FabSwingers.com forum: Change...

By *iew OP Man
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Since you started posting on these forums have you changed your approach in any way..

Are you more direct, less direct or the same.

Are you more or less sensitive to how you post

Are you more or less sensitive in how other people's post impact you

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

I tend to come in less often, when i do, I think a bit longer before posting, try to be fair and see other _iews - Z

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

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By *iew OP Man
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I have changed quite a bit I think, when I first started I was probably far more sensitive to others post, less direct in my reply and probably more jocular in posts and thread creation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its only a relaxed stepping stone to get more meets for me..I often check my targets posts check profile,perv or say hello if i can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

I used to post quite often. Now I get halfway through a post type what I want to say and then delete it.

I rarely post anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes.

I used to post quite often. Now I get halfway through a post type what I want to say and then delete it.

I rarely post anymore."

thankfully u did i like ur boobs

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By *iew OP Man
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Yes.

I used to post quite often. Now I get halfway through a post type what I want to say and then delete it.

I rarely post anymore."

I do that a lot, type the whole thing then reread it and rather than post, I delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes.

I used to post quite often. Now I get halfway through a post type what I want to say and then delete it.

I rarely post anymore.

thankfully u did i like ur boobs"

lol thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes.

I used to post quite often. Now I get halfway through a post type what I want to say and then delete it.

I rarely post anymore.

I do that a lot, type the whole thing then reread it and rather than post, I delete"

Its odd but sometimes after getting my reply typed out I just don't feel the need to post it. I've got what I want to say out! Sometimes it's because I can't be bothered to get into the debate I know it will probably cause. Other times it's just the tone of the thread that puts me off.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Great post and made me think you ll be pleased to hear !

I think from watching other posters who are really funny and yet inoffensive (like Soapy used to be and like Laine) I may have modified the way I put things now. I am naturally quite direct but I realised that on here, without intonation, smiles,facial expressions and body language messages can easily be misread or taken as offensive even when they were meant to be friendly or funny; so I guess I am more careful now as I genuinely dont wish to hurt anybody's feelings.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im not sure to be honest, i just type what im thinking at that moment in time unless its a serious thread i want to post on then i think about it.

What does surprise me is the pms i get from people asking advice and telling me im well reasoned. But we all see our selves as different. My posts change from day to day, depending what frame of mind im in at the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I 'think' I'm not as brash but I still take the piss in a joking manner, if it gets took another way then that is how the other person has misread it.

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By *iew OP Man
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

thanks all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure... don't post very often these days, don't tend to get into any debates, have had a lot of stuff going on in real life though and think a lot of the time me head is too fried to get into anything much

...still avoid argumentative threads though as they just depress me

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By *iew OP Man
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I'm not sure... don't post very often these days, don't tend to get into any debates, have had a lot of stuff going on in real life though and think a lot of the time me head is too fried to get into anything much

...still avoid argumentative threads though as they just depress me

thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think my posting style is largely a mix of :

a) reflections of my mood at the time

b) reactions to a comment made, be it negative or positive

c) genuine responses to queries, questions and requests for advice

d) out and out mickey taking, and

e) banter with friends and forumites alike

So, yes it has changed and will continue to change, sometimes consciously but more often than not sub consciously.

It is a dymanic, not a static feature of my site usage.

Great thread btw View

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By *iew OP Man
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I think my posting style is largely a mix of :

a) reflections of my mood at the time

b) reactions to a comment made, be it negative or positive

c) genuine responses to queries, questions and requests for advice

d) out and out mickey taking, and

e) banter with friends and forumites alike

So, yes it has changed and will continue to change, sometimes consciously but more often than not sub consciously.

It is a dymanic, not a static feature of my site usage.

Great thread btw View

thank you sir

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think I've changed much. Probably post more now than I used to originally!

I still use as much humour and the occasional bit of sarcasm but now avoid the 'help with my profile' and 'why can't I' type posts!

Must be working as haven't had a ban in ages!!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I try to type what I think less, due to a couple of time outs over the last year

I avoid political threads like the plague, and avoid engaging certain forum members, whereas before I might have stayed up arguing and gone to bed mad. Life is too short to argue with internet strangers.

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By *iew OP Man
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Don't think I've changed much. Probably post more now than I used to originally!

I still use as much humour and the occasional bit of sarcasm but now avoid the 'help with my profile' and 'why can't I' type posts!

