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"Fresh pussy every now and then. Sounds like a glib answer, but that’s actually the long and short of it. Variety is the spice of life. " Direct and honest, fair enough! | |||
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"We love to watch each other with different partners.. something exciting and bizarrely has bought us closer together over the years.. we love talking about previous meets when we have sex and Mr loves watching Mrs get fucked. " I think that this is a very common dynamic, in my experience, it does bring you closer | |||
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"I'm not sure Tea in all honesty. Before lockdown I liked the feeling of being desired. The anticipation of meeting someone new, the adrenaline that comes from reciprocated lust and flirting. I love sex (obviously) but I also like meeting new people. I find people fascinating and I could happily meet almost everyone on here for a social. Now - I'm not too sure. I think that lockdown has affected my mood, made me a bit uncertain as to who I am. Nobody really wants that in a sexual partner do they? I guess from swinging, when things have eased and I'm less Aspieing, I'd like to have more laughter, more thrills. Being able to enjoy meeting other people without overthinking the minutiae. More of that sucker punch of adrenaline, of possibility." I absolutely understand that. I think that lockdown has affected all of us in big, small and tiny ways, ways that we can’t even grasp yet. Not knowing what’s going on is absolutely fine and then take stock once everything is done. Once the prospect is real and meeting is accepted and safe, you might feel differently maybe? You don’t need to know now, just be gentle with yourself | |||
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"My reasoning for swinging is not based on one thing but collective of thoughts and knowledge. I always enjoyed the variety of feelings and senses that friendships and sexual encounters bring into my life. I also love the sense of communities, commune lifestyles, friendly, caring and fun attachments with people but also need my own space and time of my own therefore swinging is perfect fit for me when I find similar minds. "That’s great! I know what you mean about communities and those connections, it can be very attractive in its own way | |||
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"It alows me to show the real me without needing to feel judged or shunned or anything " That’s definitely a very attractive thing | |||
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"I don't class my self as a swinger I'm on fab to have fun weekends away with a variety of male friends that I enjoy spending time with" I think that different definitions and reasons for being here are valid and if that’s what works for you, even better | |||
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At times I share their joy, at times I share their pain, and with some, I enjoy their friendship which means the world to me.
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"It alows me to show the real me without needing to feel judged or shunned or anything That’s definitely a very attractive thing" Awww thank you so much x | |||
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"Not a swinger either just hoping to find some uncomplicated experiences. " I think that yours is a very common reason within the swingles. Do you think that your wants dovetail with that of swingers? | |||
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"I don't. I'm here out of habit and FOMO
If there were no forums I'd be long gone, but in truth, I genuinely care about many forum users.
At times I share their joy, at times I share their pain, and with some, I enjoy their friendship which means the world to me.
