FabSwingers.com forum: Which feelings are you chasing with sex?

By *dam1971 OP Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I got to thinking, well - daydreaming and reminiscing, sex is what many of us want but I wonder why?

For me I enjoy the closeness and the feeling of being desired. Not just liked but that more animal sensation of someone wants me to fuck them.

It’s also a good way to forget about all the other stuff in the world and your life and just focus on giving each other pleasure. Trusting someone completely to do exactly what you want.

There are physical bits too of course, but what are the emotions you want the endorphins to hit on?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I like that feeling when my vag is full....... Any jokes about sliding in a barage will be met with disdain .......

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

In regards to my stable, quite simply Love.

Being able to let feelings go and embrace fully the raging passion whilst being secure in the knowledge that it will never be misunderstood as anything else is the best feeling I've had

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I got to thinking, well - daydreaming and reminiscing, sex is what many of us want but I wonder why?

For me I enjoy the closeness and the feeling of being desired. Not just liked but that more animal sensation of someone wants me to fuck them.

It’s also a good way to forget about all the other stuff in the world and your life and just focus on giving each other pleasure. Trusting someone completely to do exactly what you want.

There are physical bits too of course, but what are the emotions you want the endorphins to hit on?"

What he said. ^

or something similar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like getting the feeling of totally getting lost in the pleasure. The excitement of a new partner and what they can bring, how they can surprise you with certain things they do.

The unknown can be very intoxicating

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By *enuineguy81Man
over a year ago

isle of man

I’m with you OP. It’s the feeling of desire, the fact that someone wants you, and n my case not just someone wanting you to do something for them, but someone that actually wants to do something to make you happy

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I’m not sure that I agree with the implied meaning that we’re chasing anything with sex as that means that we’re all lacking something and replacing it, which is an unhealthy behaviour.

In terms of craving things that people are missing, I understand that need and desire/to be desired could be a unifying feeling for those that are missing it.

I think that the case for couples and those in happy relationships will be very different from singles though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm hoping I'm chasing my instincts and desires. Not necessary feelings.

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By *dam1971 OP Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"I’m not sure that I agree with the implied meaning that we’re chasing anything with sex as that means that we’re all lacking something and replacing it, which is an unhealthy behaviour.

In terms of craving things that people are missing, I understand that need and desire/to be desired could be a unifying feeling for those that are missing it.

I think that the case for couples and those in happy relationships will be very different from singles though"

Not really what I was getting at. People play or watch sport because it gives them some kind of feeling they want.

The feeling is inside you, it’s just that we use sex / sport / hobbies / whatever to bring it out a little

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't talk for anyone and surely a lot we'll have a different perspective on it, but in my case and probably in the case of many, I am seeking for the cognitive affect through the social validation that sex can procure.

As sex doesn't happen in a vacuum (except for some haha) it is therefore a social activity. So ultimately I believe that ppl are looking for a two folds process.

The biological feeling of shooting your load into the abyss of a warm vagina that will raise my oxytocin level.

And the cognitive affect of feeling and being wanted by my peers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I got to thinking, well - daydreaming and reminiscing, sex is what many of us want but I wonder why?

For me I enjoy the closeness and the feeling of being desired. Not just liked but that more animal sensation of someone wants me to fuck them.

It’s also a good way to forget about all the other stuff in the world and your life and just focus on giving each other pleasure. Trusting someone completely to do exactly what you want.

There are physical bits too of course, but what are the emotions you want the endorphins to hit on?"

I think I'm in love

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I’m not sure that I agree with the implied meaning that we’re chasing anything with sex as that means that we’re all lacking something and replacing it, which is an unhealthy behaviour.

In terms of craving things that people are missing, I understand that need and desire/to be desired could be a unifying feeling for those that are missing it.

I think that the case for couples and those in happy relationships will be very different from singles though

Not really what I was getting at. People play or watch sport because it gives them some kind of feeling they want.

The feeling is inside you, it’s just that we use sex / sport / hobbies / whatever to bring it out a little "

It’s not really the same thing though, if you meant something different then that’s fine but I feel that your OP implies something else.

