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"Can you try and see what they see? Scars show you've lived through some tough stuff. Something to be admired. Adored even. From reading the forums, many if not most people have at least one body part that they don't like. Even the most 'supermodel' types who appear perfect to everyone else can be critical of themselves. We are all human. Wonky but warm. "I think the reason I don't like it is because I hide those things. My scars aren't visible to others, you can't tell they're wonky. They don't know what my boobs are like, it just doesn't sit well. And when I show someone the truth they always agree that it's unsightly..."oh yeah, I see what you mean" Only one person hasn't and that's J. He loves them cos they're part of me. Him complimenting them doesn't feel icky. People mean well I know, but I just don't like it. | |||
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"Yes always , Any compliments like "you're so fit" or "great body" makes me feel like a fraud ... I have to put them right by explaining that it's all smoke and mirrors , clever angles , Cropping the bingo wings blah blah blah . This said you're a warrior Lu , me being vain doesn't compare to your journey . Hugs "It's just the boobs...I've learned to accept my body for the most part, even bits I dislike. Cannot take a compliment on the tatas tho. We all have our journey. No one is more or less of a journey than another
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" I can relate. Yes. I genuinely don’t like my own photos, feel about odd, because I rarely fancy myself. So when I get compliments I think they are odd, if that makes sense. The only way I feel they mean it and feel more comfortable with the compliment is if I feel it from them when I am with them. (If that explains it more) Boobs are boobs op, and I like boobs "I like boobs too! All except my own  | |||
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"I'm reminded of the Family Guy sketch where a guy says something nice to girl and she screams and jumps out of the window. The picture zooms in on the guy's puzzled face and a voiceover says "Men. We don't know what we did!" If you don't like having to correct people on your appearance then why not put up some honest photos?" My photos are honest. Nothing photo shopped or altered at all. I don't get my tits out when playing with others, so no need to show them here. | |||
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"Can you try and see what they see? Scars show you've lived through some tough stuff. Something to be admired. Adored even. From reading the forums, many if not most people have at least one body part that they don't like. Even the most 'supermodel' types who appear perfect to everyone else can be critical of themselves. We are all human. Wonky but warm.
I think the reason I don't like it is because I hide those things. My scars aren't visible to others, you can't tell they're wonky.
They don't know what my boobs are like, it just doesn't sit well.
And when I show someone the truth they always agree that it's unsightly..."oh yeah, I see what you mean"
Only one person hasn't and that's J. He loves them cos they're part of me. Him complimenting them doesn't feel icky.
People mean well I know, but I just don't like it. "I'm sorry, I didn't mean to dismiss how you feel at all. X | |||
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"Can you try and see what they see? Scars show you've lived through some tough stuff. Something to be admired. Adored even. From reading the forums, many if not most people have at least one body part that they don't like. Even the most 'supermodel' types who appear perfect to everyone else can be critical of themselves. We are all human. Wonky but warm.
I think the reason I don't like it is because I hide those things. My scars aren't visible to others, you can't tell they're wonky.
They don't know what my boobs are like, it just doesn't sit well.
And when I show someone the truth they always agree that it's unsightly..."oh yeah, I see what you mean"
Only one person hasn't and that's J. He loves them cos they're part of me. Him complimenting them doesn't feel icky.
People mean well I know, but I just don't like it.
I'm sorry, I didn't mean to dismiss how you feel at all. X"I didn't feel that you were dismissive. No need to apologise at all | |||
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"Yes always , Any compliments like "you're so fit" or "great body" makes me feel like a fraud ... I have to put them right by explaining that it's all smoke and mirrors , clever angles , Cropping the bingo wings blah blah blah . This said you're a warrior Lu , me being vain doesn't compare to your journey . Hugs "This, exactly the same for me x | |||
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" I can relate. Yes. I genuinely don’t like my own photos, feel about odd, because I rarely fancy myself. So when I get compliments I think they are odd, if that makes sense. The only way I feel they mean it and feel more comfortable with the compliment is if I feel it from them when I am with them. (If that explains it more) Boobs are boobs op, and I like boobs
I like boobs too!
