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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I've been musing about profiles for a few days, and today I've been browsing (yes, perving too) a fair bit, to distract myself from real life. And I can't figure out what it is I look for in a guy's profile. Too little information and sometimes I'm intrigued. A lot of information and sometimes it draws me in to want to know more.

Sometimes it's the pictures more than the text, and sometimes I'll find a profile interesting but the pictures won't do anything for me.

I know it's something that's been done to death, but what is it you actually look for a profile to offer you over and above the specific things that you're seeking? Does too little put you off, or too much? Or does it entirely depend on your mood, or forum interaction, or something else?

I'm not planning to answer everyone on this, which I know is not like me, but I'm hoping a discussion might happen as I genuinely have no clue what factors it is that make me say "ooh" and I'd like to know, y'all may be able to help me figure it out if you would please.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

And I know it's not one _ize fits all, or even one _ize fits one all the time....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Creative, arty and attractive pics.

A sense of humour

A profile that tells me a little about them?

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By *reativecouplederbyCouple
over a year ago

Derby

We like it to look like they take this site seriously, not just a quick way to have a fantasy wank - then there needs to be some kind of mental or physical attraction

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Quite simply it's not the profile text and pics that draws me to someone but their forum interactions - you "see" a lot more of a person from those than you do from a few paragraphs of text that are (usually) designed to attract and therefore not necessarily the full picture.

Having found that initial interest through forum interaction, and quite often, messages then I might look at pics to establish if there's a physical attraction, and read their text, but they're both secondary to the initial thing of forum observations.

Know that's not the way a lot of people approach things, but it worked for me.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Always the bio first .

You can gauge a lot about a person through words and even how the words are written .

My first thought is are they are a decent person , secondly are they equally as perverted as me lol.

If the text appeals I'll go have a look at the pics , and then message

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Tits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A range of erotic, creative and attractive pictures really captivates me initially.

Forum interactions have sparked many conversations over the past year flirting on here has led to that, I can gauge and see mutual interests that give us things to talk about and get to know each other that way...

Definitely look for people that make an effort and take it somewhat seriously it is a lifestyle for me so I look to make friends and connections not just quick one offs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Humour

Modesty

A sense of reality

Honesty

Attention to detail

A demonstration that they don't take themselves / the site / the scene too seriously

My own is utter bollocks of course and bears no resemblance to any of the above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*Apologies in advance, this is a bit long!!*

It's always an aesthetically pleasing profile pic (hot/arty) or creative username which draws me in.

Text wise I prefer a verbose profile. I'm very black and white in how I see things. If I feel like I fit what a person's looking for I will chance my arm with a message. If I think I'm not for them I'll respectfully close the door on my way out.

In terms of the text being attractive to me I like to read a bit about them as a person, what they're looking for from the site and the fact they have a basic knowledge of grammar/spelling. I'm not trying to find a genius but I like to find people who are on a similar level so there's a good back and forth if we get chatting.

I find a profile with little words difficult to deal with. My MO for messaging is to pick out bits from the profile and use that to open conversation. I hate the ones which just say "Don't message the usual shit, be creative". Admittedly, I will drop a message if the pics are stunning but that's rare and more often than not I'll fuck off after a little perv.

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By *oreno0969Man
over a year ago

Rugby

As a single guy the first things I look for are they actually looking for a single guy (very very important) also as a Smoker will they meet smokers and am I in their age range. So all the things which the majority don't.

If I fit those brackets then ill move onto reading the bio and looking at the pictures see if I have an attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, also how close they are.

That’s important to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pictures- just an indication of overall physique ( and a face if we get chatty)

Profile blurb- short and snappy. An indication that they're light- hearted in their approach to this place.

I don't like the overlong, try too hard kind with a plethora of posed pictures

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

An informative profile. I certainly don't mind if it's long. I'd rather know their likes and dislikes.

Photos, prefer non graphic.

A verification that's not cam only, although I realise that may be difficult at present.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Cock pics

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By *izeMan
over a year ago

Maghull

An athletic figure.

Public profile pics that show me something I fancy.

A bio that isn't going to bore me to death and isn't too big. Ideally one that states their intentions.

Verifications and feedback from people they've hooked up with.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…


"Tits "

Seconded

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By *irtydevil666Man
over a year ago

bristol

A nice blue dress

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"A nice blue dress "

This answer wins

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By *izeMan
over a year ago

Maghull

I'm guessing most straight guys only look for one thing on here, a female with a pulse. Because they're very few and far between

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By *eorge JetsonMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough


"Cock pics "

Really??

*no, of course not really*

?? Really??

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By *eorge JetsonMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Well since I'm here and just a lonely pervert trying to make his way in a big swingers world....

Be a bunch of dears and take a nosy around mine and critique it for me would you.

You know I'm good to supply cake for your troubles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Creative, arty and attractive pics.

A sense of humour

A profile that tells me a little about them?

"

Couldn't of said it better myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to find contradictions

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By *P994Man
over a year ago

Travelling

A certain type of personality, a bit of humour, like minded interests and good pictures always add to good profile text to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite simply it's not the profile text and pics that draws me to someone but their forum interactions - you "see" a lot more of a person from those than you do from a few paragraphs of text that are (usually) designed to attract and therefore not necessarily the full picture.

Having found that initial interest through forum interaction, and quite often, messages then I might look at pics to establish if there's a physical attraction, and read their text, but they're both secondary to the initial thing of forum observations.

Know that's not the way a lot of people approach things, but it worked for me."

Yes ^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tightey whiteys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tightey whiteys "

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"Tightey whiteys "

Phew

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A silhouette on profile pic, adds to the mystery of a lucky dip what might i get lol

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

If it’s really humorous it will stand out above anything else and I don’t even need to see a face pic. I have been lucky that the people I have met I have found attractive from their profiles and been lucky to later find i find them physically attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s how the profile ‘feels’ overall. I could see very similar personal descriptions on two profiles, but feel differently about them. The same goes for pics, albeit it to a lesser extent.