Sport or hobbies release endorphins and increase knowledge or fitness, that’s not the same thing as desire or wanting to feel wanted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like some intimacy from sex

Other times, it's just a fun adventure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can honestly say that the time I spend with my "special friend" is my favourite time. Its a complete break from life and the mundane. Meeting him for an afternoon of sex is just like someone else meeting for an afternoon of tennis. Except there's no rackets

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Ask me in a few months when we're allowed out to play .

I'll have an answer for ya then

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"I can't talk for anyone and surely a lot we'll have a different perspective on it, but in my case and probably in the case of many, I am seeking for the cognitive affect through the social validation that sex can procure.

As sex doesn't happen in a vacuum (except for some haha) it is therefore a social activity. So ultimately I believe that ppl are looking for a two folds process.

The biological feeling of shooting your load into the abyss of a warm vagina that will raise my oxytocin level.

And the cognitive affect of feeling and being wanted by my peers. "

I didn't know men had oxytocin, I had to Google

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By *dam1971 OP Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"I’m not sure that I agree with the implied meaning that we’re chasing anything with sex as that means that we’re all lacking something and replacing it, which is an unhealthy behaviour.

In terms of craving things that people are missing, I understand that need and desire/to be desired could be a unifying feeling for those that are missing it.

I think that the case for couples and those in happy relationships will be very different from singles though

Not really what I was getting at. People play or watch sport because it gives them some kind of feeling they want.

The feeling is inside you, it’s just that we use sex / sport / hobbies / whatever to bring it out a little

It’s not really the same thing though, if you meant something different then that’s fine but I feel that your OP implies something else.

Sport or hobbies release endorphins and increase knowledge or fitness, that’s not the same thing as desire or wanting to feel wanted"

A misunderstanding perhaps, I apologise.

I described what I am looking for but as we’re all different I’m interested in what others feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who it’s with. I have a very good, stable and comfortable life. My meets from fab are for escapism. Escapism and as the OP described it, daydreamy.

Why I need any kind of “escapism” is beyond me but I do find myself craving it! That is something I chase through sex, some of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As sex doesn't happen in a vacuum (except for some haha) it is therefore a social activity. So ultimately I believe that ppl are looking for a two folds process.

The biological feeling of shooting your load into the abyss of a warm vagina that will raise my oxytocin level.

And the cognitive affect of feeling and being wanted by my peers.

I didn't know men had oxytocin, I had to Google

I didn't know either, I just wrote a lot of bollocks to look smart to hopefully get my penis sucked by a teacher in need

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

As sex doesn't happen in a vacuum (except for some haha) it is therefore a social activity. So ultimately I believe that ppl are looking for a two folds process.

The biological feeling of shooting your load into the abyss of a warm vagina that will raise my oxytocin level.

And the cognitive affect of feeling and being wanted by my peers.

I didn't know men had oxytocin, I had to Google

I didn't know either, I just wrote a lot of bollocks to look smart to hopefully get my penis sucked by a teacher in need "

You are smart and look smart

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I got to thinking, well - daydreaming and reminiscing, sex is what many of us want but I wonder why?

For me I enjoy the closeness and the feeling of being desired. Not just liked but that more animal sensation of someone wants me to fuck them.

It’s also a good way to forget about all the other stuff in the world and your life and just focus on giving each other pleasure. Trusting someone completely to do exactly what you want.

There are physical bits too of course, but what are the emotions you want the endorphins to hit on?"

I love that feeling of being desired. That's not because my partners don't show it or I'm missing it from my life or anything along those lines. It's more, I've this endless capacity to enjoy being desired - it's arousing knowing I've caused someone's arousal.

I also enjoy sex because of the physical sensations and the chance to get lost in what's happening. Most of the time I overthink but when I'm aroused I'm not thinking so much. I love that feeling of being able to focus on my body, on anothers. It's why I enjoy running (or more accurately fast waddling) - it allows my mind to clear and me to focus on feeling rather than worrying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As sex doesn't happen in a vacuum (except for some haha) it is therefore a social activity. So ultimately I believe that ppl are looking for a two folds process.

The biological feeling of shooting your load into the abyss of a warm vagina that will raise my oxytocin level.

And the cognitive affect of feeling and being wanted by my peers.

I didn't know men had oxytocin, I had to Google

I didn't know either, I just wrote a lot of bollocks to look smart to hopefully get my penis sucked by a teacher in need

You are smart and look smart

Are you in need of blowing a penis by any chance ?

