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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

In the time honoured words...

What have you done today to make you feel proud?

I pulled myself away from a low mood this morning and had a decent day as a result

I also used the word acuity in a conversation and felt like a fucking genius

Let us know what you're proud of, anything counts, shameless brags welcome!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As hard as it is, challenged a really close friend who has slipped into old behaviours, had a open honest n Frank chat with her, bout the direction she is heading down

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

nothing.....i was meant to get started on my apprenticeship assignment and have only written the title page!!

i am going to be crap at working from home!! might have to look into renting a small office somewhere lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As hard as it is, challenged a really close friend who has slipped into old behaviours, had a open honest n Frank chat with her, bout the direction she is heading down "

That's awesome mate

Calling out someone close to you can be the hardest thing in the world but just keep the end goal in sight and they'll thank you for it once the time's over

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"nothing.....i was meant to get started on my apprenticeship assignment and have only written the title page!!

i am going to be crap at working from home!! might have to look into renting a small office somewhere lol"

Haha I know what you mean, I'm terrible for getting distracted/procrastinating! I started my own business just before the first lockdown and with the amount of admin involved I'm glad Covid's given me an excuse to not do it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"nothing.....i was meant to get started on my apprenticeship assignment and have only written the title page!!

i am going to be crap at working from home!! might have to look into renting a small office somewhere lol"

The assignment starts with the title page, so least its started, hear your pain tho I'm the same with 4 uni assignments I need to get started always tomorrow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As hard as it is, challenged a really close friend who has slipped into old behaviours, had a open honest n Frank chat with her, bout the direction she is heading down

That's awesome mate

Calling out someone close to you can be the hardest thing in the world but just keep the end goal in sight and they'll thank you for it once the time's over

Well it's a repeated pattern, n patience n tolerance wears thin, I don't hold out much hope, which sounds nasty, it's not as have history behind it

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By *irtydevil666Man
over a year ago

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Survived another day.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Survived another day....."

Sometimes that needs to be the focus and that's perfectly ok. Glad you got through it

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I have been my own cheerleader and cut myself some slack.

At times I annoy myself, I have a tendency to expect too much from myself.

Today I looked back at how far I've come.

I'm not the person I was hoping to be but given the past I think that's been an unrealistic expectation on my part.

I acknowledge and accept that.

Take a look at the "happy..." thread and you'll understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been my own cheerleader and cut myself some slack.

At times I annoy myself, I have a tendency to expect too much from myself.

Today I looked back at how far I've come.

I'm not the person I was hoping to be but given the past I think that's been an unrealistic expectation on my part.

I acknowledge and accept that.

Take a look at the "happy..." thread and you'll understand. "

Good to be in that place of cutting yourself some slack pat yourself on your back for the strides you've made in moving forward be proud of that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have been my own cheerleader and cut myself some slack.

At times I annoy myself, I have a tendency to expect too much from myself.

Today I looked back at how far I've come.

I'm not the person I was hoping to be but given the past I think that's been an unrealistic expectation on my part.

I acknowledge and accept that.

Take a look at the "happy..." thread and you'll understand. "

I saw the thread and I think you're more than allowed to be your own cheerleader.

I believe no one ever stops evolving and we'll continue to work on ourselves for our whole life. But it is important to stop and recognise progress. I don't know you and I have no experience of what you spoke about but, I will say, the actions you took back then and being able to share your story now is infinitely fucking courageous!

Enjoy the day/week/month/year for yourself. There's no rules. You've more than earned it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been my own cheerleader and cut myself some slack.

At times I annoy myself, I have a tendency to expect too much from myself.

Today I looked back at how far I've come.

I'm not the person I was hoping to be but given the past I think that's been an unrealistic expectation on my part.

I acknowledge and accept that.