But reading what someone says about themselves and seeing how they show themselves helps to give an impression of what they’re like.

To me, if the general impression is that they’re easy going, not picky or too exacting when it comes to engaging or intimacy, not pushy or rude, then that’s a big positive in my eyes.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Thanks guys... so far

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I think it’s how the profile ‘feels’ overall. I could see very similar personal descriptions on two profiles, but feel differently about them. The same goes for pics, albeit it to a lesser extent.

But reading what someone says about themselves and seeing how they show themselves helps to give an impression of what they’re like.

To me, if the general impression is that they’re easy going, not picky or too exacting when it comes to engaging or intimacy, not pushy or rude, then that’s a big positive in my eyes."

So to paraphrase, mine is perfect for you. Obvs

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"If it’s really humorous it will stand out above anything else and I don’t even need to see a face pic. I have been lucky that the people I have met I have found attractive from their profiles and been lucky to later find i find them physically attractive"

That's brilliant.... and quite unusual!

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"A silhouette on profile pic, adds to the mystery of a lucky dip what might i get lol "

Dammit. Knew I was going wrong

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Tightey whiteys "

Also I don't have any

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Well since I'm here and just a lonely pervert trying to make his way in a big swingers world....

Be a bunch of dears and take a nosy around mine and critique it for me would you.

You know I'm good to supply cake for your troubles. "

Am I making this cake as well or are you?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I want to see some sign of intelligence so i look for articulate profiles. Geography is also a huge consideration. Only then do i look at the pics.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I'm guessing most straight guys only look for one thing on here, a female with a pulse. Because they're very few and far between "

That's what I've always worried about. That the only reason anyone ever claims to find me attractive is because I'm the only one who answers and they're just wanting a hole to stick their dick in, and looking for someone better. Not just on here but when I was on "dating" sites too.

So that's just made me more concerned that I'm right

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"A nice blue dress "

Crap. I have an adequate blue one....

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Cock pics "

Don't tell them.... but if it's a fine peen I'm a fan sometimes

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"An informative profile. I certainly don't mind if it's long. I'd rather know their likes and dislikes.

Photos, prefer non graphic.

A verification that's not cam only, although I realise that may be difficult at present."

So do you want the verification to be shown?

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Oh, also how close they are.

That’s important to me. "

I seem to have a minimum distance

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Humour

Modesty

A sense of reality

Honesty

Attention to detail

A demonstration that they don't take themselves / the site / the scene too seriously

My own is utter bollocks of course and bears no resemblance to any of the above "

I think you described yours quite well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very ruthless with profiles.

I delete at the first thing that puts me off.

Everything matters but the bio is the bit if most importance. I like to read a good bio that describes them and has a sense of humour. Someone who's down to earth and honest.

I'll delete too far away, can't accommodate and use the word discreet or discretion, won't meet smokers, those that state they won't chat or don't like endless messages, profile pics with other women in them, those that sound like men that just want their desires met or have a tick list they aim to complete, those that state they want an attractive fun woman, if I see the words no drama they go. Plus many more.

The bio needs to give me an 'in' for me to message them.

So if states what everyone else could easily write I discard it.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"*Apologies in advance, this is a bit long!!*

It's always an aesthetically pleasing profile pic (hot/arty) or creative username which draws me in.

Text wise I prefer a verbose profile. I'm very black and white in how I see things. If I feel like I fit what a person's looking for I will chance my arm with a message. If I think I'm not for them I'll respectfully close the door on my way out.

In terms of the text being attractive to me I like to read a bit about them as a person, what they're looking for from the site and the fact they have a basic knowledge of grammar/spelling. I'm not trying to find a genius but I like to find people who are on a similar level so there's a good back and forth if we get chatting.

I find a profile with little words difficult to deal with. My MO for messaging is to pick out bits from the profile and use that to open conversation. I hate the ones which just say "Don't message the usual shit, be creative". Admittedly, I will drop a message if the pics are stunning but that's rare and more often than not I'll fuck off after a little perv."

So.... not mine then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I am drawn to classy photos.. Well dressed, sexy underwear, nice shoes, tanned and toned, lipstick, confident... Love boudoir style photos and a little sign of fun personality... Each to own but the over the top filth just ain't for me....

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Quite simply it's not the profile text and pics that draws me to someone but their forum interactions - you "see" a lot more of a person from those than you do from a few paragraphs of text that are (usually) designed to attract and therefore not necessarily the full picture.

Having found that initial interest through forum interaction, and quite often, messages then I might look at pics to establish if there's a physical attraction, and read their text, but they're both secondary to the initial thing of forum observations.

Know that's not the way a lot of people approach things, but it worked for me."

I think that tends to be the way I look at it more than anything else.

But what about people who don't use the forum?

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"We like it to look like they take this site seriously, not just a quick way to have a fantasy wank - then there needs to be some kind of mental or physical attraction"

I'm definitely about the mental and physical attraction part. And the not just looking for the fantasy wank as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Availability.

And a slight sense of desperation.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I look for a topic in their profile to relate a first message to. I've had fun witty sexy profiles that are not compatible and silhouette profiles that have blown my socks off. It's the following conversation that's important to me

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Always the bio first .

You can gauge a lot about a person through words and even how the words are written .

My first thought is are they are a decent person , secondly are they equally as perverted as me lol.

If the text appeals I'll go have a look at the pics , and then message "

How did you ever get past my crappy profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm very ruthless with profiles.

I delete at the first thing that puts me off.

Everything matters but the bio is the bit if most importance. I like to read a good bio that describes them and has a sense of humour. Someone who's down to earth and honest.

