FabSwingers.com forum: Anybody else sick of timewasters and think the site should be members only?

By *andemag OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Hello everyone, first time I have posted on here. Does anybody else think the free access should be limited on here for non site supporters to stop all the fake profiles and wannabes? The people who clog up inboxes with utter rubbish (mainly womens) the average lady gets about 400 messages in the first few days and most are deleted. It runs it for genuine supporters getting lost in the sea of messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello everyone, first time I have posted on here. Does anybody else think the free access should be limited on here for non site supporters to stop all the fake profiles and wannabes? The people who clog up inboxes with utter rubbish (mainly womens) the average lady gets about 400 messages in the first few days and most are deleted. It runs it for genuine supporters getting lost in the sea of messages.

Personally nope it’s fine as it is and should stay a free site.

Time wasters as far as I’m concerned can waste their time as much as they want but they will never ever waste ours because the way we approach our fab adventure doesn’t allow them too.

Best of luck op.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I have a block button to deal with the aforementioned

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

There’s quite a few things I’m sick of on and with this site.. but still don’t think it should be members only...

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By *lint-EverhardMan
over a year ago

Perpignan and cap

No. I only become a sight supporter in the summer. I didn't subscribe in 2020 either. I'm saving thousands, hold on, hundr... A few quid.

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By *luebellRacerCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

I don't think it should be members only, but I do think you should have to prove ID, same as a club. Utilities bill and photo ID alongside photo verification.

No one sees them, just Fab Admin. Not allowed onto site until verified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think it should be members only, but I do think you should have to prove ID, same as a club. Utilities bill and photo ID alongside photo verification.

No one sees them, just Fab Admin. Not allowed onto site until verified."

This would be good! =)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think it should be members only, but I do think you should have to prove ID, same as a club. Utilities bill and photo ID alongside photo verification.

No one sees them, just Fab Admin. Not allowed onto site until verified."

Why? That seems incredibly intrusive

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I know loads of genuine guys that haven't had the site ruined by other people's profiles. If you're struggling I'd suggest the issue isn't them.

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By *olarbear73Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

No OP, having been a site supporter for years and now deciding not to be I do not believe that your suggestion is warranted.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"I don't think it should be members only, but I do think you should have to prove ID, same as a club. Utilities bill and photo ID alongside photo verification.

No one sees them, just Fab Admin. Not allowed onto site until verified."

It could be asking for another Ashley Madison style hack and who decides which admin are to be trusted enough to see people's personal information and be trusted with that knowledge ?

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"I know loads of genuine guys that haven't had the site ruined by other people's profiles. If you're struggling I'd suggest the issue isn't them. "

This exactly

It's easier for some people to pass the blame rather than up their game.

A lot of fakes can be spotted with a bit of due dilligence but a lot of men think with their co.ks and message "18yo virgin supermodels looking for older men" type profiles and wonder why they get asked for money blah blah blah.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

"I don't think it should be members only, but I do think you should have to prove ID, same as a club. Utilities bill and photo ID alongside photo verification.

No one sees them, just Fab Admin. Not allowed onto site until verified."

What would you accept as photo ID. Not everyone drives and has a passport ?

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork

OP you are married, joined during a lockdown and we are all in the middle of a pandemic and you have managed to have two meets in the time you have been on here

Do you think if everyone paid £5 every few months you would have had more meets?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Hello O.P.

What data do you have that shows......

a) It's the non members that send all the messages that clog up 'ladies' boxes ?

b) It's the non members that are timewasters ?

c) That paid members don't do all that you've said above.

d) That non paying members only write rubbish ?

I guess an unsuccessful paid member has to blame someone.....

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"No. I only become a sight supporter in the summer. I didn't subscribe in 2020 either. I'm saving thousands, hold on, hundr... A few quid. "

O.M.G...... will you go abroad with it when the travel opens up ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try setting a site up yourself that everyone is 100% happy how it is run.

If I didn’t like it, I would leave. I think it’s okay

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I'd just like to point out ....

If ALL of the non payers left. There'd be NO ONE for anyone to shag in any case.

People are not prettier because they paid their pennies.

I used to be a site supporter and as i'm a supportive type I still would be but something happened that stopped me paying and I won't start paying again and NO it's not lack of income.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"I don't think it should be members only, but I do think you should have to prove ID, same as a club. Utilities bill and photo ID alongside photo verification.

No one sees them, just Fab Admin. Not allowed onto site until verified.

What would you accept as photo ID. Not everyone drives and has a passport ?"

I'd be stuffed then as I don't have either.

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By *aekaeWoman
over a year ago

Between a cock and a soft place

Filter out non site supporters.

Filter out those who you don't want messages from. ie single men

I'm a single woman. I get very few messages.

I use the tools the site gave me.

I have none of your problems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think £5 is a bargain to be able to waste everyone's time...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I think £5 is a bargain to be able to waste everyone's time...

