FabSwingers.com forum: Do verifications generate more

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So does having verifications make you more desirable to others?

I've noticed that the longer I've been on fab and the more verifications I have the more interest I seem to get. So I wonder would you only meet someone if they have been verified and why is this. Please discuss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly. Probably.

When I was a wet behind the ears newb back in the day I couldn’t get a meet for toffee, once I’d broken the duck and got that first positive veri more and more meets happened.

Maybe once people know you meet / don’t time waste / aren’t a total c^nt all of the time they are probably more prepared to meet. Especially as many of mine were from Forum people and I’m sure they talk / gossip ...

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Doesn't make the slightest bit of difference to me as I make my own mind up about people rather than relying on the opinions of other random people.

As for whether having them gets me, more or less interest, I really don't know - and am not bothered by it either, if people are interested in me, they're interested in me plain and simple.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

For me the veri’s just prove that the person is who they say they are, and that they aren’t a timewaster and do meet. Not fussed about what the veris say as you’ll make your own views yourself. Webcam ones I don’t pay attention to xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do look at them, but tend to look at things like ‘turned up on time’ and ‘was respectful’ rather than whether they were a pornstar or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as they aren't a full description of the last meet, that's so off putting!

A nice veri can put your mind at rest that they are probably genuine, so possibly yeah, more likely to get meets

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

Can go either way..... some like it,some don’t.

People presume I’ve shagged all my veris which is far from the truth.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

more than 3 puts me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Doesn't make the slightest bit of difference to me as I make my own mind up about people rather than relying on the opinions of other random people.

As for whether having them gets me, more or less interest, I really don't know - and am not bothered by it either, if people are interested in me, they're interested in me plain and simple."

Same

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We'll only chat or arrange to meet people who are verified. One verification is ok, from a club or from a genuine profile, but not fake veris.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We take into account verifications as it helps to know if people are at least real and turn up and are rekiable. Above and beyond that we tend to form our own opinions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the veri I guess. If I can dozens and dozens of sexual meet veris, then it would put me off. But if there are a few meets, and several friends posting nice comments after social meets, then I'd feel fairly safe that it was a genuine person who I might want to know better

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I couldn't say to be honest because, for personal reasons, I don't have any veris. Has that stopped some people contacting or meeting me? Possibly , but plenty others still do.

If I'm interested in a profile I will look at their verifications, & sometimes the profiles of the people who have verified them, it can give a bit more insight into what type of people they are. I take a lot of the content of veris with a pinch of salt though, it does feel a bit like Trip Advisor except on here no one ever displays a negative review of course

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"So does having verifications make you more desirable to others?

I dont think they do generate interest, in fact it may cause some people to make incorrect assumptions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m fairly new can anyone tell me how to get verified other than meeting because obviously we can’t meet at the moment

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

I'd doesn't matter to me, as I'll make my own mind up about a person.

Like some of the people above, if the verifications mention practices that I'm not particularly fond of, it would put me off.

Unlike some of the above, the number of verifications doesn't concern me. They may be social or sexual, but to rule out people with, say, more than 3 veris when you have more than that smacks of hypocrisy to me. What do you expect on a swinging site - that they'll only swing with you?

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Think it’s people that create the type you receive.

If people find there is attraction, especially at values level, then they will hit it off.

Don’t think sucks like a dyson (no capital) is a practice or competitive comparison we wouldn’t want to be involved in.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"So does having verifications make you more desirable to others?

For me, not more desirable but more reliable/trustworthy especially when planning for a meet.

Numbers are not very important as it can be achieved over the years or during socials but for me, I prefer profiles with more verifications to help me make my decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd doesn't matter to me, as I'll make my own mind up about a person.

Like some of the people above, if the verifications mention practices that I'm not particularly fond of, it would put me off.

I won't meet anyone with more than 4 veris showing.

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By *urtyGentMan
over a year ago

eastleigh

I’d say so. A single guy it proves that you’re genuine and trustworthy. If you arrange a meet and you’re verified, I think it gives the other person piece of mind that you’ll show.

I’m lucky enough to have some absolutely fantastic veris and I believe they’ve helped me have more chats that potentially lead to more veris

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So does having verifications make you more desirable to others "

I am trying to find out........

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Not more desirable, but people are intrigued to meet me once they realise a friend has socially met me.

All of my sexual veris are hidden as they are my memories to keep. but I will say this, I keep the total veri number shown as its another good filter for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fem half here....we like verifications to prove that they are real and do meet. If they haven't been verified in a couple of years we're more likely to suspect it's a profile that doesn't meet any more (or only one half of a couple etc). Personally I don't like reading what people have said about the experience but I do scan...if there's a theme to the words, people using the same terms or saying similar things, that will affect what I think, and help me work out if we're after the same things.

Txx

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

"So does having verifications make you more desirable to others?

Oh most definitely.

If an individual has been verified by others that I myself hold in high regard, they are definitely more likely to be on my networking radar for future fun.

No difference to having a physical social circle where you meet friends of friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes that's why I don't show them

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"more than 3 puts me off"

Is that per day?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people look for the green tick but in reality verifications are quite meaningless. Who would ever show a bad one?

It can be amusing to read them and follow the verification trail though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes have joke veris on my profile text. Blatantly fake.

I'm always amazed how many people think they are real.

