FabSwingers.com forum: FWB

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So how does one go about getting a FWB ?

Always wanted one but never had the confidence to pursue it and wouldn't even know where to start..

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

And don't worry not looking for things right now, not until restrictions are eased

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By *ountrylad19Man
over a year ago

travel all over with work x

Get friends with someone then drop cheeky comments in and see if they bounce back with the cheek, see how it goes and get a little deeper every time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Card in a newsagent window

‘Single man seeks cheeky lady for drinks and bumping uglies’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few tbf ... mutual attractions required but I'd alway dip my toe in first ... guard their response

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I don't know if there's a particular way - it's one of those things that works best when it happens organically.

Talk to women like people, like a friend and not a fleshlight. Get to know them, start seeing them as friends.

If things work out and the sex is great, you like spending time with each other when you're not balls deeps inside her, you're both honest and open about things...

et voila. You've got yourself a fwb.

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Pop into the local church and pray .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is what I’m looking for. I always explain what I’m looking for.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

In my case it developed organically. We liked talking to each other. We enjoyed sex... Percolation over awhile and it sort of just happened without either of us realising it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm intrigued I've always has more luck in the real world than on here

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By *angria_girlukWoman
over a year ago

LUTON

in my opinion the Friend is just as important as the benefits.

someone I like to talk to as well as have good sexy times with.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I found one through a Web site for casual dating several years ago.

The thing to remember is FWB includes friendship, not just sexual benefits. Try to get to know women because you like them, not because you want to shag them. When somebody feels valued by you, it can potentially open doors. If you make them feel you have an agenda then you are likely to put them off completely.

In FWB relationships, the F comes first and the B comes second. So focus on forming the friendships. You won't get the benefits until then.

Numbers can play a part too. The more friendships you foster, the more likely it is one of them will go in a sexual direction. But you should always be genuine and sincere about wanting the F even if there's no B.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To be fair id rather just have a friend anyway haha im very lonely. But with every friend i have had that's been a wonan i start to care too much about them and wouldn't want to ruin said friendship by adding something like sex into the equation.

Maybe im just not cit from the right clothes for a FWB haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't know if there's a particular way - it's one of those things that works best when it happens organically.

Talk to women like people, like a friend and not a fleshlight. Get to know them, start seeing them as friends.

If things work out and the sex is great, you like spending time with each other when you're not balls deeps inside her, you're both honest and open about things...

et voila. You've got yourself a fwb. "

I'd agree with this totally. There's no magic wand to make it happen, just think with your brain, not your cock around and don't be a dick!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you have the right attitude op. The important thing to my female friends who have or seek friends with benefits is that the guy actually wants to offer friendship, as well as the benefits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience, men are looking for FBs, women seek FWBs.

There's a gulf of difference!

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By *iscreet-is-paramountMan
over a year ago

somewhere only we know.

I think the term relates more to starting as a FB and then after time progressing to more than just sex. I've had a few over the years but only have one now and it's a seldom arrangement .

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

IF I was looking for any sort of relationship with a man I'd want him to be absolutely clear as to his intentions. I wouldn't want him to drop hints, test the waters or any of those other phrases that essentially mean they're worried their real intent would frighten me off.

Be straight with women op, say what you're after and ask them if they want something similar.

Of course I'm only one woman and it's entirely possible that I don't represent them all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't know if there's a particular way - it's one of those things that works best when it happens organically.

Talk to women like people, like a friend and not a fleshlight. Get to know them, start seeing them as friends.

If things work out and the sex is great, you like spending time with each other when you're not balls deeps inside her, you're both honest and open about things...

et voila. You've got yourself a fwb. "

I am still working on you!

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"In my experience, men are looking for FBs, women seek FWBs.

There's a gulf of difference!

Absolutely agree with you there!

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

From previous experience, it’s a case of finding someone you connect with and pursuing it if both find there is mutual attraction / chemistry. Not every connection leads to an FwB arrangement.

Mutual trust between you is important on a number of levels:

* how you approach divulging personal information

* your respect for one another’s personal lives

* establishing ground rules you are both happy to stick to

* define where the boundaries of the ‘relationship’ are

* don’t get too involved! Once you disclose a jealous streak it will kill it!

* walk away when it stops working

* discuss and explore what would work when you get together. If what you think would work sexually doesnt, shelve it and try something else you both enjoy

* enjoy it but don’t take it for granted and don’t treat your FwB as second best to your private life relationship!

Good luck OP

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Mine all started as fuck buddies then we started to make time for each other more and more frequently, real life mixed in our conversations and time spent together stretched over weekends,

It doesn't happen with everyone and relationships need maintenance and clear communication but when you have one its all worth it

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Through Fab or in the past one night stands that turn into once a week stands until next thing you know you’re seeing them three times a week.

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By *unforyou73Man
over a year ago

worcester weekend in exmouth

Fwb is great works well I’ve had a couple, it’s nice go out have a laughs drinks dancing maybe more drinks and then great sex

In our busy lifes sometimes work better for both party’s than a full on relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my experience, men are looking for FBs, women seek FWBs.

There's a gulf of difference!

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Have you tried the middle aisle in Lidl?

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

guess just get to know and ask someone

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Not had one, so may be wrong, but I don't think it's necessarily something you can "look" for, more something you can be "open to the idea of" that then develops organically over time as you get to know someone, find yourself enjoying their company both in and out of the bedroom - essentially I imagine it's no different from how a traditional relationship develops, except there isn't necessarily a commitment beyond whatever both people agree to.

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