and is sexy as they own it.

Fat, thin, whatever, body confidence is beautiful

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Every time a fat person says they're wrong for being that way, they're talking about me."

That's one of the things that you've said to me a lot and it's really resonated with me. Is why i try not to put my weight/size down out loud (or in text) any more. I'm working on not doing it in my head either.

You rock Lu!

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

We only borrow these bodies for a short time, what is borried has to be paid back atom for atom. It is about the life expererience and learning to love the moment. Worrying about what people think of you is simply a waste of a moment.

People who spend there time finding negative aspects of other people are simply a waste of both time and energy.

Surround yourself with good people and each moment will be good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Every time a fat person says they're wrong for being that way, they're talking about me.

That's one of the things that you've said to me a lot and it's really resonated with me. Is why i try not to put my weight/size down out loud (or in text) any more. I'm working on not doing it in my head either.

You rock Lu!"

I disagree. If I put myself down for any reason for any characteristics I share with others it does not men it reflects on them. They chose to reflect it on themselves and take it personally. I cannot take responsibility for that.

On positive note.. kudos for your journey.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Every time a fat person says they're wrong for being that way, they're talking about me.

That's one of the things that you've said to me a lot and it's really resonated with me. Is why i try not to put my weight/size down out loud (or in text) any more. I'm working on not doing it in my head either.

You rock Lu!

I disagree. If I put myself down for any reason for any characteristics I share with others it does not men it reflects on them. They chose to reflect it on themselves and take it personally. I cannot take responsibility for that.

On positive note.. kudos for your journey. "

I prefer to be mindful of others myself, it's not my responsibility, that's true, but it makes me feel better to make other feel good. It's ok to dislike something about yourself. And it's fine to be vocal about it.

My issue is when people say there's is something wrong with being Fat, or whatever. Then you're not talking about you. You're talking about all people like that.

Lu

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Every time a fat person says they're wrong for being that way, they're talking about me.

That's one of the things that you've said to me a lot and it's really resonated with me. Is why i try not to put my weight/size down out loud (or in text) any more. I'm working on not doing it in my head either.

You rock Lu!

I disagree. If I put myself down for any reason for any characteristics I share with others it does not men it reflects on them. They chose to reflect it on themselves and take it personally. I cannot take responsibility for that.

On positive note.. kudos for your journey. "

I do agree, it's down to the person and how they take it. But for me, knowing I take it that way, which is likely not how it is meant, I should be mindful that when I do it others might feel the same, as I wouldn't want them feeling like I do.

I'm not even sure that makes sense but I know what I mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Every time a fat person says they're wrong for being that way, they're talking about me.

That's one of the things that you've said to me a lot and it's really resonated with me. Is why i try not to put my weight/size down out loud (or in text) any more. I'm working on not doing it in my head either.

You rock Lu!

I disagree. If I put myself down for any reason for any characteristics I share with others it does not men it reflects on them. They chose to reflect it on themselves and take it personally. I cannot take responsibility for that.

On positive note.. kudos for your journey.

I prefer to be mindful of others myself, it's not my responsibility, that's true, but it makes me feel better to make other feel good. It's ok to dislike something about yourself. And it's fine to be vocal about it.

My issue is when people say there's is something wrong with being Fat, or whatever. Then you're not talking about you. You're talking about all people like that.

Lu "

That's not the way it reads in a quote Posh posted. It's like refusing others to be vocal about however low they feel on that day for the sake of others feelings - because "they are talking about you". No they are not.

Thanks for clarifying though.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Totally agree the whole diet thing is so boring a predictable , people ping pong between weights like part of some game. Don’t waste your time, effort and ultimately your life constantly reacting and responding to feelings, assumptions and gimmicks called diets ..... do something very different instead, create a new relationship with food

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Every time a fat person says they're wrong for being that way, they're talking about me.

That's one of the things that you've said to me a lot and it's really resonated with me. Is why i try not to put my weight/size down out loud (or in text) any more. I'm working on not doing it in my head either.

You rock Lu!

I disagree. If I put myself down for any reason for any characteristics I share with others it does not men it reflects on them. They chose to reflect it on themselves and take it personally. I cannot take responsibility for that.

On positive note.. kudos for your journey.

I do agree, it's down to the person and how they take it. But for me, knowing I take it that way, which is likely not how it is meant, I should be mindful that when I do it others might feel the same, as I wouldn't want them feeling like I do.

I'm not even sure that makes sense but I know what I mean."

That makes me sad. If I think I look like shit because of xyz that means *me*. Not anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Totally agree the whole diet thing is so boring a predictable , people ping pong between weights like part of some game. Don’t waste your time, effort and ultimately your life constantly reacting and responding to feelings, assumptions and gimmicks called diets ..... do something very different instead, create a new relationship with food"

I think you're slightly missing the point of the OP...tho I agree with what you're saying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Every time a fat person says they're wrong for being that way, they're talking about me.