I'll delete too far away, can't accommodate and use the word discreet or discretion, won't meet smokers, those that state they won't chat or don't like endless messages, profile pics with other women in them, those that sound like men that just want their desires met or have a tick list they aim to complete, those that state they want an attractive fun woman, if I see the words no drama they go. Plus many more.

The bio needs to give me an 'in' for me to message them.

So if states what everyone else could easily write I discard it.

"

Having watched PW in action, I can attest to her brutal ruthlessness when reading profiles ... she whittled 50 messages down to one in the blink of an eye. All I could do was watch helplessly through open fingers!

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Availability.

And a slight sense of desperation.

So Posh has the perfect profile for me.

"

FIFY

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Tits "

Gimme a minute and I'll see if I can find some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Availability.

And a slight sense of desperation.

So Posh has the perfect profile for me.

FIFY "

Wow .... did I write that?!

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"A range of erotic, creative and attractive pictures really captivates me initially.

Forum interactions have sparked many conversations over the past year flirting on here has led to that, I can gauge and see mutual interests that give us things to talk about and get to know each other that way...

Definitely look for people that make an effort and take it somewhat seriously it is a lifestyle for me so I look to make friends and connections not just quick one offs.

"

So it's more forum based and visual for you then?

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"Always the bio first .

You can gauge a lot about a person through words and even how the words are written .

My first thought is are they are a decent person , secondly are they equally as perverted as me lol.

If the text appeals I'll go have a look at the pics , and then message

How did you ever get past my crappy profile?"

You messaged me first

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Availability.

And a slight sense of desperation.

So Posh has the perfect profile for me.

FIFY

Wow .... did I write that?!"

It's like magic. I edited your spelling

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"As a single guy the first things I look for are they actually looking for a single guy (very very important) also as a Smoker will they meet smokers and am I in their age range. So all the things which the majority don't.

If I fit those brackets then ill move onto reading the bio and looking at the pictures see if I have an attraction "

And never send the first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Humour

Modesty

A sense of reality

Honesty

Attention to detail

A demonstration that they don't take themselves / the site / the scene too seriously

My own is utter bollocks of course and bears no resemblance to any of the above

I think you described yours quite well"

What?

Utter bollocks?

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Pictures- just an indication of overall physique ( and a face if we get chatty)

Profile blurb- short and snappy. An indication that they're light- hearted in their approach to this place.

I don't like the overlong, try too hard kind with a plethora of posed pictures"

So the people who do the photo challenges don't appeal then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To feel like a personality match and attraction. Feel like that’s all is needed, if those two things seem good then you won’t know any more until you talk

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Humour

Modesty

A sense of reality

Honesty

Attention to detail

A demonstration that they don't take themselves / the site / the scene too seriously

My own is utter bollocks of course and bears no resemblance to any of the above

I think you described yours quite well

What?

Utter bollocks?

"

The bit before that you delightful spanner

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Tits

Seconded "

Note to self. Need more tits

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Creative, arty and attractive pics.

A sense of humour

A profile that tells me a little about them?

Couldn't of said it better myself "

How much is too little? How much is too much?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Quite simply it's not the profile text and pics that draws me to someone but their forum interactions - you "see" a lot more of a person from those than you do from a few paragraphs of text that are (usually) designed to attract and therefore not necessarily the full picture.

Having found that initial interest through forum interaction, and quite often, messages then I might look at pics to establish if there's a physical attraction, and read their text, but they're both secondary to the initial thing of forum observations.

Know that's not the way a lot of people approach things, but it worked for me.

I think that tends to be the way I look at it more than anything else.

But what about people who don't use the forum?"

Never have looked beyond the forums, and have no real interest in doing so - doesn't fit the approach to the site that's worked for me.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


" I try to find contradictions "

You like a contradiction then?

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace


"Creative, arty and attractive pics.

A sense of humour

A profile that tells me a little about them?

"

This for me too, also if they use the forums how they interact in them, gives an idea of their personality somewhat.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"A certain type of personality, a bit of humour, like minded interests and good pictures always add to good profile text to "

So what is it that makes the good profile text that all those add to?

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Quite simply it's not the profile text and pics that draws me to someone but their forum interactions - you "see" a lot more of a person from those than you do from a few paragraphs of text that are (usually) designed to attract and therefore not necessarily the full picture.

Having found that initial interest through forum interaction, and quite often, messages then I might look at pics to establish if there's a physical attraction, and read their text, but they're both secondary to the initial thing of forum observations.

Know that's not the way a lot of people approach things, but it worked for me.

Yes ^ "

Same question as to GM then Rose, what about non forum dwellers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Humour

Modesty

A sense of reality

Honesty

Attention to detail

A demonstration that they don't take themselves / the site / the scene too seriously

My own is utter bollocks of course and bears no resemblance to any of the above

I think you described yours quite well

What?

Utter bollocks?

The bit before that you delightful spanner "

I'll be honest, if it weren't for the coats I'd be nothing

They get more messages than me

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I want to see some sign of intelligence so i look for articulate profiles. Geography is also a huge consideration. Only then do i look at the pics."

Do you prefer something quite detailed then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite simply it's not the profile text and pics that draws me to someone but their forum interactions - you "see" a lot more of a person from those than you do from a few paragraphs of text that are (usually) designed to attract and therefore not necessarily the full picture.

Having found that initial interest through forum interaction, and quite often, messages then I might look at pics to establish if there's a physical attraction, and read their text, but they're both secondary to the initial thing of forum observations.

Know that's not the way a lot of people approach things, but it worked for me.

Yes ^

Same question as to GM then Rose, what about non forum dwellers?"

Would it very dull if I replied same as Gemini ?

But that's true. Forum gives you better overview of the person and how they treat others.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I'm very ruthless with profiles.