"Vicarious meet enjoyment? To be honest, you’re one of my favourite people on here and I value you as a friend, fab wouldn’t be the same without you, I definitely wouldn’t read ‘cunt’ as many times a day! | |||
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"I'm not sure Tea in all honesty. Before lockdown I liked the feeling of being desired. The anticipation of meeting someone new, the adrenaline that comes from reciprocated lust and flirting. I love sex (obviously) but I also like meeting new people. I find people fascinating and I could happily meet almost everyone on here for a social. Now - I'm not too sure. I think that lockdown has affected my mood, made me a bit uncertain as to who I am. Nobody really wants that in a sexual partner do they? I guess from swinging, when things have eased and I'm less Aspieing, I'd like to have more laughter, more thrills. Being able to enjoy meeting other people without overthinking the minutiae. More of that sucker punch of adrenaline, of possibility." I do think you are wrong about people not wanting that in a sexual partner. People are complex and from a personal point I would find that intriguing | |||
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"Not a swinger either just hoping to find some uncomplicated experiences. I think that yours is a very common reason within the swingles. Do you think that your wants dovetail with that of swingers? " Not sure tbh but guess my hope is I'd find someone on same page as me, no ties or controlling behaviours but plenty of respect. Find some men take exception to a female flirting with other men which I find odd but... | |||
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"For.is it's about boosting confidence.and having fun together. Having that chemistry with people and not hiding attraction because of what's acceptable in vanilla life. We both love to flirt and that thrill knowing that others find you attractive and the giddiness as it goes further. Finding friends, having a great night and then possibly continuing in the bedroom. It's so freeing. " That’s a very common dynamic and the fact that it’s taboo in common society makes it even more intoxicating | |||
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"Just enjoy meeting new people who are really into sex. Realised years ago it’s impossible to have all your needs met by one person " That’s quite a common reason too. How do you think that multiple people meet needs that others don’t? | |||
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"I realise that everyone is different and that there are as many different dynamics as there are colours in the spectrum but I’m interested, why do you swing and what do you personally get out of it? " Why do people play Football, Cricket, Golf Etc? Because it's fun and they enjoy doing it. For us swinging is no different. | |||
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"Not a swinger either just hoping to find some uncomplicated experiences. I think that yours is a very common reason within the swingles. Do you think that your wants dovetail with that of swingers? Not sure tbh but guess my hope is I'd find someone on same page as me, no ties or controlling behaviours but plenty of respect. Find some men take exception to a female flirting with other men which I find odd but... " I think that the lack of possessive nature and acceptance of flirting is a fairly common swinging dynamic, certainly in hot wife dynamics | |||
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"I realise that everyone is different and that there are as many different dynamics as there are colours in the spectrum but I’m interested, why do you swing and what do you personally get out of it? Why do people play Football, Cricket, Golf Etc? Because it's fun and they enjoy doing it. For us swinging is no different." Straightforward! Perhaps not as widely accepted as the others though! | |||
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"Because it's a fun adventure being naked with 2 men " True story! | |||
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"I don't. I'm here out of habit and FOMO
If there were no forums I'd be long gone, but in truth, I genuinely care about many forum users.
At times I share their joy, at times I share their pain, and with some, I enjoy their friendship which means the world to me.
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To be honest, you’re one of my favourite people on here and I value you as a friend, fab wouldn’t be the same without you, I definitely wouldn’t read ‘cunt’ as many times a day! "You know Tea, it ain't about the meet side at all anymore, I find myself now where I used to get excited for others, well... just kinda wanting to want them to have a real great time but deep down I just hope they ain't gonna get taken for a cunt or become a target of someone else's bad behaviour. It's more about knowing others are safe and healthy in body and mind. Inner peace for me and others. | |||
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"I dont think I do any more really, I have explored, and it has been fun but I am not sure about any of it currently. I like being desired, but not sure thats enough." I think that most people come to a similar thought process at some point. It’s about balancing the pros and the cons then doing what’s best for you. I hope that you come to the right choice for you | |||
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"Bottom line: it's fun. "I think that’s the absolute bottom result, what is it that you specifically get from it? | |||
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"I dont think I do any more really, I have explored, and it has been fun but I am not sure about any of it currently. I like being desired, but not sure thats enough." This for me too at the moment. I have come close to deleting my profile this week because I just don’t particularly feel like I want to meet anyone ever again from here. The only reason I haven’t deleted is because I’m not sure if it’s due to my current mood (which is low) which will hopefully pass, or if it is indeed a long term reality. | |||
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"I don't. I'm here out of habit and FOMO
If there were no forums I'd be long gone, but in truth, I genuinely care about many forum users.
At times I share their joy, at times I share their pain, and with some, I enjoy their friendship which means the world to me.
Vicarious meet enjoyment?
To be honest, you’re one of my favourite people on here and I value you as a friend, fab wouldn’t be the same without you, I definitely wouldn’t read ‘cunt’ as many times a day!
