FabSwingers.com forum: Do guy actually get meets

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Man I been on here for a while aint ever got a meet , starting to this this website only works for couple and females

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 months isn’t a while, even outside of lockdown

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've been on here 2 months, and no one should be meeting due to the pandemic... as you state on your profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"2 months isn’t a while, even outside of lockdown

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two months isn't long ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You've been on here 2 months, and no one should be meeting due to the pandemic... as you state on your profile

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I mean its not that I haven't met anyone i understand that part but people don't even hold a convo with you

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By *oreno0969Man
over a year ago

Rugby

Yeah we do actually meet people but only when as a country we are not grounded and actually allowed to meet people so effectively not again untill 21st June

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"2 months isn’t a while, even outside of lockdown

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and I beg to differ , I have only been on here for two months and speaking out side of lockdown for to months is different because be meeting up ect before then even if it to chill nothing sexaul

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah we do actually meet people but only when as a country we are not grounded and actually allowed to meet people so effectively not again untill 21st June "
okay forget about the meeting part , im more so talking about the actual convos female won't bat a eye lid a you on here being there type or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck Meets

Came here for the women, Now i found the forums...

Love it... Converted

Seriously tho, id rather have a couple regular than lots of randomers... I suck at online shit, just going with it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"2 months isn’t a while, even outside of lockdown

and I beg to differ , I have only been on here for two months and speaking out side of lockdown for to months is different because be meeting up ect before then even if it to chill nothing sexaul

Then you’ve got wildly high expectations of Fab OP. Even before covid it could take a single male years to strike up even a conversation. Especially if their profile is completely bare.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"2 months isn’t a while, even outside of lockdown

two months isn't long ? "

No, it's almost a nanosecond, it took me nearly 9 months to get my first meet, and that was about 14 years ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"2 months isn’t a while, even outside of lockdown

two months isn't long ?

No, it's almost a nanosecond, it took me nearly 9 months to get my first meet, and that was about 14 years ago

See OP? ^

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

She will have in her bio, her type you pop and all you see if read or deleted not I don't mean to sound sour but man that she really be damaging my confidence, and I aint even ugly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Really seems I have had more luck on tinder and this is a website made for this but 9 months that is long I guess for males its a lot harder on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And I didn't know what to expect on here thought I would have been , a lot of sex , memories and maybe make some friends

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Erm theres a pandemic

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Memories will be made

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"2 months isn’t a while, even outside of lockdown

two months isn't long ?

No, it's almost a nanosecond, it took me nearly 9 months to get my first meet, and that was about 14 years ago

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so I guess what your saying is it starts so then picks up ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The forms are good i am not gonna lie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly OP were you expecting to meet people for sex with a click of your fingers when it’s been illegal for the whole time you’ve been here? A lot of people are choosing not to chat because there’s just no point without the potential of a physical meet anyway. But 2 months is nothing on fab, trust me.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"2 months isn’t a while, even outside of lockdown

two months isn't long ?

No, it's almost a nanosecond, it took me nearly 9 months to get my first meet, and that was about 14 years ago

so I guess what your saying is it starts so then picks up ? "

With no pics on a profile and an attitude that this site was going to have them knee deep in pussy, pandemic or no pandemic that person will most likely struggle

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By *oreno0969Man
over a year ago

Rugby

You have alot to learn lad, my advice would be go away do some research read some blogs, listen to podcasts and then have a serious think if its the right place for you.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"You have alot to learn lad, my advice would be go away do some research read some blogs, listen to podcasts and then have a serious think if its the right place for you. "

Go on then, we'll meet you. Just stop with the messages, Martyn

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It all honesty, I guess I was sold a dream in some way

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You have alot to learn lad, my advice would be go away do some research read some blogs, listen to podcasts and then have a serious think if its the right place for you.

Go on then, we'll meet you. Just stop with the messages, Martyn

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thanks but no thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"2 months isn’t a while, even outside of lockdown

two months isn't long ?

No, it's almost a nanosecond, it took me nearly 9 months to get my first meet, and that was about 14 years ago

so I guess what your saying is it starts so then picks up ?

