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"Do you enjoy others giving you a gentle push to get out of your sweet safety spot and do something for the first time? Or do you find it stressful and counter productive? Over to you " I like being pushed a little if its slightly out of my comfort zone  | |||
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"I don't like being pushed into it by others, but I do make myself step outside my comfort zone at times. Scary, then quite liberating " Exhilarating indeed  | |||
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"I don’t need a push. Just show me the ledge and i will jump. "'If you are not living on the edge, you are taking up too much space.' | |||
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"I’m happy in my comfort zone so I’m not looking to be nudged out if it. " As long as you are happy and cosy Babs | |||
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"Do you enjoy others giving you a gentle push to get out of your sweet safety spot and do something for the first time? Or do you find it stressful and counter productive? Over to you I like being pushed a little if its slightly out of my comfort zone "Poke..poke..poke.. !
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"We both enjoy helping others experience mew things, travel, food, fun etc. Never push or mislead others into being outside their comfort zone, it has to be their choice, otherwise bad things can happen and you may ruin the experience." I like that you picked on the wording here. Yes, encouragement would be ideal. I do wonder though if someone's little push helps those who struggle to see their strengths or opportunities ahead? | |||
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"Do you enjoy others giving you a gentle push to get out of your sweet safety spot and do something for the first time? Or do you find it stressful and counter productive? Over to you. " I like to be pushed, try new things and experiment. | |||
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"I recently had a big kick up the arse to be brave and do something I should have done years ago , and although it's not all been 100% perfect since, in the long term it's the best thing for me . So yes I have , and yes I did "Was it a person of just life circumstances giving you a "kick in the arse"? If you don't mind me asking. | |||
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"A nudge of gentle encouragement probably works best for me" Happy medium. | |||
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"I like being encouraged out of my comfort zone if I know I've got support. Putting photos on fab was way out if my comfort zone a year ago, and it took someone edging me into it and being amazingly supportive to get me started. It still takes that support and encouragement to post the more daring of my photos "I see. Side thought because of the support you mentioned.. I did wonder in the past, suspicious me, how much of the nudging was for my benefit and how much for the person doing the push. | |||
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"Do you enjoy others giving you a gentle push to get out of your sweet safety spot and do something for the first time? Or do you find it stressful and counter productive? Over to you. I like to be pushed, try new things and experiment. " Has it always worked out well for you? | |||
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"I don’t need a push. Just show me the ledge and i will jump.
'If you are not living on the edge, you are taking up too much space.'"I will remember that quote when I Bungee jump. I was just making some room. | |||
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But if it's something I have no interest in then no I like my comfort zone. | |||
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"It's very much situational. A dear friend of mine pushed me out of my comfort zone at work and that helped me achieve something I didn't think was possible. I did at times call him a plonker but he meant well and it worked out well. I like it sometimes, it helps shake me out of my rut. Because I'm so used to achieving I tend to coast by and stay doing things that are doable. I like it when my friends offer love and support for me to challenge myself and grow as a person." It's easy to rest on your laurels, but there is always more to reach out for and good to have people who remind us of that. | |||
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"Do you enjoy others giving you a gentle push to get out of your sweet safety spot and do something for the first time? Or do you find it stressful and counter productive? Over to you. " Yes. Push me to do something. I'll pretty much always do it because I know I need taking out of my comfort zone. Otherwise my anxiety will keep me stuck in a rut for the rest of my days and I'll drive myself mad wondering "What if..." | |||
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"I don’t need a push. Just show me the ledge and i will jump.
'If you are not living on the edge, you are taking up too much space.'