You know Tea, it ain't about the meet side at all anymore, I find myself now where I used to get excited for others, well... just kinda wanting to want them to have a real great time but deep down I just hope they ain't gonna get taken for a cunt or become a target of someone else's bad behaviour.
It's more about knowing others are safe and healthy in body and mind.
Inner peace for me and others."I wish that I could give you a hug! Your situation is awful and you’ve been dealt an awful hand from absolute assholes | |||
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"It's a bit of fun. " Absolutely! | |||
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"I dont think I do any more really, I have explored, and it has been fun but I am not sure about any of it currently. I like being desired, but not sure thats enough. This for me too at the moment. I have come close to deleting my profile this week because I just don’t particularly feel like I want to meet anyone ever again from here. The only reason I haven’t deleted is because I’m not sure if it’s due to my current mood (which is low) which will hopefully pass, or if it is indeed a long term reality. " I think that lockdown is affecting us all, making decisions right now that might be regretted later is always a possibility | |||
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"I swing because I prefer it, after a lifetime of failed relationships I much prefer the freedom of fun with delightful women and couples with no dramas or issues just satisfaction for all involved "That’s a very understandable situation | |||
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"Because I needed hobby "Model railways not your thing? | |||
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"We both love decadent sex and it’s the perfect outlet  "Brilliant! | |||
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"I get warm bodies, hot men, sexual gratification, relaxation and conversations." That sounds like all of the positives! Are there associated negatives? | |||
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Model railways not your thing? "Nope. I hate trains. It was either crochet or swinging and I could not get the hang of crocheting. | |||
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Model railways not your thing?
Nope. I hate trains. It was either crochet or swinging and I could not get the hang of crocheting. "So I’m easier than crocheting? Thanks! | |||
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"I get warm bodies, hot men, sexual gratification, relaxation and conversations. That sounds like all of the positives! Are there associated negatives? " Not being able to find compatible men. Not trusting couples profiles. Being paranoid about meeting a serial killer. | |||
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Nope. I hate trains. It was either crochet or swinging and I could not get the hang of crocheting. "I've taken up knitting again. | |||
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"I get warm bodies, hot men, sexual gratification, relaxation and conversations. That sounds like all of the positives! Are there associated negatives? Not being able to find compatible men. Not trusting couples profiles. Being paranoid about meeting a serial killer. " Yes, I can see how that’s a negative | |||
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At times I share their joy, at times I share their pain, and with some, I enjoy their friendship which means the world to me.
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Model railways not your thing?
Nope. I hate trains. It was either crochet or swinging and I could not get the hang of crocheting.
I've taken up knitting again. "In all seriousness I really would love to crochet but I'm just crap at it. | |||
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"I've never been the pretty one or felt desirable but in the swinging world I feel pretty, sexy and confident. I get to socialise, flirt and have sex with like minded people without the expectation of commitment and without judgement or being labelled a 'slag' and I can embrace my sub side" I think that what you’ve written about how it makes you feel is very common. Body confidence stemming from this journey is a very relatable side effect and one that I personally feel | |||
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"Because I needed hobby
Model railways not your thing?
Nope. I hate trains. It was either crochet or swinging and I could not get the hang of crocheting.
So I’m easier than crocheting? Thanks! "Mostly... | |||
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"I don't. I'm here out of habit and FOMO
If there were no forums I'd be long gone, but in truth, I genuinely care about many forum users.
At times I share their joy, at times I share their pain, and with some, I enjoy their friendship which means the world to me.
Vicarious meet enjoyment?
To be honest, you’re one of my favourite people on here and I value you as a friend, fab wouldn’t be the same without you, I definitely wouldn’t read ‘cunt’ as many times a day!
You know Tea, it ain't about the meet side at all anymore, I find myself now where I used to get excited for others, well... just kinda wanting to want them to have a real great time but deep down I just hope they ain't gonna get taken for a cunt or become a target of someone else's bad behaviour.
It's more about knowing others are safe and healthy in body and mind.
