FabSwingers.com forum: What make you not reply

By *ittlekinks38 OP Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

Theres always posts of men complaining about their messages not being answered and being blocked....am just curious what is it that makes ppl not reply to messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A black silhouette no picture. A post just directed to me, which means they've clearly not read our profile. A picture of just a cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two or three word message with a rubbish profile( I always look first)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its particularly crude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Standard answer - subject or first line indicates they didn't read the profile.

Sending friend invite with a first message.

Sending cock pics staring at me as I open it, next to their face.

And so on. Usually first sentence is all I need.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of things:

People sending boring / generic/ one line messages, or messages that show they clearly haven't read my profile.

Having a dick photo as their profile picture, or having no profile picture at all.

Having little or no profile text, or if that text is generic and doesn't interest me.

Or if their profile shows they're clearly into something I'm not, like bareback or cross dressing etc.

Loads of action shots on their profile.

Bad spelling and grammar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of things:

People sending boring / generic/ one line messages, or messages that show they clearly haven't read my profile.

Having a dick photo as their profile picture, or having no profile picture at all.

Having little or no profile text, or if that text is generic and doesn't interest me.

Or if their profile shows they're clearly into something I'm not, like bareback or cross dressing etc.

Loads of action shots on their profile.

Bad spelling and grammar. "

Oh, and sending Dick pics or nudes with their message if I haven't indicated I want to see them.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

No face pic - attached or on profile.

Not physically attracted to him.

Attaching cock pic but no face pic.

Rude/overly graphic message.

And more & more I'm getting messages from guys that I interacted with over a year ago. Er, no! It didn't proceed when we COULD meet, what makes you think it'll work now?

Clearly not meeting my profile requiremts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lack of enthusiasm, I can tell when someone isn’t interested....or interesting

A dude who wants me to be their daddy.

Straight up ‘faf’ messages.

And many more reasons I can’t reply, I want to out of politeness but they leave me with nowhere to go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many reasons.

Shadow or dick avatar

Terrible profile

Giving me advice or feedback

Telling me what they are going to do to me

Crude/rude

One liners

One that says they’ve read your profile when they clearly haven’t

Ones that tell me I need a photographer err, nope

The one that told me he could be my personal trainer and get my belly fit (just rude)

Dick pics

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

A super crude message

A message I can't tell is about me

A profile that puts me off

A million and one other things, but those are common

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yes, action shots too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obvious cut and paste messages

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

Addressing only the Fem half, then they waffle on about making me squirt, doing anal, and cucking my fella ect.

So many of the no tick boxes. My instink is to hurl a load of abuse. As they have clearly not read our profile. But I was brought up, if you can't say anything good, don't say anything at all.

It just gets deleated and blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Theres always posts of men complaining about their messages not being answered and being blocked....am just curious what is it that makes ppl not reply to messages? "

Not bothering to read my profile

Messages with like "Fuck now" and stuff like that

People that are like 300 miles away

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By *ambozaMan
over a year ago

kilburn park

I’m not a fan of messages that are difficult to decipher. Normally a result of strange grammatical use and terrible spelling.

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By *hrough the looking gla55Couple
over a year ago

Epsom

We usually reply to all message... even if just for the giggle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We usually reply to all message... even if just for the giggle "

Hold my beer!........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friends requests when we haven't chatted.

Personality vacuums.

One word messages.

Anyone who expects you to jump through hoops for soft swing.

No photos.

Hairy cock, balls or hairy ass and pussy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it contains text speak.

It's crude etc etc

I quickly lose interest in replying then the line "what will you do with my wife" turns up in the inbox

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Rude/crude initial message or creepy as in "I know who you are" with no context . Oh and the "I'll pay you " ...

I reply to 99% of my mail

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

So many, many things.

- They haven’t attached a face pic and there isn’t one on their profile

- They have but I’m not attracted to them

- Their message is just a few words

- Their profile says nothing about them

- Their profile shows they’re looking for things I’m not interested in/turned off by, or is over aggressively “I AM A NATURAL ALPHA DOM”

- Their profile is single but is full of action shots

- Their message is crude/rude/contains a fantasy of what they’ll do to me

- They’re not local

That’s probably not even close to all the things that make me just delete, but it’s the main ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Used to just be if it was vulgar or abusive but my tolerance is really low these days. Now, if the message is boring then it won't be getting a reply. Theres only so many "how's you?" messages I can take.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The sender being me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Theres always posts of men complaining about their messages not being answered and being blocked....am just curious what is it that makes ppl not reply to messages? "

Guys that message and say they are a couple.

Or a couple that messages and say only the guys playing.

Had both quite a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww do try to be fair, but if not read my profile this is obvious say no one liners, crude or c pics are signs and Copy paste ones sent weekly started to block after several weeks saves there time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of these are just men bashing. Fact is it doesnt matter if you write a polite msg as most women just delete without reading so all this crap about nice profile etc is just rubbish as they just want guys to stroke there ego and you get nothing back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of these are just men bashing. Fact is it doesnt matter if you write a polite msg as most women just delete without reading so all this crap about nice profile etc is just rubbish as they just want guys to stroke there ego and you get nothing back."