That's one of the things that you've said to me a lot and it's really resonated with me. Is why i try not to put my weight/size down out loud (or in text) any more. I'm working on not doing it in my head either.

You rock Lu!

I disagree. If I put myself down for any reason for any characteristics I share with others it does not men it reflects on them. They chose to reflect it on themselves and take it personally. I cannot take responsibility for that.

On positive note.. kudos for your journey.

I do agree, it's down to the person and how they take it. But for me, knowing I take it that way, which is likely not how it is meant, I should be mindful that when I do it others might feel the same, as I wouldn't want them feeling like I do.

I'm not even sure that makes sense but I know what I mean.

That makes me sad. If I think I look like shit because of xyz that means *me*. Not anyone else. "

Let me be clear.

You're allowed to dislike parts of yourself! Of course you are! And if you think you need to change something, I'm never going to tell you not to.

I hate my boobs. The reason I hate them is because they no longer look/feel like my boobs. I wouldn't say that scared or wonky boobs are ugly, because I dislike mine. They're not. My boobs aren't wrong, I just don't like them.

So if someone wants to loose weight cos they're unhappy being bigger, I'm behind them all the way, I'm not however, if they're saying it's not ok to be fat, or that fat people are less attractive, less worthy etc.

We're all free and should be free to discuss the things we don't like about ourselves. I just think it can be done in ways that aren't insulting to other people, that's all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is my weight.

It's taken many years for me to be able to say this truthfully.

My weight/size is not who I am.

It doesn't make me less beautiful, less worthy, or less capable.

Of all the hangups I have about my body, my weight is bottom of the list.

It makes me wince when I see others put themselves down over their weight. It's painful to see. Every time a fat person says they're wrong for being that way, they're talking about me.

I'm not for everyone, no one is.

Losing weight won't change that.

I've been seeing so many people harping on about how they've gained weight, need to lose it etc etc and honestly it's starting to drive me batty!

I try and avoid the weight loss threads and diet chat but it's everywhere!

(I'm not anti weight loss btw, I'm anti diet culture)

So I just wanted to post something for the fatties.....

If you're losing weight, do it for your health and well being,to feel better, not to "look better", you won't, you will just appeal to other people.

If you're not losing weight, that's cool, you can be happy as you are.

Focus on who you are, what you do, not what size your jeans are

It is possible to be fat AND sexy as fuck!

Please keep fatshamey comments to yourself. Cheers

Lu "

Maybe they are wanting to lose weight just for the health and well being reasons. I need to for that sole reason. I won't look 'better', just a different shape. I'm unfit though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is my weight.

It's taken many years for me to be able to say this truthfully.

My weight/size is not who I am.

It doesn't make me less beautiful, less worthy, or less capable.

Of all the hangups I have about my body, my weight is bottom of the list.

It makes me wince when I see others put themselves down over their weight. It's painful to see. Every time a fat person says they're wrong for being that way, they're talking about me.

I'm not for everyone, no one is.

Losing weight won't change that.

I've been seeing so many people harping on about how they've gained weight, need to lose it etc etc and honestly it's starting to drive me batty!

I try and avoid the weight loss threads and diet chat but it's everywhere!

(I'm not anti weight loss btw, I'm anti diet culture)

So I just wanted to post something for the fatties.....

If you're losing weight, do it for your health and well being,to feel better, not to "look better", you won't, you will just appeal to other people.

If you're not losing weight, that's cool, you can be happy as you are.

Focus on who you are, what you do, not what size your jeans are

It is possible to be fat AND sexy as fuck!

Please keep fatshamey comments to yourself. Cheers

Lu

Maybe they are wanting to lose weight just for the health and well being reasons. I need to for that sole reason. I won't look 'better', just a different shape. I'm unfit though. "

I've said multiple times...i have no issue with healthy weight loss. I am slowly losing weight myself.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"Is my weight.

It's taken many years for me to be able to say this truthfully.

My weight/size is not who I am.

It doesn't make me less beautiful, less worthy, or less capable.

Of all the hangups I have about my body, my weight is bottom of the list.

It makes me wince when I see others put themselves down over their weight. It's painful to see. Every time a fat person says they're wrong for being that way, they're talking about me.

I'm not for everyone, no one is.

Losing weight won't change that.

I've been seeing so many people harping on about how they've gained weight, need to lose it etc etc and honestly it's starting to drive me batty!

I try and avoid the weight loss threads and diet chat but it's everywhere!

(I'm not anti weight loss btw, I'm anti diet culture)

So I just wanted to post something for the fatties.....

If you're losing weight, do it for your health and well being,to feel better, not to "look better", you won't, you will just appeal to other people.

If you're not losing weight, that's cool, you can be happy as you are.

Focus on who you are, what you do, not what size your jeans are

It is possible to be fat AND sexy as fuck!

Please keep fatshamey comments to yourself. Cheers

Lu "

Lu , I ya because you are you , don't ever change xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is my weight.

It's taken many years for me to be able to say this truthfully.

My weight/size is not who I am.