With no pics on a profile and an attitude that this site was going to have them knee deep in pussy, pandemic or no pandemic that person will most likely struggle "
fair point on that one I guess I do have a lot to learn , in regards of a profile would you say more nude or just normal pic ?

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By *oreno0969Man
over a year ago

Rugby

"You have alot to learn lad, my advice would be go away do some research read some blogs, listen to podcasts and then have a serious think if its the right place for you.

Go on then, we'll meet you. Just stop with the messages, Martyn

Ok KC, i just cant stop like that though its not easy that

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"2 months isn’t a while, even outside of lockdown

two months isn't long ?

No, it's almost a nanosecond, it took me nearly 9 months to get my first meet, and that was about 14 years ago

so I guess what your saying is it starts so then picks up ? "

Yeah, you should get yourself known, post positive things on the Forums, take a couple of tasteful pics(they don't have to be face pics), and as others have said, wait until all this Covid malarkey is over

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think I'm going to stick a round till lockdown is over and have pussy on tap was never the goal it was more so explore some of the sexaul desires I have but I feel like this is more so a place I can explore with out being judges

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"You have alot to learn lad, my advice would be go away do some research read some blogs, listen to podcasts and then have a serious think if its the right place for you.

Go on then, we'll meet you. Just stop with the messages, Martyn

thanks but no thanks "

Are you also called Martyn? How coincidental.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To prepare for normality I’d humbly suggest that you change your approach and attitude to fab to make your adventure more personally enjoyable.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"You have alot to learn lad, my advice would be go away do some research read some blogs, listen to podcasts and then have a serious think if its the right place for you.

Go on then, we'll meet you. Just stop with the messages, Martyn

Ok KC, i just cant stop like that though its not easy that

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By *oreno0969Man
over a year ago

Rugby

"It all honesty, I guess I was sold a dream in some way "

Well I hope you kept the receipt mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"2 months isn’t a while, even outside of lockdown

two months isn't long ?

No, it's almost a nanosecond, it took me nearly 9 months to get my first meet, and that was about 14 years ago

so I guess what your saying is it starts so then picks up ?

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thanks for the advice and ace clock what would you say it tasteful

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You have alot to learn lad, my advice would be go away do some research read some blogs, listen to podcasts and then have a serious think if its the right place for you.

Go on then, we'll meet you. Just stop with the messages, Martyn

thanks but no thanks

Are you also called Martyn? How coincidental."
my bad on that one I didn't realise you wasn't talking to me

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By *oreno0969Man
over a year ago

Rugby

"You have alot to learn lad, my advice would be go away do some research read some blogs, listen to podcasts and then have a serious think if its the right place for you.

Go on then, we'll meet you. Just stop with the messages, Martyn

thanks but no thanks

Are you also called Martyn? How coincidental."

Only one Martyn KC

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"It all honesty, I guess I was sold a dream in some way "

You must have sold yourself a dream then. Fab is just a swingers site that you can use to make connections. There are no guarantees, and it does actually require effort.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"You have alot to learn lad, my advice would be go away do some research read some blogs, listen to podcasts and then have a serious think if its the right place for you.

Go on then, we'll meet you. Just stop with the messages, Martyn

thanks but no thanks

Are you also called Martyn? How coincidental.

Only one Martyn KC

*Singing* you are the one and only, nobody I'd rather meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It all honesty, I guess I was sold a dream in some way

You must have sold yourself a dream then. Fab is just a swingers site that you can use to make connections. There are no guarantees, and it does actually require effort."
I mean my older brother told me about this site and yh I did think aint nobody just gonna give out their pussy or cock , straight away but I haven't even got to the stage of talking

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

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"2 months isn’t a while, even outside of lockdown

two months isn't long ?

No, it's almost a nanosecond, it took me nearly 9 months to get my first meet, and that was about 14 years ago

so I guess what your saying is it starts so then picks up ?

thanks for the advice and ace clock what would you say it tasteful "

Well that's a question for the Ladies to answer, I'm crap at taking selfies anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Something funny sexy and says something about myself ? I'm thinking

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By *oreno0969Man
over a year ago

Rugby

"You have alot to learn lad, my advice would be go away do some research read some blogs, listen to podcasts and then have a serious think if its the right place for you.

Go on then, we'll meet you. Just stop with the messages, Martyn

thanks but no thanks

Are you also called Martyn? How coincidental.

