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By *KAholeandglory OP   Couple
over a year ago

exeter

Ok here is my issue known a certain man from here (fab not forums) for a long time now and like to think we know him quite well. Always normally reply to each other’s msgs within a couple of days at the longest. Over the last week or so we have sent a few msgs and nothing back. And we cant decide if we are getting ghosted or if there is something wrong. If he lived closer and wasn’t in lockdown we would go see for ourselves but as it stands we can’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he's been online, and not read your messages, you probably have the answer.

If he hasn't, and you have known him a while, do you have his contact details?

Maybe a text?

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By *KAholeandglory OP   Couple
over a year ago

exeter


"If he's been online, and not read your messages, you probably have the answer.

If he hasn't, and you have known him a while, do you have his contact details?

Maybe a text? "

That’s how we have been getting intouch with him through txt msgs. And not been on here for 3days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you actually met him?

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By *KAholeandglory OP   Couple
over a year ago

exeter


"Have you actually met him?"

Yeah loads of times and kept in contact all the way through this pandemic. Even when he come off fab for a cpl of months break we was still in contact with him

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

His wife has rumbled him.

Ed

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

Taking the information into consideration, not been on for 3 days and not replying to texts I would say you are right to be concerned, it's a matter of what to do that's the difficult decision.

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By *KAholeandglory OP   Couple
over a year ago

exeter


"Taking the information into consideration, not been on for 3 days and not replying to texts I would say you are right to be concerned, it's a matter of what to do that's the difficult decision."

Exactly any ideas. We see him as a good friend too

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By *KAholeandglory OP   Couple
over a year ago

exeter


"His wife has rumbled him.

Ed"

Definitely single lol. And in a way I wish that was the case atleast we would know

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

That's a tricky one. I would be concerned if it was a friend that I had met and were in regular contact with. I'm just not sure what you can do about it though.

Sorry that isn't much help.

Mrs

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Do you know where he lives ?

Do you have an e mail address ?

Do you know where he works ?

Do you know anyone else who knows him ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

There is nothing to be annoyed about until you know what the matter is.

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By *KAholeandglory OP   Couple
over a year ago

exeter


"Do you know where he lives ?

Do you have an e mail address ?

Do you know where he works ?

Do you know anyone else who knows him ?"

First 3 yes but last one no as he keeps this life and other life separate

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes


"Taking the information into consideration, not been on for 3 days and not replying to texts I would say you are right to be concerned, it's a matter of what to do that's the difficult decision.

Exactly any ideas. We see him as a good friend too "

I don't suppose you are familiar enough to have any of his friends names or numbers? I know it's unlikely due to discretion reasons. Could you maybe send something small and personal with a 24 hour delivery that has to be signed for, if it gets signed for you know they are OK, if it doesn't then it's more confirmation something is wrong. Tricky to know what else to suggest, nice of you to be so concerned.

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire


"Ok here is my issue known a certain man from here (fab not forums) for a long time now and like to think we know him quite well. Always normally reply to each other’s msgs within a couple of days at the longest. Over the last week or so we have sent a few msgs and nothing back. And we cant decide if we are getting ghosted or if there is something wrong. If he lived closer and wasn’t in lockdown we would go see for ourselves but as it stands we can’t "

If you know 100% he is not with a new partner and you know his address then send him a letter in the post just saying 'Hi how are you doing..we haven't been in contact lately'...if you don't receive an answer then maybe leave well alone and leave it for him to contact you.

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By *KAholeandglory OP   Couple
over a year ago

exeter


"Taking the information into consideration, not been on for 3 days and not replying to texts I would say you are right to be concerned, it's a matter of what to do that's the difficult decision.

Exactly any ideas. We see him as a good friend too

I don't suppose you are familiar enough to have any of his friends names or numbers? I know it's unlikely due to discretion reasons. Could you maybe send something small and personal with a 24 hour delivery that has to be signed for, if it gets signed for you know they are OK, if it doesn't then it's more confirmation something is wrong. Tricky to know what else to suggest, nice of you to be so concerned."

That’s hard really as I say I know where he lives but don’t know his actual address. But know how to get there if that makes sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried calling rather than text?

I can understand why youd be growing concerned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a tough one and I feel for you. You know this individual probably better than the rest of us, what does your gut tell you?

Go with your gut

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK


"Have you tried calling rather than text?

I can understand why youd be growing concerned. "

This would be my suggestion, you obviously have his number so try giving him a quick call to see how he is

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I go with call him. Does he have whatsapp?

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By *KAholeandglory OP   Couple
over a year ago

exeter

Sorted rang him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorted rang him"

Is he OK?

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By *KAholeandglory OP   Couple
over a year ago

exeter


"Sorted rang him

Is he OK?"

Same as all of us I think but didn’t want to speak to anyone

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over a year ago

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

3 hours of messaging and 23 posts to get round to making a call when you’re concerned about someone. Glad I wasn’t lying on the kitchen floor having banged my head on the cupboard door.

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By *KAholeandglory OP   Couple
over a year ago

exeter


" 3 hours of messaging and 23 posts to get round to making a call when you’re concerned about someone. Glad I wasn’t lying on the kitchen floor having banged my head on the cupboard door. "

It’s his private life not sure if it was appropriate. You can always say a txt was from whoever but say someone else answered.

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By *hampagne_Supernova_91Man
over a year ago

Manchester

If he's read your messages and not replied it could be either Ghosting you, or he could be going through a rough time and not replied until he feels he's ready to bounce back. Could be a few things! You never know. Maybe give him some time and if he doesn't answer back after a week, then ask questions!

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By *KAholeandglory OP   Couple
over a year ago

exeter


"If he's read your messages and not replied it could be either Ghosting you, or he could be going through a rough time and not replied until he feels he's ready to bounce back. Could be a few things! You never know. Maybe give him some time and if he doesn't answer back after a week, then ask questions!"

Already spoke to him and he definitely isent ghosting us.

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK


"If he's read your messages and not replied it could be either Ghosting you, or he could be going through a rough time and not replied until he feels he's ready to bounce back. Could be a few things! You never know. Maybe give him some time and if he doesn't answer back after a week, then ask questions!

Already spoke to him and he definitely isent ghosting us. "

Glad you’ve heard from your friend and he’s ok!

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