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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why oh why oh why is it so hard to find and make connections with people local to you???

Been on fab awhile now and have made loads of friends on the forums your all great and some very sexy people that I shear an attraction to yet they are all miles away from me. There seem to be a fair few people in the Plymouth area on fab yet it seems impossible to make any connection with them at all. I'm sure I'm not the only person that has this problem on fab but just wanted a little rant this moring about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What made you think it would be easy?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I avoid people local to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What made you think it would be easy?"
I never said it would be easy just amazed how difficult it is to make connections with local people when I've made some great friends on the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why oh why oh why is it so hard to find and make connections with people local to you???

Been on fab awhile now and have made loads of friends on the forums your all great and some very sexy people that I shear an attraction to yet they are all miles away from me. There seem to be a fair few people in the Plymouth area on fab yet it seems impossible to make any connection with them at all. I'm sure I'm not the only person that has this problem on fab but just wanted a little rant this moring about it "

Try Exeter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s Plymouth, i only go through there to get to Cornwall

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why oh why oh why is it so hard to find and make connections with people local to you???

Been on fab awhile now and have made loads of friends on the forums your all great and some very sexy people that I shear an attraction to yet they are all miles away from me. There seem to be a fair few people in the Plymouth area on fab yet it seems impossible to make any connection with them at all. I'm sure I'm not the only person that has this problem on fab but just wanted a little rant this moring about it

Try Exeter."
I have chatted to a couple of people in Exeter and that seemed to be a waste of time to be honest but when I say local I mean Plymouth and South East cornwall

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Being where you are is a hindrance because you have a smaller pool of people around you. On one side of you there are people (and then Dartmoor) , and on the other side you only have the sea. On top of that, not being near a big city, you are already in a low-population area. Then there are the issues of being a single man we all know about.

Unfortunately you have a perfect storm of issues working against you.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

It's Fab law

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!


"Why oh why oh why is it so hard to find and make connections with people local to you???

Been on fab awhile now and have made loads of friends on the forums your all great and some very sexy people that I shear an attraction to yet they are all miles away from me. There seem to be a fair few people in the Plymouth area on fab yet it seems impossible to make any connection with them at all. I'm sure I'm not the only person that has this problem on fab but just wanted a little rant this moring about it

Try Exeter."

I went there once no luck either!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why oh why oh why is it so hard to find and make connections with people local to you???

Been on fab awhile now and have made loads of friends on the forums your all great and some very sexy people that I shear an attraction to yet they are all miles away from me. There seem to be a fair few people in the Plymouth area on fab yet it seems impossible to make any connection with them at all. I'm sure I'm not the only person that has this problem on fab but just wanted a little rant this moring about it

Try Exeter.

I went there once no luck either!"

Oh blimey.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

You're right at the end of the country. People in the middle are surrounded by hot people and are literally fighting them off (not )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why oh why oh why is it so hard to find and make connections with people local to you???

Been on fab awhile now and have made loads of friends on the forums your all great and some very sexy people that I shear an attraction to yet they are all miles away from me. There seem to be a fair few people in the Plymouth area on fab yet it seems impossible to make any connection with them at all. I'm sure I'm not the only person that has this problem on fab but just wanted a little rant this moring about it

Try Exeter. I have chatted to a couple of people in Exeter and that seemed to be a waste of time to be honest but when I say local I mean Plymouth and South East cornwall"

If you relocate to Glasgow Bluebell won't meet you. But you might get more interest in Plymouth.

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By *umalotagainMan
over a year ago

a town called malice


"I avoid people local to me."

There is a god

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the distance is the reason. Establishing a rapport with someone local brings an expectation that meeting up may happen, however likely or not. If there’s some distance then that pressure is removed and people feel more comfortable about it. Obviously there will be exceptions.

Similar to how it’s easier to tell your problems to a stranger I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s Plymouth, i only go through there to get to Cornwall "

Get us a pasty.

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By *ustfulmusingCouple
over a year ago

ilpseich

It’s okay having people at a distance if you have longer periods of time without commitments .but l agree so much simpler to arrange meets if you only have an evening free if they are local.

Any clubs near you ?

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss


"I avoid people local to me."

Same. Don't want to be bumping into them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s okay having people at a distance if you have longer periods of time without commitments .but l agree so much simpler to arrange meets if you only have an evening free if they are local.

