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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry, it's a respectful grumble thread to women. I understand you get a swamp of mail, some from men you have no interest in and cock pic overload. However, it is becoming irritating to see women list as bi and their profile supports that. If a male tries to wink, or message, you can't because your sex is filtered.

Of course, 'their argument is, 'they' can contact 'you' if they view your page and like it. That's not going to let people who like you do likewise and by blocking contact for fear of lazy, crass messages and obscenities. You might miss the gold in the mud?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

... sure. And they might not want to deal with the mud. Them's the breaks.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post."

I think he's annoyed because women turn the single guys filter on... I'm not sure what being bi has to do with it though.

My filters are currently on for everyone, I'm equal opportunity irritating

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post."

By having filters on stopping lots of men mailing, the women run the risk of missing a little gold nugget.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry, it's a respectful grumble thread to women. I understand you get a swamp of mail, some from men you have no interest in and cock pic overload. However, it is becoming irritating to see women list as bi and their profile supports that. If a male tries to wink, or message, you can't because your sex is filtered.

Of course, 'their argument is, 'they' can contact 'you' if they view your page and like it. That's not going to let people who like you do likewise and by blocking contact for fear of lazy, crass messages and obscenities. You might miss the gold in the mud?"

I guess people can do what they want and run their page as they wish

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Sorry, it's a respectful grumble thread to women. I understand you get a swamp of mail, some from men you have no interest in and cock pic overload. However, it is becoming irritating to see women list as bi and their profile supports that. If a male tries to wink, or message, you can't because your sex is filtered.

Of course, 'their argument is, 'they' can contact 'you' if they view your page and like it. That's not going to let people who like you do likewise and by blocking contact for fear of lazy, crass messages and obscenities. You might miss the gold in the mud?"

Ah well. I'm sure they'll get over it.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

Some people they just can't accept other people choices .

OP are you bothered with bi man also ?

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By *oreno0969Man
over a year ago

Rugby

You'll find it's not because of the amount but the blatant, outrageous and darn right horrible abuse woman get from 99% of men in messages on here. I have had friends show me some of these messages I for one would tell any woman who joined Fab to turn those filters straight on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If only there was a way where you could do a profile gender swap with someone. Maybe men and women would ‘be easier’ on each other?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post.

By having filters on stopping lots of men mailing, the women run the risk of missing a little gold nugget."

yes. Nothing lands in anyone's lap on fab. You have to put the effort in. If a women filters men from contacting due to being tired of the sheer volume due to a grossly uneven m2f ratio, they may miss a contact from a man they do find interesting but otherwise not discovered.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post."

No, that they list in having an interest to engage with males, but block any approach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post.

By having filters on stopping lots of men mailing, the women run the risk of missing a little gold nugget.

yes. Nothing lands in anyone's lap on fab. You have to put the effort in. If a women filters men from contacting due to being tired of the sheer volume due to a grossly uneven m2f ratio, they may miss a contact from a man they do find interesting but otherwise not discovered."

But nothing stopping people searching themselves tho?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" yes. Nothing lands in anyone's lap on fab. You have to put the effort in. If a women filters men from contacting due to being tired of the sheer volume due to a grossly uneven m2f ratio, they may miss a contact from a man they do find interesting but otherwise not discovered."

Kiss all the frogs until one finds their prince??

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post.

No, that they list in having an interest to engage with males, but block any approach. "

They'll approach themselves or change their filters at another time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post.

By having filters on stopping lots of men mailing, the women run the risk of missing a little gold nugget.

yes. Nothing lands in anyone's lap on fab. You have to put the effort in. If a women filters men from contacting due to being tired of the sheer volume due to a grossly uneven m2f ratio, they may miss a contact from a man they do find interesting but otherwise not discovered."

Should we really worry about what we perceive as missing out and others might as calculated risk?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post.

By having filters on stopping lots of men mailing, the women run the risk of missing a little gold nugget.

yes. Nothing lands in anyone's lap on fab. You have to put the effort in. If a women filters men from contacting due to being tired of the sheer volume due to a grossly uneven m2f ratio, they may miss a contact from a man they do find interesting but otherwise not discovered."

I missed a bus on more than one occasion coz I didn't manage my time too well.

Shit happens

If by filtering out the 499 entitled creepoids it means they miss 1 that may interest them, I can't even say it's unfortunate, because truthfully there are times when the contents of your inbox have you lose faith in humanity, make you feel like a worthless piece of shit, and shows you that actually, you're nothing more than a penis parking spot.

