FabSwingers.com forum: how wpuld you react

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I was in meeting today, where the client could not get my name right.

Now its not a difficult name, and he had my business card in front of him. I corrected him 4 times, and eventually had to stop the meeting to ask him politely to get my name right.

Normally it wouldn't bother me, but the name he used is my dad's who for reasons I won't go into I cannot stand . Every time he used it I got uncomfortable, and had to say something.

What would you do in that situation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People always get my name wrong x

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

It would irritate me as well. I am not sure whether I would just go along with it or make it a formal point, that would depend on the relationship I have with that person and also the relationship I am trying to build?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I get called the wrong name a lot. Similar but still wrong. And I ALWAYS correct people when they do it. Names are important.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well to be honest he didnt know your personal circumstances so it wasnt his fault it made you feel uneasy. For him to get it wrong it must have been a very similiar name. Was it important to the meeting that he got it correct or important to you. If it wasnt important to the meeting or he needed to get it right i would of let it go after the first time. If it was important to the situation i would have spelt it for him.

But it sounds more as though it was a personal issue for you

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Youve answered your own question because you said "normally" which means it was because it was a personal issue to you

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

To be fair your name doesn't exactly roll off the tongue

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It would depend on the client. I am used to people getting my name wrong. I usually end the meeting with a handshake saying something like 'I don't want you to forget this meeting so I'll give you my name once again'.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"To be fair your name doesn't exactly roll off the tongue

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Do you think he used his fabs name?;-)

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"To be fair your name doesn't exactly roll off the tongue

Do you think he used his fabs name?;-)"

Is that not his real one then ?

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

"People always get my name wrong x

thats right gertrude

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By *acktilMan
over a year ago

Tewkesbury

People always get my name wrong on the phone so used to it, doesn't mean it's not annoying though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To be fair your name doesn't exactly roll off the tongue

That is true I'll use my real name next time.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Whether or not it had irritated me I would not have stopped a meeting with a client over them geting my name wrong...

Business is difficult enough at the moment, and I'm not looking to lose customers over something so trivial.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"People always get my name wrong on the phone so used to it, doesn't mean it's not annoying though."
Names are important, I agree - and getting them wrong persistently can come across as disrespectful!

Nice avatar

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Whether or not it had irritated me I would not have stopped a meeting with a client over them geting my name wrong...

Business is difficult enough at the moment, and I'm not looking to lose customers over something so trivial."

if it was a passing meeting then maybe it would be irrelevant

if it was a meeting with a client i am going to be speaking with on a regular basis then i would point it out.

I get called Yvonne, Elaine, Rhianna, etc all the time but as i am on the phone i dont see the need to correct them however, if a manager or one of the clients called me the wrong name i would correct them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id find it very annoying... your name is very easy to remember. Sometimes i would check with a person how there name was pronounced if i was unsure.

Id find it disrespectful and if i got someone else's name wrong id hope they would correct me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Whether or not it had irritated me I would not have stopped a meeting with a client over them geting my name wrong...

Business is difficult enough at the moment, and I'm not looking to lose customers over something so trivial."

Is it trivial? It can be a lack of respect, and if. ypur hoing to build a relationship wouldn't you want it to be on the correct platform?

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Whether or not it had irritated me I would not have stopped a meeting with a client over them geting my name wrong...

Business is difficult enough at the moment, and I'm not looking to lose customers over something so trivial."
I agree with you Jane

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Whether or not it had irritated me I would not have stopped a meeting with a client over them geting my name wrong...

Business is difficult enough at the moment, and I'm not looking to lose customers over something so trivial.

Is it trivial? It can be a lack of respect, and if. ypur hoing to build a relationship wouldn't you want it to be on the correct platform? "

But you said "normally" it wouldnt bother you which implies it only bothered you because it was your fathers name

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Whether or not it had irritated me I would not have stopped a meeting with a client over them geting my name wrong...

Business is difficult enough at the moment, and I'm not looking to lose customers over something so trivial.