I will remember that quote when I Bungee jump. I was just making some room. "It wasn't me. Some mountaineer. | |||
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"I like being encouraged out of my comfort zone if I know I've got support. Putting photos on fab was way out if my comfort zone a year ago, and it took someone edging me into it and being amazingly supportive to get me started. It still takes that support and encouragement to post the more daring of my photos
I see. Side thought because of the support you mentioned.. I did wonder in the past, suspicious me, how much of the nudging was for my benefit and how much for the person doing the push. "If I find myself even thinking it's verging on manipulation, I'm un-nudgable | |||
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"I reluctantly admit that I need someone to give me a nudge to step out of my cosy, little zone." I do to at times. Sometimes it's like wearing horse blinkers. Hard to see what else is around. | |||
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"Depends what it is, if she’s going in dry, I need to prepare mentally first. " Remind me to arrive wet. | |||
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"I love being pushed and despite the restrictions, K has created many firsts (as I have for him). Exciting times ahead
C"Keeping the flames sparkling and hot I like your out of the box photography. | |||
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"I like being encouraged out of my comfort zone if I know I've got support. Putting photos on fab was way out if my comfort zone a year ago, and it took someone edging me into it and being amazingly supportive to get me started. It still takes that support and encouragement to post the more daring of my photos
I see. Side thought because of the support you mentioned.. I did wonder in the past, suspicious me, how much of the nudging was for my benefit and how much for the person doing the push. "I did wonder that in the beginning, but I realised fairly quickly that in this case, and others in fact, that the support is actually genuine caring more than anything else. I will admit, it amazed me then and still does now  | |||
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"Depends on the context. If it's something I'm curious about or expressed interest in before but didn't Have the nerve to take the plunge then yeah some gebtle nudging would be welcome
But if it's something I have no interest in then no I like my comfort zone. "I do wonder sometimes if I stop pushing myself for example, does it just mean that I found peace of mind and I don't need any nudges or new things to experience? Arriving at the comfort zone again after breaking out and living wild? | |||
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"Love a little push out of my comfort zone " Can be thrilling if you like a risk. | |||
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"I recently had a big kick up the arse to be brave and do something I should have done years ago , and although it's not all been 100% perfect since, in the long term it's the best thing for me . So yes I have , and yes I did
Was it a person of just life circumstances giving you a "kick in the arse"? If you don't mind me asking. "It was 75% a person and 25% circumstance I would say | |||
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" Yes. Push me to do something. I'll pretty much always do it because I know I need taking out of my comfort zone. Otherwise my anxiety will keep me stuck in a rut for the rest of my days and I'll drive myself mad wondering "What if..."" How trusting of you. Because taking on someone's nudge means trusting they know you well enough to believe you would feel better for it. | |||
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"I like being encouraged out of my comfort zone if I know I've got support. Putting photos on fab was way out if my comfort zone a year ago, and it took someone edging me into it and being amazingly supportive to get me started. It still takes that support and encouragement to post the more daring of my photos
I see. Side thought because of the support you mentioned.. I did wonder in the past, suspicious me, how much of the nudging was for my benefit and how much for the person doing the push.
If I find myself even thinking it's verging on manipulation, I'm un-nudgable "Sometimes you just know and other times you are left with doubts what if I tried. Are you? | |||
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"Depends upon what it is " Well you are free to pick an example yourself. | |||
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"I like being encouraged out of my comfort zone if I know I've got support. Putting photos on fab was way out if my comfort zone a year ago, and it took someone edging me into it and being amazingly supportive to get me started. It still takes that support and encouragement to post the more daring of my photos
I see. Side thought because of the support you mentioned.. I did wonder in the past, suspicious me, how much of the nudging was for my benefit and how much for the person doing the push.
I did wonder that in the beginning, but I realised fairly quickly that in this case, and others in fact, that the support is actually genuine caring more than anything else.
