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"I think you have to be careful on here, as you may encounter jealousy if it’s out in the open. "  | |||
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"I think you have to be careful on here, as you may encounter jealousy if it’s out in the open. " | |||
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"Openly is good as long as its not excessive lovebombing over threads. It's thrilling to know they aren't afraid to admit you caught their eye. " Yes I'd go for that too . There's a lot of playful flirting on the forum anyway... declaring your undying lust is just a step further   | |||
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"I think you have to be careful on here, as you may encounter jealousy if it’s out in the open. "
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"Lighthearted fun in public, personal chat in private. " | |||
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"Openly is good as long as its not excessive lovebombing over threads. It's thrilling to know they aren't afraid to admit you caught their eye. Yes I'd go for that too . There's a lot of playful flirting on the forum anyway... declaring your undying lust is just a step further "Haha i didn't think that far. More along lines of what Saffron said.  | |||
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"Lighthearted fun in public, personal chat in private. " Totally agree with that | |||
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"Openly is good as long as its not excessive lovebombing over threads. It's thrilling to know they aren't afraid to admit you caught their eye. " This kinda sums it up for me too.  | |||
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"I've replied in previous threads when they ask "who you thinks hot on fab". But if I really liked someone I think private message is best going forward. Saves embarrassment for both sides, especially if your knocked back. "Yes...agree with this. I like to keep the serious flirting private. | |||
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"I’d be happy with someone publicly admitting it, my past has been littered with people that saw being with me a some kind of dirty little secret so it would be nice to make a change " Oh..  hope that your wish is granted! Thats not a nice feeling. | |||
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"I’d be happy with someone publicly admitting it, my past has been littered with people that saw being with me a some kind of dirty little secret so it would be nice to make a change " This.... although public admissions often lead to problems on here | |||
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"I personally would keep it dark OP. I’ve been open about stuff on the forums before and if things turn, it’s no fun for anyone involved " 
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"I wouldn't admit I fancied anyone on here as I would be afraid it wouldn't be reciprocated. If anyone fancied me, I wouldn't mind if they did it on here or privately. I would be surprised either way "you have a fit body | |||
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"I wouldn't admit I fancied anyone on here as I would be afraid it wouldn't be reciprocated. If anyone fancied me, I wouldn't mind if they did it on here or privately. I would be surprised either way "To add to this, if I did admit it, an "awww thanks" doesn't count! | |||
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"I wouldn't admit I fancied anyone on here as I would be afraid it wouldn't be reciprocated. If anyone fancied me, I wouldn't mind if they did it on here or privately. I would be surprised either way you have a fit body "It would look better pressed against yours | |||
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"I wouldn't admit I fancied anyone on here as I would be afraid it wouldn't be reciprocated. If anyone fancied me, I wouldn't mind if they did it on here or privately. I would be surprised either way you have a fit body
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"What is this jealousy that's being mentioned ? Isn't this a swinging / sharing site for light hearted fun ? Genuine question "You would think that should be the case....sadly not in this playground | |||
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"I think that keeping things quiet is probably the best way of behaving, some people are very vindictive and jealousy is a very common feeling around here, best to stay off the radar" That's me fucked...I've named names on another thread! What a sad truly sad state of affairs it is that people feel that way. | |||
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"Has it ever felt like the person or people in question wanted to keep it so private they fun flirted with everyone else except you." Yes. I have felt exactly that sometimes. | |||
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"Has it ever felt like the person or people in question wanted to keep it so private they fun flirted with everyone else except you. Yes. I have felt exactly that sometimes." Me too | |||
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"Has it ever felt like the person or people in question wanted to keep it so private they fun flirted with everyone else except you." No that's not nice. If they openly flirt with others they can you too | |||
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"Has it ever felt like the person or people in question wanted to keep it so private they fun flirted with everyone else except you." No, I think some people take it too seriously when flirting with someone and read more into it than what it is....its fun, lighthearted banter x | |||
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"Has it ever felt like the person or people in question wanted to keep it so private they fun flirted with everyone else except you. No that's not nice. If they openly flirt with others they can you too " I didnt understand the second part.. you mean they can with you too (but chose not to)? | |||
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"Has it ever felt like the person or people in question wanted to keep it so private they fun flirted with everyone else except you. No that's not nice. If they openly flirt with others they can you too I didnt understand the second part.. you mean they can with you too (but chose not to)?" Yes, god I need to learn how to write | |||
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"Lighthearted fun in public, personal chat in private. " | |||
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"Lighthearted fun in public, personal chat in private. " I'm like this. I flirt but I don't think I go too far. I've had several threatening messages from newbie accounts in the past warning me to stay away from certain members so I try not to get too flirty on the forums as jealousy brings out the worst in some people and I can't be bothered. It's like people think they own someone just because they fancy them.  | |||
