FabSwingers.com forum: Mentally in a downward spiral

By *ememberTheName OP Man
over a year ago

barnsley

So I’ve been struggling for a good while now ...

Ive woken up ... wishing I hadn’t

Sorry for the dark post

I didn’t really have anywhere else to let it out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's up..?

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By *urtyGentMan
over a year ago

eastleigh

You’re much the better for opening it up somewhere OP. Fair play for being brave about it. DMs are open if you want to chat to someone that gets like this sometimes too

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Anyone in the vanilla world you can reach out to mate?

I know services are stretched at the moment but please give it a go.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

A problem shared op

Is it sunny where you are?

If so just a simple thing.

Go to the window pull back the curtain, close your eyes and feel the sun on your face. Just for a few seconds nothing more.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

So sorry to read this. You do right in posting this thread as you need to tell someone about how you're feeling.

Have you spoken with your GP recently?

Are you able to do a little something today to distract you? Exercise helps so a brisk walk perhaps?

Put some happy music on, go easy on yourself and take life a day at a time. On very bad days take it an hour at a time. Just keep going. Those dark clouds will lift one day

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By *luebellRacerCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

Well done for reaching put OP.

Message your GP.

Message us if you need to!

I hope these replies show that we care about you.

It's hard times, but you're not alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry to hear you are feeling like this.

Inbox open if you wish to vent x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I’ve been struggling for a good while now ...

Ive woken up ... wishing I hadn’t

Sorry for the dark post

I didn’t really have anywhere else to let it out

One day at a time OP. Soon the sun will be shining and we can see loved ones again. You’re not alone.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

o/p you are making a good start by sharing here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I’ve been struggling for a good while now ...

Ive woken up ... wishing I hadn’t

Sorry for the dark post

I didn’t really have anywhere else to let it out

It’s ok to let it out here.

It’s a really hard time at the moment. Lots of us have really struggled with this lockdown.

Practical thoughts are, have you checked your levels of vitamin D and magnesium, and do you take a probiotic, these can all have a huge impact on your mental health.

Have you considered talking to a counsellor? Do you have a friend you can talk to in the meantime?

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

Is there someone you can talk to, you've done the hard step by reaching and know you need to just speak to somebody.

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By *ememberTheName OP Man
over a year ago

barnsley

So sorry for this . I’ll be fine

Thank you for the responses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So sorry for this . I’ll be fine

Thank you for the responses

You have no need to be sorry. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's good that you have spoken out here, maybe talk to someone close to you too. It might helpif you contact your GP tomorrow too.

Feel free to inbox me xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So sorry for this . I’ll be fine

Thank you for the responses

But its OK to not be fine too.

And get it out to feel better... You care for yourself enough to express that, which is a positive thing. You will be fine indeed.

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By *lipy123TV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

Don't be sorry op were all in the same boat every day being the same gets us all down. We have all git the urge to spread our wings, Like others have said do something different like a walk in the woods or beach or just going for a drive. this forum is a big help with coping with don't know what i would do without it, Big hug mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending a big hug, please ask for help in the real world xx

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

OP don't be sorry. As someone who has dealt with the black dog my inbox is open to you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My hubby has just been through a depressive cycle. You are not alone OP. Please ask for help in the real world. Hugs x

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By *ememberTheName OP Man
over a year ago

barnsley

I’m really sorry I’m not looking for attention I swear

I’m out take care guys n girls

Thank you for the supportive messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there OP, quite recently. Lockdown took its toll and I almost admitted defeat.

Don’t try & change too much at once, think of something small but positive that you can change, pick one a week and I’m sure you’ll make yourself feel better.

Also if you’re really struggling don’t be afraid to reach out to anyone you can trust!

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

It's okay not to be okay. Thanks for raising this OP. I wish you well, as other have offered that friendly ear, take them up on it, chat it through with a friend or someone offline too.

This page on the NHS website has some good places to contact.

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines/

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

"I’m really sorry I’m not looking for attention I swear

I’m out take care guys n girls

Thank you for the supportive messages

Don't apologise. Well done for speaking out.

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

Depression and anxiety play a part for me too.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

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By *ememberTheName OP Man
over a year ago

barnsley

Thank you fellas

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Don't be sorry. There will have been many who are also dealing with the same thing who will have felt a little less alone by your post. It was brave and will have done good.

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By *irtydevil666Man
over a year ago

bristol

It's good to talk finds it helps me

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork

Hugs OP. So many people are struggling at the moment. I’m so glad you reached out. I find it easier to say I’m hurting to strangers than I do to people I know. Xx

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Sorry to hear, OP.

I agree these are challenging times and some days are harder than others.

Hug of support to you and anyone else who could do with one today.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I’ve been struggling for a good while now ...

Ive woken up ... wishing I hadn’t

Sorry for the dark post

I didn’t really have anywhere else to let it out

Same. Feels like I'm in a black hole of crushing sadness.

Hope you are ok. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I’ve been struggling for a good while now ...

Ive woken up ... wishing I hadn’t

Sorry for the dark post

I didn’t really have anywhere else to let it out

Same. Feels like I'm in a black hole of crushing sadness.