Must be working as haven't had a ban in ages!!!

why do you avoid them ( hope you don't mind me asking )

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By *iew OP Man
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I try to type what I think less, due to a couple of time outs over the last year

me too, it does impact sleep at times

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

I've learnt to keep my big mouth shut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never think it hurts too much lol

That's probably why most of my posts are bulshit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've learnt to keep my big mouth shut

and thighs open

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

"I've learnt to keep my big mouth shut

and thighs open"

Always darling xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've learnt to keep my big mouth shut

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Oh please don't

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By *iew OP Man
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I've learnt to keep my big mouth shut

and thighs open

Always darling xxx"

didn't I just know that he would pop up

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

"I've learnt to keep my big mouth shut

Oh please don't

Strumming your guitar eh

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

"I've learnt to keep my big mouth shut

and thighs open

Always darling xxx

didn't I just know that he would pop up

What else did you expect View

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By *ush_tushWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Heat thread View

I've changed since the beginning, a lot less hasty with my posts. Funny ones I love, serious ones I enjoy...and when mood takes me I'll post.

Also, just Like you and Ms Purple,I have wrote out many a post and thought "nah, I've got it out now so no point" and delete it.

I read the forums every day and I love them for the variety of subjects discussed...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've learnt to keep my big mouth shut

and thighs open

Always darling xxx

didn't I just know that he would pop up

What else did you expect View"

Paddy

Are you aware that she's touring this summer ?

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By *iew OP Man
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I've learnt to keep my big mouth shut

and thighs open

Always darling xxx

didn't I just know that he would pop up

What else did you expect View"

I know, I know

He is as regular as regular can be...

but a good soul

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By *iew OP Man
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Heat thread View

I've changed since the beginning, a lot less hasty with my posts. Funny ones I love, serious ones I enjoy...and when mood takes me I'll post.

Also, just Like you and Ms Purple,I have wrote out many a post and thought "nah, I've got it out now so no point" and delete it.

I read the forums every day and I love them for the variety of subjects discussed...

I mostly avoid the politics ones but I do love the passion in them...

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

"I've learnt to keep my big mouth shut

and thighs open

Always darling xxx

didn't I just know that he would pop up

What else did you expect View

Paddy

Are you aware that she's touring this summer ?"

Heading North

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By *ush_tushWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Heat thread View

I've changed since the beginning, a lot less hasty with my posts. Funny ones I love, serious ones I enjoy...and when mood takes me I'll post.

Also, just Like you and Ms Purple,I have wrote out many a post and thought "nah, I've got it out now so no point" and delete it.

I read the forums every day and I love them for the variety of subjects discussed...

Ffs.....*GREAT instead of heat!!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I've learnt to keep my big mouth shut

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Did I miss that one then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've learnt to keep my big mouth shut

Oh please don't

Strumming your guitar eh"
Do you want to strum my guitar?

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By *abloBackMan
over a year ago

London

Mine have changed to a much mellower laid back style, I have had to change to stay off the naughty step

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

"I've learnt to keep my big mouth shut

Did I miss that one then?

You must have been in the kitchen with the mayo

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By *iew OP Man
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Mine have changed to a much mellower laid back style, I have had to change to stay off the naughty step"

to be fair we have all been there.

I redecorated it the last time, lovely new cushions and drapes

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

"I've learnt to keep my big mouth shut

Oh please don't

Strumming your guitar ehDo you want to strum my guitar?

lead or bass

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By *ush_tushWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Heat thread View

I've changed since the beginning, a lot less hasty with my posts. Funny ones I love, serious ones I enjoy...and when mood takes me I'll post.

Also, just Like you and Ms Purple,I have wrote out many a post and thought "nah, I've got it out now so no point" and delete it.

I read the forums every day and I love them for the variety of subjects discussed...

I mostly avoid the politics ones but I do love the passion in them...

Me too View...but sometimes ya just "gorra gerrin there"

!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't think I've changed much. Probably post more now than I used to originally!

I still use as much humour and the occasional bit of sarcasm but now avoid the 'help with my profile' and 'why can't I' type posts!

Must be working as haven't had a ban in ages!!!

why do you avoid them ( hope you don't mind me asking )"

Of course not - ask away!!!

Part of me thinks if you're not capable of creating a profile yourself that portrays you in a positive manner and clearly states what you're looking for, tells a bit about you and contains enough info and pics to attract interest - then getting someone else to do it for you defeats the object of being on a site such as this! It either means you probably won't be able to communicate on a social level face to face, or are just looking for a quick and easy way to get meets!

As for the 'why can't I' threads - the above probably explains a lot - and if you don't have the ability to sit back and reflect on your profile content, style of communication and the image you're portraying - again - seeking advice will tend to get people to change their profile and actions to suit what they think people want to see, in order to boost their chances of meets, rather than just being themselves - thus running the risk of dissapointing others during meets - and creating a vicious circle where by acting in a manner unnatural to themselves online, they can't continue the fakery in reality - and will then continue to struggle!

God - that was a bit serious for me!!!

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By *iew OP Man
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Heat thread View

I've changed since the beginning, a lot less hasty with my posts. Funny ones I love, serious ones I enjoy...and when mood takes me I'll post.

