FabSwingers.com forum: Pissing on someone's parade

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do people try and sh*t stir??

What do they get out of it....is it just insecurity, inferiority complex and jealousy??

Or do they get genuine pleasure from the drama of trying to chip other people's armour?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people try and sh*t stir??

What do they get out of it....is it just insecurity, inferiority complex and jealousy??

Or do they get genuine pleasure from the drama of trying to chip other people's armour? "

People just like to meddle in other people’s lives & love a drama

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people try and sh*t stir??

What do they get out of it....is it just insecurity, inferiority complex and jealousy??

Or do they get genuine pleasure from the drama of trying to chip other people's armour? "

Who knows

But if that's what they need to feel good, there's something to pity really!

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Why do people try and sh*t stir??

What do they get out of it....is it just insecurity, inferiority complex and jealousy??

Or do they get genuine pleasure from the drama of trying to chip other people's armour?

People just like to meddle in other people’s lives & love a drama "

This. And some are just cruel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the time I think it's because they are unhappy with their own life, so they need other people to be miserable too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people try and sh*t stir??

What do they get out of it....is it just insecurity, inferiority complex and jealousy??

Or do they get genuine pleasure from the drama of trying to chip other people's armour? "

I honestly think it’s all of the above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will never understand why, but as I said in a other post, it’s says everything about them, and nothing about the person they are stirring about.

Sadly, they don’t think about the effect is can have in others.

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By *irtydevil666Man
over a year ago

bristol

That's life I guess.......

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I can't imagine ever pissing on someone's parade... i feel really sad for them that they feel the need

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Jealousy over you being happier than them.

Some people are only happy when it rains.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Why do people try and sh*t stir??

What do they get out of it....is it just insecurity, inferiority complex and jealousy??

Or do they get genuine pleasure from the drama of trying to chip other people's armour? "

Because most people have fuck all else to do that they have to stick their noses in other people business and only their way or opinion is right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't imagine ever pissing on someone's parade... i feel really sad for them that they feel the need

Also, I think people that feel inferior try and drag others down, so they feel better?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people try and sh*t stir??

What do they get out of it....is it just insecurity, inferiority complex and jealousy??

Or do they get genuine pleasure from the drama of trying to chip other people's armour? "

Yes, all of those things.

Its been especially prevalent here lately, so I just block them and move on.

Hope it isnt too bad for you OP xx

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

I easy to make a general comment but without knowing what your definition of pissing on someone parade or if you have a specific scenario, I wouldn't know.

The US maffia would still me killing and harrasing people if their parade wasn't pissed on.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"Why do people try and sh*t stir??

What do they get out of it....is it just insecurity, inferiority complex and jealousy??

Or do they get genuine pleasure from the drama of trying to chip other people's armour? "

Some people are just cunts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The mind boggles. Is unfortunate, knowing we will never be free from society which includes peeps who takes pleasure from the suffering of others. They not know Karma will take its toll.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I easy to make a general comment but without knowing what your definition of pissing on someone parade or if you have a specific scenario, I wouldn't know.

The US maffia would still me killing and harrasing people if their parade wasn't pissed on."

Lol.. Well i don't want to feed the drama flames.. But let's just say it isn't hard to join dots on fab

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah i think karma is about to bite them on the ass haha

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

I believe it’s both or either OP but I’d never understand that kind of behaviour so who am I to judge

Make Love

not war

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't this thread an example of it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people try and sh*t stir??

What do they get out of it....is it just insecurity, inferiority complex and jealousy??

Or do they get genuine pleasure from the drama of trying to chip other people's armour? "

Schadenfreude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah i think karma is about to bite them on the ass haha"

You do have a lovely arse, mouthwatering good.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah i think karma is about to bite them on the ass haha

You do have a lovely arse, mouthwatering good.

Lol! Why thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope you are okay OP I’ve found some really get off on doing so. I think they have deep unhappy issues within sadly...

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

"I easy to make a general comment but without knowing what your definition of pissing on someone parade or if you have a specific scenario, I wouldn't know.

The US maffia would still me killing and harrasing people if their parade wasn't pissed on.