It can be really bad for mental health!

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post.

No, that they list in having an interest to engage with males, but block any approach. "

Because they can. Your opinion that you may be the one that got away is just that, your opinion.

It may suck for you, but thems the breaks. I am sure if there was a “nice guy” filter, that too would be full of dross in no time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought this was going to be an informative thread about trans men.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm sure I've missed out on several nice people in the nearly year I've had my filters set to "pandemic: no".

But for every nice person I'm sure I've also missed plenty of others who I'm glad to have dodged.

It's my choice, and I feel I've lost nothing: in fact I've gained not having to trawl through inanity.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I thought this was going to be an informative thread about trans men. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You'll find it's not because of the amount but the blatant, outrageous and darn right horrible abuse woman get from 99% of men in messages on here. I have had friends show me some of these messages I for one would tell any woman who joined Fab to turn those filters straight on. "

I think your insight is the reason for it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" yes. Nothing lands in anyone's lap on fab. You have to put the effort in. If a women filters men from contacting due to being tired of the sheer volume due to a grossly uneven m2f ratio, they may miss a contact from a man they do find interesting but otherwise not discovered.

Kiss all the frogs until one finds their prince??"

Don't need to kiss all the frogs. Suss out the likely Prince with converse.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post.

No, that they list in having an interest to engage with males, but block any approach.

They'll approach themselves or change their filters at another time."

We can all utilise fab to our wishes. I have and never will be smutty or crude in messaging women. Its a shame so many men are, causing the women to activate filters. Any message they would have gotten from myself, would be sincere.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Preferences are where it's at. What people want, and with who, whether it's sexually or just via messaging contact, are far each of us to dictate the rules.

Those excluded may cry that this is unfair but humans typically learn that we can't have everything the way we demand it to be, when it involves other people. Normally learned by primary school age, it's always something that we can catch up with grasping, even if we are older.

If someone struggles to get the right people making contact with them, or wanting them to message but can't, then the onus rests on them to make changes to their approach, or decisions about themselves and their future. We'll not reasonably expect the world to change for us.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post.

No, that they list in having an interest to engage with males, but block any approach.

They'll approach themselves or change their filters at another time.

We can all utilise fab to our wishes. I have and never will be smutty or crude in messaging women. Its a shame so many men are, causing the women to activate filters. Any message they would have gotten from myself, would be sincere."

Unless you are a single female on here, you will never fully understand why we choose to filter.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post.

By having filters on stopping lots of men mailing, the women run the risk of missing a little gold nugget.

yes. Nothing lands in anyone's lap on fab. You have to put the effort in. If a women filters men from contacting due to being tired of the sheer volume due to a grossly uneven m2f ratio, they may miss a contact from a man they do find interesting but otherwise not discovered.

I missed a bus on more than one occasion coz I didn't manage my time too well.

Shit happens

If by filtering out the 499 entitled creepoids it means they miss 1 that may interest them, I can't even say it's unfortunate, because truthfully there are times when the contents of your inbox have you lose faith in humanity, make you feel like a worthless piece of shit, and shows you that actually, you're nothing more than a penis parking spot.

It can be really bad for mental health!

"

Yet, you're and other women's accounts here remain active. Of course there are nasty men who message women with disgusting and disrespectful messages and I'm sorry you have. Filters prevent pleasent messages being seen and make it frustrating for men that do.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post.

By having filters on stopping lots of men mailing, the women run the risk of missing a little gold nugget.

yes. Nothing lands in anyone's lap on fab. You have to put the effort in. If a women filters men from contacting due to being tired of the sheer volume due to a grossly uneven m2f ratio, they may miss a contact from a man they do find interesting but otherwise not discovered.

I missed a bus on more than one occasion coz I didn't manage my time too well.

Shit happens

If by filtering out the 499 entitled creepoids it means they miss 1 that may interest them, I can't even say it's unfortunate, because truthfully there are times when the contents of your inbox have you lose faith in humanity, make you feel like a worthless piece of shit, and shows you that actually, you're nothing more than a penis parking spot.

It can be really bad for mental health!

Yet, you're and other women's accounts here remain active. Of course there are nasty men who message women with disgusting and disrespectful messages and I'm sorry you have. Filters prevent pleasent messages being seen and make it frustrating for men that do."

