FabSwingers.com forum: I've been musing about something..

By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

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I've been musing about this a lot lately so I have a question for you all ..

I'm not on about acquaintances but in terms of your real friends, when shit gets serious do you have friends of the same sex you turn to or do you find in your experience that members of the opposite sex seem to be more empathetic towards you and are the ones that are really there for you ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have 1 true friend. She's in the real world.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

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"I have 1 true friend. She's in the real world."

That's something though

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

My go to friend is male. I know he will listen and give me impartial advice and help if I need it.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It’s my wife. She’s female. I don’t have close male friends. They are more casual friends.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

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"My go to friend is male. I know he will listen and give me impartial advice and help if I need it."

That's awesome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been musing about this a lot lately so I have a question for you all ..

I’ve been thinking about this too!

I have one best friend who knows so much about me and he gets me totally.

So yes he’s male, I’d prefer to chat with him than any of my other female friends purely because he knows everything!

I have certain debate friends for certain issues if that makes sense... so one I’d go to about family issues, one I’d go to about kid issues etc etc

But Him, I’d go to him for anything x

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

On the whole it tends to be men that I turn to, as I've always had more and closer male friends than female.

How about you Fucknugget?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have both, all depends on what I'm struggling with, sometimes its female help n advice I need other times it male

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

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"It’s my wife. She’s female. I don’t have close male friends. They are more casual friends. "

Yep I get that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have close make friends to talk to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seem to be the 'go to' sensible friend

My other half is my go to

If he pisses me off, I call him to friends that aren't in our social circle

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I've been musing about this a lot lately so I have a question for you all ..

I’ve been thinking about this too!

I have one best friend who knows so much about me and he gets me totally.

So yes he’s male, I’d prefer to chat with him than any of my other female friends purely because he knows everything!

I have certain debate friends for certain issues if that makes sense... so one I’d go to about family issues, one I’d go to about kid issues etc etc

But Him, I’d go to him for anything x "

Awww that's awesome for ya , he sounds great xx

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I have a mixture of genders and different people for different things. Some people can handle me talking about a mental health crisis, others prefer to help with something more practical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a few really good female friends. I'd likely go to them for different things at certain points. However I know that we are always there for each other.

I have a few male friends too, one I could talk to about anything. The others it's not so easy as we have previously slept together

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"On the whole it tends to be men that I turn to, as I've always had more and closer male friends than female.

How about you Fucknugget?"

Yes I kinda guessed that you , you are lucky xx

I've always seemed to talk to the women i know about serious shit , i can honestly say theres only one guy who I'd feel comfortable with about serious stuff and I've only known him a few months xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I turn to my sister or my two closest female friends. I don't have very close male friends in real life.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I have both, all depends on what I'm struggling with, sometimes its female help n advice I need other times it male "

You're a lucky guy mate , I have (or had ) many male friends but when shit got serious I always found my female friends were really there for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My husband. Every time x

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Their gender doesn’t come into it, I talk to who I trust when needed.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

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"I have close make friends to talk to"

Yay that's excellent for ya

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I seem to be the 'go to' sensible friend

My other half is my go to

If he pisses me off, I call him to friends that aren't in our social circle

Fair point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have both, all depends on what I'm struggling with, sometimes its female help n advice I need other times it male "

Same for me. I feel very fortunate to have some really good friends in my life.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

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"I have a mixture of genders and different people for different things. Some people can handle me talking about a mental health crisis, others prefer to help with something more practical.

That's the way it should be yes

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

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"I have a few really good female friends. I'd likely go to them for different things at certain points. However I know that we are always there for each other.

I have a few male friends too, one I could talk to about anything. The others it's not so easy as we have previously slept together "

Sounds a good mix for you yay xx

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I turn to my sister or my two closest female friends. I don't have very close male friends in real life."

Aww that's a shame but you have people at least xx

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

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"My husband. Every time x"

Awww Yay xx

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

"I've been musing about this a lot lately so I have a question for you all ..

I seem to be the speed dial 1 for a few (mix of ladies and gentlemen).

Takes me a lot to feel the need to pick up the phone but peoples lines are engaged when I try to call (that would be a mix again of the sexes)

I don't have any friends that know everything (eg about Fab).

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

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"Their gender doesn’t come into it, I talk to who I trust when needed. "

Very valid point , its just never worked out like that for me .

It's great that you have

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

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"I have both, all depends on what I'm struggling with, sometimes its female help n advice I need other times it male

Same for me. I feel very fortunate to have some really good friends in my life. "

It's a wonderful feeling xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I turn to my sister or my two closest female friends. I don't have very close male friends in real life.