Lol.. Well i don't want to feed the drama flames.. But let's just say it isn't hard to join dots on fab

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I have no idea then, if it is the case that someone wants to just ruin someone happyness for their own ego or because they feel put out by someone else success then, yes.

If it's the case that a person is full of shit and feel they can ecploit other people and get away with, then piss on their parade to stop them hurting people.

Again, without specifics it is hard to comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing about doing it is, it’s a very small community really, and you can only do it from so long. People talk, and it all comes out in the wash.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"Why do people try and sh*t stir??

What do they get out of it....is it just insecurity, inferiority complex and jealousy??

Or do they get genuine pleasure from the drama of trying to chip other people's armour? "

Has someone pissed on your parade OP ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why do people try and sh*t stir??

What do they get out of it....is it just insecurity, inferiority complex and jealousy??

Or do they get genuine pleasure from the drama of trying to chip other people's armour?

Has someone pissed on your parade OP ? "

I have an amazing umbrella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a general rule, I don't understand it

I'm invariably happy for strangers who are excited by what their future holds

However, I have friends who need a dose of reality from time to time, or get wildly excited, don't think things through and end up in a slump when it all comes back on them

I do that, not to piss on parades, but because I genuinely don't want them coming a cropper and need to know they have considered everything

Of course, people will do as they will and with friendship comes the ability to help them rebuild when it does go tits up

'Told ya so' solves nothing

Being there for them can, before, during and after and sometimes that does require a liberal spraying of piss

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By *irtydevil666Man
over a year ago

bristol

"Why do people try and sh*t stir??

What do they get out of it....is it just insecurity, inferiority complex and jealousy??

Or do they get genuine pleasure from the drama of trying to chip other people's armour?

Has someone pissed on your parade OP ?

I have an amazing umbrella

That did make me chuckle

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Because they can, there's no rhyme or reason to it. And there are countless reasons why some feel the need to pull others down. Sometimes it's nasty and cruel and I suspect sometimes is due to poor mental health.

I don't think we'll ever get rid of these kind of people. But we can change how we react and engage with such people.

And if all else fails tell them to piss off

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

To be honest OP,it’s because some people are total twats.cant get my head around why as I’m not like that,maybe jealousy or they’re just negative people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people try and sh*t stir??

What do they get out of it....is it just insecurity, inferiority complex and jealousy??

Or do they get genuine pleasure from the drama of trying to chip other people's armour? "

I find as u said it's a case of feeling inferior, insecure, less than, better than, or controlling..

As case of there in pain, so they'll try to project some of there pain onto you, make you feel as shit as them

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Why do people try and sh*t stir??

What do they get out of it....is it just insecurity, inferiority complex and jealousy??

Or do they get genuine pleasure from the drama of trying to chip other people's armour? "

This and more.

We relish in other’s misery and like to feel somehow that we have power over others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fun suckers. I don’t entertain them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't add anything better that had already be said.

I personally try to stay from stuffs that has nothing to do with. But I can't 100% assure you that I have never done it in the past or will don't do it in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people try and sh*t stir??

What do they get out of it....is it just insecurity, inferiority complex and jealousy??

Or do they get genuine pleasure from the drama of trying to chip other people's armour? "
There are good people and there's the rest,thankfully the good outnumber the rest.,Let's keep it that way.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"Why do people try and sh*t stir??

What do they get out of it....is it just insecurity, inferiority complex and jealousy??

Or do they get genuine pleasure from the drama of trying to chip other people's armour?

Has someone pissed on your parade OP ?

I have an amazing umbrella

I was thinking you had an amazing ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion I think people are hurting/upset/disappointed with what they have and lash out either verbally, emotionally or psychologically to bring, the people they see as having more than them, down to their level.

It is easy to detach from it and look at it dispassionately when it does not effect me; but when it does I am afraid I am completely unforgiving - it is not a trait I am proud of either.

