FabSwingers.com forum: More Intimate than Sex ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Drawing from the thread kissing and the way it was worded, I was curious to know what ppl's opinion on whether or not kissing is more intimate than sex ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing can be intimate. It’s a strange thing for me (and maybe some others can relate.)

I can give a kiss or take a kiss. To share a kiss, that’s where it feels intimate. When you both want to enjoy each other, the longing to taste each other’s lips.

Otherwise one is just giving lip service, so to speak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some times it is.

Sometimes kissing, much like sex can just be an act. It can be superficial.

However other times, when you really kiss with feeling, it can convey so much, it can be so wonderful, passionate and very intimate. I guess a lot depends on how much we give of ourselves. Do the walls that guard us come down. When they do and our souls are exposed, that's true intimacy. That can happen in a conversation as much as it can a kiss or during sex.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

For me it is an incredibly intimate act, I understand how some couples don't like kissing with others outside of their relationship, penetration is more of a crass act but add kissing in and the making love border blurs in some people's minds

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Depends on the strength of my feelings for the person I’m kissing. That makes all the difference to me.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

A good kiss is a thing of beauty. You can give anyone a kiss and it be friendly, pleasant, enjoyable but a kiss with a person you have a strong connection with is a very intimate act. More intimate than sex? Yes, I think it can with the right person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Touching lips... more intimate than getting naked and poking my beautiful penis into a vagina?

I really don’t subscribe to the idea, no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A good kiss is a thing of beauty. You can give anyone a kiss and it be friendly, pleasant, enjoyable but a kiss with a person you have a strong connection with is a very intimate act. More intimate than sex? Yes, I think it can with the right person. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are people I'd kiss but wouldn't have sex with.... There's no one I'd have sex with but wouldn't kiss so no, I don't think kissing is more intimate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are people I'd kiss but wouldn't have sex with.... There's no one I'd have sex with but wouldn't kiss so no, I don't think kissing is more intimate. "

Oooohhhh. That’s a good point.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

No but sex without kissing would be like having a scone without the jam.

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By *odgerMan
over a year ago

Coventry(ish)London

"There are people I'd kiss but wouldn't have sex with.... There's no one I'd have sex with but wouldn't kiss so no, I don't think kissing is more intimate. "

Why would you kiss someone that you wouldn't have sex with?

Get it when you're young but as an adult???

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By *ewey613Man
over a year ago

ottawa

"There are people I'd kiss but wouldn't have sex with.... There's no one I'd have sex with but wouldn't kiss so no, I don't think kissing is more intimate.

Why would you kiss someone that you wouldn't have sex with?

Get it when you're young but as an adult???"

Women and men are different. Women cam kiss and stop there. Most men only kiss to distract the girl as they race to jam their hands down her panties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I so love kissing and find a nice sensual kiss leading to more passionate kissing such a massive turn on xxx

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By *odgerMan
over a year ago

Coventry(ish)London

"There are people I'd kiss but wouldn't have sex with.... There's no one I'd have sex with but wouldn't kiss so no, I don't think kissing is more intimate.

Why would you kiss someone that you wouldn't have sex with?

Get it when you're young but as an adult???

Women and men are different. Women cam kiss and stop there. Most men only kiss to distract the girl as they race to jam their hands down her panties "

Ah right..thanks...never knew that.

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

Kissing for me is a must otherwise I feel disconnected and its just sex.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

It’s probably different for single people and some people might not understand but yes I think it is .That don’t mean I don’t/won’t kiss but it’s not something that I have to do either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Drawing from the thread kissing and the way it was worded, I was curious to know what ppl's opinion on whether or not kissing is more intimate than sex ?

That’s a really good question. Made me think. For me, it certainly adds to the depth of intimacy, but I’m not sure if it is in itself more intimate. It’s not like I’d just turn up to a meet and only kiss. I wouldn’t really class them as alternatives. I certainly like to kiss the person I’m with.