I will admit, it amazed me then and still does now "I consciously picked on support part! Then you know it's safe to follow. | |||
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"Think as with much it depends on motivation. A nudge out of your comfort zone with dress style for example harmless and won't cause damage. Sexually is a different thing completely and I think you need to be a lot more cautious. There's a difference to being pushed and having your hand held into something you're not sure of. " Yes there is. I didnt want to isolate it to one area of life when I asked a question. Because it's interesting to see how people form their protection walls differently and what we need to achieve something. | |||
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"I don't need any encouragement...I love doing new things and having adventures. I'm more likely to encourage people to come along for the ride " it's a valuable quality to have. Curiosity of the world. | |||
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"Very much depends on who is doing the pushing......." Who would you listen to? | |||
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"I recently had a big kick up the arse to be brave and do something I should have done years ago , and although it's not all been 100% perfect since, in the long term it's the best thing for me . So yes I have , and yes I did
Was it a person of just life circumstances giving you a "kick in the arse"? If you don't mind me asking.
It was 75% a person and 25% circumstance I would say "Thank you. Glad they were a positive force of change | |||
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"I'm an over thinker so sometimes a little nudge/reassurance helps me with decisions. "I didnt look at it from that angle. Yes.. That might be a useful tool when you are struggling to settle your thoughts. | |||
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"I don't like being pushed into it by others, but I do make myself step outside my comfort zone at times. Scary, then quite liberating " This! | |||
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"Like taking myself out of my comfort zone with the right person ..also taking orthers out of theirs but always hold there hand every step of the way x " I'm happy you mentioned 'holding their hand every step of the way.. so did Frida I think. It's easy to push someone in the deep water and watch them struggle, but harder to get inside and teach them how to float by themselves. | |||
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"I do like to be challenged as long as i can do it one my ti_eline" Yes. Someone patient and understanding will be able to help you achieve that with less pressure isn't it..? | |||
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"Think as with much it depends on motivation. A nudge out of your comfort zone with dress style for example harmless and won't cause damage. Sexually is a different thing completely and I think you need to be a lot more cautious. There's a difference to being pushed and having your hand held into something you're not sure of. Yes there is. I didnt want to isolate it to one area of life when I asked a question. Because it's interesting to see how people form their protection walls differently and what we need to achieve something. " Think personally if I wanted to step out my comfort zone I'd do my research before I approached someone else. Or if someone suggested something it might give me confidence to go do something. But I think everyone is a bit like a bell curve, so we have the peak where we are comfortable at and then we have our slopes either side. The _ize of those slopes vary to person to person. Some are very narrow and some are wide. So I don't think you can't be pushed outside those slopes, they're inherently who you are. If any of my ramblings make any sense whatsoever | |||
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" Yes. Push me to do something. I'll pretty much always do it because I know I need taking out of my comfort zone. Otherwise my anxiety will keep me stuck in a rut for the rest of my days and I'll drive myself mad wondering "What if..." How trusting of you. Because taking on someone's nudge means trusting they know you well enough to believe you would feel better for it. " I would vet it first. Like, I wouldn't do anything that would make me die. But on the whole I've lived a sheltered kind of life and I'm now at a point where I realise there are no do overs. So I want do/experience as much stuff as I can. I like the phrase "try anything once" and in order to fulfil that I accept it means doing some stuff I wouldn't consider or wouldn't even think of and that would be where the nudge would come in. What's your stance on it OP? Do you find it positive to be nudged or does it make you dig your heels in/run and hide? | |||
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"Think as with much it depends on motivation. A nudge out of your comfort zone with dress style for example harmless and won't cause damage. Sexually is a different thing completely and I think you need to be a lot more cautious. There's a difference to being pushed and having your hand held into something you're not sure of. Yes there is. I didnt want to isolate it to one area of life when I asked a question. Because it's interesting to see how people form their protection walls differently and what we need to achieve something. Think personally if I wanted to step out my comfort zone I'd do my research before I approached someone else. Or if someone suggested something it might give me confidence to go do something. But I think everyone is a bit like a bell curve, so we have the peak where we are comfortable at and then we have our slopes either side. The _ize of those slopes vary to person to person. Some are very narrow and some are wide. So I don't think you can't be pushed outside those slopes, they're inherently who you are. If any of my ramblings make any sense whatsoever "I chuckled a little and yes it does. It can be very slippery slope riding down over the border of your outer circle of "out of the box territory". Maybe a bit like circles of personal hell in Dante's Inferno. | |||
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"Do you enjoy others giving you a gentle push to get out of your sweet safety spot and do something for the first time? Or do you find it stressful and counter productive? Over to you I like being pushed a little if its slightly out of my comfort zone
Poke..poke..poke.. !