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman
over a year ago

south coast IOW

I’m surprised that a number of verifications can put people off that hadn’t crossed my mind. Mine are often from parties or socials and people I haven’t played with as well as a few from those I have. I put them up to reassure others I’m genuine and turn up and easy to get along with. It never dawned on me that having a number spaced over a few years would be off putting to people. Guess i ought to remove some. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m surprised that a number of verifications can put people off that hadn’t crossed my mind. Mine are often from parties or socials and people I haven’t played with as well as a few from those I have. I put them up to reassure others I’m genuine and turn up and easy to get along with. It never dawned on me that having a number spaced over a few years would be off putting to people. Guess i ought to remove some. Xx"

Don't remove them. You will put off the people you aren't compatible with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can’t please everyone. Remember that and you will find things less confusing on here.

Change this pic to please them. Do t say this for them...etc.

Be yourself, be as open or closed as you like.

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman
over a year ago

south coast IOW

Don't remove them. You will put off the people you aren't compatible with.

Sod it im leaving them on. I’ve been on the site 14 years as singles and then couples when in relationships and every time had to set up a new profile and start from scratch so this time I converted my old couple profile when I became single again and if anyone bothers to read my profile it’s very clear. If they don’t then probably wouldn’t end up meeting them anyway so no great loss.

I’m single. Happy to play alone subject to my profile wants.

Also have a fb who can make up the numbers If invited but that’s only when invited if all parties want him there.

Simples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience verified people mean nothing. They are still complete timewasters. Happened to me twice so far. So non verified do still deserve a chance as much as the verified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to see a lot of verifications, including recent ones. It gives me more confidence in their identity and reliability. I also prefer meeting people with a lot of sexual experience xx

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Ultimately the verification system is there to prove that the person is real and is who they say they are.

All of the trip advisor ancillary stuff is completely unnecessary and purely subjective so should be absolutely no relevance to whether people meet that person or not.

It’s true that having one or a couple, will improve your prospects but the fact that some judge others based on their own values of ‘appropriate behaviour’ is ludicrous on a site like this.

Personally I hold little stock in who they’ve met or how many, only that they have. Beyond that I judge on their interactions with me or my partner

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

More verifications = more likely to be genuine is the conclusion drawn i think

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I only show my verifications from socials I have attended. Amazes me when I still get called fake.

My private meet verifications stay hidden due to others contacting the people involved and causing drama.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to see a verification in some ways

Purely so I know that the person is real though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fem half here....we like verifications to prove that they are real and do meet. If they haven't been verified in a couple of years we're more likely to suspect it's a profile that doesn't meet any more (or only one half of a couple etc). Personally I don't like reading what people have said about the experience but I do scan...if there's a theme to the words, people using the same terms or saying similar things, that will affect what I think, and help me work out if we're after the same things.

Txx"

But sometimes people they meet ate unwilling to leave a verification or just dont bother to verify them. Some may have been on a long time and as well as i have just stated may have struggled to arrange a meet.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"So does having verifications make you more desirable to others?

As much as I like to be thought off like some product on Amazon, other shopping website are available, I suppose that what most people see verifications as.

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

"For me the veri’s just prove that the person is who they say they are, and that they aren’t a timewaster and do meet. Not fussed about what the veris say as you’ll make your own views yourself. Webcam ones I don’t pay attention to xx"

Definitely this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As much as I like to be thought off like some product on Amazon, other shopping website are available, I suppose that what most people see verifications as."

Haha. Fab is more like eBay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So does having verifications make you more desirable to others?

As much as I like to be thought off like some product on Amazon, other shopping website are available, I suppose that what most people see verifications as."

That's exactly why I don't like to see lots of veris. I don't care if they've met 4 or 4,000 people.

I meet *people* not a product for offer on a sex site.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Veris just prove people are real, and can sometimes not be accurate either. If you misjudge someone and veri them before you realise then it's not ideal.

I take them as a sign of the persons real, whether they are genuine or likable comes with time not a veri xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely this!"

I agree with this too! And yes when I used to get verifications from meets it would create more interest. They’re good to see if the person you are meeting is real and reliable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet *people* not a product for offer on a sex site. "

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"So does having verifications make you more desirable to others?

Veris are a double-edged sword; on the one hand, people like to see you’ve met other people, and your profile accurately presents who you purport to be. In the other hand, some people are put off if you have “too many” veris, as you attain ‘player’ status, and are “too active” for some......

As far as I’m concerned, the only ‘bad’ thing about veris is when you lose those from people who have left the site (I’ve lost some crackers

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By *oxyVikingCouple
over a year ago

East Anglia

Veris are pretty important to us. After having been messed around so many times, we like seeing that they are “real”(have had far too many fakes wasting our time). I like reading veris to get a bit of an idea of what the person is looking for/how they come across. Freya x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So does having verifications make you more desirable to others?

As far as I’m concerned, the only ‘bad’ thing about veris is when you lose those from people who have left the site (I’ve lost some crackers

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I don't get that. We're all here for sex right? I'd much rather meet people that have shagged 1000 other people and know what they're doing than an inexperienced people on 1 xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After my first meet I was really proud of my veri and what the lovely lady said about me ! Unfortunately I can’t show it

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By *urtyGentMan
over a year ago

eastleigh

Lots to take in here. Seems as though some people see a veri as a double edged sword. I get that no one is going to publish a bad veri so you can’t take what’s said in them too seriously. I do wonder how many people won’t show their veris as they don’t want others to know what they’ve been up to. On the whole I think they’re a positive thing. Especially for couples and single ladies that meet single guys. They take a big risk meeting someone from the internet and veris go quite a long way to reassuring some that we aren’t monsters!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a verification or two.

I don’t need to see multiple. But if someone is genuine and I get on with them and am attracted I’ll meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea. Can't get a veri from a meet as I can't get a meet without a veri

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only have one... It has a single word

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

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Umm not really in my case

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