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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all,

This is my first post on here so please be kind!

I'm 29 and newly single, I'm not looking for anything serious so I thought I'd try out the swinging side of things.

My question really is how do you actually go about getting started? Obviously as a single Male I know I'm already a pretty common thing here!

Any tips or advice welcomed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a vagina. How this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Have a think about some of the following OP none of which will guarantee a thing, but all of which are within your control and will help with your experience of the site:

Profile - does it sell you well, telling others about you and not only what you're looking for, but what you think you can offer also. Is it appealing and has enough to pique interest, or is it generic and much the same as thousands of other guys here?

Pics - are your pics a good reflection of you and your body, with a little creativity and teasing thrown in, or are they just hastily taken snaps or a series of pics of your cock?

Expectations - are they set correctly or do you need to turn them down a notch, or allow for the current situation and accept that right now a lot of people aren't looking to chat, let alone meet, new people. The default setting for expectations should always be low when it comes to getting meets.

Attitude - have you got it right? Are you always positive or do you bemoan your lack of "luck" on the site? Are you always polite and respectful not only to people you approach, but other users?

Approach - have you found the right approach to the site for you? It doesn't *have* to be about blindly messaging people and hoping they reply, the forums and chat rooms are a good way to get to know people, and them you - likewise when they open/start again clubs and group socials.

Take those into account and you won't be going far wrong, as I said, it won't guarantee a thing but it will improve your experience and perception.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Hi all,

This is my first post on here so please be kind!

I'm 29 and newly single, I'm not looking for anything serious so I thought I'd try out the swinging side of things.

My question really is how do you actually go about getting started? Obviously as a single Male I know I'm already a pretty common thing here!

Any tips or advice welcomed "

Welcome sweety patience and trust xx

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Have a vagina. How this helps"

And this helps how?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have a vagina. How this helps

And this helps how?"
It was supposed to say hope this helps. Amd it was a bit of light hearted sarcasm

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Welcome to the forum.

Read the profiles of others thoroughly.

Make sure that you are what that person is looking for.

Ensure your own profile is sufficiently interesting.

I'd make your own a bit personal if I were you. Show your personality.

Have a better variety of pics.

Someone else will be along in a bit with more ideas.

Anyhooo....good luck.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Have a vagina. How this helps

And this helps how?It was supposed to say hope this helps. Amd it was a bit of light hearted sarcasm "

It's pretty obvious it was light hearted banter.

Anyone looking to make it out as anything else is either seeking attention or hasn't got a soh.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Have a vagina. How this helps

And this helps how?It was supposed to say hope this helps. Amd it was a bit of light hearted sarcasm

It's pretty obvious it was light hearted banter.

Anyone looking to make it out as anything else is either seeking attention or hasn't got a soh."

I asked a question you are carrying it on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have a vagina. How this helps

And this helps how?"

Had one for 26 years, still waiting for that "help".

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By *LAchillesMan
over a year ago

Ross-ish

When things open up again go to clubs and events. Be sociable but also be patient and respectful.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Hi all,

This is my first post on here so please be kind!

I'm 29 and newly single, I'm not looking for anything serious so I thought I'd try out the swinging side of things.

My question really is how do you actually go about getting started? Obviously as a single Male I know I'm already a pretty common thing here!

Any tips or advice welcomed "

Great pics x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the responses so far can't believe it took me so long to post in here.

Hopefully some bits in here can help out fellow newbies too!

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Put lots and lots of cock pics on your profile and you’ll soon find this will start you off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Put lots and lots of cock pics on your profile and you’ll soon find this will start you off."

I mean there's only so many angles isn't there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get rid of the toilet in the background pics bleurghhhhh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get rid of the toilet in the background pics bleurghhhhh

"

I totally agree with this. S was hi would want to chat to someone with a toilet in the background????

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Get rid of the toilet in the background pics bleurghhhhh

I totally agree with this. S was hi would want to chat to someone with a toilet in the background????"

Thanks that's fair, it's just a good mirror! (Promise its kept clean!! )

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Get rid of the toilet in the background pics bleurghhhhh

I totally agree with this. S was hi would want to chat to someone with a toilet in the background????

Thanks that's fair, it's just a good mirror! (Promise its kept clean!! )"

Hate toilets in backgrounds cos we all know what happens in a toilet don’t we AND if the seat is up it’s an even worse sight.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hahah ok ok I'll ditch the loo...

Never know what sort of thing appeals to people...

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