FabSwingers.com forum: Women, how are compliments received?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If someone messages you to compliment your picture do you like it, are you indifferent or do you dislike it?

I’m not on about getting compliments then receiving “fuck you ugly bitch” messages when you don’t respond. I’m very sure no one likes them.

I just mean genuine “I really love your photos you’re very beautiful” kind of compliment. Is it nice or is it like “whatever”?

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

It's especially nice if they like a certain photo and they add a personal comment to it. Makes it feel it's not a cut and paste job if that makes sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's lovely when it happens but very seldom as I rarely let my filters down.

Getting that from a friend is very nice too though.

I will just message someone if I think theirs are really good

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

In a very much not fishing way, I can safely say I don't get many compliments on my photos. I do on my voice video and I like them because I think they are genuine and to be honest, I don't get many compliments day to day. They give me a little boost and make me feel a bit less bleurgh on those days I do.

The nicest one I've received before was from someone saying how beautiful my eyes are. I was having a bit of a low day anyway and the fact that a stranger took time out, not expecting anything but wanting to say something nice meant a lot to me.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Complements from friends/people I’ve met face to face are nice. But I really struggle with complements on here from people I don’t know. I’m a bit prickly and don’t want to be complemented on a photo.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Speaking from experience, I think that many view them with cynicism as they can often be disingenuous.

I think that if they’re just compliments with no motive to engage or go further, that’s where they’re most likely to be well received

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Complements from friends/people I’ve met face to face are nice. But I really struggle with complements on here from people I don’t know. I’m a bit prickly and don’t want to be complemented on a photo. "

You’re not prickly, you’re a build a bear in a hedgehog costume

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it depends on the creativity of the comment and on what the comment is target at.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess it depends on the creativity of the comment and on what the comment is target at.

Nice beard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love compliments from people who know me but on here I'm quite ambivalent because a compliment "love your photos" tends to be followed up with silly comments which just negates the compliment sadly.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Are they saying it because they want in my pants or are they saying it because they believe it?

All about the why.

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

Compliments are always appreciated, if they’re sincere.

Lou x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see it as a lazy way to curry favour with me that gives a pretty good indication of the direction any chat might take

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess it depends on the creativity of the comment and on what the comment is target at.

Nice beard. "

Already got that one ! I love the way your stach caresses your nostrils would have been a first !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it is meaningful then yes I like it. I get hundreds of compliments on my photos daily but none ever stand out to be honest. You just know it's what they say to pretty much every woman they like the look of.

You can tell when someone is genuine though, although the genuine ones usually come from women and rarely from men on here.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

As has been said, it depends on whether it feels like a genuine compliment aimed specifically at me & with no ulterior motive, or if it is a general "nice pics" which is probably fired out to any female within a 50 mile radius in the hope of getting a shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The greatest compliment you can pay a woman is blowing your load early doors, that cannot be faked.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I just say thanks.

Whether they mean it or not, it’s hardly worth getting in a tizz over.

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

Depends whether it’s genuine. A lot of the messages are clearly copy and paste, or at least feel this way.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Really depends.

Although, given filters, I often won't reply.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

It all depends on the compliment and who is saying it as well .I take a lot of the compliments on here with a pinch of salt if I am honest.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"If it is meaningful then yes I like it. I get hundreds of compliments on my photos daily but none ever stand out to be honest. You just know it's what they say to pretty much every woman they like the look of.

You can tell when someone is genuine though, although the genuine ones usually come from women and rarely from men on here."

How very dare you, I have a penis an all!

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

It always make me laugh, when I get messages saying hi beautiful, ffs you can’t see my face so how do you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i always say thanks

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I'm guilty of sending photo compliments.

I don't have a stock, 'I like this photo message' and don't expect a FAF reply back

But I am very visual and do appreciate a good photo and do sometimes slide in someone's inbox to tell them that.

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

When it’s a friend, someone I know and it’s a genuine compliment it’s nice, I like it, feel quite shy, but flattered and almost embarrassed all at the same time. They know how I feel about these things.

From a random, I find it awkward and don’t really know how to react, I normally do one of two things; joke, or ignore it. I think because I don’t accept it, don’t believe it’s possibly true.