Take a look at the "happy..." thread and you'll understand. "

I bloody love this

. Wish you could see yourself as people on here see you. An absolute warrior

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I re-established some boundaries which I had already started laying down, it was hard, but I did it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I re-established some boundaries which I had already started laying down, it was hard, but I did it

I'm too nice and I would have found a million reasons to put this off! But, it will be better for you in the long run and you need to look after 'you' first. Glad you managed to push through!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I re-established some boundaries which I had already started laying down, it was hard, but I did it

I'm too nice and I would have found a million reasons to put this off! But, it will be better for you in the long run and you need to look after 'you' first. Glad you managed to push through!

Thank you

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Well done for getting yourself out of your low mood OP, you should be proud of that.

Today I've realised that I internalise anything that doesn't go to plan as being my fault - I place the onus on me and blame my weight, not being good enough, being too me. In part it's because it rarely happens, in part down to my upbringing and my constant desire to achieve. I've realised I've got to stop doing that and stop being so hard on myself. I don't need to be anything more than I am.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well done for getting yourself out of your low mood OP, you should be proud of that.

Thank you

I blamed my upbringing for a lot of things and I'm still working through a lot of it. It's a slow journey but necessary to move forward in life.

It sounds like you've reached a place of peace/clarity and that's fantastic. You're right, you don't need to be anything more than you are you just need to be everything you already are

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

*Bump*

Coming to the end of another day so I'm reigniting my little serious corner of fab. Come in, have a seat and let the world know your triumphs today

For me, I didn't let the shite grey, wet, blustery weather get me down and bar a couple of passive aggressive emails I managed to get through my work load and set myself up for a good day tomorrow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like this thread

I've been feeling very demand avoidant recently, but have managed to push through and get things done. Today it was sewing name tags on school uniform. Only little thing, but it felt good to get it out of the way and now I don't have to endure that nagging at the back of my mind telling me I'm rubbish for not keeping on top of things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like this thread

Glad you like it

Argh I hate that voice! I'm a procrastinator and it's often in my head too

Great effort getting the name tags done!

Even the biggest achievements once started with the smallest of steps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Despite not really wanting to keep commitments that I've made for today, I've learnt on my journey that if I dont...

Then I go through a process of self loathing, very critical of self with loads of self denigrating...

So I've kept them, it's for the greater good as well, to help someone who needs the help.....

"There for the grace of god go i"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Despite not really wanting to keep commitments that I've made for today, I've learnt on my journey that if I dont...

Then I go through a process of self loathing, very critical of self with loads of self denigrating...

So I've kept them, it's for the greater good as well, to help someone who needs the help.....

"There for the grace of god go i""

That's awesome mate!!

We are our own worst enemy sometimes but it's important to battle through it, especially when it's to continue your personal development and help others

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

*Bump* Another day drawing to a close and time to reflect on the positives.

I'm proud of myself for unconsciously worry tree-ing a situation before I even stopped to think about it. I'm an anxious person who's prone to overthinking/over worrying but the worry tree technique has been a staple for me for a long while and today I feel like all the hard work is all paying off!

If it matters to you then it doesn't matter if it's big or small. Let us have it, say it loud and say it proud!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Well done for lifting re-directing your train of thought O.P.

I ran further today than I did yesterday. I didn't like it but I kept going and now I feel ...... EPIC !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sold some work to a country I have never sold to before, always cheers me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*Bump* Another day drawing to a close and time to reflect on the positives.

If it matters to you then it doesn't matter if it's big or small. Let us have it, say it loud and say it proud! "

Can I give you a little cbt counselling technique, its called worry time, so at the end of the day set an hour aside for worry time, if u find yourself overthinking during day, consciously say ti yourself, I'll think about this at worry time!!!

But well done it's all about coping strategies for our thinking and having the ability to actively change it thinking, or acting on our thoughts, become an observer of our thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I finally sat down and did all my paperwork. Now I'm cooking celebratory curry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spent an hour in the gym first time in over a month not an easy feat when u suffer with chronic fatigue.

now about to tuck into my 2000 word uni assignment glutton for punishment lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well done for lifting re-directing your train of thought O.P.