I delete at the first thing that puts me off.

Everything matters but the bio is the bit if most importance. I like to read a good bio that describes them and has a sense of humour. Someone who's down to earth and honest.

I'll delete too far away, can't accommodate and use the word discreet or discretion, won't meet smokers, those that state they won't chat or don't like endless messages, profile pics with other women in them, those that sound like men that just want their desires met or have a tick list they aim to complete, those that state they want an attractive fun woman, if I see the words no drama they go. Plus many more.

The bio needs to give me an 'in' for me to message them.

So if states what everyone else could easily write I discard it.

"

I like that way of looking at it....

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Oh I am drawn to classy photos.. Well dressed, sexy underwear, nice shoes, tanned and toned, lipstick, confident... Love boudoir style photos and a little sign of fun personality... Each to own but the over the top filth just ain't for me...."

What about the text though? Or does that come into personality and not ott filth?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A range of erotic, creative and attractive pictures really captivates me initially.

Forum interactions have sparked many conversations over the past year flirting on here has led to that, I can gauge and see mutual interests that give us things to talk about and get to know each other that way...

Definitely look for people that make an effort and take it somewhat seriously it is a lifestyle for me so I look to make friends and connections not just quick one offs.

So it's more forum based and visual for you then?"

Yes I would say so, over the last year it has been that way. I haven’t searched the local searches at all like I used to which then I was just looking for local people. (Not anymore) I can’t wait to get out and venture further lol...

It really has just been through forum interactions or unless I put a picture up and someone messages from seeing it...

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I look for a topic in their profile to relate a first message to. I've had fun witty sexy profiles that are not compatible and silhouette profiles that have blown my socks off. It's the following conversation that's important to me "

So it's the overall text and images combo that makes you choose to send that message then...

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"

Having watched PW in action, I can attest to her brutal ruthlessness when reading profiles ... she whittled 50 messages down to one in the blink of an eye. All I could do was watch helplessly through open fingers! "

Dang.... she's damn good!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Availability.

And a slight sense of desperation.

So Posh has the perfect profile for me.

FIFY

Wow .... did I write that?!

It's like magic. I edited your spelling "

Thats so kind of you x

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant


"An informative profile. I certainly don't mind if it's long. I'd rather know their likes and dislikes.

Photos, prefer non graphic.

A verification that's not cam only, although I realise that may be difficult at present.

So do you want the verification to be shown?"

I just feel a profile that is full of cam verifications is unlikely to meet, so prefer to see meet verifications. Which in the current climate is unlikely. Hopefully soon though.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Always the bio first .

You can gauge a lot about a person through words and even how the words are written .

My first thought is are they are a decent person , secondly are they equally as perverted as me lol.

If the text appeals I'll go have a look at the pics , and then message

How did you ever get past my crappy profile?

You messaged me first "

Shy me? Seems unlikely....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Je ne sais quoi

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"To feel like a personality match and attraction. Feel like that’s all is needed, if those two things seem good then you won’t know any more until you talk "

Does it take much text to give you a feel for the personality do you think?

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By *airymagicWoman
over a year ago

goblin city

I love reading verifications

Certainly not a spineless profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I try to find contradictions

You like a contradiction then? "

I doubt we mean the same. But I look for contradictions or better. .. inconsistencies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I try to find contradictions

You like a contradiction then?

I doubt we mean the same. But I look for contradictions or better. .. inconsistencies. "

Not as finding them attractive.. more like an eliminating process.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I can't say I actively look for anything in a profile because I don't actively look. If they message me and they're not a forum user (or one I don't remember) I like to see some form of wit, something that makes me curious to find out more about the person.

Like posters above, I do tend to look at forum interactions and possibly place too much emphasis on that - I like seeing a sign of passion, good humour, all those subjective traits. If I see a thread in which they sing the virtues of slim folk and say they are only attracted to them, it does make me discount any interactions with them so far.

I don't put too much emphasis on photos, I'm not sure why that is? Probably because I'm aware I'm not the best looking and I have to attract people by my incessant curiosity and conversation.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"Always the bio first .

You can gauge a lot about a person through words and even how the words are written .

My first thought is are they are a decent person , secondly are they equally as perverted as me lol.

If the text appeals I'll go have a look at the pics , and then message

How did you ever get past my crappy profile?

You messaged me first

Shy me? Seems unlikely.... "

Yeah ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"....I find a profile with little words difficult to deal with. My MO for messaging is to pick out bits from the profile and use that to open conversation. I hate the ones which just say "Don't message the usual shit, be creative". Admittedly, I will drop a message if the pics are stunning but that's rare and more often than not I'll fuck off after a little perv.

So.... not mine then "

One second. Just going to backtrack

Yours would fall under the category of "other". Some profiles just click with me (irrespective of what I wrote earlier)

E.g. Yours shows a great sense of humour, good writing skills, there's tits, I already know you as a forum celebrity who I've been too bashful to engage with in the past, I'm shown some top notch hooter's, I'm a bit colour blind but I LOVE the green dress and seeing your forum interactions I already find you both physically attractive and mentally stimulating.

I could go on but we both know my fingers need to rest

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Quite simply it's not the profile text and pics that draws me to someone but their forum interactions - you "see" a lot more of a person from those than you do from a few paragraphs of text that are (usually) designed to attract and therefore not necessarily the full picture.

Having found that initial interest through forum interaction, and quite often, messages then I might look at pics to establish if there's a physical attraction, and read their text, but they're both secondary to the initial thing of forum observations.

Know that's not the way a lot of people approach things, but it worked for me.

I think that tends to be the way I look at it more than anything else.

But what about people who don't use the forum?

Never have looked beyond the forums, and have no real interest in doing so - doesn't fit the approach to the site that's worked for me."