No. It isn’t.

I always read a message, and/or look at a profile.

I’ve had meets off here in my last profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The message received

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A black silhouette no picture. A post just directed to me, which means they've clearly not read our profile. A picture of just a cock "

Or ask for a fuck straight away,or send dick pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of the above. Mostly hate trying to add as a friend when they haven't even messaged

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

No profile pic, not verified, no context to their profile, just my personal preference. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep venting ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of two things make me instant delete without a response... if they haven’t read our profile and boring messages! A little humour goes a long way imho

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

No pics and obviously someone who hasn't read my profile.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Purely because I am not interested in them

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

As a rule I reply to all my messages, as I don't get many.

I wouldn't reply to something abusive or suggesting anything illegal... would just report and block.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Feel free to tell me what part of my comment was bashing men. I didn’t even mention men at any point, I said “them” throughout. Because guess what, it’s not just single men sending crappy messages from crappy profiles, I’ve ignored plenty of messages from couples and single women for the same reasons.

I have also replied to enough people to have plenty of meets, and have made some very good friends. Because their messages, photos, and profiles were interesting and appealing. If you aren’t getting any replies, you need to look at your profile, your messages, even your forum posts, and maybe adjust your approach.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

Anything rude or crude would be deleted but I think that’s fair enough

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

No profile photo

Generic copied & pasted messages

Messages telling us we sound like a great couple when we deleted all our profile text

Badly worded messages

“What u up 2” messages

I could go on...

J x

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I don't get any messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stupid profile names put me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The lack of minge pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of things:

People sending boring / generic/ one line messages, or messages that show they clearly haven't read my profile.

Having a dick photo as their profile picture, or having no profile picture at all.

Having little or no profile text, or if that text is generic and doesn't interest me.

Or if their profile shows they're clearly into something I'm not, like bareback or cross dressing etc.

Loads of action shots on their profile.

Bad spelling and grammar. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting a "dick how big" reply after a carefully worded message tailored to her profile.

Or "hey mind if my bf/fb/husband/entire group of friends joins?"

Thankfully my looks prevent me from getting a lot of replies, so the problem is almost non existent

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By *ickJMan
over a year ago

Hemel Hempstead

Rather than "men bashing", the majority of responses indicate that "lack of profile pic" or "unsolicited dick pic" are the reasons for lack of response.

It's possible to check someone's profile before reading their message (and delete it if their profile doesn't interest you.)

Are you sure your messages are that polite?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i think they'll ask to meet

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Theres always posts of men complaining about their messages not being answered and being blocked....am just curious what is it that makes ppl not reply to messages? "

When there's no pics or words on profile or in message

When is clear they haven't bothered to check if we match by reading my profile

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By *arahtvTV/TS
over a year ago

cardiff

"Theres always posts of men complaining about their messages not being answered and being blocked....am just curious what is it that makes ppl not reply to messages? "

all of the previous reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simply to many man messages resulting in mass delete! o to have this problem

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Simply to many man messages resulting in mass delete! o to have this problem

I’m pretty sure no-one has said that.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Poorly written or incomplete profiles, attraction obviously (if they've bothered to put pics up), if all pics are dick pics, not in age or location, our 'interests' are not compatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are clear in our profile - we don't want pics of genitalia (this includes profile pics) and the constant "how are you/how's Fab treating you/nice pics/hot missus etc. These are always ignored.

Any polite message that shows the author has read our profile or at least presents as decent and considerate is garunteed a reply even if it is a no thank you/not for us reply.

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork

When the guy has no pictures but demands I send him some

When he has sent me a dozen previous messages that I’ve not read or replied to

When he doesn’t say hello. Just asks to fuck

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork

Oh or most of the time I’m just not interested, don’t have time or just feeling antisocial so don’t feel the need to reply

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I forgot:

Profile types I'm not looking for (so have blocked them)

Mainly all action shots

Abusive messages

I hope people can take some of these posts as advice for their profile and messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, sometimes, I just don’t want to, and that’s my right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often people contact me expecting me to make the conversation. Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy to participate but please give me something to bounce off, I’m not a good conversation starter. You contact me, you get the ball rolling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I appreciate all the negative comments from woman about guys sending poor / generic / graphic messages.

But is also worth noting that when the odds of getting a response are like 1 in a 100, it can be very time consuming & demoralising to keep going and make every message you send unique.

So perhaps some positive suggestions? Not just the negative

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Pretty much all of the reasons given above. I'll always look at a profile before I open a message, if the profile doesn't appeal, or is pretty much blank, then I know the message is unfortunately likely to be equally uninspiring.

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

They’re dull

I can’t be bothered

Something like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apathy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stupid profile names put me off"

Damnb

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I get messages from other men I'm straight. I used to be polite and reply but now most times I just delete them. Not sure they read my profile

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By *rimKardashianMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"Hi"

...this usually will get a straight up delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi hun

Hi babe

Sending a phone number

Cock pic

Those who haven't read my long profile...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Text speak. No profile photo. No info on their profile. Only speaking to me on my couple's profile. Being downright crude. Swearing. Sending cock pics. Saying they've read my profile and want to meet, but clearly haven't if they smoke etc. Sending the same regurgitated message they did a few months ago. Need I go on?