Hope you are ok. Xx"

If there's anything I can do, please holler

I have a social bubble of zero and I am only a whatsapp or 45 minutes away if you're struggling x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Free to talk again whenever you are sweet

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By *ememberTheName OP Man
over a year ago

barnsley

"So I’ve been struggling for a good while now ...

Ive woken up ... wishing I hadn’t

Sorry for the dark post

I didn’t really have anywhere else to let it out

Same. Feels like I'm in a black hole of crushing sadness.

Hope you are ok. Xx"

Stay strong miss x

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By *konCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

This will end . It’s just a case of sticking it out . In a few years it will be another tale to tell

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By *ickerMan
over a year ago

Preston

Mental health is something that we are starting to learn more about. I hope anyone who are struggling find the help that they need. You aren't alone.

I don't suffer with it but I know lots of people who do. Sometimes it turns tragic. All I can say is talk to people. Life is hard so you don't want to put more stresses and pressure on yourself.

Get help as soon as you can. You will be so happy that you did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I’ve been struggling for a good while now ...

Ive woken up ... wishing I hadn’t

Sorry for the dark post

I didn’t really have anywhere else to let it out

My son who was only a year younger than you ended his life 8 months ago due to depression.

If you really do feel like there's no other way out message me, you need to talk to someone and there's no better than a stranger who knows all and doesn't judge.

I'm here if you need me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs OP, I've been in dark places before too. Well done for saying something! Hopefully all the responses at least show that people care x

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By *ememberTheName OP Man
over a year ago

barnsley

"Hugs OP, I've been in dark places before too. Well done for saying something! Hopefully all the responses at least show that people care x"

It does

And thank you to you all

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By *ememberTheName OP Man
over a year ago

barnsley

"Free to talk again whenever you are sweet "

Thank you but I’ll be ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please find someone to talk to. There is a lot of support on here all be it virtually.

Don't lock down yourself.

We are here.

Archie is a really good listener.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done for opening up but im a man in my late 40s and I had suicidal thoughts 3 years ago and my advice is seek help from professionals ASAP and dont feel embarrassed...im only still here because a friend saw the signs and got me to seek help.....please seek professional help x

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By *ememberTheName OP Man
over a year ago

barnsley

"Please find someone to talk to. There is a lot of support on here all be it virtually.

Don't lock down yourself.

We are here.

Archie is a really good listener. "

Thank you

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I know you are all trying to be helpful but no phone numbers or links that are not allowed please.

If you want to dispute that you can do it from the contact link rather than on here or our mailbox

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By *ememberTheName OP Man
over a year ago

barnsley

"I know you are all trying to be helpful but no phone numbers or links that are not allowed please.

If you want to dispute that you can do it from the contact link rather than on here or our mailbox"

Sorry guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I’ve been struggling for a good while now ...

Ive woken up ... wishing I hadn’t

Sorry for the dark post

I didn’t really have anywhere else to let it out

I have felt like this for about 8 weeks now.

What makes it feel even worse is that I have to be up at 4am on a Monday to travel to London for work and don't get home until 6 pm on a friday.

So if I don't have a good weekend my cycle just goes full circle for the next week

Having gyms has always been a stress relief for me but those are closed so the stress just keeps building up.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

"So sorry for this . I’ll be fine

Thank you for the responses

You have no need to be sorry. X"

Are you 100% sure you’ll be fine? If not, please call your GP. Even if it’s just to make them aware xx Sending so much love, it’s not easy xx

J x

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By *ememberTheName OP Man
over a year ago

barnsley

"So I’ve been struggling for a good while now ...

Ive woken up ... wishing I hadn’t

Sorry for the dark post

I didn’t really have anywhere else to let it out

I have felt like this for about 8 weeks now.

What makes it feel even worse is that I have to be up at 4am on a Monday to travel to London for work and don't get home until 6 pm on a friday.

So if I don't have a good weekend my cycle just goes full circle for the next week

Having gyms has always been a stress relief for me but those are closed so the stress just keeps building up."

Yea me too I miss the freedom to work your arse off in there

Letting all emotions out in your effort

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I hope the day has got a bit better OP and to anyone feeling the same.

I'm not long off the phone to my sister who is also feeling pretty crap at the moment......there's a lot of it about.

I went through a low phase for a little while...just weren't feeling myself.

Feeling much better now and wish the same for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I’ve been struggling for a good while now ...

Ive woken up ... wishing I hadn’t

Sorry for the dark post

I didn’t really have anywhere else to let it out

I have felt like this for about 8 weeks now.

What makes it feel even worse is that I have to be up at 4am on a Monday to travel to London for work and don't get home until 6 pm on a friday.

So if I don't have a good weekend my cycle just goes full circle for the next week

Having gyms has always been a stress relief for me but those are closed so the stress just keeps building up.

Yea me too I miss the freedom to work your arse off in there

Letting all emotions out in your effort

Yes thats the one mate.

There is no anti depressant like throwing heavy arsed weights about and getting the stress of the day out.

I always walk out feeling reborn.

People who don't lift just don't understand that feeling.

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