Are you arguing that women shouldn't be allowed to use their filters?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some people they just can't accept other people choices .

OP are you bothered with bi man also ? "

Sorry this is belated, was reading and answering others. This has nothing to do with bi /gender. Its simply stating a personal gripe that I can't introduce myself to women I like the profiles of, due to then filtering men, as a result of receiving filthy/nasty messages before. Likely resulting from the amount of males on here compared to women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes you might miss the gems but the sheer volume of messages means you can miss the gems anyway.... Because you end up sifting through the messages and profiles which the majority of the time are not that informative at all about the sender.

I'd rather block males than delete 50 messages a day where all I got from the message and profile is that they are after sex and have a penis.

Rather than being positive about the potential of a great guy being in your inbox you end up feeling despondent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people they just can't accept other people choices .

OP are you bothered with bi man also ?

Sorry this is belated, was reading and answering others. This has nothing to do with bi /gender. Its simply stating a personal gripe that I can't introduce myself to women I like the profiles of, due to then filtering men, as a result of receiving filthy/nasty messages before. Likely resulting from the amount of males on here compared to women. "

I tottaly agree. I too find i cant introduce myself to women i like because of this.

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By *konCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

99.9 percent of men on here message politely and nicely and are cheerful when rejected ( nicely ) . We’re still not compatible with 99.9 percent of men though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post.

By having filters on stopping lots of men mailing, the women run the risk of missing a little gold nugget.

yes. Nothing lands in anyone's lap on fab. You have to put the effort in. If a women filters men from contacting due to being tired of the sheer volume due to a grossly uneven m2f ratio, they may miss a contact from a man they do find interesting but otherwise not discovered.

I missed a bus on more than one occasion coz I didn't manage my time too well.

Shit happens

If by filtering out the 499 entitled creepoids it means they miss 1 that may interest them, I can't even say it's unfortunate, because truthfully there are times when the contents of your inbox have you lose faith in humanity, make you feel like a worthless piece of shit, and shows you that actually, you're nothing more than a penis parking spot.

It can be really bad for mental health!

Yet, you're and other women's accounts here remain active. Of course there are nasty men who message women with disgusting and disrespectful messages and I'm sorry you have. Filters prevent pleasent messages being seen and make it frustrating for men that do.

Are you arguing that women shouldn't be allowed to use their filters? "

No. My post title is questioning the uneven gender ratio that results in women receiving huge volumes of mail, much of which is vile. Yes, women, men, transgender all have the choice of using filters. My point is only that messages of potential interest, can never be sent.

If a person receives horrid mail they can block/report. If they filter (based on who they state they're interested in) they could miss a person who is compatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people they just can't accept other people choices .

OP are you bothered with bi man also ?

Sorry this is belated, was reading and answering others. This has nothing to do with bi /gender. Its simply stating a personal gripe that I can't introduce myself to women I like the profiles of, due to then filtering men, as a result of receiving filthy/nasty messages before. Likely resulting from the amount of males on here compared to women.

I tottaly agree. I too find i cant introduce myself to women i like because of this."

I mean it could also just be the case that a lot of women on here aren’t looking for single men in particular... I dunno if it’s something to get worked up about cause at the end of the day nothing we can do about it... just gotta roll with the punches in life haha

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post.

By having filters on stopping lots of men mailing, the women run the risk of missing a little gold nugget.

yes. Nothing lands in anyone's lap on fab. You have to put the effort in. If a women filters men from contacting due to being tired of the sheer volume due to a grossly uneven m2f ratio, they may miss a contact from a man they do find interesting but otherwise not discovered.

I missed a bus on more than one occasion coz I didn't manage my time too well.

Shit happens

If by filtering out the 499 entitled creepoids it means they miss 1 that may interest them, I can't even say it's unfortunate, because truthfully there are times when the contents of your inbox have you lose faith in humanity, make you feel like a worthless piece of shit, and shows you that actually, you're nothing more than a penis parking spot.

It can be really bad for mental health!

Yet, you're and other women's accounts here remain active. Of course there are nasty men who message women with disgusting and disrespectful messages and I'm sorry you have. Filters prevent pleasent messages being seen and make it frustrating for men that do."

I'm here for the forums, that's why I have an active account.

I make it quite clear if people message me chances are I won't read it. Yet they still do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post.