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By *dam1971 OP Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"I also enjoy sex because of the physical sensations and the chance to get lost in what's happening. Most of the time I overthink but when I'm aroused I'm not thinking so much. I love that feeling of being able to focus on my body, on anothers. It's why I enjoy running (or more accurately fast waddling) - it allows my mind to clear and me to focus on feeling rather than worrying."

That’s an interesting point about just being able to switch off from the usual. Sometimes you’ve had enough of being strong or responsible or guilty or whatever and you can let all those things fuck right off

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

The feeling of kundalini.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The feeling of kundalini."

Unagi?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I save the intimate sensual stuff for with my husband.

With others it's excitement and curiosity of being with someone new, the fun of play, but ultimately I do actually crave hard, animalistic sex and a really thorough fucking. Sex must end with him finishing inside too, for me sex misses a lot and isn't satisfying without that xx

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

The feeling of release that comes with the rhythmic percussion of skin striking skin.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Yes that's it exactly. A good fuck or other sexual activity means I'm very much there in the moment, enjoying the sensations and not thinking about them. I like that element of things - I think that's why previously I dabbled with sub/Dom(me) encounters because the subspace I entered gave me that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thrilling excitement of meeting up and being naughty x and that feel of being stretched out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's the feeling of being completely free of inhibitions and revelling in the moment without the clamour of my thoughts. Enjoying a connection with someone, however temporary, without having to consciously think about whether my body language, words, facial expression etc. is appropriate for the situation. Being aspie that is always at the forefront of my mind when I'm interacting with people who aren't family and to be able to shut it down is utterly blissful. Also, the physical sensations, taste, smell, sound, touch of another body against my own is wonderful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Empty balls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexual oblivian..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Empty balls "

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

Wouldn't say I'm chasing anything with sex, but that 'don't think just feel' moment, when I can switch off my brain & just give in to pure physical feeling is very much needed sometimes.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

It can vary. Sometimes it is just lust and wanton, and needing to satisfy the horniness. Other times its the closeness and intimacy and the feeling of being loved and wanted, and sometimes it's a total distraction and escapism.

I am taking here about sex with my husband though and not fab meets.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pure lustful hedonistic indulgence.

I know it aint poetic but its honest

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Ambivalence

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

I need it to take me on vacation, to a place where for the time being nothing else exists past or in the future and everything is for that moment only. An escape from work and responsibilities, the aim being to please each other to the max, leaving you shaking breathless and the feeling of being desired and wanted. The trip back from the vacation and back to reality can be a downer though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To believe, maybe just for that short time, that I'm wanted and my desires towards them seeps through (hopefully the sheets)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Escapism

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy the feeling of being small and submissive, or sometimes the reverse - feeling big and powerful. It depends on my mood. I think i always crave the opposite to however I’m feeling in “real” life at the time.

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By *dam1971 OP Man
over a year ago

Bedford

As a few have said, it’s good to get different feelings from it too. I guess we’ve all seen the “do women like sex rough or gentle?” questions but the answer is that you can get different things from each.

At certain times you’ll deeply crave one because you need that particular reward, that’s what makes it so intimate - it’s like seeing straight into your own needs at that time.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

"Empty balls "

Where does this concept of 'emptying balls' come from? Is it really just a figure of speech? It goes against any physiology that I know about.

Mine certainly don't function like a rubber bulb water pistol. I'd be interested to witness the action of any that do!

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By *dam1971 OP Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"Empty balls

Where does this concept of 'emptying balls' come from? Is it really just a figure of speech? It goes against any physiology that I know about.

Mine certainly don't function like a rubber bulb water pistol. I'd be interested to witness the action of any that do!"

More like an old fashioned motor car horn, with the noise as you cum

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By *ho am IWoman
over a year ago

Mids

For me it's a complete release (in more ways than one

) from duties and expectations of real life.

A way to let go of control, to no longer have to think (or overthink) and instead just be.

To be the real me .. whoever the fck that is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me it's a complete release (in more ways than one

) from duties and expectations of real life.

A way to let go of control, to no longer have to think (or overthink) and instead just be.

To be the real me .. whoever the fck that is

I’ve to agree totally

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over a year ago

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