Inner peace for me and others.
I wish that I could give you a hug!
Your situation is awful and you’ve been dealt an awful hand from absolute assholes"If I said it hasn't frustrated me I'd be lying. I thought I'd found the ideal place to hang out. I thought I'd stumbled upon the overused term of "like minded people" But that ain't real. The common goal and internal values are far from a hive mind. That realisation can be a shitter, a proper disappointment. Managing expectations goes far deeper than the odd newbie throwing a wobbler coz he ain't fighting off pussy, I've had to learn that I won't find what I was looking for here, I won't find it anywhere...because it doesn't exist. | |||
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"Yes this situation has effected our mood I love meeting new people I am also naturist. Confident about my own body I been told I am super friendly and in love humans. I am very out going persenelety Love the thrill of it all. I think that's how I got in to swinging in early days of my life As I am growing up I won't say seinging . but I would say say people who are confident. And have trust in themseself and others It's bout having open mind. And respecting each other but again enjoy ourself " Nicely put! | |||
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"I've never been the pretty one or felt desirable but in the swinging world I feel pretty, sexy and confident. I get to socialise, flirt and have sex with like minded people without the expectation of commitment and without judgement or being labelled a 'slag' and I can embrace my sub side I think that what you’ve written about how it makes you feel is very common. Body confidence stemming from this journey is a very relatable side effect and one that I personally feel " It's also spilt over into my "real life" and gave me the confidence to start a new job and if you don't have confidence in this job you will get eaten alive | |||
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"I don't. I'm here out of habit and FOMO
If there were no forums I'd be long gone, but in truth, I genuinely care about many forum users.
At times I share their joy, at times I share their pain, and with some, I enjoy their friendship which means the world to me.
Vicarious meet enjoyment?
To be honest, you’re one of my favourite people on here and I value you as a friend, fab wouldn’t be the same without you, I definitely wouldn’t read ‘cunt’ as many times a day!
You know Tea, it ain't about the meet side at all anymore, I find myself now where I used to get excited for others, well... just kinda wanting to want them to have a real great time but deep down I just hope they ain't gonna get taken for a cunt or become a target of someone else's bad behaviour.
It's more about knowing others are safe and healthy in body and mind.
Inner peace for me and others.
I wish that I could give you a hug!
Your situation is awful and you’ve been dealt an awful hand from absolute assholes
If I said it hasn't frustrated me I'd be lying. I thought I'd found the ideal place to hang out. I thought I'd stumbled upon the overused term of "like minded people"
But that ain't real. The common goal and internal values are far from a hive mind. That realisation can be a shitter, a proper disappointment. Managing expectations goes far deeper than the odd newbie throwing a wobbler coz he ain't fighting off pussy, I've had to learn that I won't find what I was looking for here, I won't find it anywhere...because it doesn't exist.
"I think that that realisation was one that hit me pretty hard too and managing expectations was a daily, if not hourly undertaking. Although our journeys and experiences are very different as people aren’t trying to blow smoke up my ass all day long on here. | |||
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"I've never been the pretty one or felt desirable but in the swinging world I feel pretty, sexy and confident. I get to socialise, flirt and have sex with like minded people without the expectation of commitment and without judgement or being labelled a 'slag' and I can embrace my sub side I think that what you’ve written about how it makes you feel is very common. Body confidence stemming from this journey is a very relatable side effect and one that I personally feel It's also spilt over into my "real life" and gave me the confidence to start a new job and if you don't have confidence in this job you will get eaten alive" Exactly! The effects aren’t limited to just this site or sex. I’m glad that you’ve got so much from it | |||
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"Because you can't behave the same way in Sainsburys every week and not get arrested.... " Not every week, no! | |||
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"Cos you can't do as a couple, what you can do in a 3, 4 or moresome. And he likes sharing me, and I love being shared. " That sounds perfect! | |||
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"At first it was to keep other people happy Then I started to enjoy my own freedom - Freedom to a point Now I am starting a new chapter on my own and to be honest I don't know how I will play it. Just going to go with the flow and see where Fab takes a single lady these days "It’s really sad that you started out that way but positive that you’re owning it now! Where do you hope that it does take you? | |||
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"We love group sex...two or more mouths on you at once. A hot passionate tangle of bodies...everyone enjoying each other...then sipping something fizzy as we lay naked and giggly in a trashed hotel room chatting x" That sounds amazing! | |||
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On the wild side?