Only one Martyn KC

*Singing* you are the one and only, nobody I'd rather meet

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of course my anthem

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By *oreno0969Man
over a year ago

Rugby

"Something funny sexy and says something about myself ? I'm thinking "

You want some ideas around profiles and pictures by all means have a look at some of the other male profiles on the site and get some ideas

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think I will might even add a video or two

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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Lots of advice posts on the forum but this one may help with your expectations; https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/8538

Good luck OP

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By *oreno0969Man
over a year ago

Rugby

"Lots of advice posts on the forum but this one may help with your expectations; https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/8538

Good luck OP

Hello you

long time you ok?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lots of advice posts on the forum but this one may help with your expectations; https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/8538

Good luck OP

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I can click on it , im on my phone

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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"Something funny sexy and says something about myself ? I'm thinking

You want some ideas around profiles and pictures by all means have a look at some of the other male profiles on the site and get some ideas "

Oh nice to see you around

Would recommend checking out Moreno's pics if you are stuck for ideas as they are pretty darn sexy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Damn I need a cowboy hat

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe a suit to

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Damn I need a cowboy hat

I've got a couple of those

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Damn I need a cowboy hat

They're popular. Also check out Tmontana1 for cowboy hat inspired pics.

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By *oreno0969Man
over a year ago

Rugby

"Something funny sexy and says something about myself ? I'm thinking

You want some ideas around profiles and pictures by all means have a look at some of the other male profiles on the site and get some ideas

Oh nice to see you around

Would recommend checking out Moreno's pics if you are stuck for ideas as they are pretty darn sexy

Aww thank you beautiful i really appreciate that

you pictures are always a pleasure to view

when eveythings sane again I will be taking a long trip to Scotland

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Damn I need a cowboy hat

I've got a couple of those

That and the boots would be a great pic

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Damn I need a cowboy hat

They're popular. Also check out Tmontana1 for cowboy hat inspired pics."
thanks

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By *oreno0969Man
over a year ago

Rugby

"Damn I need a cowboy hat

Youll be suptised mate those are around middle ground for popular pictures

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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"Something funny sexy and says something about myself ? I'm thinking

You want some ideas around profiles and pictures by all means have a look at some of the other male profiles on the site and get some ideas

Oh nice to see you around

Would recommend checking out Moreno's pics if you are stuck for ideas as they are pretty darn sexy

Aww thank you beautiful i really appreciate that

you pictures are always a pleasure to view

when eveythings sane again I will be taking a long trip to Scotland

Oh well a trip to Scotland does sound interesting...is that a promise?

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By *oreno0969Man
over a year ago

Rugby

"Something funny sexy and says something about myself ? I'm thinking

You want some ideas around profiles and pictures by all means have a look at some of the other male profiles on the site and get some ideas

Oh nice to see you around

Would recommend checking out Moreno's pics if you are stuck for ideas as they are pretty darn sexy

Aww thank you beautiful i really appreciate that

you pictures are always a pleasure to view

when eveythings sane again I will be taking a long trip to Scotland

Oh well a trip to Scotland does sound interesting...is that a promise?

It most certainly is a promise

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Damn I need a cowboy hat

I've got a couple of those

That and the boots would be a great pic"

Unfortunately the pair that I bought in Arizona in 1986 died a death quite some time ago

Might invest in a new pair when the shops open again though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Bro are those your hats in you dp

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By *amesoflondonMan
over a year ago

London

It helps if one can spell, metaphorically and in writing..

You're (not your) welcome

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By *ausageNmashCouple
over a year ago

Andover

Paul here. I have had a few single profiles on here over the years and met loads of fun people, single ladies and couples and I am only an average fellow so this site can be fun if you are genuine and single and have reasonable expectations and attractions. Grow a thick skin is my advice

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By *asha86Couple
over a year ago

walsall

What were you expecting op a fountain of fanny just waiting for you?? And if your messaging "fancy a fuck?" You aren't going to get anywhere and not to mention the biggie of were in a worldwide pandemic and noone can meet currently...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep not hard ! Maybe just relax and build friendships until the time is right !