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"Think as with much it depends on motivation. A nudge out of your comfort zone with dress style for example harmless and won't cause damage. Sexually is a different thing completely and I think you need to be a lot more cautious. There's a difference to being pushed and having your hand held into something you're not sure of. Yes there is. I didnt want to isolate it to one area of life when I asked a question. Because it's interesting to see how people form their protection walls differently and what we need to achieve something. Think personally if I wanted to step out my comfort zone I'd do my research before I approached someone else. Or if someone suggested something it might give me confidence to go do something. But I think everyone is a bit like a bell curve, so we have the peak where we are comfortable at and then we have our slopes either side. The _ize of those slopes vary to person to person. Some are very narrow and some are wide. So I don't think you can't be pushed outside those slopes, they're inherently who you are. If any of my ramblings make any sense whatsoever
I chuckled a little and yes it does. It can be very slippery slope riding down over the border of your outer circle of "out of the box territory". Maybe a bit like circles of personal hell in Dante's Inferno."Coincidentally I have that book on my shelf and is next in line to be read | |||
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"Do you enjoy others giving you a gentle push to get out of your sweet safety spot and do something for the first time? Or do you find it stressful and counter productive? Over to you. " Nothing makes me wanna dig my heels in more | |||
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"I don't like being pushed into it by others, but I do make myself step outside my comfort zone at times. Scary, then quite liberating " This, I find going out of ones confort zones helps growth and different levels. | |||
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"Do you enjoy others giving you a gentle push to get out of your sweet safety spot and do something for the first time? Or do you find it stressful and counter productive? Over to you. " Guess it’s depends on the intention and the way of approach of the pusher   I love to experiment things in life but I don’t like to be pushed on something that I’m certain and I don’t want x | |||
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"Do you enjoy others giving you a gentle push to get out of your sweet safety spot and do something for the first time? Or do you find it stressful and counter productive? Over to you. " I like to do things in my own time, although the support of others is always welcome | |||
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"Nope. I'll do something because I've decided to not because I'm being pushed. If I'm uncomfortable about something it's normally because there's bloody good reason to be." And this has come about from letting myself get pushed over many years for fear of disappointing people if I didn't. Fuck that. | |||
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"Do you enjoy others giving you a gentle push to get out of your sweet safety spot and do something for the first time? Or do you find it stressful and counter productive? Over to you. " Great question Tuberose It's not good to pressure someone to do something they don't want but at same time it's good to step outside comfort zone and explore!! You just never know!! .. So for me it really is an either or.... | |||
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"Staying in your comfort zone, whilst you’ll be happy, you’ll never learn or grow as a person, you’ll never be challenged " That is wholly context dependent. If it's a sexual or moral issue then it can be very damaging to indulge in something that you don't want to. | |||
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"Nope. I'll do something because I've decided to not because I'm being pushed. If I'm uncomfortable about something it's normally because there's bloody good reason to be." | |||
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"We both enjoy helping others experience mew things, travel, food, fun etc. Never push or mislead others into being outside their comfort zone, it has to be their choice, otherwise bad things can happen and you may ruin the experience." Or the person | |||
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" I chuckled a little and yes it does. It can be very slippery slope riding down over the border of your outer circle of "out of the box territory". Maybe a bit like circles of personal hell in Dante's Inferno.
