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By *ugsly95 OP   Man
over a year ago

Ashbourne

Hi, can any ladies tell me where I’m going wrong on my profile as I don’t seem to get many messages or anything, I know it’s hard for single guys anyway but I seem to find it impossible lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd just say cut most the dick pics out. And realise being in this pandemic the whole dynamic has changed.. few people want to talk and that's just how it is atm... stick around you'll see a improvement.

Yes I know I'm not a lady like you asked

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By *leeperMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Hi, can any ladies tell me where I’m going wrong on my profile as I don’t seem to get many messages or anything, I know it’s hard for single guys anyway but I seem to find it impossible lol "

Your pics are very basic, look at the forums and find new styles ,

use underwear pics ,

reduce the amount of dicks ,

women’s have seen so many they don’t come rushing haha .

Need to be more specific in what you want.

Plus the pandemic still on so many won’t meet till after July tbh

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

A copy/paste from a post I did on a similar thread earlier...

When people say they're not finding what they want from the site, it often comes down to one, some or all of five key things - none of which will guarantee a thing, but all of which are within your control and will improve your perception of the site - so take a look at these and see where you think you could make adjustments:

Profile - does it sell you well, telling others about you and not only what you're looking for, but what you think you can offer also. Is it appealing and has enough to pique interest, or is it generic and much the same as thousands of other guys here?

Pics - are your pics a good reflection of you and your body, with a little creativity and teasing thrown in, or are they just hastily taken snaps or a series of pics of your cock?

Expectations - are they set correctly or do you need to turn them down a notch, or allow for the current situation and accept that right now a lot of people aren't looking to chat, let alone meet, new people. The default setting for expectations should always be low when it comes to getting meets.

Attitude - have you got it right? Are you always positive or do you bemoan your lack of "luck" on the site? Are you always polite and respectful not only to people you approach, but other users?

Approach - have you found the right approach to the site for you? It doesn't *have* to be about blindly messaging people and hoping they reply, the forums and chat rooms are a good way to get to know people, and them you - likewise when they open/start again clubs and group socials.

Take those into account and you won't be going far wrong, as I said, it won't guarantee a thing but it will improve your experience and perception.

Good luck

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

People have been in an almost constant state of grief/despair/disbelief/frustration for a year now.

Get yourself to organised socials or clubs, that's where the people that want to talk and meet new people will be.

Just because people are online here, doesn't mean they welcome conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t let it effect your confidence mate, it’s so hard going on here for guys. The ratio must be like 50/1 or something I’ve been back and forth on here for like 3-4 years & maybe only meet 1 person per year.

This ain’t the be all & end all of hook ups, it’s way easier in real life. Once lockdowns over get yourself out there & meet people for real, sites like this are damaging to men’s mental health unless your the classic “tall, dark & hansom + 6 pack these days”, don’t take it seriously, it’s no reflection on reality. Good luck.

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

If I was going to take profile advice from anyone it would be from Princess Peach and Gemini Man.

Take heed of their words and go far young padawan will.

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By *ugsly95 OP   Man
over a year ago

Ashbourne


"Don’t let it effect your confidence mate, it’s so hard going on here for guys. The ratio must be like 50/1 or something I’ve been back and forth on here for like 3-4 years & maybe only meet 1 person per year.

This ain’t the be all & end all of hook ups, it’s way easier in real life. Once lockdowns over get yourself out there & meet people for real, sites like this are damaging to men’s mental health unless your the classic “tall, dark & hansom + 6 pack these days”, don’t take it seriously, it’s no reflection on reality. Good luck."

Thank you that was a nice confidence boost made me feel better thank you

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By *ugsly95 OP   Man
over a year ago

Ashbourne


"If I was going to take profile advice from anyone it would be from Princess Peach and Gemini Man.

Take heed of their words and go far young padawan will. "

Thank you I will

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Don’t let it effect your confidence mate, it’s so hard going on here for guys. The ratio must be like 50/1 or something I’ve been back and forth on here for like 3-4 years & maybe only meet 1 person per year.

This ain’t the be all & end all of hook ups, it’s way easier in real life. Once lockdowns over get yourself out there & meet people for real, sites like this are damaging to men’s mental health unless your the classic “tall, dark & hansom + 6 pack these days”, don’t take it seriously, it’s no reflection on reality. Good luck."

The ratio is more like between 10 and 15 to 1, and if you take out the guys that don't "get it" it's even more evenly balanced than that - although to be honest ratios shouldn't even have to come into it, and don't for the guys that understand how the site works and how to make the experience a good one for them.

As for the "tall, dark and handsome with a six pack" line - not in the slightest bit true - often see guys that would fit that mould saying they struggle, and likewise guys that are nothing like that saying they have a good experience of the site.

The real key is understanding how it works, having the right expectations, attitude and approach as I mentioned above - get those right and it won't guarantee a thing but will improve the experience.

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By *ugsly95 OP   Man
over a year ago

Ashbourne


"Don’t let it effect your confidence mate, it’s so hard going on here for guys. The ratio must be like 50/1 or something I’ve been back and forth on here for like 3-4 years & maybe only meet 1 person per year.

This ain’t the be all & end all of hook ups, it’s way easier in real life. Once lockdowns over get yourself out there & meet people for real, sites like this are damaging to men’s mental health unless your the classic “tall, dark & hansom + 6 pack these days”, don’t take it seriously, it’s no reflection on reality. Good luck.

The ratio is more like between 10 and 15 to 1, and if you take out the guys that don't "get it" it's even more evenly balanced than that - although to be honest ratios shouldn't even have to come into it, and don't for the guys that understand how the site works and how to make the experience a good one for them.

As for the "tall, dark and handsome with a six pack" line - not in the slightest bit true - often see guys that would fit that mould saying they struggle, and likewise guys that are nothing like that saying they have a good experience of the site.

The real key is understanding how it works, having the right expectations, attitude and approach as I mentioned above - get those right and it won't guarantee a thing but will improve the experience."

I guess i do expect more than I should, I did expect to be having lots of conversations and the odd offer of a meet but, these are difficult times and, being Patient is aim of the game

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