Lex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see it as a lazy way to curry favour with me that gives a pretty good indication of the direction any chat might take"

I find this very harsh. I think giveing and getting complimenta are nice and old fashioned gestures like this are lost sadly on some folk. If i have had a tough day and recieve a nice compliment it really does wonders for one's well being in my experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see it as a lazy way to curry favour with me that gives a pretty good indication of the direction any chat might take

Harsh in what way?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I see it as a lazy way to curry favour with me that gives a pretty good indication of the direction any chat might take

Harsh in what way? "

I think it can be seen as harsh because giving a compliment is a nice thing. On the other hand women will receive all kind of complimentary messages which aren’t always genuine and yes guys DO just copy and paste compliments in hopes of starting a conversation.

It’s rare but there are some guys who are quite genuine and don’t realise how other men on here behave. That means they don’t get why a compliment wouldn’t be taken on board.

Tbh that’s why I started the thread. I was going to compliment someones photo but then thought hmm are they going to actually think I’m genuine or just think I’m a nob

Of course the replies here are varied but show it’s more about how genuine the message is but that’s hard to show and also hard for others to believe.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

They usually invoke an air of indifference in me.

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of guys tell me they love my pics

I havent got any bloody pics

Says it all really

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lots of guys tell me they love my pics

I havent got any bloody pics

Says it all really"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see it as a lazy way to curry favour with me that gives a pretty good indication of the direction any chat might take

Harsh in what way?

It’s rare but there are some guys who are quite genuine and don’t realise how other men on here behave. That means they don’t get why a compliment wouldn’t be taken on board.

Tbh that’s why I started the thread. I was going to compliment someones photo but then thought hmm are they going to actually think I’m genuine or just think I’m a nob

Of course the replies here are varied but show it’s more about how genuine the message is but that’s hard to show and also hard for others to believe. "

Well see here's the thing, it's generally the people giving compliments who then perceive that they haven't been received well, that think they're a nice thing

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I reply to all one liner compliment with a thank you, I don't necessarily take them seriously, the cynical part of me thinks : " I bet you say that to all the girls "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am generally indifferent.

I am really not bothered by what random people think of my appearance. If a compliment is well meant and given with no expectations, I will accept it gracefully... but it won't 'brighten my day' or 'make me feel good about myself' or whatever. It is what it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A compliment never hurts anybody and i always say thank you, sometimes they don't want anymore than just to compliment you.

We've had a few people compliment us on our profile/pics and they can see they are not what we are looking for or try and take the conversation any further.

Her x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well see here's the thing, it's generally the people giving compliments who then perceive that they haven't been received well, that think they're a nice thing "

I don’t quite understand what you mean. I think everyone thinks a compliment is a nice thing don’t they?

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

It's very rare I believe any complements about my appearance on fab, I take them with a pinch of salt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get 'nice tits'

In general, I'm not great at receiving compliments, they make me feel awkward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Compliments from perfect strangers via the internet are always met with indifference from me... compliments from people I know, however, are very much appreciated and get lots of thanks and blushes from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always send a reply back thanking them for their compliment, however I have found some guys see this as a green light I'm interested and then want to get chatting, exchanging pics etc...

(And I'm basing this on my current profile).

I'm flattered at that time about the compliment, but that's as far as it goes.

I don't suddenly think I'm the dogs dangly bits

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork

If they are warranted. When they are totally over the top they just annoy me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they can tell me what they like about it.. they it's smile inducing.

'I love the way your dark hair falls onto your back softly in that shot and it makes me want to.. (...)'

This is one I would cherish more ^

Which doesn't mean others are meh. Taking time to say something "nice" is an effort too. Just not as signicant as above.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

I’m terrible at taking any compliment. I never believe them or just brush them off.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I like it and accept them politely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they are warranted. When they are totally over the top they just annoy me "

Do you mean like this :

OMG WOW WOW WOW WOW!!!

YOU HAVE THE BEST TITS ON FAB

Kinda thing??

That's what I got yesterday, I've since taken the picture down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well see here's the thing, it's generally the people giving compliments who then perceive that they haven't been received well, that think they're a nice thing

I don’t quite understand what you mean. I think everyone thinks a compliment is a nice thing don’t they?

Are you reading many of the replies on this thread?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take it with a pinch of salt, say thanks and that's that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like it. It's just bullshit to try and get a shag.

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By *lamorousBeautyLondonWoman
over a year ago

London

"Speaking from experience, I think that many view them with cynicism as they can often be disingenuous.

I think that if they’re just compliments with no motive to engage or go further, that’s where they’re most likely to be well received "

That's exactly it - genuine compliments tend to stand out. There is an element of compliments used as a "dutiful" thing to write because in a way it is a display of good manners but at the same time because of that it might come across as disingenuous as it is included for a purpose, with a goal so to speak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the way it’s worded. If I think it is genuine then I will say thank you, but generally I don’t trust a compliment, and expect it to be a prelude to attempting to hi-jack my knickers.

