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By *ub_Muffin OP Man
over a year ago

Mansfield

Hey all.

I was wondering if anyone has those days/moments where you feel like you ain’t attractive enough to be on here?. Today’s been a shit day anyway but it’s just how I’ve been feeling about myself recently.

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By *ub_Muffin OP Man
over a year ago

Mansfield

I’ve been trying to contact people on here, women that is. And I never seem to get any responses

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By *hampagne_Supernova_91Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Everyone has down days OP, it's about accepting that and picking yourself back up! Fab is an amazing community and if you're ever struggling to keep your chin up I'm sure they'll always be people to speak to.

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Definitely. We all had those days. Dont let it get you down bud

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By *ub_Muffin OP Man
over a year ago

Mansfield

That’s very true mate. Just been an off day today.

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By *ub_Muffin OP Man
over a year ago

Mansfield

Thanks bud.

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By *antasyrealmCouple
over a year ago

Congleton

Is this the guys appreciating guys thread....

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

"Is this the guys appreciating guys thread...."

More showing support I think

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By *an4funMan
over a year ago

london

I am the best looking guy in the world and even I don't get a response

A lot of it is do with the ratio of men to women on this site. Far more guys to gals. Females will receive hundreds of messages from men each day and it's just not feasible to answer all of them.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

A lot of it is due to the ratio of men to women, nobody knows the numbers but there are said to be anywhere from 10 to 100 men to each woman on here so it's hard to get a response, especially when you realise how busy most women's inboxes get.

Often they can't possibly go through and respond to each message they get and end up bulk deleting just to get a grip on managing all of the messages and even end up deleting messages from people they're having conversations with.

Keep at it though OP amd you'll get there, it's often nothing to do with looks and more how you message and the way your profile sells yourself.

Good luck

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I’ve been trying to contact people on here, women that is. And I never seem to get any responses

Were you trying to contact them at 1am ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt even open a message from someone with a username with brutal in it, tbh.

Plus you are quite young and have specific interests which would narrow down who would respomd.

There are very very many more men than women here, so your profile and message has to compete with many others.

Please dont take it to heart, its really impersonal, like much social media, and also isnt insta-fuck for many people either.

Good luck.

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By *aekaeWoman
over a year ago

Between a cock and a soft place

"I’ve been trying to contact people on here, women that is. And I never seem to get any responses

There's a reason you aren't getting a lot of responses at the moment, don't let that put you off.

The lounge can be good fun, there are some lovely people in here.

Put the kettle on, pull up a chair and have a chat.

Enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

To be honest OP at the moment I can't be bothered to talk to anyone new. This second lockdown has been hard and not got the mental capacity to deal with the initial small talk with someone new. And I think this is something affecting many at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only when I pass a mirror. I was a little vain maybe when I was younger, now Not so much. I don’t feel ugly, but I can’t see the good looking teenager anymore.

*anyone offer a hug......?

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

wouldn't let a 26yo tie me up, and put off by the word brutal, screams domestic violence

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"To be honest OP at the moment I can't be bothered to talk to anyone new. This second lockdown has been hard and not got the mental capacity to deal with the initial small talk with someone new. And I think this is something affecting many at the moment"

Yes. I agree wholeheartedly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a good wank and a cuppa out your feet up and you’ll be grand!

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Agree with this.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Yep . Most days tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think everyone is feeling a bit shit at the moment with lockdown, life has not been easy for anyone

Stick around the forums, chat and join in.

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By *ausageNmashCouple
over a year ago

Andover

Yes. We are all human with frailties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have a good wank and a cuppa out your feet up and you’ll be grand!

But not at the same time. Getting the motion of each hand could be confusing, Imagine shaking your teacup frantically.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every single day! Lol I know and accept I’m on the lower end of the attractive spectrum!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You cannot base your selfestem, confidence or self-perception to any great extent on fab results and not make yourself too vulnerable. This especially if you are a single man and during the pandemic. It's too precariously risky and focusing outwards, instead of inwards, for your intrinsic beauty and value.

It's obviously a really tough time for millions and you are subject to the negative pressures in the country. I don't want to discourage you from building your confidence here but you will be better to face this challenge elsewhere, away from online interaction with high incidences of rejection.

Seeking your friendships and other relationships to help to nourish your vulnerability would be good, as far as they are able to in the current limited world. Engaging with other pursuits would be better too. Focus on what you can that will allow you to emerge stronger. Perhaps later you could look at how you could potentially develop your expertise here but I'd encourage you to think outside of this box

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By *9alMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

don't worry, I am a dirty old man & will fuck anybody

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Hey o/p hope you are ok. Do not worry about women not responding to messages. There are a lot of men on here compared to women and so they cannot reply to everyone. Join in with the forum/cam chat and be patient. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there's a misconception that all swingers are attractive

I think there's a misconception that only good looking people do well here

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I’m not hugely body positive just now.

Lockdown and winter is a bad combo for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really wouldn’t judge yourself based on fab responses and interaction. It is meaningless, honestly.

Thinking about why you may not be getting responses is a different question.