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Not true, I always reply to well written messages or profiles

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Out the ones I've deleted today alone :

They asked to meet now

Asked me to spank them, we've Never spoken before

Were the other end of the country, not likely we'd meet.

Had only cock pics or pics of other women on show and I couldn't see much of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A black silhouette no picture. A post just directed to me, which means they've clearly not read our profile. A picture of just a cock "
this

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel

A profile named after the male appendage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way they engage in the conversation, profile pics, “alpha Dom” nonsense, dick pics etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ouch......

A well worded written first message, that brings to highlight the fact you've spent the time in reading a profile, will always draw a more favorable....

Think your missing the point of...n this is a big factor....excuse my French but fab is so cock heavy....how do u stand out to elicit a response back...is the question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply to all my messages unless they are rude (not in a good way anyway) or obnoxious!

I don't get 1/10th of what the women on here must get, and fully understand the reluctance to reply constantly when all they will say is "thanks but no thanks".

A simple delete is more than enough, its not aggressive, rude or any such thing.

Those who send abuse purely because they get rejected should get a temporary ban. Repeat offenders should just be binned off the site!

Tye frustration comes when you are chatting and it is going really well, then they stop for no discernable reason. But they have every right to chat to whom ever they want!

Frustration, yes. Getting arsey about it.... best you jog on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very little or nothing on profile

No pics on profile so we can see what they're like

Crude message to start with

Obvious by content of message they haven't read out profile

Friends request straight away before even sending a message (again not reading our profile)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not true, I always reply to well written messages or profiles "

I reply to 9o% of my messages, even if it's to say thanks but no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crude rude or arrogant

Sausage as a profile pic

The word professional

Arrogant comments

This list can go on lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The u wanna fuk Tonight we just got! A man advertising he's straight but he's looking for a man!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not true, I always reply to well written messages or profiles

I reply to 9o% of my messages, even if it's to say thanks but no. "

We always reply

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

Messages off straight men, erm why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't reply to most messages I'm afraid.

If I get a compliment, and I reply with thank you, it usually leads to a further message, when really I was just saying thank you and thats it.

If I reply with a no thank you, it leads to a why not, or let me change your mind message.

I reply to forum users, and friends, and thats usually it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't reply to most messages I'm afraid.

If I get a compliment, and I reply with thank you, it usually leads to a further message, when really I was just saying thank you and thats it.

If I reply with a no thank you, it leads to a why not, or let me change your mind message.

I reply to forum users, and friends, and thats usually it "
m

Hold my beer....

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By *partacus2024Man
over a year ago

Near You

Anything in the way of being entitled

Some of us have some selfworth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they have a stupid status on their profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Theres always posts of men complaining about their messages not being answered and being blocked....am just curious what is it that makes ppl not reply to messages? "

The we we approach fab allows for me to reply to every message because I have the time but sometimes I wish I didn’t especially when men go tit blind!!!!

But any messages I leave for my wife there is a millions reasons why she won’t reply and some of them are so left field even I think WTF but it’s her adventure not mine!!!

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By *amantha TSWoman
over a year ago

Swindon

Being a straight guy (why are you mailing me??)

Being a couple where the wife doesn't want to be involved (so you're a single guy then???)

Being too eager (No I don't want to meet now)

Not reading my profile (and calling me Hun or babe)

Not attaching a face pic (as politely requested)

Today's day ends with a Y....

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Being too keen and pushy. Flirting with half the fora except me except in private.

Pity parties for one ring alarm bells too. I’m moody enough, I don’t need the competition

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything that sounds arrogant, bossy, preachy or "holier then thou"... To my detriment I have responded to some but you live and learn

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By *ourNextAddictionMan
over a year ago

Somerset

Normally when people just message saying - Hi.

It’s like c’mon, if that’s how you’re approaching me. How’s the conversation going to be in general - why bother wasting time.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

The copy and pasted messages, such as:

fancy a fuck

How are you

You are sexy

You are fit

One liners with very little thought involved in them, I will stop there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like their avatar pic. I don't even read a message if their pic doesn't attract me.

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By *ampshire_guy40Man
over a year ago

hampshire

I very rarely get any form of messages at all it's hit and miss for me.when I do get messages it's from other men from forum posts I replied to.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Mostly I can't be arsed as bad as that sounds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mostly I can't be arsed as bad as that sounds

Sensible. Not bad at all.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

"A profile named after the male appendage

That's not good for anyone called, Percy, John, Nobby, Thomas or just plain ol' Dick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't like their avatar pic. I don't even read a message if their pic doesn't attract me. "

This.^

Also if I check out their profile and the room they take a picture in is a shit hole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A profile named after the male appendage

That's not good for anyone called, Percy, John, Nobby, Thomas or just plain ol' Dick.

*damn.....I will leave now.

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