All except my own "It’s hard to like yourself sometimes. And I hear what you said and your reasons why, and I know whatever I say won’t make that change in you. Only we can see ourselves the way you see ourselves I suppose.  much love op. | |||
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"So my boobs are very wonky and scared. Breast cancer and a horrible skin condition have left them very misshapen and marked. Most of this isn't visible if I am wearing a bra. No one (cept Jeff) ever sees my naked boobs except for a strategic photo occasionally, and even then it'll only be the one. People compliment my boobs a lot. And I always feel like I have to correct them, and say "actually, they're fucked, you've no idea what they really look like". Someone complimenting my boobs makes me feel icky. I don't like it. Anyone else have these feelings? (Not specifically about your boobs...) Lu "I do know what you mean Lu, although my situation is minor by comparison. I am very open about being very fat, but I get a lot of messages telling me I'm not, that I'm beautifully curved. I feel the need to explain every time that although my photos are truthful in that they aren't photoshopped or whatever, they are strategically angled and I only post ones I think are flattering (not going to post photos where I look like the back end of a bus!). It just makes me feel uncomfortable, as though I'm being somehow duplicitous or catfishy when I don't want to think that is the case. I don't find it flattering at all, in fact I'd rather someone said "yeah, you're fat, but I like a fat bird". I'm gradually trying to apologise less - right now if it's someone I'm never going to meet then I'm trying to just accept the flattery without the need to qualify it. I don't think I'll ever be comfortable with it though. | |||
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"So my boobs are very wonky and scared. Breast cancer and a horrible skin condition have left them very misshapen and marked. Most of this isn't visible if I am wearing a bra. No one (cept Jeff) ever sees my naked boobs except for a strategic photo occasionally, and even then it'll only be the one. People compliment my boobs a lot. And I always feel like I have to correct them, and say "actually, they're fucked, you've no idea what they really look like". Someone complimenting my boobs makes me feel icky. I don't like it. Anyone else have these feelings? (Not specifically about your boobs...) Lu "I can relate having had a mastectomy Guys perk up when they hear reconstruction and expect boob job quality. It's far from that. It's an nhs piece them back together job and wasnt focuses on the cosmetic. They are lumpy and bummpy and far from appealing. 1st surgery left me with square boobs. 90° angles on corners that I should not have. Luckily when I has some more work done my surgeon put that right even tho technically it shouldn't have been on the to do list What made it worse is my ex husband reacted badly to them post op. And did so fir the remaining 2yr before I left him That took some getting past. I can now remove my bra but situation has to be just right. And it can reduce my enjoyment because my silly brain keeps fretting about it. I lost my nipples too. The graft failed and they fell off in the tub. Traumatic yes. So now I have 3d tattoos. And guys are like oooh send me a pic so I can see what they look like...HELL NO! Why would you expect me to send a photo of a body part I have issues with! Not sure where I was going with this post now as I sidetracked..either way if it helps, you are not alone I feel like that too OP xxx | |||
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"So my boobs are very wonky and scared. Breast cancer and a horrible skin condition have left them very misshapen and marked. Most of this isn't visible if I am wearing a bra. No one (cept Jeff) ever sees my naked boobs except for a strategic photo occasionally, and even then it'll only be the one. People compliment my boobs a lot. And I always feel like I have to correct them, and say "actually, they're fucked, you've no idea what they really look like". Someone complimenting my boobs makes me feel icky. I don't like it. Anyone else have these feelings? (Not specifically about your boobs...) Lu
I can relate having had a mastectomy
Guys perk up when they hear reconstruction and expect boob job quality. It's far from that. It's an nhs piece them back together job and wasnt focuses on the cosmetic. They are lumpy and bummpy and far from appealing. 1st surgery left me with square boobs.
90° angles on corners that I should not have. Luckily when I has some more work done my surgeon put that right even tho technically it shouldn't have been on the to do list
What made it worse is my ex husband reacted badly to them post op. And did so fir the remaining 2yr before I left him
That took some getting past. I can now remove my bra but situation has to be just right. And it can reduce my enjoyment because my silly brain keeps fretting about it.
I lost my nipples too. The graft failed and they fell off in the tub. Traumatic yes.
So now I have 3d tattoos. And guys are like oooh send me a pic so I can see what they look like...HELL NO!
Why would you expect me to send a photo of a body part I have issues with!
Not sure where I was going with this post now as I sidetracked..either way if it helps, you are not alone I feel like that too OP xxx"Thank you for sharing! | |||
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"So my boobs are very wonky and scared. Breast cancer and a horrible skin condition have left them very misshapen and marked. Most of this isn't visible if I am wearing a bra. No one (cept Jeff) ever sees my naked boobs except for a strategic photo occasionally, and even then it'll only be the one. People compliment my boobs a lot. And I always feel like I have to correct them, and say "actually, they're fucked, you've no idea what they really look like". Someone complimenting my boobs makes me feel icky. I don't like it. Anyone else have these feelings? (Not specifically about your boobs...) Lu "I can relate a bit, a few years ago I had bleeding of the nipple so had to have surgery and some tissue taken away from under the nipple. It made me cry when I first saw the scar but that has faded now. But I’m left with a large dent in my boob that makes me self conscious. So yes it’s hard to accept a compliment about a part of your body you see as imperfect. X | |||
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"So my boobs are very wonky and scared. Breast cancer and a horrible skin condition have left them very misshapen and marked. Most of this isn't visible if I am wearing a bra. No one (cept Jeff) ever sees my naked boobs except for a strategic photo occasionally, and even then it'll only be the one. People compliment my boobs a lot. And I always feel like I have to correct them, and say "actually, they're fucked, you've no idea what they really look like". Someone complimenting my boobs makes me feel icky. I don't like it. Anyone else have these feelings? (Not specifically about your boobs...) Lu
I can relate a bit, a few years ago I had bleeding of the nipple so had to have surgery and some tissue taken away from under the nipple. It made me cry when I first saw the scar but that has faded now. But I’m left with a large dent in my boob that makes me self conscious.
So yes it’s hard to accept a compliment about a part of your body you see as imperfect. X "It's only strange to me cos I don't feel this way about my other body parts I dislike or think are less than attractive. | |||
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"I can relate to this. When I had my first child I tore quite badly and was sewn up incorrectly, leaving excess skin on one side and being too taught on the other. I had to have corrective surgery, but there is scar tissue and I'm not symmetrical although it is better than it was. During sex men have said complimentary things about my vulva and I just wince and can't seem to believe them because of how different it is from before I had my son." Thank you for sharing | |||
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