FabSwingers.com forum: Girls, what is your preferred age range?

By *m Normal OP Man
over a year ago

Telford

The title is to get your attention. I don't care what your prefered age range is.

What is important that you don't waste the time of people writing to you.

The age range by default is 18 - 99. If that is not your preference please adjust it.

Men get rejected all the time. When you get to my age the rejection is more often. I don't care about the rejection I'm long past giving that a thought. What is annoying is I've spent time writing what I think is a good introduction just to be ignored or deleted and occasionally to be told I'm too old when I am inside their age range.

You get 100s of unwanted messages. I'm one of the poor sods writing them. Help me by making your profile represent what you want. That will release the workload of 1000s of members.

Thanks for reading.

Greg

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I’m very clear. It gets ignored, so I don’t read those messages.

I agree many people could be clearer with their profiles. But ultimately nobody is owed a response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to understand that women get hundreds of messages, even women with nothing on their profile.

They are not obliged to respond to you, it says this in the FAQs. No reply is a reply.

If you feel your time is being “wasted”. Maybe delete your sent box messages so it’s a nice surprise when you receive a reply or don’t message women at all, let them come to you.

You can’t police how others react or don’t react to your messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do actually agree with the OP to a degree, it's easy to set filters ... noone has to receive 100s of messages! Much better to get them from those that you're actually more interested in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do actually agree with the OP to a degree, it's easy to set filters ... noone has to receive 100s of messages! Much better to get them from those that you're actually more interested in "

This is true.

However even with filters it can still be hundreds, I have filters.

I also state in my profile that if I don’t respond it means I’m not interested. Sadly that’s not enough for some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have to understand that women get hundreds of messages, even women with nothing on their profile.

They are not obliged to respond to you, it says this in the FAQs. No reply is a reply.

If you feel your time is being “wasted”. Maybe delete your sent box messages so it’s a nice surprise when you receive a reply or don’t message women at all, let them come to you.

You can’t police how others react or don’t react to your messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try not expect ... that’s my advice

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Mine is 18 to 99 but it will stay that way as will talk to any age but would not when we able to again meet younger and probably not the 99 year olds either! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have my way of thinking. if i messsage a lady and it gets deleted then thats fine im not what they are looking for. if it gets readed and not deleted then hopefully they maybe interested and have kept it there so they can reply at some point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP your profile states you prefer very young girls (albeit of legal age) yet your age range goes up to 65.

Quite a gap. Maybe that’s why others keep their options open too.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

I can understand why women don't respond, I usualy take the not response as a polite no thank you and move on.

I do think it's worth getting worked up over.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Mine clearly says what my age range is yet constantly gets ignored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just swinging by to say you aren’t entitled to a response OP. Even if you match their preferences, it doesn’t necessarily say that they want to meet you. I appreciate it’s frustrating if you’re one of the few that puts effort into your opening message, but the people you are messaging owe you nothing.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

Should work both ways though shouldn't it, I specify an age range but get people out of it messaging me, then they call me a time waster when I explain that they aren't what I'm looking for

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

People can set their profiles how they like. It's not for your convenience

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

I do prefer woman born in the early 1970's though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP your profile states you prefer very young girls (albeit of legal age) yet your age range goes up to 65.

Quite a gap. Maybe that’s why others keep their options open too."

Good spot.

Maybe the OP should alter his age range to reflect his preferences.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I had my filters set 18-99 because I was willing to speak to anyone from the forums. Not about sex, but about issues they may be having etc, forum games that required PMs.

Plenty of people use this site to keep in contact with existing friends or others they meet in person when at clubs or social events.

I'm sorry you wasted your time sending "cold calling" messages to people who didn't want them.

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By *m Normal OP Man
over a year ago

Telford

I think some of you are missing the point.

I only write to people in their age range. In fact if there is enough information in their profile I restrict who I message based on its content. If its M and F and both bi I mostly don't message.

If the filter is in place I cannot message. If there is an age range below mine but still able to message I tend not to.

Someone said I need to adjust my age range, I have it tops out at 65.

If the age range selection was default at zero (18 - 00) I'm sure there would be much better use made of it.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I appreciate it must be frustrating.

Nobody is asking you to message them, you're making that decision yourself.

If you're referring to messages you've sent over the course of the past year, well, it's pretty irrelevant as harsh as that sounds.

People have been in an almost constant state of grief/despair/disbelief/frustration for a year now.

Get yourself to organised socials or clubs, that's where the people that want to talk and meet new people will be.

Just because people are online here, doesn't mean they welcome conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think some of you are missing the point.

I only write to people in their age range. In fact if there is enough information in their profile I restrict who I message based on its content. If its M and F and both bi I mostly don't message.

If the filter is in place I cannot message. If there is an age range below mine but still able to message I tend not to.

Someone said I need to adjust my age range, I have it tops out at 65.

If the age range selection was default at zero (18 - 00) I'm sure there would be much better use made of it."

Yes but just because you’re within their age range it doesn’t mean they’ll automatically be interested in you.

You have to understand and accept that on sites like this you’re going to be rejected far more than you are going to be “accepted”.