I ran further today than I did yesterday. I didn't like it but I kept going and now I feel ...... EPIC !"

Thanks Granny

Great effort on your run!!

From someone who would rather drive to the end of the street than run there I am in awe of you today! May your legs be strong and carry you to many more PB's!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Spent an hour in the gym first time in over a month not an easy feat when u suffer with chronic fatigue.

now about to tuck into my 2000 word uni assignment glutton for punishment lol"

What's it on, I have 3 2000 word assignments I need to tuck into despite the 1000 word as well

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By *inxybWoman
over a year ago

Durham

I went to Costco and didn’t come out with a catering size cake!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I sold some work to a country I have never sold to before, always cheers me

Ahh that sounds awesome, well done!!

Raise a well earned glass to that tonight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Spent an hour in the gym first time in over a month not an easy feat when u suffer with chronic fatigue.

now about to tuck into my 2000 word uni assignment glutton for punishment lol"

Well done and I hope you surpass the word count in no time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But well done it's all about coping strategies for our thinking and having the ability to actively change it thinking, or acting on our thoughts, become an observer of our thoughts "

Always happy to hear advice, thank you Mumbles. I really like the sound of that, I find compartmentalising thoughts and not letting them run amok in my mind is a good way for me to keep the madness at bay so I'll try to use this

How's your day been mate?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Spent an hour in the gym first time in over a month not an easy feat when u suffer with chronic fatigue.

now about to tuck into my 2000 word uni assignment glutton for punishment lol"

Congratulations on battling through it!

I don't think many people could do an hour in the gym right now, lockdown has been a cruel mistress haha

Just a workout for the mind to get completed now and then maybe you can treat yourself....

? The gym will still be there another day

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I went to Costco and didn’t come out with a catering size cake!"

Woohooo!!

I best not recommend cake as a treat then as I did above

Maybe some fresh fruit? Or y'know, wine also works..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I finally sat down and did all my paperwork. Now I'm cooking celebratory curry"

Paperwork is one of my most hated tasks, I envy your clear desk Sir!!

What type of curry are you cooking? I'm about to drive home and feeling rather peckish. A detour may be on the cards..

haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But well done it's all about coping strategies for our thinking and having the ability to actively change it thinking, or acting on our thoughts, become an observer of our thoughts

How's your day been mate?

My day truthfully I havebt taken care of anything i should, choosing rather to distract and avoid on fab, online shopping, hiding from feelings, suppressing them, but that's what I've always, done so now that I'm clean, they can very unmanageable internally for me, but it's all a process of learning, I will have to sit with them soon, learn from them then be able to change...

I use worry time when I'm overthinking so use it often lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Spent an hour in the gym first time in over a month not an easy feat when u suffer with chronic fatigue.

now about to tuck into my 2000 word uni assignment glutton for punishment lol

Well done and I hope you surpass the word count in no time "

Thanks I only have til Tuesday to do it so it's looking highly unlikely lol not helped when I'm procrastinating on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Always happy to hear advice, thank you Mumbles. I really like the sound of that, I find compartmentalising thoughts and not letting them run amok in my mind is a good way for me to keep the madness at bay so I'll try to use this

How's your day been mate?

I use worry time when I'm overthinking so use it often lol "

I have those days too, I bury my head in anything other than what I should be doing

just remember not to be too hard on yourself. You are allowed a break. You are allowed a rest. See today not as a wasted day but a day you've taken to recharge, physically and mentally, and put a plan in place for tomorrow. You don't have to catch up with everything all at once, just do one extra thing a day and you'll be back on track before you know it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

*Bump* Friday's nearly over with and Heather Small's making her last come back before she melts into the weekend

It's been a quiet day for me today but not bad so that I am happy about. For today's proud moment I'm going to pull one from a couple of days ago when someone I've never spoken to before messaged out of the blue to tell me I had a great profile!! I know it's not to everyones taste but it took me time and effort to craft and everyone could do with a little ego boost now and again lol

Hit me with your happy moment of today and let's ride the wave through the weekend!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*Bump* Friday's nearly over with and Heather Small's making her last come back before she melts into the weekend

Hit me with your happy moment of today and let's ride the wave through the weekend!

