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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How many times have you typed out a thread and find yourself deleting because you can kind of guess what’s going to happen to it?

You were going to ask a sensible question and you know it will burn in flames or get railroaded by ridiculousness.

What subjects did you decide to send in the draft bin? ( If any)

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I tend to see something that irks me, then type a hasty response before thinking "what's the point?", deleting and wandering off for a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I do this all the time. Don’t know if it’s anxiety or a crippling sense of self-awareness.

Most PMs and forum replies I start don’t even get sent, simply because of a “what value am I adding?” mindset.

Fully aware that most people just spam their keyboards and smash send. I do enjoy reading the word salad most of the time, just don’t have the capacity to reply haha.

For what it’s worth, this is the second draft of this response; trying to stay active and remotely relevant...

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I used to but now I just write any old bollocks

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

At least once a day, I think what’s the point they’re too ignorant to understand a different viewpoint.

There’s some on here who you enjoy reading their responses to complex issues and actually learn something new. And others who just want to cause division and totally derail the conversation.

That’s why in general I spend more time on the amusing threads than the discussion ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Most PMs and forum replies I start don’t even get sent, simply because of a “what value am I adding?” mindset.

Fully aware that most people just spam their keyboards and smash send. I do enjoy reading the word salad most of the time, just don’t have the capacity to reply haha.

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Word salad. thank you for that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 12/03/21 15:28:25]"

Hahaha

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By *aughty_tonyMan
over a year ago

King's Lynn

I don't start many threads, but often write then delete when replying to some

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By *aughty_tonyMan
over a year ago

King's Lynn

Mainly as I'm bad at spelling and gramma lol

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"[bollocks removed by poster at 12/03/21 15:42:36]"

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"[Mr. Mystiques bollocks removed by poster at 12/03/21 15:42:36]"

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"[Mr. Mystiques bollocks removed by poster at 12/03/21 15:42:36]"

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most sensible questions get railroaded by ridiculousness. Which is something I don't like and have written many responsive to the railroaded only to delete them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never have! post threads I wanna post, if it gets derailed or shot down fuck it its only fab forum

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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Never. I don’t generally start threads. I do type and delete comments on threads though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Never have! post threads I wanna post, if it gets derailed or shot down fuck it its only fab forum "

Today’s threads are tomorrow’s..... yesterday threads??...I’ve got nothing.

But I admire that. Say what you need to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't not post because of the responses it might get. How people respond to a thread ( any post ) can reveal loads about them. Like :-

Their sense of humour.

Their motivations.

Their intelligence.

Their individuality.

Their understanding and fairness.

Their need for approval.

Who they feel threatened by.

Who they want to impress.

Who they're in a clique with.

Who they're at war with.

How shallow they think.

How deeply they feel.

Do they like to troll.

Do they like to positively or negatively contribute.

....and loads of other traits.

So OP, I hope you start posting whatever you wish. More often than not it's the threads that get ridiculed or hijacked that teach us the most about others.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Sometimes I consider starting a thread but then think better of it - I don't want people to feel I'm discussing them negatively (although thinking about them might have prompted that particular topic). Other times I don't have the energy to see a thread out - occasionally I have a more navel gazing sort of thread in mind but I think better of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many times have you typed out a thread and find yourself deleting it "

Not enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to but now I just write any old bollocks "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I start threads for that fleeting hit of dopamine, but that soon subsides, especially when people totally miss understand the thread or they don’t answer the question, or someone takes it to a place I’m not interested in and other people are like haha, brilliant I’m totally with you and I’m like okay I’m done with this thread, but at the same time you feel some responsibility, but then you’re distracted cause it’s all going off on another thread and I’m like quick get the others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I start threads for that fleeting hit of dopamine, but that soon subsides, especially when people totally miss understand the thread or they don’t answer the question, or someone takes it to a place I’m not interested in and other people are like haha, brilliant I’m totally with you and I’m like okay I’m done with this thread, but at the same time you feel some responsibility, but then you’re distracted cause it’s all going off on another thread and I’m like quick get the others. "

* misunderstand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I consider starting a thread but then think better of it - I don't want people to feel I'm discussing them negatively (although thinking about them might have prompted that particular topic). Other times I don't have the energy to see a thread out - occasionally I have a more navel gazing sort of thread in mind but I think better of it."

It seems to be Fab etiquette for an OP to keep responding throughout a thread. Maybe more people would start interesting threads if this expectation wasn't always there ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mostly do fluff threads these days, cba with the serious ones, life is serious enough x

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By *hrough the looking gla55Couple
over a year ago

Epsom

I’ve thought of plenty but they never even make it to draft

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Sometimes I consider starting a thread but then think better of it - I don't want people to feel I'm discussing them negatively (although thinking about them might have prompted that particular topic). Other times I don't have the energy to see a thread out - occasionally I have a more navel gazing sort of thread in mind but I think better of it.

It seems to be Fab etiquette for an OP to keep responding throughout a thread. Maybe more people would start interesting threads if this expectation wasn't always there ?"

I don't know if it's Fab etiquette nor if the expectation is always there... I interact with posters on the occasional threads I start because I like them/I find their comment amusing. It would be nice if more people started interesting threads but I'll give it a few months until restrictions are easing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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It seems to be Fab etiquette for an OP to keep responding throughout a thread. Maybe more people would start interesting threads if this expectation wasn't always there ?"

I thought you had to just answer those you fancy? I get the etiquette mixed up

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"

It seems to be Fab etiquette for an OP to keep responding throughout a thread. Maybe more people would start interesting threads if this expectation wasn't always there ?

I thought you had to just answer those you fancy? I get the etiquette mixed up "

I thought you were supposed to get your name on the thread more than anyone else........

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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I thought you were supposed to get your name on the thread more than anyone else........ "

It depends what thread.

Best tits/torso? Yes!

Pint or avoid? Not so much.

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