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Kissing can be done any where any time fully clothed and naked so yes is rather intimate and rather fun x

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By *umslaveTV/TS
over a year ago

Sheffield

I absolutely adore kissing and it's simply essential for good proper lovemaking. It's actually my favourite thing in sex, kissing until my lips tingle. I'm a very good kisser

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just thought a bit more about this ... who’s willing to have electrodes connected to them? I think we can test this ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely more intimate.

I would happily perform sex acts on people I fancy, but you would have to be very special for me to want to kiss you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never had sex without kissing in my life...all starts with kissing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are people I'd kiss but wouldn't have sex with.... There's no one I'd have sex with but wouldn't kiss so no, I don't think kissing is more intimate.

Why would you kiss someone that you wouldn't have sex with?

Get it when you're young but as an adult???"

So am I understanding you correctly in that if someone kisses you then you assume they will have sex with you?

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I have always thought kissing was the most intimate part of sex/love making, the closeness of our faces, the eye contact, breathing each other’s breath, tongues entwined, being held close, closing your eyes to savour the moment

Right who wants a snog

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love kissing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Little kisses with Sir are very intimate, very powerful, very ..... very ..... very ..... erm ..... yeah, just yeah. Oh how I miss those.

As she goes off into a land of dreams where only she and Sir exist.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I would say sex is far more intimate than kissing although i would not have sex without the kissing.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I think at times it can be more intimate but it depends on the person.

If a kiss is done right, all your feelings go into it, the connection, the expressiveness, the desire, the sensuality of it all...

Before and after looking deep into someone’s eyes...it’s an incredibly intimate moment.

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By *ewey613Man
over a year ago

ottawa

"I would say sex is far more intimate than kissing although i would not have sex without the kissing."

Exactly! I’m only joking when I say I’m hoping people’s fear of kissing isn’t a result of them bringing the rules of their job home with them. I think that’s rule 1 of the world’s oldest profession

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It just takes two bodies for sex. But it needs two souls to kiss. I think !....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some really interesting views here. It is entirely possible to have sex without kissing and there are many scenarios for that....gloryholes, gangbangs being the obvious ones. Interesting seeing people comment about lovemaking vs sex. I am on a swinging site as part of a couple, lovemaking is not what I would want, but sex is.

Also really great to see the comment about couples may see it differently than singles. I am the female in a couple and I do find kissing more intimate than sex but strangely when kissing a woman it doesn't feel intimate in the same way as kissing guys.

Same as a lot of things, think it depends on the context at the time, situation, the environment, the positions etc as to how intimate something is.

Tabitha x

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

It depends what your kissing

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I love it. It is very intimate hence some couples don’t include it in their meets.

My friend has just split up with a guy because he wouldn’t kiss her. It became a deal breaker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It just takes two bodies for sex. But it needs two souls to kiss. I think !...."

Damn.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I only kiss the people I love. Intimacy *to me* is a rare and special thing, not something I can establish with just anybody, even temporarily. In my opinion intimacy and love go hand in hand therefore I don't kiss the people I have casual, sexual encounters with.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"It just takes two bodies for sex. But it needs two souls to kiss. I think !...."

Yes!

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

"I only kiss the people I love. Intimacy *to me* is a rare and special thing, not something I can establish with just anybody, even temporarily. In my opinion intimacy and love go hand in hand therefore I don't kiss the people I have casual, sexual encounters with. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I'd say it is. I've got to really like and be attracted to someone to kiss. Sex I can go through the motions, so to speak xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beautiful x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Making love is intimate

Sex is just sex

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By *odgerMan
over a year ago

Coventry(ish)London

"There are people I'd kiss but wouldn't have sex with.... There's no one I'd have sex with but wouldn't kiss so no, I don't think kissing is more intimate.

Why would you kiss someone that you wouldn't have sex with?

Get it when you're young but as an adult???