Simply getting some motivation and submitting a uni assignment...

We all need a little ego boost at times n that's alright

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had an awesome week ... my business is picking itself up and beginning to jog along again! All positives ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Simply getting some motivation and submitting a uni assignment...

We all need a little ego boost at times n that's alright

Ahh well done pal! Is that 1 of the 4 you mentioned the other day? Hopefully this puts you on a roll and you can get the others knocked out in no time!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Had an awesome week ... my business is picking itself up and beginning to jog along again! All positives ... "

Happy days!!

glad things are on the up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simply getting some motivation and submitting a uni assignment...

We all need a little ego boost at times n that's alright

Ahh well done pal! Is that 1 of the 4 you mentioned the other day? Hopefully this puts you on a roll and you can get the others knocked out in no time!"

Yeah 1 of the 4 written I've gotta do, but also have 2 big psychology exams in May

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By *den_GCCouple
over a year ago

San Fernando, Gran Canaria

Painted 3 walls in the club today

all by myself.

Everything hurts and I'm dying but I feel very accomplished. Miss Eden_GC Xx

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place

I am iff today. No alarm so had a lie in longer than planned.

Was going to paint my fence, but it was too windy and cold.

So I have cleaned my kitchen thoroughly, and done bathroom.

Also did a few beauty things for myself.

Tea in oven, gin in hand.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Simply getting some motivation and submitting a uni assignment...

We all need a little ego boost at times n that's alright

Ahh well done pal! Is that 1 of the 4 you mentioned the other day? Hopefully this puts you on a roll and you can get the others knocked out in no time!

Yeah 1 of the 4 written I've gotta do, but also have 2 big psychology exams in May "

Rather you than me mate

I'm glad my exam days are over lol You've got your head switched on and you're on a good path so keep focused and you'll smash it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Painted 3 walls in the club today

all by myself.

Everything hurts and I'm dying but I feel very accomplished. Miss Eden_GC Xx "

I feel your pain, I started painting my decking last weekend and I managed to stick it out for half a day before I sacked it off

feet up and a well earned

for you tonight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simply getting some motivation and submitting a uni assignment...

We all need a little ego boost at times n that's alright

Ahh well done pal! Is that 1 of the 4 you mentioned the other day? Hopefully this puts you on a roll and you can get the others knocked out in no time!

Yeah 1 of the 4 written I've gotta do, but also have 2 big psychology exams in May

Rather you than me mate

I'm glad my exam days are over lol You've got your head switched on and you're on a good path so keep focused and you'll smash it"

Just trying is all, day at a time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am iff today. No alarm so had a lie in longer than planned.

Was going to paint my fence, but it was too windy and cold.

So I have cleaned my kitchen thoroughly, and done bathroom.

Also did a few beauty things for myself.

Tea in oven, gin in hand. "

That sounds like a positive day to me. Sometimes a lie in and a slight change of plans can be good for the soul. And it's never a bad thing when you take time out for 'you'.

I'll cheers to the gin, I've a bottle of Kronenburg in my hand and here's to a good weekend

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Simply getting some motivation and submitting a uni assignment...

We all need a little ego boost at times n that's alright

Ahh well done pal! Is that 1 of the 4 you mentioned the other day? Hopefully this puts you on a roll and you can get the others knocked out in no time!

Yeah 1 of the 4 written I've gotta do, but also have 2 big psychology exams in May

Rather you than me mate

I'm glad my exam days are over lol You've got your head switched on and you're on a good path so keep focused and you'll smash it

Just trying is all, day at a time

Amen to that brother

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