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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I often think that we’re doing the whole sex thing backwards to those in other runs of life. We see each other’s genitals before faces, meet without knowing real names, would have sex but kissing is a cause for debate, share fantasies before life history...

Are we all just wired differently?

Why is that?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think we're conditioned from birth to believe that sex is *always* sacred. If we are wired differently (and I don't think we are) it's because we know how to differentiate between sacred sex and casual sex.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

FAB is completely flipped from real life...

You don’t get to know someone’s name that you fancy but you’ve seen what they look like naked, their underwear, their fetishes and a lot of time, a lot of their previous conquests and what they look like too...

K

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Have often said the site reminds me of Naked Attraction in that respect - where often the last thing you get is the voice and seeing the other person clothed.

Don't think it's wired differently as such - just the way the site works - the principles of getting to know people and establishing a connection and chemistry sufficient to want to take it further are (at various levels for different people) still the same - it's just they're done with prior knowledge of that person in a state of undress and their sexual preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since dating / porn moved online the whole thing flipped. Can't say I would like to be in the dating pool these days.

It's far easier to post something intimate and keep your face hidden as opposed to in data gone bye where you had to physical meet to then take things further

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

In terms of looking for nsa sexual meets fab works the right way, I think the lack of face pics does muddy the water slightly and make it harder to pick a potential play partner though, but there is the taboo of your face pic being found on a sex site, where as no one blinks an eye if you are discovered on a dating site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often think that we’re doing the whole sex thing backwards to those in other runs of life. We see each other’s genitals before faces, meet without knowing real names, would have sex but kissing is a cause for debate, share fantasies before life history...

Are we all just wired differently?

Why is that? "

Very good points OP

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I actually don’t think I do.. if I chat to someone and get on well it’s on a really normal level. I don’t do sex chat with anyone I don’t know. I generally see the face very early on and then know if I’m attracted or not and I haven’t met anyone who’s pics have been their todger. Soz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually don’t think I do.. if I chat to someone and get on well it’s on a really normal level. I don’t do sex chat with anyone I don’t know. I generally see the face very early on and then know if I’m attracted or not and I haven’t met anyone who’s pics have been their todger. Soz "

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

It depends on your beliefs and what you are looking for, for me I'm very spiritual and view sex as a opening to kundalini energy, it is not just about fucking someone for me. I look would love to meet someone I can explore this with. The exploration of sexuality with another person is the sacred thing.

To see a partner at the hight of their sexual desire, even when it is with an invited person, or a club, is the most sacred that two people in love can ever be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually don’t think I do.. if I chat to someone and get on well it’s on a really normal level. I don’t do sex chat with anyone I don’t know. I generally see the face very early on and then know if I’m attracted or not and I haven’t met anyone who’s pics have been their todger. Soz "

This for me too

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I don't think sex is FAB flipped.

It's because sex has been stripped out of our lives to protect blood and inheritance. It has been deemed 'sacred' and taboo outside of a 'loving' relationship.

This creates a necessity for FAB type places and behaviours.

At the root of so many of societies 'sex related' problems is monogamy, patriarchy and the nuclear family.

Sex needs to be untwined from immorality.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"It depends on your beliefs and what you are looking for, for me I'm very spiritual and view sex as a opening to kundalini energy, it is not just about fucking someone for me. I look would love to meet someone I can explore this with. The exploration of sexuality with another person is the sacred thing.

To see a partner at the hight of their sexual desire, even when it is with an invited person, or a club, is the most sacred that two people in love can ever be.

"

I don't agree with the 'love' and 'sacrosanct' stuff.

Sex is an itch a beautiful itch maybe but it's not so compellingly beautiful once it's done.

I'd hate to have to swear undying love for my partner every time we had a butty and wait while some fucker blessed it and dictated how I should eat it ......

We breath , we eat , we fuck .....

It's really simple.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"

At the root of so many of societies 'sex related' problems is monogamy, patriarchy and the nuclear family.

Sex needs to be untwined from immorality."

I don’t think that I’ve ever agreed with a statement on here more!

Very well said.

I will say that a large portion of the taboo and ‘sacred’ status attributed to sex is also down to organised religion, but beyond that, yes

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By *iaisonseekerMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


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At the root of so many of societies 'sex related' problems is monogamy, patriarchy and the nuclear family.

Sex needs to be untwined from immorality.

I don’t think that I’ve ever agreed with a statement on here more!

Very well said.

I will say that a large portion of the taboo and ‘sacred’ status attributed to sex is also down to organised religion, but beyond that, yes"

An awful lot of organised religion is basic public health advice when you think about it: wash this, don't eat that etc.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"

At the root of so many of societies 'sex related' problems is monogamy, patriarchy and the nuclear family.

Sex needs to be untwined from immorality.

I don’t think that I’ve ever agreed with a statement on here more!

Very well said.

I will say that a large portion of the taboo and ‘sacred’ status attributed to sex is also down to organised religion, but beyond that, yes

An awful lot of organised religion is basic public health advice when you think about it: wash this, don't eat that etc."

If you ignore all of the ancillary stuff about worship, financial obligations, deities, punishment, reward and civil control, then yes!

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I actually don’t think I do.. if I chat to someone and get on well it’s on a really normal level. I don’t do sex chat with anyone I don’t know. I generally see the face very early on and then know if I’m attracted or not and I haven’t met anyone who’s pics have been their todger. Soz "

Weirdo

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"I often think that we’re doing the whole sex thing backwards to those in other runs of life. We see each other’s genitals before faces, meet without knowing real names, would have sex but kissing is a cause for debate, share fantasies before life history...

Are we all just wired differently?

Why is that? "

Because the only reason people interact on this site is to fuck?

Its not about finding a life partner or friends, although some do, so there is no immediate need to get to know someone.

As for seeing genitals before faces, you want to maintain discretion while still marketing yourself, so torso and cock shots win out.

You don’t need to know their lersonality, hell you don’t even have to meet th

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine


"It depends on your beliefs and what you are looking for, for me I'm very spiritual and view sex as a opening to kundalini energy, it is not just about fucking someone for me. I look would love to meet someone I can explore this with. The exploration of sexuality with another person is the sacred thing.

To see a partner at the hight of their sexual desire, even when it is with an invited person, or a club, is the most sacred that two people in love can ever be.

OK I'm going to bite.

You're here in your spiritual world amongst the Jeremy Kyle bllshit.

Clearly your kink is feeling superior

In every thread you bleat on about your superiority.

Give your head a wobble!"
I've never claimed I'm more superior then anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cuts to the chase of it. Life is short. Can find the other stuff out in bed afterwards if it's important or you want to share

I usually know a real name though and haven't always seen their willy.

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