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"At first , a good old flirt in here is fun, but if it got to the proper fancy/affection stage then it's best to kept 1 to 1 imo x" Agreed! | |||
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"Has it ever felt like the person or people in question wanted to keep it so private they fun flirted with everyone else except you. No that's not nice. If they openly flirt with others they can you too I didnt understand the second part.. you mean they can with you too (but chose not to)? Yes, god I need to learn how to write "Have you seen my latest spelling antics.. and my phone insists on doubling words at times. I can't be bothered to preview. | |||
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"Lighthearted fun in public, personal chat in private. I'm like this. I flirt but I don't think I go too far. I've had several threatening messages from newbie accounts in the past warning me to stay away from certain members so I try not to get too flirty on the forums as jealousy brings out the worst in some people and I can't be bothered. It's like people think they own someone just because they fancy them. "Jesus!! These type of people do not belong on a swingers site!! | |||
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"Has it ever felt like the person or people in question wanted to keep it so private they fun flirted with everyone else except you. No that's not nice. If they openly flirt with others they can you too I didnt understand the second part.. you mean they can with you too (but chose not to)? Yes, god I need to learn how to write
Have you seen my latest spelling antics.. and my phone insists on doubling words at times. I can't be bothered to preview. "Joys of dyslexia I probably wouldn't notice | |||
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"What is this jealousy that's being mentioned ? Isn't this a swinging / sharing site for light hearted fun ? Genuine question "Not everyone is a swinger on here though, many of the singles aren't. I suppose a bit of jealousy is to be expected. | |||
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"Lighthearted fun in public, personal chat in private. I'm like this. I flirt but I don't think I go too far. I've had several threatening messages from newbie accounts in the past warning me to stay away from certain members so I try not to get too flirty on the forums as jealousy brings out the worst in some people and I can't be bothered. It's like people think they own someone just because they fancy them. "That is bonkers  | |||
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"Has it ever felt like the person or people in question wanted to keep it so private they fun flirted with everyone else except you. Yes. I have felt exactly that sometimes." Ditto, but hey ho who knows if they've actually meant what they've said in private or not  | |||
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"Lighthearted fun in public, personal chat in private. I'm like this. I flirt but I don't think I go too far. I've had several threatening messages from newbie accounts in the past warning me to stay away from certain members so I try not to get too flirty on the forums as jealousy brings out the worst in some people and I can't be bothered. It's like people think they own someone just because they fancy them. "I've had them too but not just from newbies...thats why I tend to stay away from some peoples posts/threads as I don't need the drama. | |||
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"Lighthearted fun in public, personal chat in private. I'm like this. I flirt but I don't think I go too far. I've had several threatening messages from newbie accounts in the past warning me to stay away from certain members so I try not to get too flirty on the forums as jealousy brings out the worst in some people and I can't be bothered. It's like people think they own someone just because they fancy them. "Case in my earlier point. Beauty is intimidating to some. | |||
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"Lighthearted fun in public, personal chat in private. I'm like this. I flirt but I don't think I go too far. I've had several threatening messages from newbie accounts in the past warning me to stay away from certain members so I try not to get too flirty on the forums as jealousy brings out the worst in some people and I can't be bothered. It's like people think they own someone just because they fancy them.
Jesus!! These type of people do not belong on a swingers site!!"Yup, I know. It drives me crazy. Like do you really think you're the only one he is interested in when he is a member on a swinging website full of beautiful women looking for sex?  | |||
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"Lighthearted fun in public, personal chat in private. I'm like this. I flirt but I don't think I go too far. I've had several threatening messages from newbie accounts in the past warning me to stay away from certain members so I try not to get too flirty on the forums as jealousy brings out the worst in some people and I can't be bothered. It's like people think they own someone just because they fancy them. "God that's awful! I can't believe people think that's an ok thing to do. | |||
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"Jealousy is rife...." How are we defining jealousy (this is to the thread and not anyone person) in this context? There is an over indulgence of popularity threads rehashed. But just because people don't necessarily like them doesn’t always mean jealousy! There is always an element of jealousy. In chat for example if your seen to have a report with people there a those who do not like it. There are always those who enjoy being the centre of attention but that is just the way it is and always has been, no doubt continue to be    | |||
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"I flirt like crazy & I love it. If I like someone, I tell them. If it's reciprocated, we'll then message each, but I'll continue to flirt. I've never had anybody "warn me off" or received abusive messages because I flirt with someone they fancy. Does that really happen? " Yes, it happens a lot..... was one of the first things that happened to me when I joined the forum. | |||
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"Has it ever felt like the person or people in question wanted to keep it so private they fun flirted with everyone else except you." I'm not sure if I've done this before or not. I just feel that if I'm speaking or flirting with someone in private, then there's no reason to do it on a public forum. Is that a bad thing? Would women prefer both? | |||