I can appreciate that, what works for one might not work for another. Thanks for answering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Having watched PW in action, I can attest to her brutal ruthlessness when reading profiles ... she whittled 50 messages down to one in the blink of an eye. All I could do was watch helplessly through open fingers!

Dang.... she's damn good!"

That, I can confirm (on a number of levels ). A total pro. I’ve never seen the delete button pressed so quickly in my life. I’m amazed she doesn’t have RSI from it!

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By *eorge JetsonMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough


"Well since I'm here and just a lonely pervert trying to make his way in a big swingers world....

Be a bunch of dears and take a nosy around mine and critique it for me would you.

You know I'm good to supply cake for your troubles.

Am I making this cake as well or are you?"

No your making it. I can't be bothered

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Creative, arty and attractive pics.

A sense of humour

A profile that tells me a little about them?

This for me too, also if they use the forums how they interact in them, gives an idea of their personality somewhat. "

I think that's it, it is a combination if they do use the forum.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Humour

Modesty

A sense of reality

Honesty

Attention to detail

A demonstration that they don't take themselves / the site / the scene too seriously

My own is utter bollocks of course and bears no resemblance to any of the above

I think you described yours quite well

What?

Utter bollocks?

The bit before that you delightful spanner

I'll be honest, if it weren't for the coats I'd be nothing

They get more messages than me "

That reminds me. I need to ask the orange one a question.

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By *oreno0969Man
over a year ago

Rugby


"As a single guy the first things I look for are they actually looking for a single guy (very very important) also as a Smoker will they meet smokers and am I in their age range. So all the things which the majority don't.

If I fit those brackets then ill move onto reading the bio and looking at the pictures see if I have an attraction

And never send the first message "

Of course never send the first message unless its a forum game

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"

Yes ^

Same question as to GM then Rose, what about non forum dwellers?

Would it very dull if I replied same as Gemini ?

But that's true. Forum gives you better overview of the person and how they treat others. "

I've never ever thought of you as dull Rose, and I'm not starting now!

I think that is true, but I have had some great conversations with non forum folk...

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"

Yes I would say so, over the last year it has been that way. I haven’t searched the local searches at all like I used to which then I was just looking for local people. (Not anymore) I can’t wait to get out and venture further lol...

It really has just been through forum interactions or unless I put a picture up and someone messages from seeing it... "

The plague has changed you.....

Luckily you still have the hat

The forum can be great for the personality side of it....

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Availability.

And a slight sense of desperation.

So Posh has the perfect profile for me.

FIFY

Wow .... did I write that?!

It's like magic. I edited your spelling

Thats so kind of you x "

Just one of our many services here at Posh Towers....

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"An informative profile. I certainly don't mind if it's long. I'd rather know their likes and dislikes.

Photos, prefer non graphic.

A verification that's not cam only, although I realise that may be difficult at present.

So do you want the verification to be shown?

I just feel a profile that is full of cam verifications is unlikely to meet, so prefer to see meet verifications. Which in the current climate is unlikely. Hopefully soon though. "

That makes sense. How about recent cam verifications?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the first sentence of your profile don't understand what's happening the rest

I like girls or couple have kept it short and sweet I dont have read a essay

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Je ne sais quoi "

See, this is my issue! I have no clue why it is or what appeals about certain profiles over others!

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I love reading verifications

Certainly not a spineless profile"

What would make a spineless profile then?

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


" I try to find contradictions

You like a contradiction then?

I doubt we mean the same. But I look for contradictions or better. .. inconsistencies.

Not as finding them attractive.. more like an eliminating process. "

I get that..... and I do use that kind of logic too

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

If anything profiles turn me off a person rather than on, just the same as the way they conduct themselves in the forum. I’m more based on one to one interaction, how the conversation flows than visual stimulation or words in a profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Either you’re in stealth mode or you haven’t looked at mine!

I’m vexed. But still I’ll accept the offer of sex you PMed me. I have no morals!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The plague has changed you.....

Luckily you still have the hat

The forum can be great for the personality side of it...."

Hey I’m still the same I just want to travel further a field to meet all you beautiful forumites that I’ve made friends with one day when it’s safe to do so ....

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I can't say I actively look for anything in a profile because I don't actively look. If they message me and they're not a forum user (or one I don't remember) I like to see some form of wit, something that makes me curious to find out more about the person.

Like posters above, I do tend to look at forum interactions and possibly place too much emphasis on that - I like seeing a sign of passion, good humour, all those subjective traits. If I see a thread in which they sing the virtues of slim folk and say they are only attracted to them, it does make me discount any interactions with them so far.

I don't put too much emphasis on photos, I'm not sure why that is? Probably because I'm aware I'm not the best looking and I have to attract people by my incessant curiosity and conversation. "

Meli. You're beautiful.

I suppose really asking forum folk is usually going to end up with a higher percentage of answers based around forum interactions....

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"....I find a profile with little words difficult to deal with. My MO for messaging is to pick out bits from the profile and use that to open conversation. I hate the ones which just say "Don't message the usual shit, be creative". Admittedly, I will drop a message if the pics are stunning but that's rare and more often than not I'll fuck off after a little perv.

So.... not mine then

One second. Just going to backtrack

Yours would fall under the category of "other". Some profiles just click with me (irrespective of what I wrote earlier)

E.g. Yours shows a great sense of humour, good writing skills, there's tits, I already know you as a forum celebrity who I've been too bashful to engage with in the past, I'm shown some top notch hooter's, I'm a bit colour blind but I LOVE the green dress and seeing your forum interactions I already find you both physically attractive and mentally stimulating.

I could go on but we both know my fingers need to rest "

You do need to rest your fingers. They've been busy.

