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Expressing or suppressing emotions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Which do you do?

If you’re annoyed, so you say, did it depend who it is?

Do you cry or hold it in?

Do you show your jealousy/anger/sadness?

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

It varies for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all of the above.

scorpio sun, aries moon, libra rising.

basically a psycho.. but decent rack and always has tequila.. Sooo

hate showing emotion, and will often pretend i don't have any. pretend im fine until i actually am. hate crying, yet it happens often. mainly when im angry! never hold my tongue though.

Px

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It varies for me"

What causes variance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“Named must be your fear before banish it you can."

I choose the Jedi way. I can walk away from things that try to wind me up.

Sometimes I don’t b

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"all of the above.

scorpio sun, aries moon, libra rising.

basically a psycho.. but decent rack and always has tequila.. Sooo

hate showing emotion, and will often pretend i don't have any. pretend im fine until i actually am. hate crying, yet it happens often. mainly when im angry! never hold my tongue though.

Px"

I’m currently happy, because yay, you’re back

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"It varies for me

What causes variance? "

It all depends what I'm feeling, if I'm feeling happy or sad or the things I might be sad about.

Sometimes I want to let everything out and others I just think I will keep it to myself

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

Holding in bad emotions in bad for your body, it's like a poison for your karma.

Shying away from them damages your innerself.

The only person who suffers by keeping feelings from others is yourself.

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

I would say on the whole in general I’m normally emotionally very retarded

Lex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to try and suppress every thing. For years I put on a front and pretended I was always ok. It made me ill.

I have bipolar disorder, acute anxiety disorder and ptsd. Ignoring my feelings and trying to suppress my emotions isn't healthy for me (or arguably anyone else).

I allow myself to feel things now and work through my emotions and I'm much healthier and stronger mentally for it.

Lu

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Which do you do?

If you’re annoyed, so you say, did it depend who it is?

Do you cry or hold it in?

Do you show your jealousy/anger/sadness? "

Suppress.

And get told off by women all the time for doing so.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I find going for a walk with best mate or brother for a heart to heart works well. We share our issues and life in general.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I can't suppress my emotions even if I don't express them to others. They'll be make their way known. Though how this happens may, I can cry with frustration, and go all quiet and contemplative. Or I can massively get annoyed which means I'm about to do something pro active.

And it's not all about bad emotions either though these conversations usually focus on the bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

express most of the time ... as for me things should try to be reasoned ..

however when I feel it’s a dead end ... then shut down .. completely suppress ...

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By *evil-AngelWoman
over a year ago

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I don't really suppress them, but I do like working through them myself so I don't really express them a lot either.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am much better at expressing things now, previously I had a tendency to disassociate, and shut down, but I’ve worked on that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My psychiatrist says I have EUPD amongst other lables so my emotions can range. Generally I mix my emotions up to the point where even I don't know how I should of reacted.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I try to supress them but just usually end up blubbing. A lot of the time if my emotions are a result of someone else's behaviour, I prefer to deal with my emotions alone and then once I've calmed down have a calm, rational conversation about it. I'll tell them how I felt but I don't think you often achieve anything productive while very upset or angry.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I used to be stoic and try to hold my resentment, anger or sadness inside but it was incredibly toxic.

I’ve learnt to direct it correctly and in an appropriate manner before it gets to any sort of issue. I’ve found that it might take me a little time to process emotions but once I have, I’ll confront the reasons for them, whether they’re personal or professional. It’s far healthier and more constructive that way

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By *eoeclipseWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

I have adhd which also means i have emotional regulation issues...mix that with being a capricorn...well that's quite a mix to deal with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I try to supress them but just usually end up blubbing. A lot of the time if my emotions are a result of someone else's behaviour, I prefer to deal with my emotions alone and then once I've calmed down have a calm, rational conversation about it. I'll tell them how I felt but I don't think you often achieve anything productive while very upset or angry. "

I think blubbing is healthy, it’s a release.

I NEVER used to cry, now I cry all the time, and I feel better for it

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I let them out.

They does not mean anyone else needs to witness it or feel my emotions. I do it mostly in private, my way, then no one gets the back lash of my thoughts for something that has nothing to do with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suppress it and then after a while let it all out in the wrong way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Which do you do?

If you’re annoyed, so you say, did it depend who it is?

Do you cry or hold it in?