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"Has it ever felt like the person or people in question wanted to keep it so private they fun flirted with everyone else except you. Yes. I have felt exactly that sometimes. Me too " Me three | |||
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"Has it ever felt like the person or people in question wanted to keep it so private they fun flirted with everyone else except you. I'm not sure if I've done this before or not. I just feel that if I'm speaking or flirting with someone in private, then there's no reason to do it on a public forum. Is that a bad thing? Would women prefer both?" I can come across as you feeling like a dirty secret. So I think many wouldn't like to be ignored on the forum if you like each other | |||
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"Has it ever felt like the person or people in question wanted to keep it so private they fun flirted with everyone else except you. I'm not sure if I've done this before or not. I just feel that if I'm speaking or flirting with someone in private, then there's no reason to do it on a public forum. Is that a bad thing? Would women prefer both? I can come across as you feeling like a dirty secret. So I think many wouldn't like to be ignored on the forum if you like each other " It can god my typing | |||
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"Has it ever felt like the person or people in question wanted to keep it so private they fun flirted with everyone else except you. I'm not sure if I've done this before or not. I just feel that if I'm speaking or flirting with someone in private, then there's no reason to do it on a public forum. Is that a bad thing? Would women prefer both?" I prefer private...stops any hassle. | |||
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"Lighthearted fun in public, personal chat in private. I'm like this. I flirt but I don't think I go too far. I've had several threatening messages from newbie accounts in the past warning me to stay away from certain members so I try not to get too flirty on the forums as jealousy brings out the worst in some people and I can't be bothered. It's like people think they own someone just because they fancy them.
Jesus!! These type of people do not belong on a swingers site!!
Yup, I know. It drives me crazy. Like do you really think you're the only one he is interested in when he is a member on a swinging website full of beautiful women looking for sex? "I dont get it...but tgen I dont have a jealous bone in my body...hence being on this site! Maybe it's more a competitive thing? 'I want him first'? Or maybe they just dont want sloppy seconds
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"Jealousy is rife.... How are we defining jealousy (this is to the thread and not anyone person) in this context? There is an over indulgence of popularity threads rehashed. But just because people don't necessarily like them doesn’t always mean jealousy! "This is a very good point. It's easy to say jealousy if someone doesn't like behaviour, doesn't like a person etc. Maybe it's not. | |||
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"Has it ever felt like the person or people in question wanted to keep it so private they fun flirted with everyone else except you. I'm not sure if I've done this before or not. I just feel that if I'm speaking or flirting with someone in private, then there's no reason to do it on a public forum. Is that a bad thing? Would women prefer both? I can come across as you feeling like a dirty secret. So I think many wouldn't like to be ignored on the forum if you like each other " Ahhh that's true. I never mean it to come across like that, but if the roles were reversed, I wouldn't want my flirting being ignored even though we were speaking privately also. | |||
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"I flirt like crazy & I love it. If I like someone, I tell them. If it's reciprocated, we'll then message each, but I'll continue to flirt. I've never had anybody "warn me off" or received abusive messages because I flirt with someone they fancy. Does that really happen? Yes, it happens a lot..... was one of the first things that happened to me when I joined the forum." Jeez, really? Hope you told them to bog off, Posh! I certainly wouldn't expect to be the sole object of anyone's desire on here, and vice versa. It's a swinging site, FFS! X | |||
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"Jealousy is rife.... How are we defining jealousy (this is to the thread and not anyone person) in this context? There is an over indulgence of popularity threads rehashed. But just because people don't necessarily like them doesn’t always mean jealousy!
This is a very good point. It's easy to say jealousy if someone doesn't like behaviour, doesn't like a person etc. Maybe it's not. "I have seen it first hand in messages sent to guys from females when they know they have met certain people. | |||
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"I flirt like crazy & I love it. If I like someone, I tell them. If it's reciprocated, we'll then message each, but I'll continue to flirt. I've never had anybody "warn me off" or received abusive messages because I flirt with someone they fancy. Does that really happen? Yes, it happens a lot..... was one of the first things that happened to me when I joined the forum. Jeez, really? Hope you told them to bog off, Posh! I certainly wouldn't expect to be the sole object of anyone's desire on here, and vice versa. It's a swinging site, FFS! X" I feel very left out that I havent received a warning message!! | |||
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"I flirt like crazy & I love it. If I like someone, I tell them. If it's reciprocated, we'll then message each, but I'll continue to flirt. I've never had anybody "warn me off" or received abusive messages because I flirt with someone they fancy. Does that really happen? Yes, it happens a lot..... was one of the first things that happened to me when I joined the forum. Jeez, really? Hope you told them to bog off, Posh! I certainly wouldn't expect to be the sole object of anyone's desire on here, and vice versa. It's a swinging site, FFS! X I feel very left out that I havent received a warning message!! "The nights young | |||
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"I flirt like crazy & I love it. If I like someone, I tell them. If it's reciprocated, we'll then message each, but I'll continue to flirt. I've never had anybody "warn me off" or received abusive messages because I flirt with someone they fancy. Does that really happen? Yes, it happens a lot..... was one of the first things that happened to me when I joined the forum. Jeez, really? Hope you told them to bog off, Posh! I certainly wouldn't expect to be the sole object of anyone's desire on here, and vice versa. It's a swinging site, FFS! X I feel very left out that I havent received a warning message!!