Mr HH

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Trust who you share information with, good or bad, then those that like to stir don’t have access to it, it’s that simple to me.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

Without knowing the details I would not want to make any claims or judgement. People jump on these threads saying they are sad lonely people etc they may well be, without knowing details and backing, what does that say really. Mob judgement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Trust who you share information with, good or bad, then those that like to stir don’t have access to it, it’s that simple to me. "

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I suppose I do have a tendency to do this in some situations. It is normally meant as a light hearted comment, it usually turns into an absolute catastrophe.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Trust who you share information with, good or bad, then those that like to stir don’t have access to it, it’s that simple to me. "

Yes this

I am very careful and intensely private much to the annoyance of my friends haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Trust who you share information with, good or bad, then those that like to stir don’t have access to it, it’s that simple to me.

Yes this

I am very careful and intensely private much to the annoyance of my friends haha"

But that's good. I don't like being questioned. If I wanted you to know something I would share of my own will. Otherwise I might just resort to a white lie if too much pressure and nosiness.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Trust who you share information with, good or bad, then those that like to stir don’t have access to it, it’s that simple to me.

Yes this

I am very careful and intensely private much to the annoyance of my friends haha

But that's good. I don't like being questioned. If I wanted you to know something I would share of my own will. Otherwise I might just resort to a white lie if too much pressure and nosiness. "

Ooo that's a good ploy x

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"Trust who you share information with, good or bad, then those that like to stir don’t have access to it, it’s that simple to me.

Yes this

I am very careful and intensely private much to the annoyance of my friends haha"

My friends and family are used to it, they know I’ll share when I’m ready if I choose to, but it took a while for that to sink in

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By *aughtyYorkGentMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Pissing on parades is just a waste of lovely lady-wee! If any women are planning any parade-pissing in the future, perhaps I could offer myself as an alternative target for your urinary outpourings?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone should be lifting each other up. That’s how a good vibe works. Not cool.

I agree with you op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone should be lifting each other up. That’s how a good vibe works. Not cool.

I agree with you op.

And starting a thread inviting others to add their judgements isn't a little hypocritical?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"And starting a thread inviting others to add their judgements isn't a little hypocritical?"

But bashing the bashers is allowed apparently

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I hope you’re OK Midnight?

This goes on in the background here ALL the time at present. It’s never been as prevalent!

There are so many people here that ‘share’ what goes on in their lives (private and fab) with others, who share it with others, who share it in their groups that it’s inevitable that gossip happens and fall out from it. If people don’t want to be talked about then maybe don’t share the issues in your life with everyone here who will share it for you! If you don’t want it repeated don’t say it!

As I also suggested in a post earlier this week.... if anyone has a personal gripe with someone go and sort it out away from forums rather than involve everyone else. It just leaves people assuming you’re talking about anyone/everyone/them in particular.

Personally, I’m well aware I don’t get along with everyone, I’m always willing to talk/apologise if you feel you need to land a message in my inbox for something Ive done - sometimes its NOT as it may have been taken

Hope you get sorted out Midnight x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They have nothing better to do . Shame as it spoils it for the good people on here .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all

I'm genuinely interested by people's motivations and trying to understand them... happiness does seem to attract green eyes from some parties sadly, but all you can do is mind your own business and bat on at the end of the day

Thanks for all of your lovely messages in my inbox

Midnight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people have narcissistic personality disorder traits.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Thanks all

Thanks for all of your lovely messages in my inbox

Midnight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks all

Thanks for all of your lovely messages in my inbox

Midnight

It is a strange one when talking about interactions in the lounge and outside of it.

Some people like to rain on any parade whether they agree with it or not.

Some just like to cause vexation for the fun of it.

Some are duplicitous with multiple profiles so that they can lurk and cause distress.

Some people like me now just keep away most of the time, because I have had my fingers burnt by "friends" who in actual fact are not friends at all. Instead someone who can do whatever they want because their fingers do all the talking, and most of the time they will never meet you in real life so don't really give a shit what you think.

Last year we had a galentines thread which was, if memory serves, a pleasant thread with harmony. Not so sure this year many would have been capable with a straight face.

Anyway enough rambling. Love you Midnight

and that is me being honest as you have always been kindness and love to me x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyway enough rambling. Love you Midnight

and that is me being honest as you have always been kindness and love to me x "

Thank you Hope, i love you too

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