By having filters on stopping lots of men mailing, the women run the risk of missing a little gold nugget.

yes. Nothing lands in anyone's lap on fab. You have to put the effort in. If a women filters men from contacting due to being tired of the sheer volume due to a grossly uneven m2f ratio, they may miss a contact from a man they do find interesting but otherwise not discovered.

Should we really worry about what we perceive as missing out and others might as calculated risk? "

No, nobody should ever feel at risk, but don't list as interested in men, but prevent them engaging with you. It prevents me sending a female I enjoyed the profile of, an enquiring initial hello.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post.

By having filters on stopping lots of men mailing, the women run the risk of missing a little gold nugget.

yes. Nothing lands in anyone's lap on fab. You have to put the effort in. If a women filters men from contacting due to being tired of the sheer volume due to a grossly uneven m2f ratio, they may miss a contact from a man they do find interesting but otherwise not discovered.

I missed a bus on more than one occasion coz I didn't manage my time too well.

Shit happens

If by filtering out the 499 entitled creepoids it means they miss 1 that may interest them, I can't even say it's unfortunate, because truthfully there are times when the contents of your inbox have you lose faith in humanity, make you feel like a worthless piece of shit, and shows you that actually, you're nothing more than a penis parking spot.

It can be really bad for mental health!

Yet, you're and other women's accounts here remain active. Of course there are nasty men who message women with disgusting and disrespectful messages and I'm sorry you have. Filters prevent pleasent messages being seen and make it frustrating for men that do.

I'm here for the forums, that's why I have an active account.

I make it quite clear if people message me chances are I won't read it. Yet they still do.

"

Offering your bum if anyone’s desperate on the forums tends to trigger messages

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post.

By having filters on stopping lots of men mailing, the women run the risk of missing a little gold nugget.

yes. Nothing lands in anyone's lap on fab. You have to put the effort in. If a women filters men from contacting due to being tired of the sheer volume due to a grossly uneven m2f ratio, they may miss a contact from a man they do find interesting but otherwise not discovered.

Should we really worry about what we perceive as missing out and others might as calculated risk?

No, nobody should ever feel at risk, but don't list as interested in men, but prevent them engaging with you. It prevents me sending a female I enjoyed the profile of, an enquiring initial hello.

"

Or maybe accept "this person doesn't want initial contacts from people of my sex".

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post.

By having filters on stopping lots of men mailing, the women run the risk of missing a little gold nugget.

yes. Nothing lands in anyone's lap on fab. You have to put the effort in. If a women filters men from contacting due to being tired of the sheer volume due to a grossly uneven m2f ratio, they may miss a contact from a man they do find interesting but otherwise not discovered.

Should we really worry about what we perceive as missing out and others might as calculated risk?

No, nobody should ever feel at risk, but don't list as interested in men, but prevent them engaging with you. It prevents me sending a female I enjoyed the profile of, an enquiring initial hello.

"

For all you know they could have just had a family death and have blocked all messages from everyone coz they're using this to escape. Last thing they want is a message asking how they are, what they're up to and how are they finding fab.

There's a bigger picture.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"Some people they just can't accept other people choices .

OP are you bothered with bi man also ?

Sorry this is belated, was reading and answering others. This has nothing to do with bi /gender. Its simply stating a personal gripe that I can't introduce myself to women I like the profiles of, due to then filtering men, as a result of receiving filthy/nasty messages before. Likely resulting from the amount of males on here compared to women.

I tottaly agree. I too find i cant introduce myself to women i like because of this.

I mean it could also just be the case that a lot of women on here aren’t looking for single men in particular... I dunno if it’s something to get worked up about cause at the end of the day nothing we can do about it... just gotta roll with the punches in life haha"

Or what you could do and hear me out on this as its a little left field for most to grasp.

Stand the fuck out on the forums and maybe instead of making threads like this you'll get a little box turn yellow at the top of your phone screen that says you've caught some wonderful womans eye with your wit and charm on the forum so they've taken the time to read your sparkling and well written profile and found themselves interested enough in you to message you and ask you for a dick pic.

Before you know it you'll be inundated with clunge pics and be fighting them off with a big stick.

Stranger things have happened and usually it's when you stop complaining that other men dare be on fab when you are on here and make original and thoughtful threads instead....

Either that or go out and buy women's clothes and a wig

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post.