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By *uper SaiyanMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I was hoping to be knee deep in pussy - i've only managed to get to ankles. Pussies just arent that deep

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

"Really seems I have had more luck on tinder and this is a website made for this but 9 months that is long I guess for males its a lot harder on here "

Do you show your face on Tinder?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really. Not in lock down. Will I meet in the future? I sure hope so.

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Please refer to another thread on here somewhere about expectations. You've only been on here for 2 months. Things do take time.. even talking to people take time as people are attracted to different things so your approach will have to be different and stand out while still being respectful and friendly. Only bit of advice I could give really

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Man I been on here for a while aint ever got a meet , starting to this this website only works for couple and females

There has been lots of good advice offered to you OP, do make the most of it while the restrictions are still in place.

I can confirm though, that Fab is a great site, and couples and solo females do indeed, meet solo males

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As other have said, you joined during a pandemic, and people shouldn’t be meeting, and a lot of us just aren’t in the mood for even chatting.

I wouldn’t even read a message from a shadow avatar to be honest.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Bro are those your hats in you dp "

A) you don’t have an avatar

B) you’ve only been here 2 months

C) you’re the same age as some members children

D) you say people don’t chat - most people chat in English not some fake nouveau gangsta style

E) pandemic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It all honesty, I guess I was sold a dream in some way "

You and me both, my love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She will have in her bio, her type you pop and all you see if read or deleted not I don't mean to sound sour but man that she really be damaging my confidence, and I aint even ugly

Don't let it get you down. Many women get too many messages to reply to. Some men are abusive when women say no thanks so the women find it better not to reply at all.

Many people aren't chatting because there isn't much point if there's no chance of a meet.

Stick around the forums for a few months and decide if Fab is the site for you.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Man I been on here for a while aint ever got a meet , starting to this this website only works for couple and females

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If you're serious about meeting try socials and swingers clubs still not guaranteed sex but you gain verification hopefully leading to meet..

Remember you a little fish in a big pond so try not to get out of you depth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha funny girl

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

Your age is definitely going to go against you...many active fabsters have kids your age and wouldnt have anything in common with you...and before you say we are all here for the same thing, no, we are not, some of us want a social connection as well as a physical one. Swinging isnt a one size fits all, but its certainly not just about sex.

It sounds as though Tinder is a better option for you, and if youre doing well there then dont let not doing well on here get you down. As others have said it takes effort and perseverance, and until you master those two things you will flounder for sure

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Peterborough, Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield

I've been on here goodness knows how many years, and have met no-one through here. Not for the want of trying. I'm just another average guy in a vast sea of average guys.

Those I have met who are on here, I've met at clubs. I've had much more success there (though by no means guaranteed) by actually going, being there, interacting, than just being another bland face in an overwhelmed inbox. But it'll be a while before that happens again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Man I been on here for a while aint ever got a meet , starting to this this website only works for couple and females

1- there is a lockdown pandemic

2- 2 months is very little time on here. Most People are looking for swinging meets and partners, for a fulfilling night.

3- you haven't set a profile photo

4- you have a childish emoji covering your face, which will really put off most women. It makes you look childish. You might get lucky with some of the younger 18-20s who are also here accidentally. Until you change it for something more mature.

5- its a lockdown.

6- no body photos. All fully clothed.

7- have you tried sending messages trying to start a decent interesting conversation with any women?

Bear in mind that women usually get around 100 messages a day, so yours has to stand out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, plenty thanks.

The whole it's hard for guys etc. Is bollocks in my opinion, it really isn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, plenty thanks.

The whole it's hard for guys etc. Is bollocks in my opinion, it really isn't.

You think they are lying?

Not all men have thighs like you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, plenty thanks.

The whole it's hard for guys etc. Is bollocks in my opinion, it really isn't.

You think they are lying?

Not all men have thighs like you do. "

Is that what it takes, strong thighs ?

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By *onkey_boy87Man
over a year ago

derby

Single male here and I've had no issues meeting. Obviously I've been told no and vice versa.

Send a face pic to the ladies/couples you are meeting.

Put a cock and body pic up.

Get verified in the clubs and after that its a snowball effect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, plenty thanks.

The whole it's hard for guys etc. Is bollocks in my opinion, it really isn't.

You think they are lying?

Not all men have thighs like you do.