Is it trivial? It can be a lack of respect, and if. ypur hoing to build a relationship wouldn't you want it to be on the correct platform?

But you said "normally" it wouldnt bother you which implies it only bothered you because it was your fathers name"

In this instance yes it was that. And no normally I can get someone to call me by my mame without having to stop a meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I was in meeting today, where the client could not get my name right.

Now its not a difficult name, and he had my business card in front of him. I corrected him 4 times, and eventually had to stop the meeting to ask him politely to get my name right.

Normally it wouldn't bother me, but the name he used is my dad's who for reasons I won't go into I cannot stand . Every time he used it I got uncomfortable, and had to say something.

What would you do in that situation?

unless its a very uncommon name you must hear your fathers name used regularly surely?

Business wise people who you are trying to work with deliberately use this ploy to see how you keep your composure when things irritate you. But if it affects you that badly you have to do what you do.

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

I had this with a former boss of mine, he even had the cheek to tell me I didn't know how to spell my own name!

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"Whether or not it had irritated me I would not have stopped a meeting with a client over them geting my name wrong...

Business is difficult enough at the moment, and I'm not looking to lose customers over something so trivial.

Is it trivial? It can be a lack of respect, and if. ypur hoing to build a relationship wouldn't you want it to be on the correct platform? "

Yes it's trivial.....compared to the impact on my staff if I lose clients and orders.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it never bothers me if someone gets my name wrong, especialy old people.

i just think its funny and makes a change from being called my usual name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it shows a lack of respect and concentration on their part

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had this with a former boss of mine, he even had the cheek to tell me I didn't know how to spell my own name!

slightly off topic but hacks me off a tad when people spell my name wrong (like they did on my driving licence) especially after ive sent in documentation like my birth certificate when applying for it

Even my pay slips were all spelt wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So I was in meeting today, where the client could not get my name right.

Now its not a difficult name, and he had my business card in front of him. I corrected him 4 times, and eventually had to stop the meeting to ask him politely to get my name right.

Normally it wouldn't bother me, but the name he used is my dad's who for reasons I won't go into I cannot stand . Every time he used it I got uncomfortable, and had to say something.

What would you do in that situation?

unless its a very uncommon name you must hear your fathers name used regularly surely?

I do hear the name, and it doesn't bother me. I guess it was more me being called the name. I wouldn't want to be called it as I don't want to be associated to it.

You know when you start a thread without thinking and then wish you hadnt? This is one of them! Lol

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Whether or not it had irritated me I would not have stopped a meeting with a client over them geting my name wrong...

Business is difficult enough at the moment, and I'm not looking to lose customers over something so trivial.

Is it trivial? It can be a lack of respect, and if. ypur hoing to build a relationship wouldn't you want it to be on the correct platform?

Yes it's trivial.....compared to the impact on my staff if I lose clients and orders.

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If it really bothered me then i would mention it but only at the end of a meeting, i think its trivial thing to lose concentration over.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"So I was in meeting today, where the client could not get my name right.

Now its not a difficult name, and he had my business card in front of him. I corrected him 4 times, and eventually had to stop the meeting to ask him politely to get my name right.

Normally it wouldn't bother me, but the name he used is my dad's who for reasons I won't go into I cannot stand . Every time he used it I got uncomfortable, and had to say something.

What would you do in that situation?

unless its a very uncommon name you must hear your fathers name used regularly surely?

I do hear the name, and it doesn't bother me. I guess it was more me being called the name. I wouldn't want to be called it as I don't want to be associated to it.

You know when you start a thread without thinking and then wish you hadnt? This is one of them! Lol"

Well go and start a more useless one then im bored tonight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

doesnt bother me but i hear funny versions of my name, but if they carry on using it wrongly then i get wound up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get his name wrong !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People always get my name wrong x

thats right gertrude

Now now ethyl!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a situation when someone deliberately mispronounced my name, but it was a lack of respect thing at work and they were being childish and showing off, and I dealt with it on that basis.