Coincidentally I have that book on my shelf and is next in line to be read "Ha. I must be a witch;) | |||
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" Yes. Push me to do something. I'll pretty much always do it because I know I need taking out of my comfort zone. Otherwise my anxiety will keep me stuck in a rut for the rest of my days and I'll drive myself mad wondering "What if..." How trusting of you. Because taking on someone's nudge means trusting they know you well enough to believe you would feel better for it. I would vet it first. Like, I wouldn't do anything that would make me die. But on the whole I've lived a sheltered kind of life and I'm now at a point where I realise there are no do overs. So I want do/experience as much stuff as I can. I like the phrase "try anything once" and in order to fulfil that I accept it means doing some stuff I wouldn't consider or wouldn't even think of and that would be where the nudge would come in. What's your stance on it OP? Do you find it positive to be nudged or does it make you dig your heels in/run and hide?" I think like many others it needs to come from me. I don't ask for advice often, but when I do I listen. Ultimately don't often follow.. I chose carefully who to ask for advice on what. Mainly people who aren't obsessed with being right! I would like to believe the same people would know me well to know my 'potential' and help me bloom.
Sometimes a nudge from a total stranger in specific circumstances can be a blessing too. A reassurance from someone who sees you in a snapshot of situation hesitating and comes in with a perfect set of words to help you cross that line whatever that is. | |||
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"I'm happy to help people explore outside their comfort zones, but good communication first is a must!" Yes. Because to lead you need to know how.. | |||
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"No. I don’t like being pushed. I like my comfort zone but have stepped out of it. Only because I chose to though. " And its good to be able to say no to people. Assertive and happy in choices you fully control. On that note a question to those who don't like nudges? Is it because you are very self assured and don't need it? | |||
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"Do you enjoy others giving you a gentle push to get out of your sweet safety spot and do something for the first time? Or do you find it stressful and counter productive? Over to you. Nothing makes me wanna dig my heels in more " | |||
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"Yes but it depends on what we are talking about. Shitting in public toilet ? Hell no ! Talking to a stranger on the street: yes " Pushed for betterment of your day not to be traumatised. I get it. What if toilet turned out spanking clean and stranger dull. Ps. My favourite toilet was in Dean's Gallery in Edinburgh. | |||
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"I don't like being pushed into it by others, but I do make myself step outside my comfort zone at times. Scary, then quite liberating This, I find going out of ones confort zones helps growth and different levels." Has going out of your comfort zone never been a bad experience then for you? Or even if it was you turned it into fuel for growth ? | |||
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"I like to push out if my comfort zone, it can be scary, exhilarating, exciting... it can just be fun, or it can help you grow and transform or anywhere in between. I’m lucky with him, as he helps me push the boundaries too, whilst always feeling safe and secure "Safety net was first though, before pushing boundaries.. and that is a good place to start with ..if one wants to explore the "unknown and scary". If I get pushed a little and fall, you will catch me. | |||
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"Do you enjoy others giving you a gentle push to get out of your sweet safety spot and do something for the first time? Or do you find it stressful and counter productive? Over to you. Guess it’s depends on the intention and the way of approach of the pusher I love to experiment things in life but I don’t like to be pushed on something that I’m certain and I don’t want x"Maybe it's a bit like with soft and hard limits. They should be aware which directions are a no go. | |||
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"Nope. I'll do something because I've decided to not because I'm being pushed. If I'm uncomfortable about something it's normally because there's bloody good reason to be." I do question that about myself. If im holding myself back not taking on a specific suggestion because I'm sort of stuck in my ways? Or affected by past? Or it's because I'm like you following my intuition. | |||
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"Pushed, no. That just makes me drag my heels. Given encouragement, and unjudging support from my hubby though, has changed our life x" Dream team and yes.. one has to be so tactile about it.. so it's not having opposite effect. | |||
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"Do you enjoy others giving you a gentle push to get out of your sweet safety spot and do something for the first time? Or do you find it stressful and counter productive? Over to you. I like to do things in my own time, although the support of others is always welcome "It's nice to be in control of the pace. | |||
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"I would like to pull a few people into my comfort zone.  "Thanks for the smile Woody. That would mean 'dragging' them out of theirs! | |||
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"You ask about comfort zones on a site for swingers. Already a minority who challenge social comfort zones but... Push? No. How do you know you are right? Fuck someone up and it is YOUR fault. Push means you cant see past them, and they can't see what you are doing. However - encourage by example, create an opportunity to explore, remove the fear by increased understanding and making informed choices. Yes. Every time. "Every time I post a question on here, I do wonder about the differences in replies that would occur if I posted this on a general chat forum, not attached to swingers site. Still, it's nice to observe this micro fab world.
