FabSwingers.com forum: Couple still looking

By *icola2202 OP Couple
over a year ago

Chatham

Hi everyone we are quite active in the forums but we’re still not getting any interest or many messages

Not sure if it’s us or our profile

Please if anyone has any input we would love to here it (no offence) taken

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hiya, you’ve a lovely profile. Just be patient, you’ll see there’s light at the end of tunnel. Peeps will be engaging with you sooner enough.

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By *icola2202 OP Couple
over a year ago

Chatham

"Hiya, you’ve a lovely profile. Just be patient, you’ll see there’s light at the end of tunnel. Peeps will be engaging with you sooner enough.

Thank you we appreciate you taking the time

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

Your profile looks fine. Maybe a few more pics of him as there are only. Maybe pics of the 2 of you too.

When clubs reopen get yourself there and enjoy the social and see what happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hiya, you’ve a lovely profile. Just be patient, you’ll see there’s light at the end of tunnel. Peeps will be engaging with you sooner enough.

Thank you we appreciate you taking the time "

Most welcome, stay hopeful. Is only a matter of time and before you know it, will be inundated with messages.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

Hi OP. I suspect that there's nothing particularly wrong with you or your profile, however you say that you're only looking for single women. MF looking for single F is nearly the hardest demographic on fab for getting to meet someone, even in normal (non-covid) times. Possibly the only more difficult is to be trans F looking for single F.

My advice would normally be to try going to clubs, where there is some chance of striking up a conversation with a single woman, or more likely, becoming generally known to other club goers and maybe leading to the sort of adventures you are hoping for.

At present though, no clubs are open, and meeting is just not happening. But possibly you could explore online the options and possibilities for when the virus is finally beaten and social life resumes?

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By *icola2202 OP Couple
over a year ago

Chatham

"Your profile looks fine. Maybe a few more pics of him as there are only. Maybe pics of the 2 of you too.

When clubs reopen get yourself there and enjoy the social and see what happens"

We have been thinking about going to clubs but we’re very new to all this and we don’t know what to expect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile looks fine. Maybe a few more pics of him as there are only. Maybe pics of the 2 of you too.

When clubs reopen get yourself there and enjoy the social and see what happens

We have been thinking about going to clubs but we’re very new to all this and we don’t know what to expect.

Expect absolutely nothing until COVID has passed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi everyone we are quite active in the forums but we’re still not getting any interest or many messages

Not sure if it’s us or our profile

Please if anyone has any input we would love to here it (no offence) taken "

Honestly think you’re profile is great, personally if distance wasn’t an issue I’d love to get to know you guys but :/, just a case of patience I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile looks fine. Maybe a few more pics of him as there are only. Maybe pics of the 2 of you too.

When clubs reopen get yourself there and enjoy the social and see what happens

We have been thinking about going to clubs but we’re very new to all this and we don’t know what to expect.

Go with an open mind (no expectations). Also, feel assured that the majority of clubs are very well managed - everyone there are simply to have a good time. There’s never any real pressure to play if you don’t want to. Read the reviews on clubs, attend when they reopen and make up your own mind. I’ve no doubt you’ll enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with the people in the photos

Just could be better photos.

Need a bit of juzshing up a bit .

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

The pandemic means nobody is meeting so a lot of people are just not making new connections until that's over.

Unfortunately many couples find it very difficult to find a single woman to join them. Since you are not looking for anything else, you need to manage your expectations and realise that it is likely not to be easy. Couples looking outnumber interested single women quite a lot.

My biggest advice is get to know people because you like them, regardless of whether they want to go to bed with you or not. If a woman feels you only want to know them because you have an agenda then in most cases she will not be interested. We know a lady who is very interested in us and things are likely to happen when they are allowed, but even if she wasn't interested in us sexually then we would still enjoy socialising with her as we have. I think she understands that and has a lot to do with why the next step is on the cards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your a couple wanting a single female, which is the hardest meet to get, add to that the inexperience and that might be putting some off, you have great profile but your wanting the rarest of finds, theres a reason single women for couples/women are called unicorns.. just be patient and youll get there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of people are not in the right mindset at the moment, and are not considering meets.

Your profile looks fine though.

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

Nothing wrong with your profile it's clear and as a single male it tells me that's not what you want so be patient

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others have said, every man (and woman) and their dog are keen to meet that elusive single female that will get jiggy with them - their slang name is “Unicorn” (a rarely seen mythical beast) for a reason.