Aww that's a shame but you have people at least xx"

I have male friends, just not as close as the 2 female ones and my sister.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I've had one close guy friend since School.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I've been musing about this a lot lately so I have a question for you all ..

I seem to be the speed dial 1 for a few (mix of ladies and gentlemen).

Takes me a lot to feel the need to pick up the phone but peoples lines are engaged when I try to call (that would be a mix again of the sexes)

I don't have any friends that know everything (eg about Fab). "

Oh blimey . Do you think theres anybody in your friends you could tell ??

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I turn to my sister or my two closest female friends. I don't have very close male friends in real life.

Aww that's a shame but you have people at least xx

I have male friends, just not as close as the 2 female ones and my sister."

Yes exactly, I get that totally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My closest friends are male,i only had one good female friend but she sadly passed away in 2019 and theres not a day that i dont wish that she was here for everything.x

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

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"I don't think I've had one close guy friend since School."

Totally get that mate . It sucks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have 2 good friends that I can count on - one male one female

I'd say I can be more honest with my male friend and he has been there for me like a rock.

I love him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My husband. Every time x

Awww Yay xx "

if he didn’t understand and support my aspirations and fantasies, I wouldn’t be here chatting to you lovely lot x

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

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"I have 2 good friends that I can count on - one male one female

I'd say I can be more honest with my male friend and he has been there for me like a rock.

I love him

Awww that's so lovely Mary

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"My husband. Every time x

Awww Yay xx

if he didn’t understand and support my aspirations and fantasies, I wouldn’t be here chatting to you lovely lot x"

Yay . Our gain as well

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I don't turn to anyone.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"I don't turn to anyone. "

I deal with my own shit.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Bit of both. Different people provide different perspective, and gender is one facet of that.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

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"I don't turn to anyone.

I deal with my own shit."

If you can then that's ok too , I just find it's good to talk sometimes

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Realised mine were fair weather friends

Disappointed

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

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"Bit of both. Different people provide different perspective, and gender is one facet of that."

Yep . I totally get that Swingy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

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"Realised mine were fair weather friends

Disappointed"

So true . I know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have 3 people I'd call true friends, two male and one female.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

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"I have 3 people I'd call true friends, two male and one female. "

That's excellent, one of them will always be available

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have two truly best friends. One male, one female. I'd go to each of them for different types of advice I guess!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One proper true real life friend. A girlfriend, and I nearly lost her to covid. Glad to say she's back with us again!

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I have two truly best friends. One male, one female. I'd go to each of them for different types of advice I guess!"

Yep I get that completely xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My go to person is male, I trust him to be honest, truthful and impartial. I appreciate his view.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

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"One proper true real life friend. A girlfriend, and I nearly lost her to covid. Glad to say she's back with us again!"

That's friggin awesome . Much love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 male mates non scene my almost brothers

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

Gay best friend and 2 girlfriends that all give good advice

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"My go to person is male, I trust him to be honest, truthful and impartial. I appreciate his view. "

Us guys can be good at the impartiality yes

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

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"2 male mates non scene my almost brothers

Excellent dude

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

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"Gay best friend and 2 girlfriends that all give good advice "

That's another spin on this topic actually, do you always take advice if given to you by the friends you trust ?? xx

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I don't think I've had one close guy friend since School."
same here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gay best friend and 2 girlfriends that all give good advice

That's another spin on this topic actually, do you always take advice if given to you by the friends you trust ?? xx"

Only take advice from ppl, who i know think like me, have had similar experiences, who I know only want the best for me and those that challenge me n don't countersign my Bullshit

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

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"Gay best friend and 2 girlfriends that all give good advice

That's another spin on this topic actually, do you always take advice if given to you by the friends you trust ?? xx

Only take advice from ppl, who i know think like me, have had similar experiences, who I know only want the best for me and those that challenge me n don't countersign my Bullshit "

Yes those are your true friends

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Meh!!

Friends are overrated.as are people in general.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

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"Meh!!

Friends are overrated.as are people in general.

I'm sorry you feel that way . Maybe good friends are on their way soon , I didnt think I had any 6 months ago but I was surprised.

I hope things get better for you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been musing about this a lot lately so I have a question for you all ..

I don’t talk to anyone when shit goes down. I keep it all in but if I was to talk to anyone it would be friends that are women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gay best friend and 2 girlfriends that all give good advice

That's another spin on this topic actually, do you always take advice if given to you by the friends you trust ?? xx"

No, I always know best for myself lol

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By *rumpyMcFuckNugget OP Man
over a year ago

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"I've been musing about this a lot lately so I have a question for you all ..

I don’t talk to anyone when shit goes down. I keep it all in but if I was to talk to anyone it would be friends that are women. "

If that works for you then that's ok too xx

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