FabSwingers.com forum: Take the hint......

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How many times have you been ignorant or oblivious to people flirting with you, to find out they have fancied you for ages?

Have you been flirting and making suggestions to someone and they haven’t got the hint yet? Or

You found out after that both of you were unsure you liked each other after not wanting to play your cards early?

*takes a breath

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

I make sure the person in question knows I'm flirting lol

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

I know how to make my feelings clear, I think I can take a hint too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually I chat/flirt to get the vibe they're not interested so the hint I take is one of fucking off

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By *luebellRacerCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

Ohh 100% I'm awful at flirting!

Hence why I'm very straightforward and open... some may say blunt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here I know when to get the hint too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once when I was 24, she asked me if I was really that oblivious or just thick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In real life I’m crap at seeing the signs.

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By *herry OnatopWoman
over a year ago

Just over there

I think I'm brilliant at reading signs...turns out I'm not really

Another thing to add to my self improvement list 2021 edition...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“ You found out after that both of you were unsure you liked each other after not wanting to play your cards early?”

That seems to be the case for me usually

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

I am terrible at flirting, I go from extremes of either being like a mouse or embarrassingly obviously.

Usually embarrassingly obvious to those who have no interest in me. I’m really crap at knowing if someone’s flirting with me unless they are direct, but I can tell if I’m wasting my time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many times have you been ignorant or oblivious to people flirting with you, to find out they have fancied you for ages?

Have you been flirting and making suggestions to someone and they haven’t got the hint yet? Or

You found out after that both of you were unsure you liked each other after not wanting to play your cards early?

*takes a breath

All the damned time! I'm always surprised when someone is interested in me!

I was flawed when a few years back a friend I'd know for ages told me she'd a crush on me for ages, I was bloody speechless. Such as a shame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my daily life I assume that no one is interested and it would have to be something really obvious for me to get the hint.

As for me flirting - forget it

I wouldn't know where to start

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I’m useless at flirting and I seldom get flirted with unless they’re d*unk

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I can be quite shy on a meet so i have had a couple of guys not make the move as they thought i was not interested. If they do make a move and i am feeling it i am quick to respond.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The woman at the checkouts said ‘Hello you!’ the other day, probably just her thing I thought.

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

We tend to surround the people we are interested in in a pincer move until they take the hint

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I've never had this, when I like someone I go straight in with the I fancy you. I have known when people have been flirting with me, but I won't say anything on the thread because I don't want them to have false/unsure thoughts about my intentions, eapecially if it is not reciprocated its easier to keep it private and respectful

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

It depends...in person I love a good flirt, and I'm pretty adept at picking up on whether someone is flirting with me or not.

In messages, not so much.

But either way I don't tend to be very subtle if I like someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In real life I’m crap at seeing the signs. "
I have been told I'm quite flirty but I'm crap at seeing signs too! What are we doing wrong!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m useless at flirting and I seldom get flirted with unless they’re d*unk

I never drink logged in on here. I can’t imagine what trouble I would get into...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I'm brilliant at reading signs...turns out I'm not really

Another thing to add to my self improvement list 2021 edition...

I like your username. Who wouldn’t like a cherry ontop?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m terrible for not thinking people are not attracted to me unless they tell me outright.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always think they're just being nice

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

Don't flirt, very direct. I don't do empty complements (shag me complements). I complement only if there is something to complement. I am also that guy who'll say "its your arse that make you your arse look big in that"

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"I’m useless at flirting and I seldom get flirted with unless they’re d*unk

I never drink logged in on here. I can’t imagine what trouble I would get into...

Oh please do it could turn out well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm better at reading signs than traditional signalling. Haha.. I do enjoy non rushed approach though so it does work out. Probably I'm too subtle or banterish at times to be taken 'seriously'

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I’m awful at reading signs or subtext regarding when a person is flirting with me, I usually assume that they do that with everyone and are being friendly. I’m also awful at flirting.

Quite how I’ve managed to ever have sex is beyond me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m useless at flirting and I seldom get flirted with unless they’re d*unk

I never drink logged in on here. I can’t imagine what trouble I would get into...

Oh please do it could turn out well

I’ll go and get beer

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Nope, useless. Don't want to assume or overstep. Need to be told, and I don't make first moves because I don't want to impose.

Usually works out though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Back in the day when women were interested

I was totally oblivious

I think back now and think

fuck he chances I missed

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I am *completely fucking blind* to this stuff. I have to work on the assumption that nobody is interested and any “signals” I think I might detect are just wishful thinking on my part.

I want to live in a world where it’s safe and acceptable to go up to someone and say “Hello. I find you very attractive. Would you like to have sex?”, and they can reply yes or no.

Yes? Wonderful. We go off and have sex.

No? That’s fine too. “I understand. My apologies for disturbing you. Have a good day.”

We have words. I wish we could use them instead of expecting everyone to read minds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

Being shy and old I never notice but I doubt many would even fancy me

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"I am *completely fucking blind* to this stuff. I have to work on the assumption that nobody is interested and any “signals” I think I might detect are just wishful thinking on my part.

I want to live in a world where it’s safe and acceptable to go up to someone and say “Hello. I find you very attractive. Would you like to have sex?”, and they can reply yes or no.

Yes? Wonderful. We go off and have sex.

No? That’s fine too. “I understand. My apologies for disturbing you. Have a good day.”