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"Has it ever felt like the person or people in question wanted to keep it so private they fun flirted with everyone else except you. I'm not sure if I've done this before or not. I just feel that if I'm speaking or flirting with someone in private, then there's no reason to do it on a public forum. Is that a bad thing? Would women prefer both? I prefer private...stops any hassle." I do too. I guess I always thought that because we're speaking 1 to 1, it must mean I fancy you because I wouldn't do it otherwise. But the flirting in the forum can still be appreciated too | |||
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"I flirt like crazy & I love it. If I like someone, I tell them. If it's reciprocated, we'll then message each, but I'll continue to flirt. I've never had anybody "warn me off" or received abusive messages because I flirt with someone they fancy. Does that really happen? Yes, it happens a lot..... was one of the first things that happened to me when I joined the forum. Jeez, really? Hope you told them to bog off, Posh! I certainly wouldn't expect to be the sole object of anyone's desire on here, and vice versa. It's a swinging site, FFS! X I feel very left out that I havent received a warning message!!
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"I flirt like crazy & I love it. If I like someone, I tell them. If it's reciprocated, we'll then message each, but I'll continue to flirt. I've never had anybody "warn me off" or received abusive messages because I flirt with someone they fancy. Does that really happen? Yes, it happens a lot..... was one of the first things that happened to me when I joined the forum. Jeez, really? Hope you told them to bog off, Posh! I certainly wouldn't expect to be the sole object of anyone's desire on here, and vice versa. It's a swinging site, FFS! X I feel very left out that I havent received a warning message!! "You & me both
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"The furom is full of very attractive and popular people. If you genuinely liked someone (and they knew it),would you like them to openly admit that they fancied you or would you rather they kept it private?" If someone fancied me, I wouldn't mind at long as they don't keep it private from me | |||
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"I flirt like crazy & I love it. If I like someone, I tell them. If it's reciprocated, we'll then message each, but I'll continue to flirt. I've never had anybody "warn me off" or received abusive messages because I flirt with someone they fancy. Does that really happen? Yes, it happens a lot..... was one of the first things that happened to me when I joined the forum. Jeez, really? Hope you told them to bog off, Posh! I certainly wouldn't expect to be the sole object of anyone's desire on here, and vice versa. It's a swinging site, FFS! X I feel very left out that I havent received a warning message!! "That ass needs a warning | |||
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"Has it ever felt like the person or people in question wanted to keep it so private they fun flirted with everyone else except you. I'm not sure if I've done this before or not. I just feel that if I'm speaking or flirting with someone in private, then there's no reason to do it on a public forum. Is that a bad thing? Would women prefer both? I prefer private...stops any hassle. I do too. I guess I always thought that because we're speaking 1 to 1, it must mean I fancy you because I wouldn't do it otherwise. But the flirting in the forum can still be appreciated too "I take everything said on here with a pinch of salt, believe nothing, yet some women (I can't speak for men) seem to think if a guy is paying them attention then they shouldn't be doing it with other people. The mentality baffles me. | |||
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"I flirt like crazy & I love it. If I like someone, I tell them. If it's reciprocated, we'll then message each, but I'll continue to flirt. I've never had anybody "warn me off" or received abusive messages because I flirt with someone they fancy. Does that really happen? Yes, it happens a lot..... was one of the first things that happened to me when I joined the forum. Jeez, really? Hope you told them to bog off, Posh! I certainly wouldn't expect to be the sole object of anyone's desire on here, and vice versa. It's a swinging site, FFS! X I feel very left out that I havent received a warning message!!
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"I flirt like crazy & I love it. If I like someone, I tell them. If it's reciprocated, we'll then message each, but I'll continue to flirt. I've never had anybody "warn me off" or received abusive messages because I flirt with someone they fancy. Does that really happen? Yes, it happens a lot..... was one of the first things that happened to me when I joined the forum. Jeez, really? Hope you told them to bog off, Posh! I certainly wouldn't expect to be the sole object of anyone's desire on here, and vice versa. It's a swinging site, FFS! X I feel very left out that I havent received a warning message!!