Any clubs near you ?"
I think there is a club in torquey but I've never been to one also a gay and bi club in Plymouth but that isn't my thing lol. Just seems easy to chat with formites yet local profiles are a no go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have chatted to a couple of people in Exeter and that seemed to be a waste of time to be honest but when I say local I mean Plymouth and South East cornwall"

This is just SO Exeter.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I think the distance is the reason. Establishing a rapport with someone local brings an expectation that meeting up may happen, however likely or not. If there’s some distance then that pressure is removed and people feel more comfortable about it. Obviously there will be exceptions.

Similar to how it’s easier to tell your problems to a stranger I suppose"

This is what I was gonna say (not word for word, there ain't a cunt in there)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t meet anyone to local

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seem to be having a similar issue although having a car and loving day trips has it's perks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Almost impossible... unfortunately...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I seem to be having a similar issue although having a car and loving day trips has it's perks "
day trip my way any time u like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seem to be having a similar issue although having a car and loving day trips has it's perks day trip my way any time u like "

Now THAT'S a day trip, 6 hours one way!

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By *areasRockinghorsepooWoman
over a year ago

my happy place


"I seem to be having a similar issue although having a car and loving day trips has it's perks day trip my way any time u like

Now THAT'S a day trip, 6 hours one way! "

We could go down together take it in turns

Seriously tho maybe look further out. I was seeing a guy from Devon but we made wknds of it. You may not want that tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with those who said it may be your location.

Me for example, being in Cambridge, not only am I surrounded by a city, but im an 80min train ride from London and a couple/3 hours from B'ham/Manchester/L'pool. I'm pretty lucky with where I am tbh.

You know you're always welcome though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I seem to be having a similar issue although having a car and loving day trips has it's perks day trip my way any time u like

Now THAT'S a day trip, 6 hours one way! "
good day though I bake cake

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I seem to be having a similar issue although having a car and loving day trips has it's perks day trip my way any time u like

Now THAT'S a day trip, 6 hours one way!

We could go down together take it in turns

Seriously tho maybe look further out. I was seeing a guy from Devon but we made wknds of it. You may not want that tho. "
I'm a single dad of 5 children so difficult to do weekends away offen x

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I’ll swap Sometimes a bit of piece and quiet is all I ask for from time to time

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

A few years back the only Ladies that came stop at mine were from from the South Coast, and I live in Derby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seem to be having a similar issue although having a car and loving day trips has it's perks day trip my way any time u like

Now THAT'S a day trip, 6 hours one way!

We could go down together take it in turns

Seriously tho maybe look further out. I was seeing a guy from Devon but we made wknds of it. You may not want that tho. "

That's a lovely offer. If I'm ever popping down south, you're welcome to hop in

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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There were social events happening in Plymouth pretty regularly before covid so I'm sure they will start up again eventually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s Plymouth, i only go through there to get to Cornwall "

You could be his friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We play hide and seek in Manchester. And we take it serious, because we are proper good at it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you think some/most fabbers prefer distance meets to avoid bumping into the said person in town when back in the real world.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Agree with location as I live in Cheshire, Liverpool and Manchester about an hour away. The coast for Blackpool is an hour and a half or even London is a possibility as a couple of hours from here.

So the solution is easy ...move to Cheshire

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

connecting online can be so distorted and masked with so many lies etc women are fed up with men's attitude as well

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"connecting online can be so distorted and masked with so many lies etc women are fed up with men's attitude as well"
yes I'm told many men are rather unpleasant on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Agree with location as I live in Cheshire, Liverpool and Manchester about an hour away. The coast for Blackpool is an hour and a half or even London is a possibility as a couple of hours from here.

So the solution is easy ...move to Cheshire "
u just want me close to you lol

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Agree with location as I live in Cheshire, Liverpool and Manchester about an hour away. The coast for Blackpool is an hour and a half or even London is a possibility as a couple of hours from here.

So the solution is easy ...move to Cheshire u just want me close to you lol"

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By *arbarianzCouple
over a year ago

BARNSTAPLE

Funnily enough, some of the people we've gotten on best with are simply too far away! its a shame really! xD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m pretty much in the middle of the country, and everyone I speak to on a regular basis is miles away.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I seem to have a minimum distance. And it's not close by

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

How longs a piece of string

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"How longs a piece of string "

Twice the distance from the middle to the end

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

That’s the beauty of being in the middle, you can go either way, if you know what I mean

If you aren’t able to travel far then yes I can see that would be a bit of a pisser

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