We have words. I wish we could use them instead of expecting everyone to read minds.

This is a very interesting insight into your world considering the theme of many of your previous posts about interacting with women.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I am *completely fucking blind* to this stuff. I have to work on the assumption that nobody is interested and any “signals” I think I might detect are just wishful thinking on my part.

I want to live in a world where it’s safe and acceptable to go up to someone and say “Hello. I find you very attractive. Would you like to have sex?”, and they can reply yes or no.

Yes? Wonderful. We go off and have sex.

No? That’s fine too. “I understand. My apologies for disturbing you. Have a good day.”

We have words. I wish we could use them instead of expecting everyone to read minds.

Same. Stuff is complicated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can read the clearly obvious signs that someone fancies me, and I will make my own feelings known to a person but subtle hints go over my head and then when I find out I am thinking really?! they like me?

I suppose I can be quite flirtatious in general and maybe that is giving out missed signals too.

Her x

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

My eyes give away everything

I’m flirtatious by nature, can’t help myself.

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I’m be missed signals before, only took 12 years later until I found out how he felt about me. Life would have been different had I known or realise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont get those signals at all.

I'm blind to them mentally.

I think I'm missing something that other people have x

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"I've never had this, when I like someone I go straight in with the I fancy you. I have known when people have been flirting with me, but I won't say anything on the thread because I don't want them to have false/unsure thoughts about my intentions, eapecially if it is not reciprocated its easier to keep it private and respectful"

This ^ saved me typing it out

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I dont get those signals at all.

I'm blind to them mentally.

I think I'm missing something that other people have x "

Do they go over your head????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont get those signals at all.

I'm blind to them mentally.

I think I'm missing something that other people have x

Do they go over your head????

Yes x

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By *elisandre300Woman
over a year ago

dontbefuckingnosey

I have no problem reading signals and can usually tell if someone if interested straight away.

However I’m crap at flirting.

I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve said the wrong thing (I’m quite sarcastic) and the person I’m chatting with feels I’m not interested or I’ve insulted them.

I’ve lost a few people I’ve been really interested in because of this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The check out lady also said have you got a nectar card, I thought there’s definitely a kharmic chi love thang going on here, but turns out she was just asking about my points.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I don’t get the signals in real life and the only way I flirt is this

If I was feeling brave I might tell someone on here that I like them ... maybe. That’s not true - I probably wouldn’t

but if we had been chatting a long time then I would tell them. She’s says

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I dont get those signals at all.

I'm blind to them mentally.

I think I'm missing something that other people have x

Do they go over your head????

Yes x "

I might have to lift you up then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many times have you been oblivious to people flirting with you, to find out they have fancied you for ages?"

all the time

I'm not very good at this

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By *ottom4topxMan
over a year ago

Derry

Or maybe they got the hit but there just not interested and ignore it. Have to do that myself sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m no good at knowing people are interested in me. But depending on how I’m feeling I can flirt, especially when I’ve had a drink all my filters go away x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to assume no one was flirting or making advances to me snd then recently found out loads of people were so now I question everything - I still never want to assume mind you fear looking arrogant!

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

I'm naturally flirty can't help it ..but do av a shy side wen it come 2 bien close 2 someone x

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

I’m oblivious to flirting.

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"I’m useless at flirting and I seldom get flirted with unless they’re d*unk

I never drink logged in on here. I can’t imagine what trouble I would get into...

Oh please do it could turn out well

I’ll go and get beer

Call me

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

It's difficult on here as there is a lot of banter and flirting and I wouldn't want to assume it is anything more than that, so I don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's difficult on here as there is a lot of banter and flirting and I wouldn't want to assume it is anything more than that, so I don't.

Kx"
This is true... Its very easy to flirt on a keyboard but taking it to real life is a very different matter... I take a lot on here with a massive pinch of salt

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I'm completely guilty of it, I guess it's cause I don't see myself as others do so it passes me by and I'm oblivious to it half the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why I start the "Am I on your hotlist?" threads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently I flirt all the time, it’s as natural as breathing to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's why I start the "Am I on your hotlist?" threads

Does it work for u then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Whole life

I am currently being tested for Adult Autism though

I can find it extremely difficult to read people in person, understand subtext and sometimes can across as blunt. I also have a terriblle fear of rejection and feel inadequate alot of the time which doesnt help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's why I start the "Am I on your hotlist?" threads

Does it work for u then "

It worked like 3 times! They're so good, I've started chatting to people who I would have probably never did if not for the thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I act like I didn't know when I don't fancy them

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I can't flirt, and I don't recognise when someone else is flirting with me.

I need someone to be ridiculously obvious before I'll get the message, otherwise I'll just carry on completely oblivious for ever.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

I can't help flirting, its second nature to me. I will only flirt with people I like, though - whether it's as a person or because I fancy the arse off them.

However, I'm not always sure when the feeling is reciprocated - they need to spell it out to me x

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I'm a flirt. Online, in person, whatever (shocking, I know).

And I love when I get the "flanter" (thank you to the person that introduced that word into my life) back. However, it takes me a very long time to realise, if ever, that someone is flirting back with any intent. There are times I've never realised it.

More often than not, even when the person has said it outright, I still don't believe it. Takes a long while to convince me it is meant and not all part of a wind up of some sort.

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