By having filters on stopping lots of men mailing, the women run the risk of missing a little gold nugget.

yes. Nothing lands in anyone's lap on fab. You have to put the effort in. If a women filters men from contacting due to being tired of the sheer volume due to a grossly uneven m2f ratio, they may miss a contact from a man they do find interesting but otherwise not discovered.

I missed a bus on more than one occasion coz I didn't manage my time too well.

Shit happens

If by filtering out the 499 entitled creepoids it means they miss 1 that may interest them, I can't even say it's unfortunate, because truthfully there are times when the contents of your inbox have you lose faith in humanity, make you feel like a worthless piece of shit, and shows you that actually, you're nothing more than a penis parking spot.

It can be really bad for mental health!

Yet, you're and other women's accounts here remain active. Of course there are nasty men who message women with disgusting and disrespectful messages and I'm sorry you have. Filters prevent pleasent messages being seen and make it frustrating for men that do.

I'm here for the forums, that's why I have an active account.

I make it quite clear if people message me chances are I won't read it. Yet they still do.

Offering your bum if anyone’s desperate on the forums tends to trigger messages "

they'd be well disappointed if they did get the chance to go there.

"Ewww love, I wanted to stick my cock in it, not be presented with a bunch of grapes!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post.

By having filters on stopping lots of men mailing, the women run the risk of missing a little gold nugget.

yes. Nothing lands in anyone's lap on fab. You have to put the effort in. If a women filters men from contacting due to being tired of the sheer volume due to a grossly uneven m2f ratio, they may miss a contact from a man they do find interesting but otherwise not discovered.

Should we really worry about what we perceive as missing out and others might as calculated risk?

No, nobody should ever feel at risk, but don't list as interested in men, but prevent them engaging with you. It prevents me sending a female I enjoyed the profile of, an enquiring initial hello.

"

Nah. I meant calculated risk of losing whisking out someone possibly amazing from your inbox for the advantage of holding onto power of choice. Total control.

Yep. Sounds like an empowering road to me. Not one I chose but I admire those who are able to take that step. I dont see it as unfair.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post.

By having filters on stopping lots of men mailing, the women run the risk of missing a little gold nugget.

yes. Nothing lands in anyone's lap on fab. You have to put the effort in. If a women filters men from contacting due to being tired of the sheer volume due to a grossly uneven m2f ratio, they may miss a contact from a man they do find interesting but otherwise not discovered.

I missed a bus on more than one occasion coz I didn't manage my time too well.

Shit happens

If by filtering out the 499 entitled creepoids it means they miss 1 that may interest them, I can't even say it's unfortunate, because truthfully there are times when the contents of your inbox have you lose faith in humanity, make you feel like a worthless piece of shit, and shows you that actually, you're nothing more than a penis parking spot.

It can be really bad for mental health!

Yet, you're and other women's accounts here remain active. Of course there are nasty men who message women with disgusting and disrespectful messages and I'm sorry you have. Filters prevent pleasent messages being seen and make it frustrating for men that do.

I'm here for the forums, that's why I have an active account.

I make it quite clear if people message me chances are I won't read it. Yet they still do.

"

Qudos, yes you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people they just can't accept other people choices .

OP are you bothered with bi man also ?

Sorry this is belated, was reading and answering others. This has nothing to do with bi /gender. Its simply stating a personal gripe that I can't introduce myself to women I like the profiles of, due to then filtering men, as a result of receiving filthy/nasty messages before. Likely resulting from the amount of males on here compared to women.

I tottaly agree. I too find i cant introduce myself to women i like because of this.

I mean it could also just be the case that a lot of women on here aren’t looking for single men in particular... I dunno if it’s something to get worked up about cause at the end of the day nothing we can do about it... just gotta roll with the punches in life haha

Or what you could do and hear me out on this as its a little left field for most to grasp.

Stand the fuck out on the forums and maybe instead of making threads like this you'll get a little box turn yellow at the top of your phone screen that says you've caught some wonderful womans eye with your wit and charm on the forum so they've taken the time to read your sparkling and well written profile and found themselves interested enough in you to message you and ask you for a dick pic.

Before you know it you'll be inundated with clunge pics and be fighting them off with a big stick.

Stranger things have happened and usually it's when you stop complaining that other men dare be on fab when you are on here and make original and thoughtful threads instead....

Either that or go out and buy women's clothes and a wig "

Or this Ofcourse is a good suggestion haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post.