Removing the fear. Don't think anyone mention the f word yet. And it's probably what keeps some of us stuck in the zone? Those who think of trying things but don't dare. Not those who are happy with their bubble. | |||
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"I'm a top bi guy who after this enforced celibacy would love to be arse fucked which I've not done before. And although I've sucked hundreds of cocks I've never had one cum in my mouth... So I'd like to be encouraged to keep the cock in my mouth to completion. " I hope your fantasy comes true and you find the right people to enjoy it with. | |||
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"For me it mood depending but I am always up for trying something different " Even if you are not in a mood? So always or sometimes;-) | |||
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"Do you enjoy others giving you a gentle push to get out of your sweet safety spot and do something for the first time? Or do you find it stressful and counter productive? Over to you. Great question Tuberose It's not good to pressure someone to do something they don't want but at same time it's good to step outside comfort zone and explore!! You just never know!! .. So for me it really is an either or.... "Either or..? Thanks Sexybuoy. It prompted more questions in my head actually so I'm grateful for the answers. Even if I don't manage to reply to them all tonight which I'm sorry about. | |||
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"You ask about comfort zones on a site for swingers. Already a minority who challenge social comfort zones but... Push? No. How do you know you are right? Fuck someone up and it is YOUR fault. Push means you cant see past them, and they can't see what you are doing. However - encourage by example, create an opportunity to explore, remove the fear by increased understanding and making informed choices. Yes. Every time.
Every time I post a question on here, I do wonder about the differences in replies that would occur if I posted this on a general chat forum, not attached to swingers site. Still, it's nice to observe this micro fab world.
Removing the fear. Don't think anyone mention the f word yet. And it's probably what keeps some of us stuck in the zone? Those who think of trying things but don't dare. Not those who are happy with their bubble. "Indeed, a happy person would say "Wtf would I want to move?" Its actually intriguing how derogatory the phrase comfort zone can be - a very modern (80's) phrase - largely driven by working-class capitalism (Loadsamoney etc). Implies look at you in your comfort zone not on the edge like us real wo/men. Yet dealing with change is mostly about fear. Fear of unknown, fear of loss of present state, fear it will get worse. If you have taken years to get to a point in life where you are not paralysed by the fear - why are we so desparate to move out of it? Agreed complacency has risks - but a lot of the outsiders jeering or the 'pushing' is done by people who want you to move to where they want. Their view, not yours. Often to an area they feel stronger in or will have an advantage. Push yourself perhaps, but when others do so, look very VERY closely at why. | |||
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"You ask about comfort zones on a site for swingers. Already a minority who challenge social comfort zones but... Push? No. How do you know you are right? Fuck someone up and it is YOUR fault. Push means you cant see past them, and they can't see what you are doing. However - encourage by example, create an opportunity to explore, remove the fear by increased understanding and making informed choices. Yes. Every time.
Every time I post a question on here, I do wonder about the differences in replies that would occur if I posted this on a general chat forum, not attached to swingers site. Still, it's nice to observe this micro fab world.
Removing the fear. Don't think anyone mention the f word yet. And it's probably what keeps some of us stuck in the zone? Those who think of trying things but don't dare. Not those who are happy with their bubble.