Ha! Tis isn't it.

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By *luebellRacerCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

"I don't think it should be members only, but I do think you should have to prove ID, same as a club. Utilities bill and photo ID alongside photo verification.

No one sees them, just Fab Admin. Not allowed onto site until verified.

What would you accept as photo ID. Not everyone drives and has a passport ?

I'd be stuffed then as I don't have either."

You'd have difficulty getting into a club then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, this is the NHS of sexy goings on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As we all know only poor people are time wasters

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

It possibly would help in reducing stalking and hiding profiles to spy on people. If they had to pay or be verified when joining.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"I don't think it should be members only, but I do think you should have to prove ID, same as a club. Utilities bill and photo ID alongside photo verification.

No one sees them, just Fab Admin. Not allowed onto site until verified.

What would you accept as photo ID. Not everyone drives and has a passport ?

I'd be stuffed then as I don't have either.

You'd have difficulty getting into a club then

You would think wouldn't you, but I have been to 4

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The *only* person that could ruin the site for me OP is myself - if it doesn't meet my expectations then it's down to my expectations being wrong, not because other users have impacted my experience.

Yes, women get inundated with messages, but they are also able to take steps to limit that and work out who are the guys they'd like to meet.

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By *tuartieMan
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

If you don't like the Fabswinger's set up just leave simple as that. Then your troubles will be over.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Use the tools and filters that are here to enhance your experience.

we are on the internet, there are lots of fakes everywhere, advise yourself how you would a teenage relative using the internet, be aware protect yourself.

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By *anda and CatCouple
over a year ago

You can block non site supporters, non verified from messaging you. Simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about the guys pretending to be single.

Should they be locked out as well?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can block non site supporters, non verified from messaging you. Simple"

This! Use the filters they will help you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In an age of inclusion not very inclusive, my experience can only be affected by me,

As mentioned there are filters maybe use them,

You have veris left recently, so the complaint is what exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think it should be members only, but I do think you should have to prove ID, same as a club. Utilities bill and photo ID alongside photo verification.

No one sees them, just Fab Admin. Not allowed onto site until verified."

So you'd be happy to give your name and address to Admin? I wouldnt!

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By *lay-full-funCouple
over a year ago

stockport

We use to be on another site that was free then they turned it to paid members only and within six months couldn't get a meet and it was full of time wasters hence us finding this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think it should be members only, but I do think you should have to prove ID, same as a club. Utilities bill and photo ID alongside photo verification.

No one sees them, just Fab Admin. Not allowed onto site until verified."

I'd be very reluctant to supply that information personally

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

"You can block non site supporters, non verified from messaging you. Simple"

But unfortunately you can't block them from seeing your profile, which I think would be good....

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By *undayTarkaMan
over a year ago

North Devon, Manchester Middleton

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I totally agree, where i am Arbroath, daily theres always the same ones, setting up fake accounts, usually the same rubbish at the bottom, report they get deleted, they pop back up again, take a look, comedy really

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

"I don't think it should be members only, but I do think you should have to prove ID, same as a club. Utilities bill and photo ID alongside photo verification.

No one sees them, just Fab Admin. Not allowed onto site until verified."

I'm pretty sure they said that about the Ashley Maddison website.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a site supporter but I still send about 400 messages a day...thats why my wrist is sore...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am used to it on fab now and have my own ways of dealing with the fakes.

However, if there was a paid, members only swingers site as popular as this...yes I would use it x

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

Puts Flame resistant suit on.

There are always posts from people asking for features to be added so they think it will give them exclusivity, claiming its unfair.

The real truth is it is tough for everyone, solo guys, solo females and couples. Those that take a superior attitude to others. Solo guys will always get a hard time - it is the nature of the beast.

People are here for many reasons, and internet has made it more accessible, not all with good intentions.

Decide on what your actually looking for and concentrate your search there, it may take a while but patience and polite persistence seem to be the key.

Don't believe all claimed successes are genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Puts Flame resistant suit on.

There are always posts from people asking for features to be added so they think it will give them exclusivity, claiming its unfair.

The real truth is it is tough for everyone, solo guys, solo females and couples. Those that take a superior attitude to others. Solo guys will always get a hard time - it is the nature of the beast.

People are here for many reasons, and internet has made it more accessible, not all with good intentions.

Decide on what your actually looking for and concentrate your search there, it may take a while but patience and polite persistence seem to be the key.

Don't believe all claimed successes are genuine

I take my hat off to you sir

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By *andemag OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"OP you are married, joined during a lockdown and we are all in the middle of a pandemic and you have managed to have two meets in the time you have been on here

Do you think if everyone paid £5 every few months you would have had more meets? "

Just to clarify, the meets were before lockdown, I'm just interested in the points, it's not about the money I speak to people on here who are fed up of getting bombarded with messages from timewasters etc so I just wanted to get a feel for the general overview on this.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Not at all dont think it would change anything tbh x

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By *empler the SaintMan
over a year ago

Ponta Delgada Madeira/Portugal/Spain/Canary iskands/Uk

This site has degenerated since covid March last year and now full of idiots time wasters losers low life trash!