If only all jokes aside I think folk have covered themes I would have posted "That’s fair enough. I think that an awful lot of reasons and dynamics are fairly common on here, there’s nothing wrong with that, in fact I think that it’s quite comforting to know that others see it and feel the same | |||
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"It’s another place to dress for me, I’m here to meet and socialise. I enjoy going to clubs and it doesn’t matter if it’s a swingers, gay, drag or fetish club as long as the place is welcoming. That’s why I don’t class myself as a swinger, it’s just another site with likeminded people who are open about their desires and fantasies. "That’s perfect. I’m glad that you have the spaces to be genuine | |||
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"At first it was to keep other people happy Then I started to enjoy my own freedom - Freedom to a point Now I am starting a new chapter on my own and to be honest I don't know how I will play it. Just going to go with the flow and see where Fab takes a single lady these days
It’s really sad that you started out that way but positive that you’re owning it now!
Where do you hope that it does take you? "As Peach said, he's not out there and I know it BUT it'll hopefully be a fun journey getting to know everyone again and meeting the ones I fancy. I'm trying to keep open minded and just go with things if they feel right. | |||
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"I realise that everyone is different and that there are as many different dynamics as there are colours in the spectrum but I’m interested, why do you swing and what do you personally get out of it? " I swing because every time I go to the park the jungle gym is taken by the other kids so I go in the swings | |||
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"It's the way I walk....
On the wild side?
If only all jokes aside I think folk have covered themes I would have posted
That’s fair enough. I think that an awful lot of reasons and dynamics are fairly common on here, there’s nothing wrong with that, in fact I think that it’s quite comforting to know that others see it and feel the same"Great minds think alike I believe the saying is..... | |||
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"At first it was to keep other people happy Then I started to enjoy my own freedom - Freedom to a point Now I am starting a new chapter on my own and to be honest I don't know how I will play it. Just going to go with the flow and see where Fab takes a single lady these days
It’s really sad that you started out that way but positive that you’re owning it now!
Where do you hope that it does take you?
As Peach said, he's not out there and I know it BUT it'll hopefully be a fun journey getting to know everyone again and meeting the ones I fancy. I'm trying to keep open minded and just go with things if they feel right. "So, it’s not the destination but how you get there? | |||
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"At first it was to keep other people happy Then I started to enjoy my own freedom - Freedom to a point Now I am starting a new chapter on my own and to be honest I don't know how I will play it. Just going to go with the flow and see where Fab takes a single lady these days
It’s really sad that you started out that way but positive that you’re owning it now!
Where do you hope that it does take you?
As Peach said, he's not out there and I know it BUT it'll hopefully be a fun journey getting to know everyone again and meeting the ones I fancy. I'm trying to keep open minded and just go with things if they feel right.