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"I flirt like crazy & I love it. If I like someone, I tell them. If it's reciprocated, we'll then message each, but I'll continue to flirt. I've never had anybody "warn me off" or received abusive messages because I flirt with someone they fancy. Does that really happen? Yes, it happens a lot..... was one of the first things that happened to me when I joined the forum. Jeez, really? Hope you told them to bog off, Posh! I certainly wouldn't expect to be the sole object of anyone's desire on here, and vice versa. It's a swinging site, FFS! X I feel very left out that I havent received a warning message!!
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"I flirt like crazy & I love it. If I like someone, I tell them. If it's reciprocated, we'll then message each, but I'll continue to flirt. I've never had anybody "warn me off" or received abusive messages because I flirt with someone they fancy. Does that really happen? Yes, it happens a lot..... was one of the first things that happened to me when I joined the forum. Jeez, really? Hope you told them to bog off, Posh! I certainly wouldn't expect to be the sole object of anyone's desire on here, and vice versa. It's a swinging site, FFS! X I feel very left out that I havent received a warning message!!
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"I flirt like crazy & I love it. If I like someone, I tell them. If it's reciprocated, we'll then message each, but I'll continue to flirt. I've never had anybody "warn me off" or received abusive messages because I flirt with someone they fancy. Does that really happen? Yes, it happens a lot..... was one of the first things that happened to me when I joined the forum. Jeez, really? Hope you told them to bog off, Posh! I certainly wouldn't expect to be the sole object of anyone's desire on here, and vice versa. It's a swinging site, FFS! X I feel very left out that I havent received a warning message!! "Same here! That’s really crazy that happens on here how sad! It’s a blooming swinging site if they can’t handle jealousy then I don’t think swinging is for them I can’t believe the way people act sometimes... | |||
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"I flirt like crazy & I love it. If I like someone, I tell them. If it's reciprocated, we'll then message each, but I'll continue to flirt. I've never had anybody "warn me off" or received abusive messages because I flirt with someone they fancy. Does that really happen? Yes, it happens a lot..... was one of the first things that happened to me when I joined the forum. Jeez, really? Hope you told them to bog off, Posh! I certainly wouldn't expect to be the sole object of anyone's desire on here, and vice versa. It's a swinging site, FFS! X I feel very left out that I havent received a warning message!!
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"I flirt like crazy & I love it. If I like someone, I tell them. If it's reciprocated, we'll then message each, but I'll continue to flirt. I've never had anybody "warn me off" or received abusive messages because I flirt with someone they fancy. Does that really happen? Yes, it happens a lot..... was one of the first things that happened to me when I joined the forum. Jeez, really? Hope you told them to bog off, Posh! I certainly wouldn't expect to be the sole object of anyone's desire on here, and vice versa. It's a swinging site, FFS! X I feel very left out that I havent received a warning message!!
Same here! That’s really crazy that happens on here how sad! It’s a blooming swinging site if they can’t handle jealousy then I don’t think swinging is for them I can’t believe the way people act sometimes..."Exactly what I was about to say. Share and share alike | |||
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"I've read most of this thread now and it does appear there is a fine line between forum flirting and admissions of more than that. It's kinda knowing when the flirting gets sickly and should then move on to private messaging . I'm a male tart and flirt with shitloads of you lovely ladies, it never means I expect to immediately shag you all , but we have to remember it's a swingers site and although a connection is never completely off the cards for anyone on here , let's not get jealous of people flirting with more than one person "Ok dad | |||
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"I've read most of this thread now and it does appear there is a fine line between forum flirting and admissions of more than that. It's kinda knowing when the flirting gets sickly and should then move on to private messaging . I'm a male tart and flirt with shitloads of you lovely ladies, it never means I expect to immediately shag you all , but we have to remember it's a swingers site and although a connection is never completely off the cards for anyone on here , let's not get jealous of people flirting with more than one person
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"I've read most of this thread now and it does appear there is a fine line between forum flirting and admissions of more than that. It's kinda knowing when the flirting gets sickly and should then move on to private messaging . I'm a male tart and flirt with shitloads of you lovely ladies, it never means I expect to immediately shag you all , but we have to remember it's a swingers site and although a connection is never completely off the cards for anyone on here , let's not get jealous of people flirting with more than one person
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"I’ve always seen public flirting as just the social lubrication that keeps the forums moving. As such, if anyone does flirt with me, I’m absolutely clueless that they’re interested until they categorically tell me in private. Once things are settled, then a bit of public flirting is ok but in general, off the radar is much better" This is what I've been trying to think of the words to say! | |||
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"I’ve always seen public flirting as just the social lubrication that keeps the forums moving. As such, if anyone does flirt with me, I’m absolutely clueless that they’re interested until they categorically tell me in private. Once things are settled, then a bit of public flirting is ok but in general, off the radar is much better" This. | |||
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"I’ve always seen public flirting as just the social lubrication that keeps the forums moving. As such, if anyone does flirt with me, I’m absolutely clueless that they’re interested until they categorically tell me in private. Once things are settled, then a bit of public flirting is ok but in general, off the radar is much better This is what I've been trying to think of the words to say!" Haha, SNAP!! | |||
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"I've read most of this thread now and it does appear there is a fine line between forum flirting and admissions of more than that. It's kinda knowing when the flirting gets sickly and should then move on to private messaging . I'm a male tart and flirt with shitloads of you lovely ladies, it never means I expect to immediately shag you all , but we have to remember it's a swingers site and although a connection is never completely off the cards for anyone on here , let's not get jealous of people flirting with more than one person "Exactly This
I see it as anyone single is fair "prey" , I wouldn't say anything untoward to the male of a couple though .