By having filters on stopping lots of men mailing, the women run the risk of missing a little gold nugget.

yes. Nothing lands in anyone's lap on fab. You have to put the effort in. If a women filters men from contacting due to being tired of the sheer volume due to a grossly uneven m2f ratio, they may miss a contact from a man they do find interesting but otherwise not discovered.

I missed a bus on more than one occasion coz I didn't manage my time too well.

Shit happens

If by filtering out the 499 entitled creepoids it means they miss 1 that may interest them, I can't even say it's unfortunate, because truthfully there are times when the contents of your inbox have you lose faith in humanity, make you feel like a worthless piece of shit, and shows you that actually, you're nothing more than a penis parking spot.

It can be really bad for mental health!

Yet, you're and other women's accounts here remain active. Of course there are nasty men who message women with disgusting and disrespectful messages and I'm sorry you have. Filters prevent pleasent messages being seen and make it frustrating for men that do.

I'm here for the forums, that's why I have an active account.

I make it quite clear if people message me chances are I won't read it. Yet they still do.

Offering your bum if anyone’s desperate on the forums tends to trigger messages

they'd be well disappointed if they did get the chance to go there.

"Ewww love, I wanted to stick my cock in it, not be presented with a bunch of grapes!""

Did they not get ripped out by the foxtail butt plug?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post.

By having filters on stopping lots of men mailing, the women run the risk of missing a little gold nugget.

yes. Nothing lands in anyone's lap on fab. You have to put the effort in. If a women filters men from contacting due to being tired of the sheer volume due to a grossly uneven m2f ratio, they may miss a contact from a man they do find interesting but otherwise not discovered.

I missed a bus on more than one occasion coz I didn't manage my time too well.

Shit happens

If by filtering out the 499 entitled creepoids it means they miss 1 that may interest them, I can't even say it's unfortunate, because truthfully there are times when the contents of your inbox have you lose faith in humanity, make you feel like a worthless piece of shit, and shows you that actually, you're nothing more than a penis parking spot.

It can be really bad for mental health!

Yet, you're and other women's accounts here remain active. Of course there are nasty men who message women with disgusting and disrespectful messages and I'm sorry you have. Filters prevent pleasent messages being seen and make it frustrating for men that do.

I'm here for the forums, that's why I have an active account.

I make it quite clear if people message me chances are I won't read it. Yet they still do.

Offering your bum if anyone’s desperate on the forums tends to trigger messages

they'd be well disappointed if they did get the chance to go there.

"Ewww love, I wanted to stick my cock in it, not be presented with a bunch of grapes!"

Did they not get ripped out by the foxtail butt plug? "

Unfortunately not. Took a shotgun to the balloon knot and zero unexpected reward ;'(

Just rolled around clenching

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry, it's a respectful grumble thread to women. I understand you get a swamp of mail, some from men you have no interest in and cock pic overload. However, it is becoming irritating to see women list as bi and their profile supports that. If a male tries to wink, or message, you can't because your sex is filtered.

Of course, 'their argument is, 'they' can contact 'you' if they view your page and like it. That's not going to let people who like you do likewise and by blocking contact for fear of lazy, crass messages and obscenities. You might miss the gold in the mud?"

Women can filter who they like when they like, can even search n message if they like what they see, looking for that " nugget of gold", if I was a women on fab I'd filter single men as well, as the majority not all do nit have the emotional intelligence to deal with the rejection, then the abuse flows, no one derverses abuse lijecwomen receive on here, cuz they politely say no not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post.

By having filters on stopping lots of men mailing, the women run the risk of missing a little gold nugget.

yes. Nothing lands in anyone's lap on fab. You have to put the effort in. If a women filters men from contacting due to being tired of the sheer volume due to a grossly uneven m2f ratio, they may miss a contact from a man they do find interesting but otherwise not discovered.

I missed a bus on more than one occasion coz I didn't manage my time too well.

Shit happens

If by filtering out the 499 entitled creepoids it means they miss 1 that may interest them, I can't even say it's unfortunate, because truthfully there are times when the contents of your inbox have you lose faith in humanity, make you feel like a worthless piece of shit, and shows you that actually, you're nothing more than a penis parking spot.

It can be really bad for mental health!

Yet, you're and other women's accounts here remain active. Of course there are nasty men who message women with disgusting and disrespectful messages and I'm sorry you have. Filters prevent pleasent messages being seen and make it frustrating for men that do.