It doesn't make me less beautiful, less worthy, or less capable.

Of all the hangups I have about my body, my weight is bottom of the list.

It makes me wince when I see others put themselves down over their weight. It's painful to see. Every time a fat person says they're wrong for being that way, they're talking about me.

I'm not for everyone, no one is.

Losing weight won't change that.

I've been seeing so many people harping on about how they've gained weight, need to lose it etc etc and honestly it's starting to drive me batty!

I try and avoid the weight loss threads and diet chat but it's everywhere!

(I'm not anti weight loss btw, I'm anti diet culture)

So I just wanted to post something for the fatties.....

If you're losing weight, do it for your health and well being,to feel better, not to "look better", you won't, you will just appeal to other people.

If you're not losing weight, that's cool, you can be happy as you are.

Focus on who you are, what you do, not what size your jeans are

It is possible to be fat AND sexy as fuck!

Please keep fatshamey comments to yourself. Cheers

Lu

Maybe they are wanting to lose weight just for the health and well being reasons. I need to for that sole reason. I won't look 'better', just a different shape. I'm unfit though.

I've said multiple times...i have no issue with healthy weight loss. I am slowly losing weight myself.

"

I will fuck off then.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is my weight.

It's taken many years for me to be able to say this truthfully.

My weight/size is not who I am.

It doesn't make me less beautiful, less worthy, or less capable.

Of all the hangups I have about my body, my weight is bottom of the list.

It makes me wince when I see others put themselves down over their weight. It's painful to see. Every time a fat person says they're wrong for being that way, they're talking about me.

I'm not for everyone, no one is.

Losing weight won't change that.

I've been seeing so many people harping on about how they've gained weight, need to lose it etc etc and honestly it's starting to drive me batty!

I try and avoid the weight loss threads and diet chat but it's everywhere!

(I'm not anti weight loss btw, I'm anti diet culture)

So I just wanted to post something for the fatties.....

If you're losing weight, do it for your health and well being,to feel better, not to "look better", you won't, you will just appeal to other people.

If you're not losing weight, that's cool, you can be happy as you are.

Focus on who you are, what you do, not what size your jeans are

It is possible to be fat AND sexy as fuck!

Please keep fatshamey comments to yourself. Cheers

Lu

Maybe they are wanting to lose weight just for the health and well being reasons. I need to for that sole reason. I won't look 'better', just a different shape. I'm unfit though.

I've said multiple times...i have no issue with healthy weight loss. I am slowly losing weight myself.

I will fuck off then."

I mean, that's up to you...

You made a point, I answered it. *shrugs*

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I completely agree with this! I have many gorgeous friends who happen to be slimmer and when they go on about being 'massive' it can get to me. But then I know I often do it myself.

As long as you are healthy for yourself and comfortable with your size it shouldn't matter.

Hopefully one day I, along with all my beautiful friends, will be able to look in the mirror and be happy woth everything they see.

Are bodies are amazing things afterall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to be able to feel that way, I really would.

I tell myself all the time and others that a size label on clothes doesn't define us. I truly belive it.

However, it sadly isn't enough to stop me hating the mirror or being self conscious.

I guess it's years of believing the bad stuff.

The other thing I try to do when my self loathing cripples me is to ask myself who else is saying these things about me. In reality it's no one of any significance if at all. It's me. I'm causing my own misery. Sometimes that's enough to get me out of my own head.

It makes me really sad to hear that some are dreading the world reopening because they have gained some weight. I get it, I really do but no one, literally no one that matters will be anything less than happy to see you again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I completely agree with this! I have many gorgeous friends who happen to be slimmer and when they go on about being 'massive' it can get to me. But then I know I often do it myself.

As long as you are healthy for yourself and comfortable with your size it shouldn't matter.

Hopefully one day I, along with all my beautiful friends, will be able to look in the mirror and be happy woth everything they see.

Are bodies are amazing things afterall "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd love to be able to feel that way, I really would.

I tell myself all the time and others that a size label on clothes doesn't define us. I truly belive it.

However, it sadly isn't enough to stop me hating the mirror or being self conscious.

I guess it's years of believing the bad stuff.

The other thing I try to do when my self loathing cripples me is to ask myself who else is saying these things about me. In reality it's no one of any significance if at all. It's me. I'm causing my own misery. Sometimes that's enough to get me out of my own head.

It makes me really sad to hear that some are dreading the world reopening because they have gained some weight. I get it, I really do but no one, literally no one that matters will be anything less than happy to see you again. "

I still get self concious! I still dislike parts of myself.

But I also know that there's nothing "wrong" with those parts and they are worthy of love even if I don't always love them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I jest about my weight, but I also own it

I have never, ever, been thin or had something even barely resembling a 'fit' body - even at school I was the fat kid

So I've had 50 years to get used to the idea

It suits me

Skinny Bussy doesn't look right

I feel that, if anything, me being a shortarse is more of an issue (certainly to women) than me having a belly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the feels for this Lu xx

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