So, it’s not the destination but how you get there? "Exactly, and to keep an open mind. If you don't try, you don't know | |||
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"Just enjoy meeting new people who are really into sex. Realised years ago it’s impossible to have all your needs met by one person That’s quite a common reason too. How do you think that multiple people meet needs that others don’t? " Physical, sexual, intellectual even spiritual . A partner you love and are loyal to, but not adventurous. Or you a fb that flicks certain sexual switch but it’s purely sexual , and female friendships, non poly guys struggle with this | |||
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"We love group sex...two or more mouths on you at once. A hot passionate tangle of bodies...everyone enjoying each other...then sipping something fizzy as we lay naked and giggly in a trashed hotel room chatting x" That sounds perfect! | |||
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"In all honesty, I don't know that I do any more - there was a time 4 or 5 years ago that I did, now I wouldn't class it as swinging as such (although as I often say swinging is down to individual definition so it may depend on that to an extent). It's more about connection and chemistry and like-minded people, which I know *can* exist within the realms of swinging, but this goes beyond that to finding people I enjoy spending time with outside of the bedroom, in fact, whilst it's undeniably an element of the site, my reason for being here and for meeting, sex is almost a secondary factor for me, still important, but not the overwhelming reason it once may have been." So possibly it’s the chemistry and the sense of community that you enjoy? | |||
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"Not sure I'd class myself as a swinger.... Yet. Time will tell. After two failed relationships and an experience that made me realise how fragile life is I want to enjoy myself and be free and make others happy too. Not just in a sexual sense. I really don't want to be tied down.... Restraints are different though. "I know that I asked the question of swingers but there are plenty of others on here too. Looking for life affirmation, good sex and reciprocal pleasure is just as valid | |||
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"Just enjoy meeting new people who are really into sex. Realised years ago it’s impossible to have all your needs met by one person That’s quite a common reason too. How do you think that multiple people meet needs that others don’t? Physical, sexual, intellectual even spiritual . A partner you love and are loyal to, but not adventurous. Or you a fb that flicks certain sexual switch but it’s purely sexual , and female friendships, non poly guys struggle with this " I’m not sure that I’d be so flippant about non poly guys, unless you’re talking about swinging, although poly isn’t swinging... I see your point though | |||
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"I liked a bit of escapism. Something away from the drudgery and that quickens the heartbeat and raises a smile. " That’s entirely valid | |||
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"Because, for me, there is a distinct need for variety in life. That I get to share it with people I care about is the icing on top of the cherry on top. Even when stripping the idea of sex, out of it (I mean, why would you?).. I always align a hell of a lot better with people who understand what it means to truly share. It takes a wide open mind and heart for it and I gravitate to this so much. " I know exactly what you mean, the sex is just a result of the wider attitude that you enjoy? I think that your reason is echoed quite a lot through this thread, albeit with subtle changes | |||
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"It’s fun, with no ties, expectations or judgements, I love going to clubs and parties, sometimes I indulge, sometimes I don’t, but always have a good social time with likeminded people. " I’m definitely sensing a theme growing here; it’s not just sex but the social, community and connection with others that drives this for many | |||
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"I don’t. When I was a single in the clubs I loved the attention and playing with guys that took my fancy. Since being in a relationship we don’t share but liked being watched and watching others. The atmosphere in a club was a turn on. " Exhibitionism is just as valid as any reason | |||
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"This is a really thought provoking thread, a d had got me thinking. I’m not sure at the moment. I’ve experienced so much thanks to fab, and met so many amazing people, but I still don’t class myself as a swinger. I think it’ll be easier to tell once lockdown is over and things get a little more normal. " I think that swinging is a mindset, as much as the action. I don’t believe that it’s limited to couples, it’s about a non judgemental and open approach to sharing partners. I’ve known singles to exhibit this approach far better than many couples | |||
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"Because you both/all know what you are there for. I’ll say now some of the best sex I’ve ever had has been from fab. No one is ever timid or scared to tell you what they want and there is just no awkwardness " That’s interesting, so swinging creates a directness for sexual desires? | |||
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"Because it’s fun, feeds my ego in a way that makes me feel good about myself, feels good, and also excites my husband" That’s pretty much hit most general points covered! | |||