Is that what it takes, strong thighs ?"

Yep, all about the thighs

Not lying as such but they dont help themselves with they way they conduct themselves on here and the way they present.

Threads day in day out giving advice on profiles, how to approach people but many just ignore and carry on as they were, then complain again in a few weeks that they still haven't been able to start a conversation with someone.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"2 months isn’t a while, even outside of lockdown

and I beg to differ , I have only been on here for two months and speaking out side of lockdown for to months is different because be meeting up ect before then even if it to chill nothing sexaul

Then you’ve got wildly high expectations of Fab OP. Even before covid it could take a single male years to strike up even a conversation. Especially if their profile is completely bare. "

Why? Does anyone actually look at how long someone has been a member before engaging with them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've not been shagging your way through the site in the two months you've been here?!

DURING A PANDEMIC?

Come on, seriously?

Is say the only thing wrong is your expectations.

This isn't instashag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been her a few years now and only met two couples so I’d say it’s extremely hard for a single guy to stand out .

Single women and couples get flooded with messages and il be honest I’m lucky if I ever get a reply never mind a random message from a woman .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Follow your dreams

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Soar like an eagle !

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

"Man I been on here for a while aint ever got a meet , starting to this this website only works for couple and females

Aside from the points raised above, your profile states you're only looking to meet single females or female couples aged under 30. How many of those do you think there are here?

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

I think your expectations are a little off OP,

Good luck but all of the above observations are true.. 2 months isn't long at all,

Lockdown means most of us are not meeting yet. The expectation of a meet is a big put off too.

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By *estcountryDadBodMan
over a year ago

Exeter

Hope so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"2 months isn’t a while, even outside of lockdown

two months isn't long ? "

Look at my profile then you will know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Man I been on here for a while aint ever got a meet , starting to this this website only works for couple and females

Work on your profile. Your pictures are not sparkling and your bio goes on too much about your needs... Oh and nobody likes a whiner

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Unfortunately the vaginas aren't out for delivery, your free gift has been delayed due to covid restrictions.

It ain't no field of dreams where "if you build it they will come" (unless ya don't mind a fella noshing you off, seriously, you just need a cock for that)

I'm guessing you've made the assumption that people that are online are looking to make connections, looking to chat?

That there is mistake numero uno.

A lot of people already have connections and simply use this place to catch up with those they already know.

Fab is a tool. A platform to look out for events that are happening, what's going on at clubs, what organised socials are going on in what part of the country. Of course that bit is closed at the moment.

If you want the guarantee of meeting people, you'll need to make the effort to go to the places where people are. Even then, there's no guarantee it'll lead you to the sacred lady garden and wetting of dick. It'll simply give you the chance of opening conversations with actual people in the flesh, in real time.

Add to that people are pissed off right now, frustrated, grieving the losses of family, friends, finances and freedoms. Don't really make for happy chat that.

There are many kinds of people here too, with many different desires and wants. From those who want gangbangs to those who just like to flash a bit of tit in a photo, to others who are just here for the forums.

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By *enusandmarsCouple
over a year ago

Buryish

Look at your own profile objectively and work out what message it sends. My opinion only but your pics shout out chav or wannabe gangsta. Thats fine if youre looking for that kinda lady. Most active ladies on here wont fall into that category, so smarten up.

Run the numbers. If there are 1000 members within 5 miles of you, 800 are guys, 150 MF couples, 45 women and 5 miscellaneous. So YOU have a 'market' of 45. 35 are outside your age range, 5 dont like smokers. Youve got 5 ladies left. You cant accomodate, how many of the 5 will allow a strange man into their house?

Dont try to appeal to everyone, it doesnt work and its transparent. Be honest about what you want, who you want, and its easier to nail it down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with all the above in retrospect you have only been on 2 months and joined during the worst possible time if you were expecting a meet there and then...

I think the thing to remember is this is a lifestyle for many people on here. It’s not instashag, a lot of people seek friendships and build connections...

I have been swinging for four years, it did take a little while to get my foot in so to speak, but that’s finding out what works for you adding more photo’s, going to clubs/socials and just being patient.

I really enjoy it and to answer your thread title yes they do meet men I’ve had some amazing times and made some incredible friends...