I think I’m not very trusting generally, particularly of men, as I tend not to trust their motives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see it as a lazy way to curry favour with me that gives a pretty good indication of the direction any chat might take

Harsh in what way?

It’s rare but there are some guys who are quite genuine and don’t realise how other men on here behave. That means they don’t get why a compliment wouldn’t be taken on board.

Tbh that’s why I started the thread. I was going to compliment someones photo but then thought hmm are they going to actually think I’m genuine or just think I’m a nob

Of course the replies here are varied but show it’s more about how genuine the message is but that’s hard to show and also hard for others to believe. "

Yes you totally get my point thank you

. I agree us decent and genuine guys get a bad name due to idiots who spoil it for us and make it harder for us to be taken seriously.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well see here's the thing, it's generally the people giving compliments who then perceive that they haven't been received well, that think they're a nice thing

I don’t quite understand what you mean. I think everyone thinks a compliment is a nice thing don’t they?

Are you reading many of the replies on this thread?"

It’s okay never mind

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By *horehouseprincessWoman
over a year ago

small town near Munich

Depends on the words. If its not over the top and genuine? Yes i like them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In a very much not fishing way, I can safely say I don't get many compliments on my photos. I do on my voice video and I like them because I think they are genuine and to be honest, I don't get many compliments day to day. They give me a little boost and make me feel a bit less bleurgh on those days I do.

I've had messages like that, really sweet compliments with no apparent hidden agenda.

Its nice.

I do reply to thank them too..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I see it as a lazy way to curry favour with me that gives a pretty good indication of the direction any chat might take

Harsh in what way?

It’s rare but there are some guys who are quite genuine and don’t realise how other men on here behave. That means they don’t get why a compliment wouldn’t be taken on board.

Tbh that’s why I started the thread. I was going to compliment someones photo but then thought hmm are they going to actually think I’m genuine or just think I’m a nob

Of course the replies here are varied but show it’s more about how genuine the message is but that’s hard to show and also hard for others to believe.

Yes you totally get my point thank you

. I agree us decent and genuine guys get a bad name due to idiots who spoil it for us and make it harder for us to be taken seriously."

Yeah. That’s why I was asking. Just trying to get a feel of what people think. I think I’ll keep the compliments in my head until I know people well enough for them to believe it’s genuine

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

With a sense of how many more messages from them before they ask if I fancy a fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just nice normal compliments nothing fake or forced x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well see here's the thing, it's generally the people giving compliments who then perceive that they haven't been received well, that think they're a nice thing

I don’t quite understand what you mean. I think everyone thinks a compliment is a nice thing don’t they?

Are you reading many of the replies on this thread?

It’s okay never mind

I'll simplify...many women on here have learned through experience to take compliments with a pinch of cynicism.

I actually think it's a poor way of engaging someone to strike up some chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It always make me laugh, when I get messages saying hi beautiful, ffs you can’t see my face so how do you know "

Yes this makes me laugh too. "you're stunning"... Maybe you'll think my face looks like a melted welly though!

I much prefer compliments that aren't based on looks. Tell me I'm funny and I'll love you forever.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well see here's the thing, it's generally the people giving compliments who then perceive that they haven't been received well, that think they're a nice thing

I don’t quite understand what you mean. I think everyone thinks a compliment is a nice thing don’t they?

Are you reading many of the replies on this thread?

It’s okay never mind

I'll simplify...many women on here have learned through experience to take compliments with a pinch of cynicism.

I actually think it's a poor way of engaging someone to strike up some chat"

Right right. Though I did mean genuine compliments which I highlighted in my initial post. I guess though it shows the fixed views towards them. Informative, which is what I was after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well see here's the thing, it's generally the people giving compliments who then perceive that they haven't been received well, that think they're a nice thing

I don’t quite understand what you mean. I think everyone thinks a compliment is a nice thing don’t they?

Are you reading many of the replies on this thread?

It’s okay never mind

I'll simplify...many women on here have learned through experience to take compliments with a pinch of cynicism.

I actually think it's a poor way of engaging someone to strike up some chat

Right right. Though I did mean genuine compliments which I highlighted in my initial post. I guess though it shows the fixed views towards them. Informative, which is what I was after

Can you give an example of a genuine compliment?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A compliment is always good...I try to reply with a thankyou ...xx

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