So am I understanding you correctly in that if someone kisses you then you assume they will have sex with you? "

Well not if it was a peck on the cheek no. When I was at university there'd be a lots of snogging..sometimes it'd lead to other things...most times it didn't. In later life I don't think I've been in a situation where a snog didn't lead to something else...well apart from a social where the snogging felt a little sympathetic and a reward for driving for 90 mins

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"There are people I'd kiss but wouldn't have sex with.... There's no one I'd have sex with but wouldn't kiss so no, I don't think kissing is more intimate.

Why would you kiss someone that you wouldn't have sex with?

Get it when you're young but as an adult???

Women and men are different. Women cam kiss and stop there. Most men only kiss to distract the girl as they race to jam their hands down her panties "

It is one of those basic primal things. Men usually initiate the wet tongue kisses. It is a way of delivering their testosterone into us, to flick our switch to want to engage in sex.

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By *odgerMan
over a year ago

Coventry(ish)London

"I have always thought kissing was the most intimate part of sex/love making, the closeness of our faces, the eye contact, breathing each other’s breath, tongues entwined, being held close, closing your eyes to savour the moment

Right who wants a snog

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Making love is intimate

Sex is just sex

Kissing for me is one of the things that distinguishes the two

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I’ve often thought that on fab, things are inverted and we see things upside down, often we see a person’s genitals before their face, discuss sex without even knowing their names and often view sex as a pleasurable pass time. In those conditions, an act like kissing can be the most intimate thing.

Do I see it as such? Not necessarily but I don’t see sex as the height of intimacy on here either.

It’s all a case of who you’re doing it with

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I think so. Like most things in life it's situational - I could give a tipsy kiss to someone I found attractive without thinking much beyond the fact it's something that gives me pleasure at that moment in time with someone who gives me pleasure. I suppose that's how some approach casual sex.

For me it would depend on my relationship with someone. The right kiss really is (as soppy as it may read) the brief meeting of two souls. Then again sex can feel that way as well. Hmmm. I'm going with neither and both are as intimate, it depends on you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Kissing can be intimate. It’s a strange thing for me (and maybe some others can relate.)

I can give a kiss or take a kiss. To share a kiss, that’s where it feels intimate. When you both want to enjoy each other, the longing to taste each other’s lips.

Otherwise one is just giving lip service, so to speak. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To the person who messaged me that watersport is way more intimate

I do get your point haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It just takes two bodies for sex. But it needs two souls to kiss. I think !...."

Oh ! I love that !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is a must for me, that deep breathing you all in, the feeling off wanting you inside me..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Interesting replies so far!

Even though I juxtaposed both actions, I wasn't implying that they are mutually separated from each other and can, of course, happen simultaneously to heighten the experience that sex can be.

IMO, as stated by many and by the striking quote from EssexLuv, kissing is a soul affair (given there is a connection) while sex can be both, a mechanical act to scratch an itch so to speak or a deeper meaning act.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

As I said earlier, it is a man's way of delivering testosterone into a woman to flick our switch.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I absolutely adore kissing, could spend hours doing it, however it depends on the situation as to whether I find it intimate or not, quick hook up then not at all I can happily not kiss, with someone I have a connection to then it's a definite act of intimacy as it just adds to the whole experience with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's someone meaningless and just a quick kiss and fuck then no.

I guess it depends on what you feel about the person you're with. I think with the right person, even just looking into their eyes in a moment you feel something for them could be more intimate than sex.

I'm not sure if that makes sense. But yes, I think kissing and other things can definitely be more intimate than sex in the right moment with the right person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Making love is intimate

Sex is just sex

FAF?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"It just takes two bodies for sex. But it needs two souls to kiss. I think !...."

This hit me in the feels.

I'm quite surprised at the comments on this thread actually, and in a good way.

Very often those who don't feel comfortable kissing on meets get spoken down to, or their feelings dismissed by flippant comments. I do hope those comment makers read this thread and it unlocks a little something in their minds to help them *get it*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only kiss people I find attractive and want to have sex with.