You’re a good looking couple so I’m sure you’ll get there in time. Get to a club and I’m sure you would fill your boots

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If I was a woman looking to meet a couple I would be very wary if meeting you. Your profile is all about you with nothing about what any woman meeting you could expect.

Single women who want to meet couples are a rare thing, from what I read they generally don't want to be someone's experiment or fantasy fulfilment.

I'd suggest trying to make your profile appealing to the person you want to attract

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By *luebellRacerCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

The biggest barrier right now is covid. No one is making new connections just yet, we're all waiting for the gates to be unlocked to freedom. Many will have people they wanted to meet prior to lockdown and are waiting and building upon those connections. Being active in the forums will help to a degree, bit even they are quieter at the moment.

As some have said, pics of you both together makes the profile more authentic. The whole profile also reads as if the female has had all the input, as a couple, it's got to be a team.

Have patience, get to some clubs when they open.

Promise, female for couples is not impossible!

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

You have one veri from a Man, though your profile says not looking for single guys. When allowed, social events or clubs would help you get some veris and make your profile more attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only thing I would change is more focus on you being a couple,I always prefer couples that have pictures together.

To me more focus as a couple shows your both fully committed to it.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Clubs and organised socials.

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

As others have said really, nothing wrong with your profile. Maybe one or two more photos of Mr. Perhaps try opening up to couples with a bi female? Perhaps let people know what you can offer as a couple? Single females willing to play with couples aren't called unicorns for no reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As everyone has said, its a good profile, honest and your a nice couple.

It's a funny time at the moment, people are not meeting and find that they don't want to have long email chats before meeting, just hold with it, I'm sure you will get lots of messages soon.

Maybe think about meeting couples and men too instead of just women.

Good luck with it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good profile to be fair to you both ! A few more photo’s of your man maybe

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By *icola2202 OP Couple
over a year ago

Chatham

"If I was a woman looking to meet a couple I would be very wary if meeting you. Your profile is all about you with nothing about what any woman meeting you could expect.

Single women who want to meet couples are a rare thing, from what I read they generally don't want to be someone's experiment or fantasy fulfilment.

I'd suggest trying to make your profile appealing to the person you want to attract"
it’s cos we don’t care about looks or any of that we want to connect with someone via message first

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"If I was a woman looking to meet a couple I would be very wary if meeting you. Your profile is all about you with nothing about what any woman meeting you could expect.

Single women who want to meet couples are a rare thing, from what I read they generally don't want to be someone's experiment or fantasy fulfilment.

I'd suggest trying to make your profile appealing to the person you want to attractit’s cos we don’t care about looks or any of that we want to connect with someone via message first "

It's not working for you though. You do need to appeal to someone.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"If I was a woman looking to meet a couple I would be very wary if meeting you. Your profile is all about you with nothing about what any woman meeting you could expect.

Single women who want to meet couples are a rare thing, from what I read they generally don't want to be someone's experiment or fantasy fulfilment.

I'd suggest trying to make your profile appealing to the person you want to attractit’s cos we don’t care about looks or any of that we want to connect with someone via message first "

It's difficult to connect through message which is why people are saying go to events/clubs.

The people that are at these places are there because they welcome new chats and meeting new people. It's what they want.

Fab itself is a brilliant tool to keep up with what's going on in the world of swinging, but as for making connections it's quite pants. Why? Because people aren't always happy and jolly when they're online.

Because your first impression you're giving people is a profile, not a smile and twinkle of the eye.

A website doesn't convey tone or body language, we can't see how you act around each other, we can't see you giving each other cheeky grins and all those other things that make people consider meeting or even chatting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile seems ok but your pics are pretty dull. “This is my back”. “This is my front”. Pics of him seem unrelated.

Try to inject some personality into your pics. You’re a couple, personally, I like to see couples together in a pic. I love to see the connection between them.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

I don’t think there’s anything particularly wrong with your profile, and if you’re happy that it represents you and what you’re looking for accurately, then there’s no need to change it. If it’s accurate, then changing it to appeal to the people that it doesn’t appeal to now would be dishonest. Personally, it doesn’t appeal to me for a few reasons, but I don’t speak for every woman on the site. Someone will be interested, I’m sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi everyone we are quite active in the forums but we’re still not getting any interest or many messages

Not sure if it’s us or our profile

Please if anyone has any input we would love to here it (no offence) taken "

You seem lovely, sure good things will come

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