And I'd thoroughly encourage everyone to flirt away, I'm not possessive of playfriends or "virtual" friends
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"I’ve always seen public flirting as just the social lubrication that keeps the forums moving. As such, if anyone does flirt with me, I’m absolutely clueless that they’re interested until they categorically tell me in private. Once things are settled, then a bit of public flirting is ok but in general, off the radar is much better This is what I've been trying to think of the words to say!" It can be awkward to navigate in reality. You tend to find there's bound to be someone who has a crush, (by crush I mean they've already picked their wedding dress and slow danced in their head) with the person who seems to have taken a shine to ya. If there are feelings involved, however one sided they may be, there will likely be an element of hurt. | |||
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"I’ve always seen public flirting as just the social lubrication that keeps the forums moving. As such, if anyone does flirt with me, I’m absolutely clueless that they’re interested until they categorically tell me in private. Once things are settled, then a bit of public flirting is ok but in general, off the radar is much better This is what I've been trying to think of the words to say! It can be awkward to navigate in reality. You tend to find there's bound to be someone who has a crush, (by crush I mean they've already picked their wedding dress and slow danced in their head) with the person who seems to have taken a shine to ya. If there are feelings involved, however one sided they may be, there will likely be an element of hurt." I'm adding to this coz I just thought if some more. I don't give a fuck what anyone says, there are people who lead others to believe their "friendship" is on the road to something more when it really isn't and they're saying the same to multiple people, and there are people that read more into things than there actually are. | |||
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"I’ve always seen public flirting as just the social lubrication that keeps the forums moving. As such, if anyone does flirt with me, I’m absolutely clueless that they’re interested until they categorically tell me in private. Once things are settled, then a bit of public flirting is ok but in general, off the radar is much better This is what I've been trying to think of the words to say! It can be awkward to navigate in reality. You tend to find there's bound to be someone who has a crush, (by crush I mean they've already picked their wedding dress and slow danced in their head) with the person who seems to have taken a shine to ya. If there are feelings involved, however one sided they may be, there will likely be an element of hurt. I'm adding to this coz I just thought if some more. I don't give a fuck what anyone says, there are people who lead others to believe their "friendship" is on the road to something more when it really isn't and they're saying the same to multiple people, and there are people that read more into things than there actually are." There indeed are or there are people who, irrespective of what they’ve been told or the arranged guidelines of the ‘relationship’ try to make it more and do everything in their power to warn others off from that person. Sometimes people believe their own fantasies more than the reality of a situation | |||
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"I’ve always seen public flirting as just the social lubrication that keeps the forums moving. As such, if anyone does flirt with me, I’m absolutely clueless that they’re interested until they categorically tell me in private. Once things are settled, then a bit of public flirting is ok but in general, off the radar is much better This is what I've been trying to think of the words to say! It can be awkward to navigate in reality. You tend to find there's bound to be someone who has a crush, (by crush I mean they've already picked their wedding dress and slow danced in their head) with the person who seems to have taken a shine to ya. If there are feelings involved, however one sided they may be, there will likely be an element of hurt. I'm adding to this coz I just thought if some more. I don't give a fuck what anyone says, there are people who lead others to believe their "friendship" is on the road to something more when it really isn't and they're saying the same to multiple people, and there are people that read more into things than there actually are." Which is why I take things said with a pinch of salt. | |||
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"I’ve always seen public flirting as just the social lubrication that keeps the forums moving. As such, if anyone does flirt with me, I’m absolutely clueless that they’re interested until they categorically tell me in private. Once things are settled, then a bit of public flirting is ok but in general, off the radar is much better This is what I've been trying to think of the words to say! It can be awkward to navigate in reality. You tend to find there's bound to be someone who has a crush, (by crush I mean they've already picked their wedding dress and slow danced in their head) with the person who seems to have taken a shine to ya. If there are feelings involved, however one sided they may be, there will likely be an element of hurt. I'm adding to this coz I just thought if some more. I don't give a fuck what anyone says, there are people who lead others to believe their "friendship" is on the road to something more when it really isn't and they're saying the same to multiple people, and there are people that read more into things than there actually are." And this is why I take even private messaging with a pinch of salt, call me jaded but I'm under no illusions that I'm the only person some of them are talking to like that | |||