But I don't usually mind if people get my name wrong if its not intentional and ill usually answer to the name they've called me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not so much getting my name wrong that bothers me, it's the voices in my head that answer to them that is the bother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U shuda fucked his wife and said- say my name bitch say my name lol

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"So I was in meeting today, where the client could not get my name right.

Now its not a difficult name, and he had my business card in front of him. I corrected him 4 times, and eventually had to stop the meeting to ask him politely to get my name right.

Normally it wouldn't bother me, but the name he used is my dad's who for reasons I won't go into I cannot stand . Every time he used it I got uncomfortable, and had to say something.

What would you do in that situation?

Say "Fuck off Mr Twattyface-Bollockchops" then exit the room gracefully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id have said something yes,and have done in the past.If he had your buisness card infront of him then there was no excuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he should have been in a meeting were he could not pronounce a persons name even with a card in front of him if it was that hard should find easyer job were he kept his mouth shut lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My name isn't that difficult to get wrong but some do, spelling it is often where it all falls apart and I tell people as I get annoyed, the name I was given at birth may come from another name but that is not the one I was given

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this a lot too...

I just wait a bit, then "accidentally" call them the name of the person on their left...;-)

Great fun if they are sitting next to the opposite sex...

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

i have a reasonably difficult to pronounce surname, so after 1, maybe 2 attempts at MR ..... i always tell them to just call me by my first name.

its annoying for me, but can make other feel very uncomfortable by not being able to say a difficult name, and not wanting to insult you, so probably best to make it easier for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it shows a lack of respect and concentration on their part

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I was in meeting today, where the client could not get my name right.

Now its not a difficult name, and he had my business card in front of him. I corrected him 4 times, and eventually had to stop the meeting to ask him politely to get my name right.

Normally it wouldn't bother me, but the name he used is my dad's who for reasons I won't go into I cannot stand . Every time he used it I got uncomfortable, and had to say something.

What would you do in that situation?

My clients are too valuable to risk losing over such matters, I would have injected humour into the situation and made my point that way.

That said, you didn't actually say you stopped the meeting and ended it or that you lost the client, maybe in your circumstances your act of assertiveness was the right call.

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

Please tell me your name is Rodney, the client's name was Trigger and he kept calling you Dave. Please!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well to be honest he didnt know your personal circumstances so it wasnt his fault it made you feel uneasy. For him to get it wrong it must have been a very similiar name. Was it important to the meeting that he got it correct or important to you. If it wasnt important to the meeting or he needed to get it right i would of let it go after the first time. If it was important to the situation i would have spelt it for him.

But it sounds more as though it was a personal issue for you"

he corrected him 4 times... it would piss me off immensely if someone still said it wrong regardless of what name it was or the personal apsect.

its just bad manners or just ignorance on their part.

to keep getting it wrong after 4 corrections means he just aint listening or he is being a pratt. Either way the OP is quite right to stop the meeting and tell him off.

i have a surname that is also used as a first name and people commonly call me by my surname in error. easy mistake and first time it doesnt bother me and i politely correct them. carry on doing it and i will be more forceful.

if the guy was in a meeting he should know everyones name, i make point of knowing who everyone is when i am in meetings.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I would have ignored his difficulty and secured a deal.

There's a million reasons he could have been struggling. Not necessarily down to ignorance.

You had the choice of whether to place the importance on your name or the business you chose to place it on your name.

It's only irritating if you are irritated. Personally i'd find it hilarious but no one would know what I was feeling. It's business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Please tell me your name is Rodney, the client's name was Trigger and he kept calling you Dave. Please!"

Pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How annoying for you ... if he honestly forgot it you'd think he'd just stop using ANY name! I would have had to turn it completely Monty Python and start calling him Deirdre or something!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had a client for about 14/15 years now who calls me Phil.

That would be great if I was actually called Phil.

I don't say anything because not only have I allowed it to drag on, but secretly, it amuses me

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By *abloBackMan
over a year ago

London

After being told, four times, the other party was showing a distinct lack of respect for whatever reason.