The amount of effort you put in is what you “could” get out, but at the same time don’t expect you are owed anything because you are here, at a club or sent a dozen messages. If something happens great if not don’t worry it might next time...

I think if you go by that you can’t really go wrong.... good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

7 years, 2 social meets..I'm improving

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Man I been on here for a while aint ever got a meet , starting to this this website only works for couple and females

Did you think covid restrictions didnt apply on here?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"7 years, 2 social meets..I'm improving

But..... "you got a friend in me. You got a friend in me"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"7 years, 2 social meets..I'm improving

But..... "you got a friend in me. You got a friend in me""

True, you're like that sibling that I think 'what the fuck has she done now?'..and thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Look at your own profile objectively and work out what message it sends. My opinion only but your pics shout out chav or wannabe gangsta. Thats fine if youre looking for that kinda lady. Most active ladies on here wont fall into that category, so smarten up.

Dont try to appeal to everyone, it doesnt work and its transparent. Be honest about what you want, who you want, and its easier to nail it down"

Good post

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"She will have in her bio, her type you pop and all you see if read or deleted not I don't mean to sound sour but man that she really be damaging my confidence, and I aint even ugly

It’s not up to you to decide if you’re her type or not. It isn’t necessarily even about your looks, it’s at least as much about how you message and what your profile conveys.

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

Join the forums so much fun ..need more pics .women .and couples don't look at a blank pic .u need 2 catch their eye .

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Really seems I have had more luck on tinder and this is a website made for this but 9 months that is long I guess for males its a lot harder on here "

If you do better on Tinder, use Tinder. This isn’t “a website made for this”, if what you mean by “this” is random hookups and ONS. It’s a website made for swinging, which is a different thing. You were expecting lots of sex with no effort on your part? Did you think the women on here are basically free escorts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Man I been on here for a while aint ever got a meet , starting to this this website only works for couple and females

Same man. I thought this was instashag... we was being lied too it seems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, plenty thanks.

The whole it's hard for guys etc. Is bollocks in my opinion, it really isn't.

You think they are lying?

Not all men have thighs like you do.

Is that what it takes, strong thighs ?

Yep, all about the thighs

Not lying as such but they dont help themselves with they way they conduct themselves on here and the way they present.

Some decent men with good profiles can't get meets either.

Not sure about their thighs.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I agree with all the above in retrospect you have only been on 2 months and joined during the worst possible time if you were expecting a meet there and then...

I think the thing to remember is this is a lifestyle for many people on here. It’s not instashag, a lot of people seek friendships and build connections...

I really enjoy it and to answer your thread title yes they do meet men I’ve had some amazing times and made some incredible friends...

I think if you go by that you can’t really go wrong.... good luck

Hope you don't mind, but I recommended your profile pics as an example of good pics (and cowboy hats

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

It used to work pretty well, I can't complain, but nowadays, and 10/12 years older, still looking.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"Single male here and I've had no issues meeting. Obviously I've been told no and vice versa.

Send a face pic to the ladies/couples you are meeting.

Put a cock and body pic up.

Get verified in the clubs and after that its a snowball effect "

Glad to hear that guys can do well if they put some effort in

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By *ick_and_BickerCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Man I been on here for a while aint ever got a meet , starting to this this website only works for couple and females

A rookie mistake of thinking that it's easy for women and couples.

When I was meeting, finding a single man that I actually wanted to get naked with and he, I, was nigh on impossible.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

It amazes us that so many on here can't work out why they can't get meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with all the above in retrospect you have only been on 2 months and joined during the worst possible time if you were expecting a meet there and then...

I think the thing to remember is this is a lifestyle for many people on here. It’s not instashag, a lot of people seek friendships and build connections...

I really enjoy it and to answer your thread title yes they do meet men I’ve had some amazing times and made some incredible friends...

I think if you go by that you can’t really go wrong.... good luck

Hope you don't mind, but I recommended your profile pics as an example of good pics (and cowboy hats

Thank you I appreciate that, you just have to do what works for you

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I’m not sure about ‘strong thighs’. Do you think ladies will notice if I had ‘strong sighs’?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not sure about ‘strong thighs’. Do you think ladies will notice if I had ‘strong sighs’? "

Specsavers would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not sure about ‘strong thighs’. Do you think ladies will notice if I had ‘strong sighs’? "

Sighs from not getting reply’s ?