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"I’ve always seen public flirting as just the social lubrication that keeps the forums moving. As such, if anyone does flirt with me, I’m absolutely clueless that they’re interested until they categorically tell me in private. Once things are settled, then a bit of public flirting is ok but in general, off the radar is much better This is what I've been trying to think of the words to say! It can be awkward to navigate in reality. You tend to find there's bound to be someone who has a crush, (by crush I mean they've already picked their wedding dress and slow danced in their head) with the person who seems to have taken a shine to ya. If there are feelings involved, however one sided they may be, there will likely be an element of hurt. I'm adding to this coz I just thought if some more. I don't give a fuck what anyone says, there are people who lead others to believe their "friendship" is on the road to something more when it really isn't and they're saying the same to multiple people, and there are people that read more into things than there actually are. Which is why I take things said with a pinch of salt." And why EVERYONE on a swinging website should do just that. Thanks Sparkles x | |||
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"Lighthearted fun in public, personal chat in private. Exactly this
jealousy is such a demeaning trait to display in public forums, apart from making everyone else reading between the lines roll their eyes "Jealousy should have no place on fab full stop, not just in public | |||
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"The furom is full of very attractive and popular people. If you genuinely liked someone (and they knew it),would you like them to openly admit that they fancied you or would you rather they kept it private?" I very much doubt that will ever happen to me, but if anyone is that daft i want them to tell me so i can direct them to specsavers or a psychiatrist | |||
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"Lighthearted fun in public, personal chat in private. Exactly this
jealousy is such a demeaning trait to display in public forums, apart from making everyone else reading between the lines roll their eyes
Jealousy should have no place on fab full stop, not just in public"There are those who enjoy having people vying for their attention though, and in fact go some way into creating the jealous environment. Carrot dangling (not a euphemism) and creating a picture of perfection. They obviously ain't bean spilling that it's not unique and before ya know it you've got people being played off against one another and they've no clue they're part of a manipulative game. Jealousy comes from fear etc, and the one pulling the puppet strings is creating that fear and feeding insecurity on purpose. As much as I'd love to agree there's no place for jealousy, it's the perfect storm for it if the wind blows the right direction. | |||
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"Jealousy should have no place on fab full stop, not just in public" It will always exist on Fab. So long as there are relationships between folk (whether sexual or emotional). In fact it’s more prevalent on Fab because of all the insecurity, fear etc of sharing a partner with others, all the foxy people just a message away. It’s an emotion. Not a particularly nice one granted, but an emotion nonetheless. It’s a human trait to feel emotions, and jealousy is just a byproduct of that. It’s how a person deals and handles their jealousy that is far more important. Which is where I think Pooh poohing the idea of folk being jealous doesn’t help. If folk were more open and honest about their true feelings, jealousy included, then it could be dealt with, talked about in the open. Rather than allowed to brew, fester, to get bigger, to cause issues (for all). Open, honest communication. | |||
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"The furom is full of very attractive and popular people. If you genuinely liked someone (and they knew it),would you like them to openly admit that they fancied you or would you rather they kept it private?" I want a thread about it, with my name as the title. | |||
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"Jealousy should have no place on fab full stop, not just in public It will always exist on Fab. So long as there are relationships between folk (whether sexual or emotional). In fact it’s more prevalent on Fab because of all the insecurity, fear etc of sharing a partner with others, all the foxy people just a message away. It’s an emotion. Not a particularly nice one granted, but an emotion nonetheless. It’s a human trait to feel emotions, and jealousy is just a byproduct of that. It’s how a person deals and handles their jealousy that is far more important. Which is where I think Pooh poohing the idea of folk being jealous doesn’t help. If folk were more open and honest about their true feelings, jealousy included, then it could be dealt with, talked about in the open. Rather than allowed to brew, fester, to get bigger, to cause issues (for all). Open, honest communication. " Although I agree with you that feelings and emotions are uncontrollable and people should communicate, the reason they don’t is obviously fear of rejection from that person but that’s their problem and not that of other Fab users, people shouldn’t be messaging other people warning them off from somebody they like or have feelings for, that’s school playground behaviour, I’m not saying you are by the way but heard this so many times, people saying they can’t display verifications for fear of backlash from other users that’s ridiculous. I wouldn’t be on this site if I was single and looking for a relationship, just doesn’t seem like the right environment for meeting the one. | |||
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"I think you have to be careful on here, as you may encounter jealousy if it’s out in the open.