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"I enjoy the social side and as I'm half a couple, we like watching each other play with others. " That seems to be a core reason | |||
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Fab has allowed me to live out many scenarios and fantasies and allowed me to work out what I deem important moving forwards and what was an itch I just needed to scratch. I’ve had a blast. Now it’s a new chapter where I’m looking for someone to be quiet with. But the friendships and conversation is not something I want to leave behind just yet. | |||
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"I don’t Fab has allowed me to live out many scenarios and fantasies and allowed me to work out what I deem important moving forwards and what was an itch I just needed to scratch. I’ve had a blast. Now it’s a new chapter where I’m looking for someone to be quiet with. But the friendships and conversation is not something I want to leave behind just yet. "Good luck! Whoever he is, he’s going to be a lucky guy! Or deaf... probably deaf | |||
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"Due to wanting to try something new and lighting open sex place I can talk and live my fantasy’s " Fantasy fulfilment isn’t something to be readily dismissed quickly | |||
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"I like sex with different people, i enjoy going to a swingers club. I enjoy watching my husband play with others too (i have a couples profile for that) Although the best sex ever is alone with my husband "You’ve ticked an awful lot of the boxes that others have as well. I would go so far as to say that the intimate sex that you and your partner have is possibly because of the other experiences | |||
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"Although I have been on the scene for a long time, I was never really wrapped up in it. We were on the scene as swinging couples and singles prior to meeting, I would surmise that I was looking for something, which I found, Until that point sex had really became meaningless and mundane, as guess I'd seen so much of it. We swung as a couple for a while, but quickly decided looking for sex didn't work for us, but we developed good and long term friendships, social side of swinging became more important, with the option of jumping into bed if the mood took us, rather than the purpose and the mission. That we found far more satisfying than jumping into bed with random strangers that ultimately was a disappointment. So we have all but pretty much left the scene although she enjoys the girl girl side of sex, it was almost all but non existent these days as most of the time, it is driven by guys wanting to get into her pants want to be part of the action else they are not interested. We hare now for friends we have made over the years but pretty much all gone cos of the way things have changed. "Without dismissing your individual story, your story (in terms of the general themes) is fairly commonplace. Coming to swinging to excite a sexual desire, staying for the community, has been echoed | |||
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"I love the meeting for the first time, the desire to rip each other’s clothes off and the hotness of it. Plus I do like the attention I have to admit " Certainly intoxicating | |||
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"A consequence of gravity and inertia and the conversion between potential and kinetic energy and back again. "Classic. Thanks for the heartfelt insight into your inner journey | |||
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"A consequence of gravity and inertia and the conversion between potential and kinetic energy and back again.
Classic. Thanks for the heartfelt insight into your inner journey"You're welcome. | |||
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"I don’t Fab has allowed me to live out many scenarios and fantasies and allowed me to work out what I deem important moving forwards and what was an itch I just needed to scratch. I’ve had a blast. Now it’s a new chapter where I’m looking for someone to be quiet with. But the friendships and conversation is not something I want to leave behind just yet.
Good luck! Whoever he is, he’s going to be a lucky guy!
Or deaf...
probably deaf"Such a dick | |||
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"Because, for me, there is a distinct need for variety in life. That I get to share it with people I care about is the icing on top of the cherry on top. Even when stripping the idea of sex, out of it (I mean, why would you?).. I always align a hell of a lot better with people who understand what it means to truly share. It takes a wide open mind and heart for it and I gravitate to this so much. I know exactly what you mean, the sex is just a result of the wider attitude that you enjoy? I think that your reason is echoed quite a lot through this thread, albeit with subtle changes" The sex really is just one of the many results of finding these attitudes. Of course the sex was probably the driving factor for me to explore the 'scene' to begin with. Because perv. | |||
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"I don’t Fab has allowed me to live out many scenarios and fantasies and allowed me to work out what I deem important moving forwards and what was an itch I just needed to scratch. I’ve had a blast. Now it’s a new chapter where I’m looking for someone to be quiet with. But the friendships and conversation is not something I want to leave behind just yet.
Good luck! Whoever he is, he’s going to be a lucky guy!