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By *ub_Muffin OP Man
over a year ago

Mansfield

I am in no way a domestic violent person. It is just a username... I am not putting my personal name on my profile, unless i was introducing myself in a forum. I am sorry if my username offends you, but this is my “gaming” name that I use. You can’t judge someone just by a username.... ?????.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I am in no way a domestic violent person. It is just a username... I am not putting my personal name on my profile, unless i was introducing myself in a forum. I am sorry if my username offends you, but this is my “gaming” name that I use. You can’t judge someone just by a username.... ?????."

If you use the reply+quote button it's easier to see who you're replying to.

Hope that helps.

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By *ub_Muffin OP Man
over a year ago

Mansfield

That’s understandable, I set up my profile last year and never used it until now. I’m slowly updating things, but sometimes I’m like why bother? I’m not that good looking lol. Not all the time though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had those days for a good few months now.

But don't get down that people aren't messaging you back dude. Pick a time closer to when we are aloud freedom to spark up connections

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By *ub_Muffin OP Man
over a year ago

Mansfield

Oh haha didn’t know lol.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Nobody is ‘judging’ you they’re just put off by your username. People on here have all sorts of backstories so certain words can have a negative impact on them. So a guy called ‘sluthunter’ may get the back up, off women who find the word ‘slut’ offensive, but other women don’t mind as much.

Come June things may improve and people will start making plans to meet again, so bide your time on here and who knows what could happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are days with and days without. What I usually do when it is a day without, I buy clothes that fit and I feel like a dream boat again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are days with and days without. What I usually do when it is a day without, I buy clothes that fit and I feel like a dream boat again "

Nice canon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are days with and days without. What I usually do when it is a day without, I buy clothes that fit and I feel like a dream boat again

Nice canon.

It can shot too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are days with and days without. What I usually do when it is a day without, I buy clothes that fit and I feel like a dream boat again

Nice canon.

It can shot too

What's the ppm rate? Anything less that 10 per minute and I'm off to find someone with a Lexmark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are days with and days without. What I usually do when it is a day without, I buy clothes that fit and I feel like a dream boat again

Nice canon.

It can shot too

What's the ppm rate? Anything less that 10 per minute and I'm off to find someone with a Lexmark"

why I didn't see coming that you seem to know what you are talking about when it comes to the printing industry ,n

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not worth worrying about OP so many girls and some couples get so many messages, its highly likely you won't get responses. Its why I rarely bother to message anyone on here, unless I'm really bored

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

You can judge a person by their username, and believe me I do.

I'm not saying I think for one moment you're involved in domestic violence, but what I will judge you on is not having the foresight to think how that may come across to people.

Do you never have a first impression? Ever? First impressions are snap judgements simple as that. We do it all the time without even realising. If you're in a supermarket for example, 2 tills, same size queue. One assistant has a miserable face and the other has an approachable friendly one. The judgement has already been made based on their expressions. See?

Women on here get uninvited messages regularly about how the guy wants to "destroy them sexually" the violent message is loud and clear and some if them go into great detail of how they want to abuse you. That ain't your fault at all, but what does happen is the brain starts making connections and patterns. It's just doing what it does naturally.

Anyway, aside from all of that malarkey. We're still in a pandemic. People are grieving many things and people.

1-1 conversations are simply too much for many people to be able to concentrate on. Mentally people are exhausted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its not worth worrying about OP so many girls and some couples get so many messages, its highly likely you won't get responses. Its why I rarely bother to message anyone on here, unless I'm really bored

This explains why you've never messaged. I feel better now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are days with and days without. What I usually do when it is a day without, I buy clothes that fit and I feel like a dream boat again

Nice canon.

It can shot too

What's the ppm rate? Anything less that 10 per minute and I'm off to find someone with a Lexmark

why I didn't see coming that you seem to know what you are talking about when it comes to the printing industry ,n "

When i lost the milk round i diversified into printing consumables. Shagging the office girls is very different to the housewives of craggy Island

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This explains why you've never messaged. I feel better now

Thatll be the reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This explains why you've never messaged. I feel better now

Thatll be the reason

Oh... Bored

Totally... Out of your mind

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Hey all.

I thought that at one point and then decided those that thought I was were delusional.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I’ve been trying to contact people on here, women that is. And I never seem to get any responses

I don’t bother. There are only 18 people on the site I like. I have very very ever so high standards.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"You cannot base your selfestem, confidence or self-perception to any great extent on fab results and not make yourself too vulnerable. This especially if you are a single man and during the pandemic. It's too precariously risky and focusing outwards, instead of inwards, for your intrinsic beauty and value.

Really great and well expressed advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This explains why you've never messaged. I feel better now

Thatll be the reason

Oh... Bored

Totally... Out of your mind

Ok occasionally I do when im tipsy too

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By *andystick72Man
over a year ago

kinky Street

This place will bring you to your knees if you allow it op

Chin up op tomorrow's a different day ,a new dawn, a new message

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By *elvet_OrchidWoman
over a year ago

Banbury

Have to say that user names do make massive difference to me (personally speaking anyway)

Each to their own.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Always. But hey you cannot be everybody’s type of beverage can we

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