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By *atandjayCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

If you are polite and intelligent

It’s very possible

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By *ick_and_BickerCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Man I been on here for a while aint ever got a meet , starting to this this website only works for couple and females

Just my tuppenceworth.....

In my first 2 months of Fabworld I'd met no one.

Then I stumbled across the forums, read lots of "Advice" threads, adjusted my biog and added better photos.

Lowered my expectations (they were pretty low anyway) joined in with the banter, didn't moan, didn't act entitled, went to few socials and made connections.

The next 4 months garnered 20+ meet verifications, some of which were intimate meetings.

Attitude is everything.

The best advice I ever read on Fab was from a fellow forumite.

"Don't be a dick" Them's wise words.

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

"Man I been on here for a while aint ever got a meet , starting to this this website only works for couple and females

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it’s not insta shag sorry but you come across as another self entitled male

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

If you’re lucky and respectful but at this moment in time I would firmly say a good no

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london

"Really seems I have had more luck on tinder and this is a website made for this but 9 months that is long I guess for males its a lot harder on here

This.

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By *ourneforfunMan
over a year ago

Lincoln

"Man I been on here for a while aint ever got a meet , starting to this this website only works for couple and females

This is a swingers site, singles arent really co sidered swingers, so we are here for when the couples want an extra hand.

Unfortunately, there are millions of eager guys, so its slim pickings.

Dont be so eager for a meet, and use this lockdown as a way to chat and get to know people.

Once youve have a few meets, and had veri's, more people will take you seriously.

Couples and women are unlikely to chose a new unveri'd profile over people who have been around a while, unless you can stimulate them socially and mentally first.

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Peterborough, Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield

Just my tuppenceworth.....

In my first 2 months of Fabworld I'd met no one.

Then I stumbled across the forums, read lots of "Advice" threads, adjusted my biog and added better photos.

Lowered my expectations (they were pretty low anyway) joined in with the banter, didn't moan, didn't act entitled, went to few socials and made connections.

The next 4 months garnered 20+ meet verifications, some of which were intimate meetings.

Attitude is everything.

The best advice I ever read on Fab was from a fellow forumite.

"Don't be a dick" Them's wise words.

I'd love to be able to agree, it sounds like good advice - and actually is.

But speaking as someone who has done those things, unless you happen to hit lucky, you're still just a small fish in a big pond, I suspect your experience is atypical.

Over the years I've tried various different approaches to profile text - long, short, vanilla, explicit - and always done my best to write the kind of message I'd want to receive. I don't send messages to everyone (maybe I'm too picky) and those I do are well written. My pictures aren't going to set the world on fire, but they're an accurate representation (no point having great moodily lit photos if I have to spend a whole meet sat in semi-shadow so I look the same as my pics!

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I've had more luck in clubs in person, where at least the odds are more in my favour and looks can be at least a little balanced by attitude and personality (though yes, I could probably have a few more veris but always feel awkward asking, or just don't think of it).

I suspect that's the case for many here. Unless you happen to stand out, then it's an uphill battle all the way. A few will drop lucky, others will agree to meet anyone for anything just to get a meet, but for many unless you've got the physique to draw instant attention, that nicely-written message is still going to get deleted.

It is what it is though. Expect nothing, and something's a bonus. Expect the world and you'll always be disappointed.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

I’ll put my 2 cents worth into this thread OP it can be hard for some single men on here especially ones of your age. Yes I’m not much older than you but I started on here the same age as you. Have some patience have a profile picture as most won’t respond to a silhouette. As had already be previously stated try taking a variety of different pictures and inject your personality into your bio. Even if that means several revisions it will show that you have put effort into it. Also this isn’t an instshag site and I’ve noticed most of those that have joined since the pandemic started believe it is. Also look at other single male profiles and see what they are doing. I would point you to my profile and some of the other male profiles in this thread.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

OP.

Look at similar threads on the same issue within the FORUM INDEX and heed what is said.

At only two months on here, you are a mere beginner! Even without COVID being on the way, this is NOT an Instant Shag site as how a lot of guys seem to think!