Indeed, a happy person would say "Wtf would I want to move?" Its actually intriguing how derogatory the phrase comfort zone can be - a very modern (80's) phrase - largely driven by working-class capitalism (Loadsamoney etc). Implies look at you in your comfort zone not on the edge like us real wo/men. Yet dealing with change is mostly about fear. Fear of unknown, fear of loss of present state, fear it will get worse. If you have taken years to get to a point in life where you are not paralysed by the fear - why are we so desparate to move out of it? Agreed complacency has risks - but a lot of the outsiders jeering or the 'pushing' is done by people who want you to move to where they want. Their view, not yours. Often to an area they feel stronger in or will have an advantage. Push yourself perhaps, but when others do so, look very VERY closely at why. "I am grateful for your thoughts. It helped me clarify a lot of things in my head actually. | |||
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"Definitely no push needed, love a challenge or new adventure, even something everyday I haven’t done before. But if I don’t enjoy it then I lose interest so I guess the new experience has to appeal in its own right, not just the novelty factor. "When I walked this morning I did wonder.. tapping on What makes an inspirational woman thread this week.. if we can only be effectively nudged by those who we hold in some regard in the area it relates to. | |||
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"No. Nudging me when I am not open to it makes me reverse and I also take offence to pushy people. Try it as you may like it conversations are never going to go well. I prefer to have supportive people that encourage my ideas and ask me questions of why I don't like these things, baby steps and all that jazz "Why you don't enjoy xyz? It's a great question to ask if someone is willing to share. Getting to roots of things, not brushing them off. | |||
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"Being encouraged out of my comfort zones to do things I want to do, but consider myself incapable of has been so good for me in the past. It does need to be by someone who knows me well and knows my abilities and limitations. Their confidence in me builds my own. I have achieved a great many things I never thought possible through this. " Yes! It had to come from a source we value. I did come to this conclusion this morning too. X | |||
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"I initially hate being pushed out of it because I like to stick with what I know. But overall I like it because I learn new things" I think that's a normal wheel of emotions associated with change. | |||
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"I always have to be prized out of my shell - when I am I often surprise myself but I don't have the self-confidence to do it without a nudge in the right direction." It's ok to take your time. And when you break out of the shell.. does it feel good or like you want to run back inside ? | |||
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"we enjoy it, and are currently looking for a nudge to take our next step in cuckolding " Good luck to you ! | |||
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"It's very much situational. A dear friend of mine pushed me out of my comfort zone at work and that helped me achieve something I didn't think was possible. I did at times call him a plonker but he meant well and it worked out well. I like it sometimes, it helps shake me out of my rut. Because I'm so used to achieving I tend to coast by and stay doing things that are doable. I like it when my friends offer love and support for me to challenge myself and grow as a person." I think this is how it is for me. You are always so articulate, Meli Unlike me just at the moment *cannot... find... words...*  | |||
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"Staying in your comfort zone, whilst you’ll be happy, you’ll never learn or grow as a person, you’ll never be challenged " I see someone challenged that view down below. I always was of a mind I need to push for more and not rest. But recent months of stillness and rediscovery, made me appreciate the safety zone. And acceptance of life as it is, which i guess comes with that. Stopping the race. I don't think I could stick to that though. Not just yet at least. | |||
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"Definitely no push needed, love a challenge or new adventure, even something everyday I haven’t done before. But if I don’t enjoy it then I lose interest so I guess the new experience has to appeal in its own right, not just the novelty factor.
When I walked this morning I did wonder.. tapping on What makes an inspirational woman thread this week.. if we can only be effectively nudged by those who we hold in some regard in the area it relates to. "I took that as a given in my answer. I wouldn't do anything just to please someone or under duress, but a challenge or adventure shared between friends is usually a positive experience. | |||
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"If I was not gently pushed out of my comfort zone I would not enjoy the wide variety of sex that I enjoy now. Sometimes it is a bit overwhelming trying something new and some times you can make it a bigger issue then it really is. " The issue might be with recognising which time is it now..