I deleted my long time profile a long with friends regulars because of Fab being full of fakes scammers pimps!

I re joined but now seriously considering deleting again forever and I refuse to pay membership as all the real genuine folk have left.

The answer is not a menbers only fab but a new site to rival fab with very strict protocol who can enrol.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Free Swinging Site: Put away your credit card!

Welcome to FabSwingers, a free website created for swingers by a genuine swinging couple.

Join us for free, today

The above is on the log in page. Fab is a free site. Once you join you have the tools to prevent new profiles, non members etc from messaging you and the option to become a site supporters if you wish. This gives everybody the opportunity to only allow interaction with other site supporters if that's how they want the site to work for them. Other people want it to be free and they have that option too.

We personally would never send copies of utility bills to any web site or any other identifying information.

There are paid members only sites, we've used a few of them. We found there were more time wasters on them than we've ever encountered on fab.

My personal advice to anybody is, set your message filters, be aware that if a profile seems too good to be true it probably is (so if a gorgeous, leggy 20 year old contacts you saying she's desperate to fuck and will you tell her exactly what you want to do to her, be a bit suspicious), then relax, don't take it too seriously and enjoy.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"OP you are married, joined during a lockdown and we are all in the middle of a pandemic and you have managed to have two meets in the time you have been on here

Do you think if everyone paid £5 every few months you would have had more meets?

How is the time of these people being wasted?

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

It might be better if new members were set up with the default settings on filters being set to 'on'.

Let them explore the site, before being deluged in messages.

And they would have to learn how the site works, to lower the filters.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

It works perfectly for me OP

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I definitely think it would get rid of some of the chancers and wanking dead brigade, if they had to pay.

I can’t believe a non site supporter can email others...I don’t think any other ‘dating’ site offers that, which is why there’s so many on here.

We get FAF messages often from new profiles...then they disappears after hours...surely that takes up server space.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Technically as soon as you join the site you are a member, even if you are also a time waster.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I definitely think it would get rid of some of the chancers and wanking dead brigade, if they had to pay.

I can’t believe a non site supporter can email others...I don’t think any other ‘dating’ site offers that, which is why there’s so many on here.

We get FAF messages often from new profiles...then they disappears after hours...surely that takes up server space.

You can set filters to prevent new profiles from messaging you

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The answer is not a menbers only fab but a new site to rival fab with very strict protocol who can enrol.

Curious as to what "strict protocol" you would put in place? How do you distinguish between people based on them wanting to sign up, without knowing them personally and *knowing* they won't meet the standards required?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I don't think it should be members only, but I do think you should have to prove ID, same as a club. Utilities bill and photo ID alongside photo verification.

No one sees them, just Fab Admin. Not allowed onto site until verified."

I've said this for years.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

Sorry I’m obviously a time waster who annoys women and ruins it for you.

Incidentally if people only want messages from people who are site supporters then they can set a filter.

If they don’t they are obviously happy with it as it is.

But as I said, sorry mate that I’m ruining your fab experience perhaps I’ll delete my profile so you get more success.

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By *aekaeWoman
over a year ago

Between a cock and a soft place

"It possibly would help in reducing stalking and hiding profiles to spy on people. If they had to pay or be verified when joining. "

How?

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

No I don't think the site should just be site supporters I wasn't one until a month or so after I joined and I knew I would stay.Making it site supporters would just stop genuine people from joining as well .

As for women getting 400 messages that's what filters are for of you don't want messages you tighten them up so you don't get as many .

It's also a line used as an excuse to not answer people as well .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Filters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry I’m obviously a time waster who annoys women and ruins it for you.

Incidentally if people only want messages from people who are site supporters then they can set a filter.

If they don’t they are obviously happy with it as it is.

But as I said, sorry mate that I’m ruining your fab experience perhaps I’ll delete my profile so you get more success.

Actually, that might give us lesser mortals a chance. Would you mind suggesting your brilliant idea to the TMontanas of this world too please

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I don't think being a site supporter would stop the shit inbox clogging bollocks. I've been here 5 years now and as much as it pains me to admit it, those messages are "the norm"

Someone being a site supporter won't automatically change their thought process and how they interact. They lack social skills and common sense and unfortunately you can't buy that for a fiver a month.

I have said though I completely agree that you should need to prove who you are to join, whether that be free or site supporter. People *may* stop and think about catfishing, abuse and consequences if they were to be held personally accountable for their actions instead of hiding behind the annonimity of a profile with no paper trail other than an email address.

We've all heard stories of people getting mugged or worse at meets.

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By *acial giverMan
over a year ago

hull

Wouldn't make àny difference. Most couples females sit supporter or notate time wasters

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