With the law of averages stacked against Single Males, as they are the majority on here, the ladies can be choosy!

It's how you put yourself over, that is, how you SELL yourself; blunt as it seems, it's true, YOU have to appeal to those you wish to attract.

It can take some guys a year or more to get their first bit of success! You have to possess a lot of Patience, more Patience and Perseverance, plus a thick skin to handle rejection or no responses.

As said, look at the FORUM Pages and heed the advice supplied from those who offer lots of pointers.

Believe me, we've been there and had the knock-backs! Your success will succeed only by the effort you put in!

Good Luck.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It typically takes single men months to get established here. During the pandemic, people have other priorities, family, health, job, money etc.

If you don't seem to be compatible to them or their life at present, there's no point in chat. And no time, energy etc. Seriously, ask yourself if you are really selling yourself well and have realistic expectations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Man I been on here for a while aint ever got a meet , starting to this this website only works for couple and females

Hahahaha. This has to be the funniest thing I've read on the forums so far this year.

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By *akkarMan
over a year ago

Citizen of the world

"Man I been on here for a while aint ever got a meet , starting to this this website only works for couple and females

yh big dick just chill the duck out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Man I been on here for a while aint ever got a meet , starting to this this website only works for couple and females

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morning OP

I'm not sure what you mean I have serveal people that I chat to on fab on a regular basis I have had meets and chatted on cams also as my veris show. It can take time to make connections with the right people but having a profile picture might help you as there are literally 1000s of men on this site and you need to stand out to be noticed and I don't mean to be rude but no profile picture wont help your corse

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By *odgerMan
over a year ago

Coventry(ish)London

D) you say people don’t chat - most people chat in English not some fake nouveau gangsta style "

Haha...that made me laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one ..7 years ago according to my profile verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Man I been on here for a while aint ever got a meet , starting to this this website only works for couple and females

It works fine with patience, persistency and being respectful and interesting. We’ve had single profiles now and again and yes, the odds are stacked against men, but there’s good folks out there who will meet. The last year has been very different out of necessity so can’t be a yard stuck for anyone. Even as a couple or female good meets can be hard to find at times, then like the proverbial buses, several will come along all at once.

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Man I been on here for a while aint ever got a meet , starting to this this website only works for couple and females

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By *ick_and_BickerCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Just my tuppenceworth.....

In my first 2 months of Fabworld I'd met no one.

Then I stumbled across the forums, read lots of "Advice" threads, adjusted my biog and added better photos.

Lowered my expectations (they were pretty low anyway) joined in with the banter, didn't moan, didn't act entitled, went to few socials and made connections.

The next 4 months garnered 20+ meet verifications, some of which were intimate meetings.

Attitude is everything.

The best advice I ever read on Fab was from a fellow forumite.

"Don't be a dick" Them's wise words.

I'd love to be able to agree, it sounds like good advice - and actually is.

But speaking as someone who has done those things, unless you happen to hit lucky, you're still just a small fish in a big pond, I suspect your experience is atypical.

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It is what it is though. Expect nothing, and something's a bonus. Expect the world and you'll always be disappointed."

I think it can be a bit pot luck, you're right there. I'm sure being active in the Lounge Forum helped, plus not being a dick. Well, not all the time anyway.

The Lounge opened the doors to group socials, gaining good meet verifications, which in turn led to more invitations.

I never truly "finished" my profile. Reviewed it, and the messages I sent every now and again.

Have to agree clubs can be easier than on trying to make on site connections though.

I made an effort to get to group socials, I can't recommend them highly enough.

Although I may be a tad biased towards them now of course.

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By *ick_and_BickerCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Unfortunately the vaginas aren't out for delivery, your free gift has been delayed due to covid restrictions.

It ain't no field of dreams where "if you build it they will come" (unless ya don't mind a fella noshing you off, seriously, you just need a cock for that)

I'm guessing you've made the assumption that people that are online are looking to make connections, looking to chat?

That there is mistake numero uno.

A lot of people already have connections and simply use this place to catch up with those they already know.

Add to that people are pissed off right now, frustrated, grieving the losses of family, friends, finances and freedoms. Don't really make for happy chat that.

I'm just here for the cake.

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Rare as rocking horse shit

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