I'm here for the forums, that's why I have an active account.

I make it quite clear if people message me chances are I won't read it. Yet they still do.

Offering your bum if anyone’s desperate on the forums tends to trigger messages

they'd be well disappointed if they did get the chance to go there.

"Ewww love, I wanted to stick my cock in it, not be presented with a bunch of grapes!"

Did they not get ripped out by the foxtail butt plug?

Unfortunately not. Took a shotgun to the balloon knot and zero unexpected reward ;'(

Just rolled around clenching "

We’ve all done it...... haven’t we?

Made me laugh xx

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

OP, my experience is that after several years of making respectful and interesting comments on forum threads, and originating threads that interest others, I have slowly got to know other people. Some men, some women, some trans. Every few months I might end up exchanging posts with specific individuals and we find we have similar interests. This might or might not lead to lowering filters and exchanging direct messages. Then after a period of getting to know each other, there might or might not be a social get together in person (pre/post covid obviously). Which might or might not ultimately lead to some form of closer personal activity.

Of course, it's hardly an insta-shag way of going about things. But it does mean that if somebody opens a message from me, they will do it because they expect it to contain something they will want to read (rather than something that might make them want to scrub their brain with bleach...).

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some people they just can't accept other people choices .

OP are you bothered with bi man also ?

Sorry this is belated, was reading and answering others. This has nothing to do with bi /gender. Its simply stating a personal gripe that I can't introduce myself to women I like the profiles of, due to then filtering men, as a result of receiving filthy/nasty messages before. Likely resulting from the amount of males on here compared to women.

I tottaly agree. I too find i cant introduce myself to women i like because of this.

I mean it could also just be the case that a lot of women on here aren’t looking for single men in particular... I dunno if it’s something to get worked up about cause at the end of the day nothing we can do about it... just gotta roll with the punches in life haha

Or what you could do and hear me out on this as its a little left field for most to grasp.

Stand the fuck out on the forums and maybe instead of making threads like this you'll get a little box turn yellow at the top of your phone screen that says you've caught some wonderful womans eye with your wit and charm on the forum so they've taken the time to read your sparkling and well written profile and found themselves interested enough in you to message you and ask you for a dick pic.

Before you know it you'll be inundated with clunge pics and be fighting them off with a big stick.

Stranger things have happened and usually it's when you stop complaining that other men dare be on fab when you are on here and make original and thoughtful threads instead....

Either that or go out and buy women's clothes and a wig

Or this Ofcourse is a good suggestion haha"

And it works too. Your advice is already my approach and why I've got a lovely friends list.

This question was not intended to be a charm offensive. Just a feeler to gage if others also felt frustrated at being blocked from introducing themself to a lady.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So, sacrificing the one that got away, is preferable to catching the multitude of those, you wished had got away.

Understood and my question answered. Thank you all.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I've never felt frustrated by how others choose to run their profiles - but then I've never "hunted" in the way that a lot seem to by blindly messaging profiles where I perceive a good match (even though it may not be the perception of the recipient) - even if I did I'd both accept and respect the choice the profile owner has made not to be contacted.

For me, I wouldn't see it as an opportunity lost, as that would suggest a presumption I was what they were looking for in the first place, and there is no way that can be established without getting to know someone first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP, my experience is that after several years of making respectful and interesting comments on forum threads, and originating threads that interest others, I have slowly got to know other people. Some men, some women, some trans. Every few months I might end up exchanging posts with specific individuals and we find we have similar interests. This might or might not lead to lowering filters and exchanging direct messages. Then after a period of getting to know each other, there might or might not be a social get together in person (pre/post covid obviously). Which might or might not ultimately lead to some form of closer personal activity.

Of course, it's hardly an insta-shag way of going about things. But it does mean that if somebody opens a message from me, they will do it because they expect it to contain something they will want to read (rather than something that might make them want to scrub their brain with bleach...)."

Was going to message you privately, but would you believe it... I can't.

Just wanted to thank you for your time and advice.

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By *ickJMan
over a year ago

Hemel Hempstead

I don't feel frustrated if I read a profile and click "message" to be greeted by "Sorry - you can't send a message".

I completely understand that they might not want to receive an unsolicited pic of my genitals, so I move on to the next hundred.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry, it's a respectful grumble thread to women. I understand you get a swamp of mail, some from men you have no interest in and cock pic overload. However, it is becoming irritating to see women list as bi and their profile supports that. If a male tries to wink, or message, you can't because your sex is filtered.