Or deaf...
probably deaf
Such a dick "You know me so well! | |||
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"I don’t Fab has allowed me to live out many scenarios and fantasies and allowed me to work out what I deem important moving forwards and what was an itch I just needed to scratch. I’ve had a blast. Now it’s a new chapter where I’m looking for someone to be quiet with. But the friendships and conversation is not something I want to leave behind just yet.
Good luck! Whoever he is, he’s going to be a lucky guy!
Or deaf...
probably deaf
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"Because, for me, there is a distinct need for variety in life. That I get to share it with people I care about is the icing on top of the cherry on top. Even when stripping the idea of sex, out of it (I mean, why would you?).. I always align a hell of a lot better with people who understand what it means to truly share. It takes a wide open mind and heart for it and I gravitate to this so much. I know exactly what you mean, the sex is just a result of the wider attitude that you enjoy? I think that your reason is echoed quite a lot through this thread, albeit with subtle changes The sex really is just one of the many results of finding these attitudes. Of course the sex was probably the driving factor for me to explore the 'scene' to begin with. Because perv. "And there I was thinking that your motives were far more cerebral... in all honesty, there’s nothing wrong with sex as a driving passion, it’s often framed as a base motive but sexual desire drives so much of the human condition | |||
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"Because live is too short to not enjoy sex with people with same connection and chemestry ,and who wouldn't love to be in the orgy scene of the movie Eyes Wide Shut "I must admit that I was shocked that clubs don’t look like that! | |||
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"I don’t Fab has allowed me to live out many scenarios and fantasies and allowed me to work out what I deem important moving forwards and what was an itch I just needed to scratch. I’ve had a blast. Now it’s a new chapter where I’m looking for someone to be quiet with. But the friendships and conversation is not something I want to leave behind just yet.
Good luck! Whoever he is, he’s going to be a lucky guy!
Or deaf...
probably deaf
Such a dick
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"Because live is too short to not enjoy sex with people with same connection and chemestry ,and who wouldn't love to be in the orgy scene of the movie Eyes Wide Shut
I must admit that I was shocked that clubs don’t look like that! "Maybe you just went to the wrong clubs because some they look even better | |||
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"In all honesty, I don't know that I do any more - there was a time 4 or 5 years ago that I did, now I wouldn't class it as swinging as such (although as I often say swinging is down to individual definition so it may depend on that to an extent). It's more about connection and chemistry and like-minded people, which I know *can* exist within the realms of swinging, but this goes beyond that to finding people I enjoy spending time with outside of the bedroom, in fact, whilst it's undeniably an element of the site, my reason for being here and for meeting, sex is almost a secondary factor for me, still important, but not the overwhelming reason it once may have been. So possibly it’s the chemistry and the sense of community that you enjoy? " Elements of that for sure, although it's limited to a very select few these days, so I'm not even sure community is the right word | |||
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"I dont think I do any more really, I have explored, and it has been fun but I am not sure about any of it currently. I like being desired, but not sure thats enough." Same for me. I had my fill 
I'm not sure what I want anymore.
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"This is a really thought provoking thread, a d had got me thinking. I’m not sure at the moment. I’ve experienced so much thanks to fab, and met so many amazing people, but I still don’t class myself as a swinger. I think it’ll be easier to tell once lockdown is over and things get a little more normal. I think that swinging is a mindset, as much as the action. I don’t believe that it’s limited to couples, it’s about a non judgemental and open approach to sharing partners. I’ve known singles to exhibit this approach far better than many couples" Yes, but I’m actually not very good at that ^  | |||
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"I like sex with different people, i enjoy going to a swingers club. I enjoy watching my husband play with others too (i have a couples profile for that) Although the best sex ever is alone with my husband
You’ve ticked an awful lot of the boxes that others have as well. I would go so far as to say that the intimate sex that you and your partner have is possibly because of the other experiences "I think it's partly that and also because we love each other | |||
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