I was just kidding when I said that last bit but I'll take the compliments

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING


"As a single guy the first things I look for are they actually looking for a single guy (very very important) also as a Smoker will they meet smokers and am I in their age range. So all the things which the majority don't.

If I fit those brackets then ill move onto reading the bio and looking at the pictures see if I have an attraction "
the same here, the only difference is seeing the tone of their bio,as I think it can say a lot about their personality.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"

Having watched PW in action, I can attest to her brutal ruthlessness when reading profiles ... she whittled 50 messages down to one in the blink of an eye. All I could do was watch helplessly through open fingers!

Dang.... she's damn good!

That, I can confirm (on a number of levels ). A total pro. I’ve never seen the delete button pressed so quickly in my life. I’m amazed she doesn’t have RSI from it!"

I wonder....

PW, do you give lessons?

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Well since I'm here and just a lonely pervert trying to make his way in a big swingers world....

Be a bunch of dears and take a nosy around mine and critique it for me would you.

You know I'm good to supply cake for your troubles.

Am I making this cake as well or are you?

No your making it. I can't be bothered "

Thought so.....

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"As a single guy the first things I look for are they actually looking for a single guy (very very important) also as a Smoker will they meet smokers and am I in their age range. So all the things which the majority don't.

If I fit those brackets then ill move onto reading the bio and looking at the pictures see if I have an attraction

And never send the first message

Of course never send the first message unless its a forum game "

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I like the first sentence of your profile don't understand what's happening the rest

I like girls or couple have kept it short and sweet I dont have read a essay

"

There's not much going on in my profile, I wouldn't worry about that, tis unimportant really.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"If anything profiles turn me off a person rather than on, just the same as the way they conduct themselves in the forum. I’m more based on one to one interaction, how the conversation flows than visual stimulation or words in a profile. "

That's a good point. Maybe that's it in some ways. Thanks Spurs, I actually hadn't looked at it from that direction at all.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Either you’re in stealth mode or you haven’t looked at mine!

I’m vexed. But still I’ll accept the offer of sex you PMed me. I have no morals!"

I'm always in stealth. Else I'd have been blocked by certain people for excessive use of their pictures

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"The plague has changed you.....

Luckily you still have the hat

The forum can be great for the personality side of it....

Hey I’m still the same I just want to travel further a field to meet all you beautiful forumites that I’ve made friends with one day when it’s safe to do so .... "

You really are actually still exactly the same. Despite your recently crowned title

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"As a single guy the first things I look for are they actually looking for a single guy (very very important) also as a Smoker will they meet smokers and am I in their age range. So all the things which the majority don't.

If I fit those brackets then ill move onto reading the bio and looking at the pictures see if I have an attraction the same here, the only difference is seeing the tone of their bio,as I think it can say a lot about their personality. "

Tone is so hard to judge from just text though sometimes

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Sorry. I failed at not responding to all....

But thank you for giving me your feelings, and there are some things I hadn't considered there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whether they’re prepared to lower their standards for a pity fuck.

I remain unverified.

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By *ixedDevilMan
over a year ago

Bootyville

Big tits. Oh and a perfectly round ass of course...

Joking haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whether they’re prepared to lower their standards for a pity fuck.

I remain unverified. "

Get me a plaster, my bleeds!

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Whether they’re prepared to lower their standards for a pity fuck.

I remain unverified. "

Well if you'd hung about in the thread the other day I'd have waxed lyrical about your knees!

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Big tits. Oh and a perfectly round ass of course...

Joking haha "

Crap. Mine's kind of a squished one

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING


"As a single guy the first things I look for are they actually looking for a single guy (very very important) also as a Smoker will they meet smokers and am I in their age range. So all the things which the majority don't.

If I fit those brackets then ill move onto reading the bio and looking at the pictures see if I have an attraction the same here, the only difference is seeing the tone of their bio,as I think it can say a lot about their personality.

Tone is so hard to judge from just text though sometimes "
I agree, but sometimes it's blatantly obvious what they're like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pictures- just an indication of overall physique ( and a face if we get chatty)

Profile blurb- short and snappy. An indication that they're light- hearted in their approach to this place.

I don't like the overlong, try too hard kind with a plethora of posed pictures

So the people who do the photo challenges don't appeal then?"

Well besides the fact that they're probably likely to also be too far away, no, they don't appeal

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"As a single guy the first things I look for are they actually looking for a single guy (very very important) also as a Smoker will they meet smokers and am I in their age range. So all the things which the majority don't.

If I fit those brackets then ill move onto reading the bio and looking at the pictures see if I have an attraction the same here, the only difference is seeing the tone of their bio,as I think it can say a lot about their personality.

Tone is so hard to judge from just text though sometimes I agree, but sometimes it's blatantly obvious what they're like. "

I think it can be...

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

I’m not really sure.

I guess I check pics makes sure they have some and not just a dick

Then I read their profile, make sure they’re not just a dick

If they’re not a dick and I’m in a good mood, we’re good to go

Lex

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By *ang bang bangity bangCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Nice pictures, comes cross friendly in the profile and verifications are probably the main thing

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I’m not really sure.

I guess I check pics makes sure they have some and not just a dick

Then I read their profile, make sure they’re not just a dick

If they’re not a dick and I’m in a good mood, we’re good to go

Lex"

I feel like, like me, the "in a good mood" part is key here...

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Nice pictures, comes cross friendly in the profile and verifications are probably the main thing"

Do you like to be able to read the veris?

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By *ang bang bangity bangCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland


"Nice pictures, comes cross friendly in the profile and verifications are probably the main thing

Do you like to be able to read the veris?"

Not overly worried to be honest. Fully understand why people keep them hidden.

