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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Say 20 or 30 years ago... and assuming you were aware of it, do you think your life would have been any different?

As an example, I do wonder, that had I been aware that there were women out there that embraced & encouraged bisexuality in a partner, would I now be married with kids?

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

There were plenty contact mags about 30 years ago.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

I think if people had discovered and been able to explore their sexuality earlier in life, would almost certainly made different life choices.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"There were plenty contact mags about 30 years ago."

But considered seedy and whispered about. Today it is open and accessible.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Probably not, although the older I get the more I look back and think how much of my youth I squandered not realising what a valuable asset it was and how quickly it's gone.

For me it's an "if I knew then what I know now" situation.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"Say 20 or 30 years ago... and assuming you were aware of it, do you think your life would have been any different?

As an example, I do wonder, that had I been aware that there were women out there that embraced & encouraged bisexuality in a partner, would I now be married with kids? "

Yes, swinging community was much smaller and was far more accepting and open minded over diversity than it is today. It was truly dominated by couples bi males were usually, almost exclusively in the swinging community part of a couple. Solo bi males tended to be more associated with LGBT community.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Yes my life would have been very different. I have always been a very sexual person but could never express myself the way i wanted as would have been considered a tart. I just lived my life the way which was expected of me but was very unhappy. Fab has allowed me to be the true me and things are much better now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I don’t think so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I think so, as with if there had been swiping right apps too, I was terrible at reading the signs if a woman was into me.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"Say 20 or 30 years ago... and assuming you were aware of it, do you think your life would have been any different?

As an example, I do wonder, that had I been aware that there were women out there that embraced & encouraged bisexuality in a partner, would I now be married with kids? "

This is actually a very good question and if I'm honest , I think my life would have been vastly different in almost every aspect of life . Very few people outside of fab know I'm bi and it has to stay that way , but the acceptance I've received in here has changed my life completely

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

No fab is just a tool for me.

20 years ago I was already in a longterm fwb open poly dynamic, I've known and played to what I am for a long long time

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

Well I'd have had less d*unk sex. That would have been a good thing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I certainly would be paying child benefits to a lot of ppl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I would have been 20, twenty years ago and I doubt I would find myself here. It's not what I was after at the time. Sex wasn't a priority and I was happy with sex life I had and interest I received in 'real life'. But who knows really..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Say 20 or 30 years ago... and assuming you were aware of it, do you think your life would have been any different?

As an example, I do wonder, that had I been aware that there were women out there that embraced & encouraged bisexuality in a partner, would I now be married with kids?

Yes, swinging community was much smaller and was far more accepting and open minded over diversity than it is today. It was truly dominated by couples bi males were usually, almost exclusively in the swinging community part of a couple. Solo bi males tended to be more associated with LGBT community."

There should be a thread of how swinging has changed over time. I find your post quite interesting!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe I wouldn't have got into a really unhealthy 10 year relationship at 17.

What a waste of time that was!

I could have been having so much fun when I was so much hotter

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Truth right here.

I think as much as my life went wonky donkey I could have been in a much worse situation.

Being promiscuous was, in my earlier years a way of seeking validation from others and it's only later in life I can recognise that.

I think had I had it at my fingertips back then the way I do now, it could have been an extremely dangerous path.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

20 30yrs ahí at least I would have found a larger group of people not feel normal around instead of saying something that raised an eyebrow and then failing to talk about it again.

Yes, I think I would have been a different person.

Thank heavens I am the amazing man I am today.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Truth right here.

I think as much as my life went wonky donkey I could have been in a much worse situation.

Being promiscuous was, in my earlier years a way of seeking validation from others and it's only later in life I can recognise that.

I think had I had it at my fingertips back then the way I do now, it could have been an extremely dangerous path."

I can relate to that Peachy

Having Fab at my fingertips as a youngun would probably have damaging to me.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"Say 20 or 30 years ago... and assuming you were aware of it, do you think your life would have been any different?

As an example, I do wonder, that had I been aware that there were women out there that embraced & encouraged bisexuality in a partner, would I now be married with kids?

Yes, swinging community was much smaller and was far more accepting and open minded over diversity than it is today. It was truly dominated by couples bi males were usually, almost exclusively in the swinging community part of a couple. Solo bi males tended to be more associated with LGBT community.

There should be a thread of how swinging has changed over time. I find your post quite interesting!!"

The swinging community has changed significantly, much smaller as I said. Communities within the whole were smaller, sub communities one could say.

Introduction of the WWW and sites like this, programs like British sex, Sexcetera opened the the swinging world to a much wider audience, the whole ethos and dynamincs of the "swinging scene has change" not necessarily for the better in many cases.

The post was to answer the OPs ? Because of ethos and acceptance of the swinging community 30 years ago. Been involved for over 36 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There were plenty contact mags about 30 years ago.

But considered seedy and whispered about. Today it is open and accessible."

It's still seedy and whispered about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Other sites were around and they worked fine. Still ended up in a living nightmare but hey ho. I'm not dead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It may have been a little concerning me finding out THAT long ago, but I think it would have helped massively to find out and get involved a few years earlier than I did.

I was lonely and insecure.

This world has made me feel desired and I have made some real, lifelong friends x

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By *arbarianzCouple
over a year ago

BARNSTAPLE

I was 15 or 5! either way, wouldn't have changed my life as we are in this together AS a couple!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably not, although the older I get the more I look back and think how much of my youth I squandered not realising what a valuable asset it was and how quickly it's gone.

For me it's an "if I knew then what I know now" situation. "

Agreed

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