FabSwingers.com forum: How many woman

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Take matters into their own hands and specifically search for what their looking for and reach out to men on Fab?

I’ve done it a few times and it’s much more successful than trawling through messages x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do this from time to time.

If someone catches my eye I’m more than happy to message first.

Although I sometimes start off with a fab of their photos, and if they then look at my profile & fab my photos I figure a message may be well received.

It’s actually proven to be quite successful. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t search per se but if someone catches my eye I definitely take the bull by the horns

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Yes. My most successful meets (minus one that came about as a result of matchmaking) all stemmed from me taking the lead in interacting and messaging first. I sometimes worry about being rejected but I've not been so far so I'll keep trying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do when arranging fantasy situations. Takes a lot of effort but it's always been worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did this once.

The outcome is too embarrassing to go into.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did this once.

The outcome is too embarrassing to go into.

I'm pruriently intrigued!

I've not messaged anyone first but by the looks of this thread, I should give it a go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Take matters into their own hands and specifically search for what their looking for and reach out to men on Fab?

I’ve done it a few times and it’s much more successful than trawling through messages x"

I was messaged by my now amazing FWB and we’re both glad she messaged and I’d love more to do the same because I find, like many old forum titles, messaging women/couples to be a disappointment but each to their own an roll on post lockdown fun yall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d love to be messaged first.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I haven’t sent a cold message in years, I found that women making the first move is far more likely to be a positive thing for both parties. I think that more women should do it, gender politics be damned!

That’s not to say that I don’t message first but it’s always in relation to a connection that’s always been made.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I sometimes message first, I'm not scared to xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I definitely recommend more woman reach out to who takes their fancy. My fwb said I was the first and only woman to message him first and it’s been such a success and exactly what I’m looking for!

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

When I was looking I did yes. It’s way easier than sifting through huge numbers of messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Take matters into their own hands and specifically search for what their looking for and reach out to men on Fab?

I’ve done it a few times and it’s much more successful than trawling through messages x"

My profile is private I only message who I'm interested in. It's so much easier than going through all the messages us women receive and saves the blokes from messaging me xx

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By *aughty_Smooth_OperatorMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Yes I do this from time to time.

If someone catches my eye I’m more than happy to message first.

Although I sometimes start off with a fab of their photos, and if they then look at my profile & fab my photos I figure a message may be well received.

It’s actually proven to be quite successful. Xx"

Does it work both ways of you have had your photos fabbed and a wink but no message then you would message the person?

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

It’s a way better option than leaving your messages open, and why wouldn’t you look to see what you fancy?

Lex

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes I do this from time to time.

If someone catches my eye I’m more than happy to message first.

Although I sometimes start off with a fab of their photos, and if they then look at my profile & fab my photos I figure a message may be well received.

It’s actually proven to be quite successful. Xx

Does it work both ways of you have had your photos fabbed and a wink but no message then you would message the person?"

Not for me personally.

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By *oungJayyMan
over a year ago

Newcastle Upon Tyne

I have noticed a few times even when woman get messages from people that they're searching for, they're typically overwhelmed by messages from those that they don't, so this may be beneficial to see women message first, I must admit I've very rarely had a message from a woman first (if ever, unless they've been fake)

So yeah, ladies out there, send those messages to those that catch your eye! You never know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do, every now and again

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I do. Life is too short to sit on the fence.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I’ve just posted a thread to allow for some of you to take advantage of...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well seeing as I don't check my messages I have no choice

Works for me and means I only interact with those I'm interested in.

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By *s Verity VeneryWoman
over a year ago

Bliss

I like to use my status updates and profile to initiate likeminded conversations Instead of trawling for men, as many blokes don't list my kinks as an Interest so this works for me instead

Couples for hot husband play however I will go direct to a couple I like and message them

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By *luebellRacerCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

Absolutely. Just not currently as there's not much point. We've got people we're already chatting with that we'd like to meet when we're allowed.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I have several times in the past and very nice it was too

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

I've been known to message first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When someone catches my attention damn right I’ll send that first message...who knows what opportunity may have been missed otherwise?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When someone catches my attention damn right I’ll send that first message...who knows what opportunity may have been missed otherwise?

Exactly !!

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Take matters into their own hands and specifically search for what their looking for and reach out to men on Fab?

I’ve done it a few times and it’s much more successful than trawling through messages x"

I do but rarely find a profile I'd want to message

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Absolutely yes. What's to loose by sending a message.

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Never with men. Occasionally with couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I do this from time to time.

If someone catches my eye I’m more than happy to message first.

Although I sometimes start off with a fab of their photos, and if they then look at my profile & fab my photos I figure a message may be well received.

It’s actually proven to be quite successful. Xx"

Ahhh so you use the well known "tactical Fab"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh hell never, I always think they are way out of my league

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I have initiated first many a time (prior to covid). I don't recall it ever working out .

The odd initial wink has tho

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I will happily send the first message.

I'm not looking for men though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I never message first, I'd be too fearful of rejection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no problem making the first move and have had some very satisfying meets from it.

Her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have initiated first many a time (prior to covid). I don't recall it ever working out .

The odd initial wink has tho

You're hot so why not

I feel the same though with many I see on Fab but if you don’t ask eh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I have done. Most guys I've met are ones that I've approached first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had a female message me first

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

The best connections I have made on here have been when I received a message without having gone fishing for it.

That's why I don't just spam messages to every pretty lady on here.

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