Only time we get a bit worried is when it's someone who joined 9 minutes before and has a verification from a single male already

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss


"I look for a topic in their profile to relate a first message to. I've had fun witty sexy profiles that are not compatible and silhouette profiles that have blown my socks off. It's the following conversation that's important to me

So it's the overall text and images combo that makes you choose to send that message then..."

No. I hunt using specific phrases and topic Interests on my profile and status updates, if he answers accordingly I will find something in his profile to strike a conversation, I should have probably put that bit before my answer

Essentially I don't rate a man on his profile anymore as I've had a few surprises and I would have missed out if I had of chosen to not meet him because of his profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m not really sure.

I guess I check pics makes sure they have some and not just a dick

Then I read their profile, make sure they’re not just a dick

If they’re not a dick and I’m in a good mood, we’re good to go

Lex

I feel like, like me, the "in a good mood" part is key here..."

Very. If I’m grumpy or just not in the mood, they could have the best profile in the world and it won’t matter!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A sense of humour, a lack of cock pics and someone not scared to specify what they are looking for or their "type" if they have one.

I often think many men on here sleep with those they wouldn't usually go for just because of the type of site it is.

Not all men of course, but alot do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Creative, arty and attractive pics.

A sense of humour

A profile that tells me a little about them?

"

This

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

A meeting of minds is an added advantage because, every intelligent person knows that the biggest erogenous zone in the human body is the brain, if you don't stimulate that, nothing else is going to happen. That failure to intrigue me inevitably leads to a situation whereby if I don't actually fancy someone, they have more chance of raising The Titanic, than what makes me smile as I dry myself down whilst looking in the mirror after taking a shower.

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant


"An informative profile. I certainly don't mind if it's long. I'd rather know their likes and dislikes.

Photos, prefer non graphic.

A verification that's not cam only, although I realise that may be difficult at present.

So do you want the verification to be shown?

I just feel a profile that is full of cam verifications is unlikely to meet, so prefer to see meet verifications. Which in the current climate is unlikely. Hopefully soon though.

That makes sense. How about recent cam verifications?"

I've not looked at any verifications since I rejoined as obviously they would all be cam only at this present time. I'll start looking again when we are able to meet and people are able to verify that way again.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Nice pictures, comes cross friendly in the profile and verifications are probably the main thing

Do you like to be able to read the veris?

Not overly worried to be honest. Fully understand why people keep them hidden.

Only time we get a bit worried is when it's someone who joined 9 minutes before and has a verification from a single male already "

I get that!

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I look for a topic in their profile to relate a first message to. I've had fun witty sexy profiles that are not compatible and silhouette profiles that have blown my socks off. It's the following conversation that's important to me

So it's the overall text and images combo that makes you choose to send that message then...

No. I hunt using specific phrases and topic Interests on my profile and status updates, if he answers accordingly I will find something in his profile to strike a conversation, I should have probably put that bit before my answer

Essentially I don't rate a man on his profile anymore as I've had a few surprises and I would have missed out if I had of chosen to not meet him because of his profile "

I love that you hunt. It just makes me smile

I tend to use more than the profile for that same reason

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"A sense of humour, a lack of cock pics and someone not scared to specify what they are looking for or their "type" if they have one.

I often think many men on here sleep with those they wouldn't usually go for just because of the type of site it is.

Not all men of course, but alot do."

I think that. It saddens me though.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Creative, arty and attractive pics.

A sense of humour

A profile that tells me a little about them?

This "

How much do you want it to tell you?

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace


"Creative, arty and attractive pics.

A sense of humour

A profile that tells me a little about them?

This for me too, also if they use the forums how they interact in them, gives an idea of their personality somewhat.

I think that's it, it is a combination if they do use the forum."

if they pop up new in the forums and seem interesting I'll have a gander at the profile not gonna lie, and that's when it's when the other things come into play

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"A meeting of minds is an added advantage because, every intelligent person knows that the biggest erogenous zone in the human body is the brain, if you don't stimulate that, nothing else is going to happen. That failure to intrigue me inevitably leads to a situation whereby if I don't actually fancy someone, they have more chance of raising The Titanic, than what makes me smile as I dry myself down whilst looking in the mirror after taking a shower."

So can you get that from a few lines on a profile, or does it require more text?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure really

I do try to make mine as un interesting as possible though

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"An informative profile. I certainly don't mind if it's long. I'd rather know their likes and dislikes.

Photos, prefer non graphic.

A verification that's not cam only, although I realise that may be difficult at present.

So do you want the verification to be shown?

I just feel a profile that is full of cam verifications is unlikely to meet, so prefer to see meet verifications. Which in the current climate is unlikely. Hopefully soon though.

That makes sense. How about recent cam verifications?

I've not looked at any verifications since I rejoined as obviously they would all be cam only at this present time. I'll start looking again when we are able to meet and people are able to verify that way again."

Thank you for being open.

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By *d4funtimesMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

Sexy bums and mischievous write ups

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Creative, arty and attractive pics.

A sense of humour

A profile that tells me a little about them?

This for me too, also if they use the forums how they interact in them, gives an idea of their personality somewhat.

I think that's it, it is a combination if they do use the forum.

if they pop up new in the forums and seem interesting I'll have a gander at the profile not gonna lie, and that's when it's when the other things come into play"

Oh yes.... definitely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been musing about profiles for a few days, and today I've been browsing (yes, perving too) a fair bit, to distract myself from real life. And I can't figure out what it is I look for in a guy's profile. Too little information and sometimes I'm intrigued. A lot of information and sometimes it draws me in to want to know more.

Sometimes it's the pictures more than the text, and sometimes I'll find a profile interesting but the pictures won't do anything for me.

I know it's something that's been done to death, but what is it you actually look for a profile to offer you over and above the specific things that you're seeking? Does too little put you off, or too much? Or does it entirely depend on your mood, or forum interaction, or something else?