I wouldn’t just kiss and continue my day as if nothing has happened. I think that’s pointless

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By *ewey613Man
over a year ago

ottawa

"It just takes two bodies for sex. But it needs two souls to kiss. I think !....

This hit me in the feels.

I'm quite surprised at the comments on this thread actually, and in a good way.

Thanks for saying this. I do completely understand, and if a woman asked not to kiss but still wanted to have fun, her wish is my command.

I think my upbringing taught me that you ha e to kiss lots and lots before moving further or the female would think I thought she was a slut.

On the plus side, not kissing leaves much more room to use our mouths for telling each other how “good we feel” or other words and phrases

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it's someone meaningless and just a quick kiss and fuck then no.

I'm not sure if that makes sense. But yes, I think kissing and other things can definitely be more intimate than sex in the right moment with the right person."

Mr here(T has posted the last couple of comments!) I agree with this statement, any interaction can be intimate, with the right chemistry/situation. Kissing can just be hot and horny, as can sex. Intimacy is an emotional connection, not always related to physical contact. I don't think any one act is always one or the other, it's always down to the people involved.

Carry on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

^ this

We've agreed on this several times before.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

I think it’s different for couples (not all couples ) I’m not looking for a connection or intimacy or to look into someone else’s eyes I have all that and more from my husband .There are some things that we can’t physically do with just the 2 of us bi sex group sex etc so kissing isn’t really that much of a big deal to me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

^ this

We've agreed on this several times before."

We have

. I think we've also agreed that an ability to accept other people's preferences is an attractive trait

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"Drawing from the thread kissing and the way it was worded, I was curious to know what ppl's opinion on whether or not kissing is more intimate than sex ?

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it for me isn't about being more intimate. I had a traumatic experience where the kissing was the bit that caused me issues for all my life... so I am very careful with who I kiss as it can and has triggered very upsetting flashbacks for me. Where as sex and in particular more primal sex doesn't.

I've made love to very few people in my life. And stick to having fun my way via swinging

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

Kissing gets me going!

Sharing a kiss, that goes on and on, now that's very intimate in my book

Hopefully I'll be enjoying that when we're allowed to meet again.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

For me personally the biggest intimacy is hand holding. It can convey so much with such a simple gesture.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"For me personally the biggest intimacy is hand holding. It can convey so much with such a simple gesture. "

Yes, I was going to mention hand holding. Such a simple act but so meaningful.

I was sitting with my dad once (as an adult) and he said

"Hold my hand (then my name)"

It was the same as saying

"I love you"

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"For me personally the biggest intimacy is hand holding. It can convey so much with such a simple gesture.

Yes, I was going to mention hand holding. Such a simple act but so meaningful.

I was sitting with my dad once (as an adult) and he said

"Hold my hand (then my name)"

It was the same as saying

"I love you""

Exactly I only hold hands with those I love. And it is a non verbal way of saying I love you and I'm here for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It just takes two bodies for sex. But it needs two souls to kiss. I think !....

This hit me in the feels.

I'm quite surprised at the comments on this thread actually, and in a good way.

Very often those ...... I do hope those comment makers read this thread and it unlocks a little something in their minds to help them *get it*

Yeah totally true.

Some really don’t get to understand just by reading. But need to experience. Like we can’t swim just by reading. No?

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I can take or leave kissing. It's definitely not the mystical experience for me it seems to be for some of the people in this thread.

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By *elloWoman
over a year ago

alpha centauri

I'm not a big fan of kissing . Maybe a little kiss would be ok but passionate kissing on a meet is too intimate

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Drawing from the thread kissing and the way it was worded, I was curious to know what ppl's opinion on whether or not kissing is more intimate than sex ?

Not really. My tongue isn’t 8 inches long.

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By *irtyold manMan
over a year ago

barnsley

For me kissing is the most important thing .when i have sex i am hard and horny but when i kiss i am rock hard almost bursting and grow that all important extra inch

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