Yes you do need to adjust your age range really as your profile states you’re looking for a very young girl... it should reflect that, it not reflecting that may be why you’re not getting messages back.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I think some of you are missing the point.

I only write to people in their age range. In fact if there is enough information in their profile I restrict who I message based on its content. If its M and F and both bi I mostly don't message.

If the filter is in place I cannot message. If there is an age range below mine but still able to message I tend not to.

Someone said I need to adjust my age range, I have it tops out at 65.

If the age range selection was default at zero (18 - 00) I'm sure there would be much better use made of it."

I'm not. People set their profiles how they like. When you message, you take your chances.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

What is important that you don't waste the time of people writing to you.

The only person wasting the time of people writing messages, is the person writing the message. If you think it’s a waste of time, don’t do it.

I used to specify an age range, but didn’t set filters. 100s of people every week who were very far outside my range ignored my stated preference and messaged me anyway. Whose time is being wasted then? Not the people who didn’t bother to check my age range, that’s for sure.

Now I use filters, and only people 28-45 can message me. Do you think that means I fancy and reply to every person in that range who messages me? Sorry, nope. I still delete almost all messages I receive, because age is only one factor. There may be a lot of reasons apart from your age why people don’t reply to you, I’m not going to comment on anything specific as you haven’t asked, but there are at least five different reasons in your profile why I wouldn’t reply to you - without even looking at your age.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Is it really any more frustrating or time wasting than having two profiles and/or claiming that age isn't important while saying you are looking for a very young girl within your local area?

You want people to take a few mins to tighten their age filters but you are still wishing people Merry Christmas and a happy New year in March?

Good housekeeping starts at home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good spot.

Maybe the OP should alter his age range to reflect his preferences. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally respect people's age range. No point pushing with someone who just isn't interested.

I also have an age range set. It's just personal preference after all.

And as for being ignored, such is life. No point worrying about what you can't control.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I generally respect people's age range. No point pushing with someone who just isn't interested.

I also have an age range set. It's just personal preference after all.

And as for being ignored, such is life. No point worrying about what you can't control.

Glad it wasn't set at 59....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I generally respect people's age range. No point pushing with someone who just isn't interested.

I also have an age range set. It's just personal preference after all.

And as for being ignored, such is life. No point worrying about what you can't control.

Glad it wasn't set at 59....

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I generally respect people's age range. No point pushing with someone who just isn't interested.

I also have an age range set. It's just personal preference after all.

And as for being ignored, such is life. No point worrying about what you can't control.

Glad it wasn't set at 59....

Squeezed in by a hair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do women even message men first?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do women even message men first?"
we never get chance to always get bombarded with messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've messaged guys first if they have good photos I'll compliment them...doesn't mean I want to meet up though

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

My age range has changed since I joined fab... it started at 4 years either side of my age and then I started talking to someone outside that.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't mean that much to me. People often lie here about age so that's another fact to consider.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find fab and a sense of entitlement do not make great bed fellows, we all have our tastes and attraction, its every womens right of freedom, to choice who they respond to, if I get no response, it's cool I cant be everything to everybody

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do women even message men first? we never get chance to always get bombarded with messages "

Fair enough who run the world girls lol

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By *atenaWoman
over a year ago

Hyde

"Do women even message men first?"

I don't a lot...... but something struck me to last week and actually I've been having great chats with a guy who is ticking many boxes.

So I am GLAD a I did!

But to the OP issue..... I have so many filters.... and a profile bio that rivals the bible.... I state I'm NOT looking for casual... yet people always msg just for a casual fuck.

Sighhhhhh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do women even message men first?"

Yes. Why not?

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

OP. Cut out the bit about wanting young girls for a start. That might help. What older woman would want to hear that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a thought maybe women could just ignore all messages they get,and do the messaging first so then they only get messages off guys they want to chat to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do women even message men first?"

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just a thought maybe women could just ignore all messages they get,and do the messaging first so then they only get messages off guys they want to chat to "

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Do women even message men first?"

I never have x

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By *m Normal OP Man
over a year ago

Telford

"Just a thought maybe women could just ignore all messages they get,and do the messaging first so then they only get messages off guys they want to chat to "

That is the best response I've ever seen

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Just a thought maybe women could just ignore all messages they get,and do the messaging first so then they only get messages off guys they want to chat to "

I do ignore all my messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just a thought maybe women could just ignore all messages they get,and do the messaging first so then they only get messages off guys they want to chat to "

I actually do this a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Messages are just messages. Nothing more and nothing less, they are an invitation to start chatting and getting to know someone, if they accept the invitation great, if not it is their choice.

The same also goes for, if a girl (or guy as we have to be politically correct) does reply to a first message, that then does not automatically mean they want to meet up in person the next day.

Just have to have a thick skin, I only message people I find interesting and attractive. I know there are guys on here who will probably message every female in the search list.

Just take it easy and if you get a reply you get a reply, if not then you know there is someone more attractive with a better personality than you on the site haha

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By *ll3somefunCouple
over a year ago

ipswich

we have an age range on our profile plus we state exactly what were looking for and also state that if you dont fall within those guidelines we wont reply but we still get hundreds of people who obviously have not taken the time to fully read the profile

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