I'm not planning to answer everyone on this, which I know is not like me, but I'm hoping a discussion might happen as I genuinely have no clue what factors it is that make me say "ooh" and I'd like to know, y'all may be able to help me figure it out if you would please."

Generally a good clear indication that they are after kink play etc or they have kink centric pictures etc

A BDSM test result is always handy

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Not sure really

I do try to make mine as un interesting as possible though "

I don't think it's that uninteresting really

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Sexy bums and mischievous write ups "

What would make it mischievous then?

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"

Generally a good clear indication that they are after kink play etc or they have kink centric pictures etc

A BDSM test result is always handy "

Darn it. I'll have to send you mine

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

I think what attracts me most is positivity. Some are funny, beautiful, kind, thoughtful or lots of other things but I can find all of those things attractive in a positive person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure really

I do try to make mine as un interesting as possible though

I don't think it's that uninteresting really"

I need a rethink then

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea


"A meeting of minds is an added advantage because, every intelligent person knows that the biggest erogenous zone in the human body is the brain, if you don't stimulate that, nothing else is going to happen. That failure to intrigue me inevitably leads to a situation whereby if I don't actually fancy someone, they have more chance of raising The Titanic, than what makes me smile as I dry myself down whilst looking in the mirror after taking a shower.

So can you get that from a few lines on a profile, or does it require more text?"

Yes you can generally get a pretty good first impression from the text in a profile as to whether two people are on the same wavelength, and whether it's been written by a reasonably intelligent person with a decent command of the English language. It's then after a few exchanges of messages that you can determine whether a meet could be worth pursuing, especially if there's distance involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont really consider the profile that much. Its all messages for me and some of my favourite people have had a pretty shit profile but you know how great they are and they may have just been overlooked on profile alone. I do like pictures though to see if its a body I can imagine writhing on.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I think what attracts me most is positivity. Some are funny, beautiful, kind, thoughtful or lots of other things but I can find all of those things attractive in a positive person. "

That's so lovely..... and so true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The plague has changed you.....

Luckily you still have the hat

The forum can be great for the personality side of it....

Hey I’m still the same I just want to travel further a field to meet all you beautiful forumites that I’ve made friends with one day when it’s safe to do so ....

You really are actually still exactly the same. Despite your recently crowned title "

Oh thank you I won’t ever change don’t worry

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral


"I think what attracts me most is positivity. Some are funny, beautiful, kind, thoughtful or lots of other things but I can find all of those things attractive in a positive person.

That's so lovely..... and so true!"

How positive!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I love reading verifications

Certainly not a spineless profile

What would make a spineless profile then? "

I'd like to make my half of our profile spineless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as they are happy to reply that's well and truly all I'm looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Generally a good clear indication that they are after kink play etc or they have kink centric pictures etc

A BDSM test result is always handy

Darn it. I'll have to send you mine "

I look forward to seeing it

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"A meeting of minds is an added advantage because, every intelligent person knows that the biggest erogenous zone in the human body is the brain, if you don't stimulate that, nothing else is going to happen. That failure to intrigue me inevitably leads to a situation whereby if I don't actually fancy someone, they have more chance of raising The Titanic, than what makes me smile as I dry myself down whilst looking in the mirror after taking a shower.

So can you get that from a few lines on a profile, or does it require more text?

Yes you can generally get a pretty good first impression from the text in a profile as to whether two people are on the same wavelength, and whether it's been written by a reasonably intelligent person with a decent command of the English language. It's then after a few exchanges of messages that you can determine whether a meet could be worth pursuing, especially if there's distance involved. "

That's how I feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attractive pictures. That's it.

To start with.

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By *ottom4topxMan
over a year ago

Derry

If I'm honest big fat cocks. There hard to come by

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I dont really consider the profile that much. Its all messages for me and some of my favourite people have had a pretty shit profile but you know how great they are and they may have just been overlooked on profile alone. I do like pictures though to see if its a body I can imagine writhing on. "

A couple of my favourite people have appalling profiles, yet there was something there that attracted me. That's what I don't quite understand, because sometimes I'll be more inclined to message someone with a crap profile and sometimes not so much.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I think what attracts me most is positivity. Some are funny, beautiful, kind, thoughtful or lots of other things but I can find all of those things attractive in a positive person.

That's so lovely..... and so true!

How positive! "

Why thank you

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I love reading verifications

Certainly not a spineless profile

What would make a spineless profile then?

I'd like to make my half of our profile spineless "

I'd rather like to make mine that way too!

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"As long as they are happy to reply that's well and truly all I'm looking for."

So it really doesn't matter what they're like or what their pictures are like?

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Attractive pictures. That's it.

To start with. "

Well, that's always a bonus....

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"If I'm honest big fat cocks. There hard to come by "

I like the honesty there!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I love reading verifications

Certainly not a spineless profile

What would make a spineless profile then?

I'd like to make my half of our profile spineless

I'd rather like to make mine that way too! "

I shall be a jellyfish

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By *ittlekinks38Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

For me it would be if they are taller than me and build how I like them and live close enough to meet up! And a nice even cheeky and friendly bio nothing like saying they are bored or gagging for a shag I like to feel special not here to shag the while site like! But yeah nice bio with decent banter and no dick pics please thats a big turn off for me ! Unless I'd request a nosey which is slim to never lol xx will anyone read this? Doubt it haha

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By *outhman15Man
over a year ago

southampton

I look for happy easy going people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are there interests or something I can relate with that will keep us talking.

It’s not about how much. I can tell f someone has a sense of humour from one line. I can tell if someone is a big ‘ole grumpy pants in another.

So it’s not how much text there is.

Pictures. One cute face is worth 100 other pictures.

And if they live local and like coffee shop socials. Well - BOOM. I would hope to become friends.

But I don’t read profiles.

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