FabSwingers.com forum: Can I ask you something?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Who else gets those messages?

Why?

What's the point?

Oh gosh, now I'm asking questions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No you may not

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By *odgerMan
over a year ago

Coventry(ish)

"Who else gets those messages?

Why?

What's the point?

Oh gosh, now I'm asking questions

Not me...and never felt the need to ask it either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one today ... how funny

I just replied no ! Lol

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

Lol yes often. I say we'll you have already as me one question!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few and find them annoying so just ignore them

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire

"Who else gets those messages?

Why?

What's the point?

Oh gosh, now I'm asking questions

Yes I get those...I suppose it's so you'll reply a 'Go on then'....usually boring conversationalist..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's never a nice question in my experience. I don't reply now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me. Also the ones pretending you've met, then saying you may as well continue chatting

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Well my reply would be you can ask but will you get a answer, that's another question

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

so annoying messaging that

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By *odgerMan
over a year ago

Coventry(ish)

"Me. Also the ones pretending you've met, then saying you may as well continue chatting

Haha...do you not have a spreadsheet of who've you met to validate these claims?

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Bedford

Blimey. I don't even get those messages.

Maybe my inbox is broken.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me. Also the ones pretending you've met, then saying you may as well continue chatting

Haha...do you not have a spreadsheet of who've you met to validate these claims?

I think people remember who they have met

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By *odgerMan
over a year ago

Coventry(ish)

"Me. Also the ones pretending you've met, then saying you may as well continue chatting

Haha...do you not have a spreadsheet of who've you met to validate these claims?

I think people remember who they have met

They do...then they leave fab and rejoin and its a right bowl of confusion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me. Also the ones pretending you've met, then saying you may as well continue chatting

Haha...do you not have a spreadsheet of who've you met to validate these claims?

No and don't need to but the ones who follow this pretending method are always wrong/lying.

Don't mention my name, where we're supposed to have met, have any words on their profile or photos other than their ****.

I call them out on it if I can be bothered.

It makes me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the most off putting message I can receive... Nothing my me v cringe and want to cut off communication more... Just no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get them sometime I answered ok and the question is normally something that clearly answered on my profile.

Eyes roll and delete x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Glad I'm not the only one!

They should be filtered and stopped!!! They are preventing the proper messages getting through

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By *il sub princessWoman
over a year ago

Worcestershire

The eye rolls hurt from reading these weak desperate attempts for a reply

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

"The eye rolls hurt from reading these weak desperate attempts for a reply

Hate them

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Tonbridge

We've managed to avoid them somehow. We get "Hi hru?" messages and "Wanna meet?" messages but I don't think we've had one of these.

If we got one it would go straight in the bin like those other crap messages.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Oh please do, I'm quivering in anticipation, agog to see that the question you want answering is "how big are ur tits?".

Sigh.

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"Me. Also the ones pretending you've met, then saying you may as well continue chatting

Haha...do you not have a spreadsheet of who've you met to validate these claims?

I think people remember who they have met

Not always at first , sometimes people get in touch years later with a dodgy face pic or even without and I don’t always remember until they give me details like where did we meet .

There’s of course the ones that are chancers and trying their luck .

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

I don’t have an answer

just block

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By *anctionedSecretsCouple
over a year ago

S. Northants

"Can I ask you something?“

“you just did..."

"well, can I ask you something else"

"Again, you just did."

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

I just got " hi" earlier .

Erm no

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

Yeah I got one once. I replied with "you just did."

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Bedford

""Can I ask you something?“

“you just did..."

"well, can I ask you something else"

"Again, you just did."

Yeah, but no, but yeah, but..

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

""Can I ask you something?“

“you just did..."

"well, can I ask you something else"

"Again, you just did."

Yeah, but no, but yeah, but.. "

Must remember this

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Bedford

I got message a while ago that said "hello sexy".

It was obviously sent to the wrong person so i ignored it.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Bedford

""Can I ask you something?“

“you just did..."

"well, can I ask you something else"

"Again, you just did."

Yeah, but no, but yeah, but..

Must remember this

Or 'that'

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By *atience178Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

Get them a lot, they use it to get a reply. Like you’ll start to wonder what they were going to ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I get "hey" I'm just ignoring it,come on lady's be more creative lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got one ten mins ago

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics

Yes I get them too and and I don't get it at all!

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

"When I get "hey" I'm just ignoring it,come on lady's be more creative lol

Really

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Got one ten mins ago "

Probably the same person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I get "hey" I'm just ignoring it,come on lady's be more creative lol

Really

Yes my dear, I'm learning from you ladies

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics

I just got another one, I feel like copying this thread link and sending that as my answer

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

doncaster

Had a few messages like this. Usually once a year ish off the same account. And always gets ignored

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get them occasionally but just delete them and if they try again it's the block button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, I just ignore now, I used to reply to say no to be polite but they're looking for that hook to engage and don't need an argument as to why I don't answer their question!

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Yes if my filters are off, and they’re really irritating.

Depending on my mood I either ignore straight off

Or if I’m feeling really arsey I’ll reply with something like

You can, but just one. Oh shit, you already did, nevermind, better luck with the next person.

I’ll wait see if they reply out of interest then block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I get them a lot, they annoy the hell out of me! Just ask the bloody question already!

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By *odgerMan
over a year ago

Coventry(ish)

"Me. Also the ones pretending you've met, then saying you may as well continue chatting

Haha...do you not have a spreadsheet of who've you met to validate these claims?

No and don't need to but the ones who follow this pretending method are always wrong/lying.

Don't mention my name, where we're supposed to have met, have any words on their profile or photos other than their ****.

I call them out on it if I can be bothered.

It makes me

There was once a woman who I met that became a bit of a stalker so had to block. She came back on a different profile and in her first message she said 'Hi...we haven't met...'...immediately got me thinking and out came the block button.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I ask you something?

"No. Fuck Off"

They don't ask again and unfortunately I'm getting grumpy in my old age and I don't swear much and I'm not normally rude, but these stupid messages just wind me up.

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By *oson-BlueCouple
over a year ago

North Kent

"Yes you can, but only one and you've just asked it. Bye"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i don’t. I get other questions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

"Who else gets those messages?

Why?

What's the point?

Oh gosh, now I'm asking questions

All.. the... time

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

""Yes you can, but only one and you've just asked it. Bye""

Haha that’s what I say lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a socially accepted way to ease into something that might be a personally awkward question, what it really is, though is manipulative. By asking a non question, the asker is being passively defensive. They are defending themselves from potentially negative reactions to the real question by posing an easy lead in, if the answer is ‘no’ they’re not the one being impolite, after all asking if you can ask has to be polite?!

By getting a ‘yes’ to this polite lead in question, you are already predisposed to positively answer the following question because you’ve have already partially agreed to it.

(My one serious answer of the day).

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

Yes. I have done.

The first time I fell hook line n sinker and checked my messages to see what the fuff I had said to this person and when ......

Then ping ! A penny drop.

Fool me once.....

They just get deleted now.

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