Do you show your jealousy/anger/sadness? "

I am quite open with my emotions, and it has varying degrees of success on how its received xx

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

I don't win friends, but at least people know where I'm at with them. Can't bare it when people try to save my feelings by clamming up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone has personally annoyed me I'd rather tell them, hate conflict or drama but I would rather have it out in the open and discussed if needs be as I'd rather have it hopefully sorted so I'm no longer annoyed.

Wouldn't bother mentioning it if it wasn't directed at me personally though as in if I seen something that annoyed me that someone shared, I wouldn't necessarily then post and say you've annoyed me you have etc.

As for crying, I do find just letting it out easier than bottling it up in my head as it gives me a terrible headache, a little cry every now and again doesn't hurt nobody.

I can hide what I don't want people to see but sometimes it's hard to or I won't hide my feelings.

Her x

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I let them out when I'm alone. If I met someone the only emotion they would see would be happy, bubbly etc.

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

I'm shit at expressing my emotions.

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

I'm like a closed book. You will know very little if anything about me unless you're in my circle. I'm bubbly and chatty so I can get away not giving much away about my personal life

R

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I try to supress them but just usually end up blubbing. A lot of the time if my emotions are a result of someone else's behaviour, I prefer to deal with my emotions alone and then once I've calmed down have a calm, rational conversation about it. I'll tell them how I felt but I don't think you often achieve anything productive while very upset or angry.

I think blubbing is healthy, it’s a release.

I NEVER used to cry, now I cry all the time, and I feel better for it "

Honestly I'm a real cryer . My mum's the same so I blame her .

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I let them out.

They does not mean anyone else needs to witness it or feel my emotions. I do it mostly in private, my way, then no one gets the back lash of my thoughts for something that has nothing to do with them. "

Do you by any chance enjoy a good cry in the shower also?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I try to supress them but just usually end up blubbing. A lot of the time if my emotions are a result of someone else's behaviour, I prefer to deal with my emotions alone and then once I've calmed down have a calm, rational conversation about it. I'll tell them how I felt but I don't think you often achieve anything productive while very upset or angry.

I think blubbing is healthy, it’s a release.

I NEVER used to cry, now I cry all the time, and I feel better for it

Honestly I'm a real cryer . My mum's the same so I blame her . "

Me too now . I’m weirdly quite proud that I’ve managed to go from refusing to cry, to crying all the time

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

If I don’t say it my face says it all.

Even if I’m trying to suppress its doesn’t work.

So now I just say how I’m feeling either way.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I try to supress them but just usually end up blubbing. A lot of the time if my emotions are a result of someone else's behaviour, I prefer to deal with my emotions alone and then once I've calmed down have a calm, rational conversation about it. I'll tell them how I felt but I don't think you often achieve anything productive while very upset or angry.

I think blubbing is healthy, it’s a release.

I NEVER used to cry, now I cry all the time, and I feel better for it

Honestly I'm a real cryer . My mum's the same so I blame her .

Me too now . I’m weirdly quite proud that I’ve managed to go from refusing to cry, to crying all the time "

I honestly don't know how people stop it. I've hidden in a few bathrooms in my time!

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"I let them out.

They does not mean anyone else needs to witness it or feel my emotions. I do it mostly in private, my way, then no one gets the back lash of my thoughts for something that has nothing to do with them.

Do you by any chance enjoy a good cry in the shower also? "

If the shower head happens to hit the right spot, then yes a cry might escape me

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I let them out.

They does not mean anyone else needs to witness it or feel my emotions. I do it mostly in private, my way, then no one gets the back lash of my thoughts for something that has nothing to do with them.

Do you by any chance enjoy a good cry in the shower also?

If the shower head happens to hit the right spot, then yes a cry might escape me "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually i rethought my reply..

On balance, whilst I think i am an open book, i am actually really good at disguising how i feel - it takes a lot to break me - and therefore i doubt you'd know if you'd upset me

I look internally at what is driving any angst and try to resolve on my own with calm, rational thoughts. I often know the right path, but sometimes can't help being as asshole, but that is rare (i think). It mostly works, but takes effort

It is easier for me to cut people out of my life, than tackle someone head on.. I came from a childhood of violence and addiction, so i abhor conflict and any drama ... If i let rip, then every single one of my buttons has been pressed, and there is usually no return lol

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