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"Jealousy should have no place on fab full stop, not just in public It will always exist on Fab. So long as there are relationships between folk (whether sexual or emotional). In fact it’s more prevalent on Fab because of all the insecurity, fear etc of sharing a partner with others, all the foxy people just a message away. It’s an emotion. Not a particularly nice one granted, but an emotion nonetheless. It’s a human trait to feel emotions, and jealousy is just a byproduct of that. It’s how a person deals and handles their jealousy that is far more important. Which is where I think Pooh poohing the idea of folk being jealous doesn’t help. If folk were more open and honest about their true feelings, jealousy included, then it could be dealt with, talked about in the open. Rather than allowed to brew, fester, to get bigger, to cause issues (for all). Open, honest communication. " Spot on
Particularly that last paragraph - the commonly held perception (and misconception for many) here is that you're not "supposed" to have feelings, that we're all here for NSA sex, and that the definition of NSA includes not having feelings - which for some might be true to a greater or lesser degree, but for most of us sex is an emotional and indeed intimate thing with or without strings - and with emotions and intimacy comes a level of feeling for the vast majority.
So it's inevitable that feelings of jealousy (which may come in the form of wistfulness at one end of the scale or the full on green eyed monster at the other end, or something in between) will come into play at times - as you so rightly put it Luna, it's not whether there is a place for jealousy here, it's about how individuals deal with it.
I hold my hand up to having in the past had a level of jealousy, usually at the wistful, I wish it was me, end of the scale when people I've met have met others - it's been a passing thing and one easily sorted with a head wobble or two, but it's happened.
Being open and honest about it and dealing with it in the right way is the way round it though and that includes, if necessary, talking to people and being open with them as well as yourself. Yes, because of the widely held perception it can be scary, and may even lead to things not going how you'd like, but could also lead down a completely different path.
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"Jealousy should have no place on fab full stop, not just in public It will always exist on Fab. So long as there are relationships between folk (whether sexual or emotional). In fact it’s more prevalent on Fab because of all the insecurity, fear etc of sharing a partner with others, all the foxy people just a message away. It’s an emotion. Not a particularly nice one granted, but an emotion nonetheless. It’s a human trait to feel emotions, and jealousy is just a byproduct of that. It’s how a person deals and handles their jealousy that is far more important. Which is where I think Pooh poohing the idea of folk being jealous doesn’t help. If folk were more open and honest about their true feelings, jealousy included, then it could be dealt with, talked about in the open. Rather than allowed to brew, fester, to get bigger, to cause issues (for all). Open, honest communication. " I agree that it’s an emotion and we’re emotional beings but we’re not animals and we don’t have to act on every emotion that we feel. I do agree that talking about it helps and that it sometimes needs to be rationalised but I maintain that jealousy as a driver isn’t and shouldn’t be on here. By all means discuss it with your partner explain and understand the insecurities that have led to it but it shouldn’t be impacting others behaviour because of a persons insecure and jealous acts. When the ethos of swinging is sharing, jealousy and possessive tendencies shouldn’t have a place here | |||
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"I prefer private - otherwise as others have said it may become a drama. There's a lot of 'Swingers' here who don't like to share." | |||
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"Jealousy should have no place on fab full stop, not just in public It will always exist on Fab. So long as there are relationships between folk (whether sexual or emotional). In fact it’s more prevalent on Fab because of all the insecurity, fear etc of sharing a partner with others, all the foxy people just a message away. It’s an emotion. Not a particularly nice one granted, but an emotion nonetheless. It’s a human trait to feel emotions, and jealousy is just a byproduct of that. It’s how a person deals and handles their jealousy that is far more important. Which is where I think Pooh poohing the idea of folk being jealous doesn’t help. If folk were more open and honest about their true feelings, jealousy included, then it could be dealt with, talked about in the open. Rather than allowed to brew, fester, to get bigger, to cause issues (for all). Open, honest communication. I agree that it’s an emotion and we’re emotional beings but we’re not animals and we don’t have to act on every emotion that we feel. I do agree that talking about it helps and that it sometimes needs to be rationalised but I maintain that jealousy as a driver isn’t and shouldn’t be on here. By all means discuss it with your partner explain and understand the insecurities that have led to it but it shouldn’t be impacting others behaviour because of a persons insecure and jealous acts. When the ethos of swinging is sharing, jealousy and possessive tendencies shouldn’t have a place here" I guess the question coming out of that is whether (despite the name) the site is still wholly a "swingers" site or whether it now includes elements of being a "hook up/dating/NSA" site? I agree that within purely "swinging" circles (and swinging is itself open to individual interpretation and definition) that jealousy goes against the ethos of sharing that underpins it, but again it comes back to how that jealousy is dealt with by all concerned - not just the one feeling it either - there are cases where the one causing the jealousy doesn't help matters either. | |||
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