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"I don't need pushing as I'm generally quite curious and will push my own limits. Sometimes I like someone to hold my hand while I do it though, so it's nice to have support. Someone nagging me to do something I've no desire to do will just really hack me off." I am the curious creature too. But sometimes the routes I take seem a bit of deja vu. I still want to be a pilot but navigator makes it more interesting. | |||
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"counter productive - totally If I go along with them with some trepidation then I wanted it in the first place. No one can make me do something I don't want to. " The idea was always there. Just asleep? | |||
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"I don't like to be pushed into anything. I know what I feel comfortable doing and I doubt any pushing gentle or not would change my mind. I was a doormat for years and lived on the ledge. I've only found my balls to say no in the last few years. " Doesn't it feel good to say no without the outdated guilt of the past you? it does for me. Maybe you enjoy it for different reasons.
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"Staying in your comfort zone, whilst you’ll be happy, you’ll never learn or grow as a person, you’ll never be challenged That is wholly context dependent. If it's a sexual or moral issue then it can be very damaging to indulge in something that you don't want to. " A fragile territory.. | |||
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"I always have to be prized out of my shell - when I am I often surprise myself but I don't have the self-confidence to do it without a nudge in the right direction. It's ok to take your time. And when you break out of the shell.. does it feel good or like you want to run back inside ? "Oh no once I'm out of it the problem is putting me back in | |||
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"It depends on the thing and the circumstances. In the past I have had people close to me give me a little push to do something that I wanted to do anyway, and I was really happy they did. I've also experienced people 'nudging' me to do things I was uncertain about, and reluctantly agreed only to end up in bad situations and with regrets. " You are the decision maker. Sometimes the nudging ones think they know whats good for you. Silly them. | |||
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"I always have to be prized out of my shell - when I am I often surprise myself but I don't have the self-confidence to do it without a nudge in the right direction. It's ok to take your time. And when you break out of the shell.. does it feel good or like you want to run back inside ?
Oh no once I'm out of it the problem is putting me back in "Contain yourself | |||
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"It's very much situational. A dear friend of mine pushed me out of my comfort zone at work and that helped me achieve something I didn't think was possible. I did at times call him a plonker but he meant well and it worked out well. I like it sometimes, it helps shake me out of my rut. Because I'm so used to achieving I tend to coast by and stay doing things that are doable. I like it when my friends offer love and support for me to challenge myself and grow as a person. I think this is how it is for me. You are always so articulate, Meli Unlike me just at the moment *cannot... find... words...* "Oh Meleth you lovely woman! I wish I could use such nice comments in my dream job application, they'd really help. The words will come back to you soon! | |||
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"Definitely no push needed, love a challenge or new adventure, even something everyday I haven’t done before. But if I don’t enjoy it then I lose interest so I guess the new experience has to appeal in its own right, not just the novelty factor.
When I walked this morning I did wonder.. tapping on What makes an inspirational woman thread this week.. if we can only be effectively nudged by those who we hold in some regard in the area it relates to.
I took that as a given in my answer. I wouldn't do anything just to please someone or under duress, but a challenge or adventure shared between friends is usually a positive experience. "I wasn't sure | |||
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"I don't like being pushed into it by others, but I do make myself step outside my comfort zone at times. Scary, then quite liberating " I'm the same way... | |||
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"I will never be pushed out of my comfort zone. I step out at my own pace." And carry on | |||
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"Very much in my own comfort zone "Seems you are not planning to move | |||
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"If I'm with someone I feel I can trust, then I'm happy to try out of my comfort zone. I'm a bit of a thrill seeker with the right person " Thrills hunt! I used to call myself collector of moments. Yours sounds better.
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"I think the idea of a 'comfort zone' is an interesting one. Most of us do things by habit or routine which are probably not that comfortable for us at all, but the longer we do them the harder it becomes to change. This is where a friendly encouragement can be helpful." Our private hamster wheel | |||
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"I need someone to give me a massive shove off the cliff that my toes dangle off most of the time "Scary ! But does it work ? | |||
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"I enjoy trying new things... sometimes though I need that little shove, and I’m very grateful for it when it happens " Perhaps you can give someone a gentle nudge too and start a domino effect | |||
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