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By *ittlekinks38 OP   Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

I asked in an early post what wouldn't make you reply to a message...now am asking what would make you reply to messages...

Most folk...would rather they didn't get "hey" "hi" "hows you" " hows fab treating you" "fancy a shag" open one-liners .... so what's the best message to get your attention? Asking for a friend or a few thousand men on fab lol ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh im not really that fussed aslong as its mostly polite, i even dont mind the dreaded "Hey, How are you doing" message that people seem to dislike for some reason. Aslong as when i read their Profile it interests me and they are not a million miles away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have little idea

I'm so confused I'm actually bored

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I have plenty of openings on my profile, it’s simple and my profile actually states I’ll answer any decent message with some content.

But I still get the basic messages every day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love cheeky and flirty banter ... always reply to those!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as its not creepy and the grammar is decent lol

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By *aythegMan
over a year ago

stevenage

Get the same old stuff is boring to some people. But if someone’s being polite and being themselves, pretty rude to judge them on that! It’s only the first message and then you can get the ball rolling and change the chat.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

The profile makes us reply. The initial message will sometimes make us reply positively when we otherwise wouldn't have but if a profile is good we'll respond to one liners or obvious copy and paste. It's the messages that come after that count

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By *aythegMan
over a year ago

stevenage


"The profile makes us reply. The initial message will sometimes make us reply positively when we otherwise wouldn't have but if a profile is good we'll respond to one liners or obvious copy and paste. It's the messages that come after that count"

Exactly

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

A hello and a small introduction followed by a compliment or if we have similar interests with no overly sexual content. It's not really rocket science to send a thought out message. It is as said above the next few messages that really count tho. You can tell in 3 messages usually how the rest of the conversation is going to go

R

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh a compliment...I always reply to a compliment... But I ignore the just `Hi` ones as they come across as borrrrring... No effort either so that possibly means no effort in other ways too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shhhh. Don’t tell anyone, but I actually reply to the majority anyway. Regardless what they say. But the ones that excite me is when it sounds friendly and they sound fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll respond to an introductory hi how are you if the profile doesn't make me do this

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

If they’ve made an effort and not just said hi or sent dick pics.

If they interest us with their pics, profile and/or message.

K

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Getting a message to reply to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually I'll reply to a forum thread... Or perhaps if i met you in a chat room

I like lots of fun, chatty, relaxed banter.. I don't like overly familiar or intense, serious 'what are you looking for' type conversations

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I look at profiles before I open a message, if the profile has something that sparks my interest then that'd encourage me to reply to the message.

If the profile is virtually blank then usually the message will be equally uninspiring.

If it's clear that the sender has read my profile, has understood it, & respects what it says, then I will always reply, even if it is a "no thanks" (in which case I always explain my reasons).

Hi, how you doing? type messages put the onus on me to extend the conversation, yet I didn't instigate it. These types of message feel lazy and unimaginative and often go unanswered.

If it feels like the sender has put some effort in, & actually want to talk to me, rather than just using a scatter gun approach & messaging every female they see online, then I will reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a cheeky message that is funny and witty .. Someone that looked at your photos, profile or comment on thread and used it to make you smile.... I got one last week and I genuinely burst out laughing.... If anything else it can make your day!!

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By *weety and BossCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire


"I love cheeky and flirty banter ... always reply to those! "

100% I love the flirty cheeky ones gets my attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all depends on my mood at the time to be completely honest.

But I usually reply to comments from the forum or something that makes me laugh.

And of course if I like the profile.

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By *arbarianzCouple
over a year ago

BARNSTAPLE

being amusing..

Laughter is the key for us. we ultimately want to enjoy the company of those who are around us, you could have a dick 10 inches long that tastes of chocolate and cums money... but till you can make K laugh, she won't be interested!

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Having a good profile, where its been written with humour or intelligence.

Pics that appeal to Me too.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I respond to every message regardless of content because I get very few so it's not difficult.

However it doesn't matter how good the opening message is if you can't maintain that level of conversation.

Make an effort but don't overreach.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

The profile, and the message if I can tell it's about me and my profile. (Well, it won't make me reply, but that's the best bet)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of reasons mentioned, but also for me something completely unique, out of the box, yet personal. Like picking on a word or phrase in my bio and sharing something related. Then you know they thought about it before typing. And thoughtful is a good sign.

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By *ungleTemptressWoman
over a year ago

The Jungle

Something funny, a joke relating to me or something in my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Something funny, a joke relating to me or something in my profile"

This is true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting post I’ve message a few. With various and had about 2 replies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like people who clearly read my profile and make the message relevant. As a general rule I don’t reply to anyone with no pictures or unverified couples profiles (nearly 100% fake accounts in my experience). I like a bit of humour

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By *lim and louiseCouple
over a year ago

dromore


"Tbh im not really that fussed aslong as its mostly polite, i even dont mind the dreaded "Hey, How are you doing" message that people seem to dislike for some reason. Aslong as when i read their Profile it interests me and they are not a million miles away."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply to pretty much everyone, most of the time it's a 'thanks, but no thanks' though.

I prefer it when people cut out all of the small talk and get straight to the point, not many do that though...

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By *lim and louiseCouple
over a year ago

dromore

We reply to most texts,unless they are just plain odd,for us wether they can hold a conversation with us,if after a sentence they go quiet they get binned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I asked in an early post what wouldn't make you reply to a message...now am asking what would make you reply to messages...

Most folk...would rather they didn't get "hey" "hi" "hows you" " hows fab treating you" "fancy a shag" open one-liners .... so what's the best message to get your attention? Asking for a friend or a few thousand men on fab lol ??"

Friends I will always answer. Anyone else only if they are asking a genuine question and I can help with the answer in a couple of sentences,that doesn't require a full on conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I reply to pretty much everyone, most of the time it's a 'thanks, but no thanks' though.

I prefer it when people cut out all of the small talk and get straight to the point, not many do that though..."

I am the same - say what you are messaging about, neither of us actually care how the other is, or what we are up to!

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

A message that actually shows genuine interest in us as a couple & demonstrates they have taken time to read and understand our profile. Sadly that type of message is a rare occurrence.

K

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By *ittlekinks38 OP   Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x


"Tbh a compliment...I always reply to a compliment... But I ignore the just `Hi` ones as they come across as borrrrring... No effort either so that possibly means no effort in other ways too"

Yeah get that even if they don't even as much have a profile pic or any decent pics or nice polite bio .... what kinda effort they gonna make in the bedroom like

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