I make the OP right

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By *acreadCouple
over a year ago

central scotland

I couldnt criticise as I am the most hopeless person where names are concerned.

I even kept calling a guy by his dead brothers name and cringed every time I realised what I had done.

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By *xscotMan
over a year ago

Kingston

I need reminders of names - I have friends and colleagues that I have know for many years and I will still get them wrong - usually because I am thinking of other things - they know as I spin through the carousel of names till I usually hit on the right one

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By *heekychezzaWoman
over a year ago

warrington

Two of my oldest friends pronounce my name wrongly, and have done so for almost 40 years.In the early years I tried to get them to say it correctly....but gave it up as a bad job years ago. My mother named me Cheryl - the "Ch" as in church...they both call me Sheryl. As Evelyn Waugh wrote in Brideshead Revisited "It doesn't matter what people call you unless they call you pigeon pie and eat you up."

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

"I have had a client for about 14/15 years now who calls me Phil.

That would be great if I was actually called Phil.

I don't say anything because not only have I allowed it to drag on, but secretly, it amuses me

His name isn't Trigger by any chance

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

So... Here we have a client who is worth the trouble of a meeting rather than a one to one.. Obviously someone who can bring business your way and in todays climate, everyone needs that! He gets your name wrong four times and you stop a meeting to tell him off? Your company must have more business than you can handle!

Maybe he had the card in front of him, but maybe he also had notes on a pad that he was more intent on getting across? Maybe he was trying you out to see how you handle a situation.. In my book you failed!

What you have or may have done is cause some embarrassment to a potential client that could have been handled after the meeting in a much more private way! You have certainly brought potential shortcomings in him or yourself to others in the room!

If you had done that when I was a senior manager, I would have spoken very strongly to you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is in a name, that which we call a rose, By any other name would still smell as sweet.

People call me the wrong name alot, usually sophie for some reason... i dont mind.. i usually just say " it's phoebe" and laugh it off, its not a big deal.. if i know people are talking to me i dont mind..

but in a business situation it comes across as pretty unprofessional to not even get a persons name right when they have corrected you more than once.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"After being told, four times, the other party was showing a distinct lack of respect for whatever reason.

I make the OP right"

I kind of agree with that!

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

But it sounds more as though it was a personal issue for you

he corrected him 4 times... it would piss me off immensely if someone still said it wrong regardless of what name it was or the personal apsect.

its just bad manners or just ignorance on their part.

to keep getting it wrong after 4 corrections means he just aint listening or he is being a pratt. Either way the OP is quite right to stop the meeting and tell him off.

if the guy was in a meeting he should know everyones name, i make point of knowing who everyone is when i am in meetings."

So YOU are Neville Neville

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get it quite a bit and find it rather amusing ... Although after the forth time I would probably feel for the poor chap to remember people's names is a wonderful quality , I find people , especially people I don't know have a much better response if I call them by their name ... U let it get to u and on a proffesional level it is a epic FAIL !

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By *edbagioMan
over a year ago

ripon

"Please tell me your name is Rodney, the client's name was Trigger and he kept calling you Dave. Please!"

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By *acreadCouple
over a year ago

central scotland

Maybe he didnt like you and knew it would wind you up and went for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

being honest when im in a work meeting im usually my full christened name unless its a informal meeting then its jac or Jacqui

and yes sometimes when people get my name wrong it drives me potty but most know i hate my full christain name

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"being honest when im in a work meeting im usually my full christened name unless its a informal meeting then its jac or Jacqui

and yes sometimes when people get my name wrong it drives me potty but most know i hate my full christain name

I'm the other way around... in work mode I don't want people to shorten my name and I find it cheeky when they do. It is adding a level of familiarity that I have not offered.

I reflected on the OP last night and wondered about short term memory loss on names. I have met people who just cannot hold a name in their head but can recite all the elements in order. It's not about lack of respect or concentration for them just that their minds are wired differently.

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