Of course, 'their argument is, 'they' can contact 'you' if they view your page and like it. That's not going to let people who like you do likewise and by blocking contact for fear of lazy, crass messages and obscenities. You might miss the gold in the mud?

Women can filter who they like when they like, can even search n message if they like what they see, looking for that " nugget of gold", if I was a women on fab I'd filter single men as well, as the majority not all do nit have the emotional intelligence to deal with the rejection, then the abuse flows, no one derverses abuse lijecwomen receive on here, cuz they politely say no not for me "

I didn't fully realise the gravity of the vulgarity and unkindness towards women in terms of communications on fab. My original theory prompting my post, was based on the sheer amount of messages and uneven gender balance. My eyes have been widened, filter away ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got sick and tired of sleezy crude messages and abuse.

I will and do contact who I wish to and care not if that means I miss a few good messages.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport


"OP, my experience is that after several years of making respectful and interesting comments on forum threads, and originating threads that interest others, I have slowly got to know other people. Some men, some women, some trans. Every few months I might end up exchanging posts with specific individuals and we find we have similar interests. This might or might not lead to lowering filters and exchanging direct messages. Then after a period of getting to know each other, there might or might not be a social get together in person (pre/post covid obviously). Which might or might not ultimately lead to some form of closer personal activity.

Of course, it's hardly an insta-shag way of going about things. But it does mean that if somebody opens a message from me, they will do it because they expect it to contain something they will want to read (rather than something that might make them want to scrub their brain with bleach...).

Was going to message you privately, but would you believe it... I can't.

Just wanted to thank you for your time and advice. "

Hi, yes these days I generally have single men filtered. The trans woman mailbox experience is actually pretty good compared with most single women, but when I drop the filters I can usually expect to receive bizarre and disturbing messages within the day.

There are a surprising number of men, most of whom label themselves as straight on their profile, who will proposition TVs in the middle of the night (3 am tends to be popular). Generally something along the lines of can i jump in my car, drive thirty miles in the dark, and give them a blowjob. And how privileged I should feel that they are offering me the opportunity...

Anyway, thank you very kindly for your thank you! Best regards, Polly x

PS. And I also tried to PM you, but lol....

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By *odgerMan
over a year ago

Coventry(ish)London

Judging by the current status of the OP I think he's a bit miffed that someone he once knew has filters so he can't now reconnect. Quite a few women also have the 'no cock pic' filter on.

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

How dare women selecting not to allow you to contact them.

I will contact the management imediately to rectify this dispicable use of choice and free will.

On internation womans week, of all weeks to...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you irritated because women are bi?

I didn't really understand your post.

By having filters on stopping lots of men mailing, the women run the risk of missing a little gold nugget.

yes. Nothing lands in anyone's lap on fab. You have to put the effort in. If a women filters men from contacting due to being tired of the sheer volume due to a grossly uneven m2f ratio, they may miss a contact from a man they do find interesting but otherwise not discovered.

I missed a bus on more than one occasion coz I didn't manage my time too well.

Shit happens

If by filtering out the 499 entitled creepoids it means they miss 1 that may interest them, I can't even say it's unfortunate, because truthfully there are times when the contents of your inbox have you lose faith in humanity, make you feel like a worthless piece of shit, and shows you that actually, you're nothing more than a penis parking spot.

It can be really bad for mental health!

Yet, you're and other women's accounts here remain active. Of course there are nasty men who message women with disgusting and disrespectful messages and I'm sorry you have. Filters prevent pleasent messages being seen and make it frustrating for men that do."

So she shouldnt have an 'active' account because she dares moan about other's shitty behaviour?

You must be joking right?

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

If people choose to filter their messages it is completely up to them, they know 'the perceived risk' they are taking of potentially missing out on someone they might be interested in, but they are fully aware of that and are happy to go with their decision.

Maybe it's better to concentrate on people who haven't got those filters on rather than worry about those who have made it clear they are not interested anyway.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.


"Judging by the current status of the OP I think he's a bit miffed that someone he once knew has filters so he can't now reconnect. Quite a few women also have the 'no cock pic' filter on."

wish there was a no cock pic filter, but in the same way, the lack of one (for me personally) works as as an interest filter in its own right.

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