Also, just Like you and Ms Purple,I have wrote out many a post and thought "nah, I've got it out now so no point" and delete it.

I read the forums every day and I love them for the variety of subjects discussed...

I mostly avoid the politics ones but I do love the passion in them...

Me too View...but sometimes ya just "gorra gerrin there"

!!!"

to be fair when they are in full flow you can pop in, throw in something and run.

they are so wound up, they fail to notice

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By *abloBackMan
over a year ago

London

"Mine have changed to a much mellower laid back style, I have had to change to stay off the naughty step

to be fair we have all been there.

I redecorated it the last time, lovely new cushions and drapes"

Nice and comfy though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've learnt to keep my big mouth shut

Oh please don't

Strumming your guitar ehDo you want to strum my guitar?

lead or bass

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Bass baby

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By *iew OP Man
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Don't think I've changed much. Probably post more now than I used to originally!

I still use as much humour and the occasional bit of sarcasm but now avoid the 'help with my profile' and 'why can't I' type posts!

Must be working as haven't had a ban in ages!!!

why do you avoid them ( hope you don't mind me asking )

Of course not - ask away!!!

God - that was a bit serious for me!!!

thank you very much for that... really get where you are coming from on

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dont get put on the naughty step because i am relaxed, calm and most certainly not highly strung

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Don't think I've changed much. Probably post more now than I used to originally!

I still use as much humour and the occasional bit of sarcasm but now avoid the 'help with my profile' and 'why can't I' type posts!

Must be working as haven't had a ban in ages!!!

why do you avoid them ( hope you don't mind me asking )

Of course not - ask away!!!

God - that was a bit serious for me!!!

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Well put!

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By *iew OP Man
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I dont get put on the naughty step because i am relaxed, calm and most certainly not highly strung

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By *iew OP Man
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I dont get put on the naughty step because i am relaxed, calm and most certainly not highly strung

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I just say the first thing that comes into my head not always the right thing.. I admit when I am wrong and say sorry if need be... I have become accepting that some people like my forum posts and sdome people don't...

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By *iew OP Man
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I just say the first thing that comes into my head not always the right thing.. I admit when I am wrong and say sorry if need be... I have become accepting that some people like my forum posts and sdome people don't..."

we have all said something wrong at some point

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By *ush_tushWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Oooo, just thought of another thing.

For some unknown reason I have a knack for "halting a thread", you know, the ones that know one else posts after me...its happened a few times, I know not why...that kinda stops from posting for a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try,,lol, the

horns do come out when i see the "groundhog day" repeat threads, then i catch myself on that its maybe folks new and think they are saying something fresh n new.

Terminolgy, turn of phrase, things ironic often bite you on the arse though i've learnt. Or have i?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I have changed. I care a little less than I did at the beginning and get flippant more than is advisable.

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

"Yes.

I used to post quite often. Now I get halfway through a post type what I want to say and then delete it.

I rarely post anymore.

I do that a lot, type the whole thing then reread it and rather than post, I delete"

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By *adgeeMan
over a year ago

Loch Lomond

"Yes.

I used to post quite often. Now I get halfway through a post type what I want to say and then delete it.

I rarely post anymore.

I do that a lot, type the whole thing then reread it and rather than post, I delete"

I bet there a far bit of that goes on, I'm guilty of that too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe I have become less judgemental since joining FAB nearly 3 years ago.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

I am pretty much the same i think, a bit more deviant, a little darker, but still pretty much me....i dont post stuff i would like sometimes as i feel there are some people who are over sensitive, the forums are a lot more sanitized than they used to be....still straight n direct as i need to be but a little less than i want to be

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By *adgeeMan
over a year ago

Loch Lomond

"Mine have changed to a much mellower laid back style, I have had to change to stay off the naughty step

to be fair we have all been there.

I redecorated it the last time, lovely new cushions and drapes"

You've always been good that way with the Soft furnishings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I've changed View, I think I aproach each thread in the same way I always have, maybe others would disagree.

If anything I probably post less than I used to, but I don't think I've ever been a huge poster.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I have been posting on the forums for a couple of years now but would not consider changing my approach to anything at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know if my posting style has changed. I don't think it has. I do voice my opinions but I hope I do so in an assertive rather than aggressive way. But moods and state of mind at the time will affect most peoples style of posting.

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By *ncMan
over a year ago

Dudley

I've not been frequenting the forums here for long enough to have a style to change

Not sure I'll stay as while there are some really nice, interesting, funny, caring and helpful folk here there are a couple whose heads are so far up their own arses they are human donuts. I'm sure I'd get a ban at some point so may be safer chatting privately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i come across as angry and nasty.

i know that but people who know me will tell you im not like that.

just some things you get off your chest and the forum is a way of doing that.

im direct. yes sometimes wrong but we cannot get it right all of the time.

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By *iew OP Man
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Thanks all x

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