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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Suggests something sexual that surprises you, how do you react?

We have always been open, have met others separately (hence my being here) and also met as a couple

When we meet together, we have a very specific dynamic, which works and always leads to a period rampant shagging for a few days afterwards

Last night, out of the blue, I heard 'when we start meeting again, rather than how we normally meet, I'd like to bring someone back that I don't fancy and watch you use them like you use me'

I'm not sure how I feel about this shift in dynamic

I'm not against it, but I'm not 100% about it either

How have you lot handled situations that surprised you and required some thought?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Suggests something sexual that surprises you, how do you react?

We have always been open, have met others separately (hence my being here) and also met as a couple

When we meet together, we have a very specific dynamic, which works and always leads to a period rampant shagging for a few days afterwards

Last night, out of the blue, I heard 'when we start meeting again, rather than how we normally meet, I'd like to bring someone back that I don't fancy and watch you use them like you use me'

I'm not sure how I feel about this shift in dynamic

I'm not against it, but I'm not 100% about it either

How have you lot handled situations that surprised you and required some thought? "

Sorry that should have read

"when we start meeting again, rather than how we normally meet, I'd like *YOU to bring someone back that I don't fancy and watch you use them like you use me"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Communication, communication, communication

Talk it through - ask where it’s come from and explain that while it’s a no it’s not completely a yes

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I am extremely honest with him and we can debate quite happily, a compromise will be achieved if we are both happy to and we move on.

Be as open and honest as you can with your feelings x

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I usually shine a spotlight at their forehead and grill them as to why the sudden change.

But this is why I’m single Bussy and you’re not

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I guess the "don't fancy" bit aside is it any different to when you meet as a couple, albeit without your partners direct involvement other than in a voyeur capacity? Is the way I think I'd look at the specific suggestion.

In general terms though, as ever, communication is the key and being able to gain a level of understanding about the appeal of whatever it is - armed with that you can then make an informed decision as to whether it's something you'd be comfortable with indulging.

There have been a few things that have cropped up over time like that where gaining that understanding of the appeal has seen me willing to try it.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Wording can make the world of difference.

But ultimately we talk and listen and talk and listen.

And won't progress until we are both good with the situation.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I guess the "don't fancy" bit aside is it any different to when you meet as a couple, albeit without your partners direct involvement other than in a voyeur capacity? Is the way I think I'd look at the specific suggestion.

In general terms though, as ever, communication is the key and being able to gain a level of understanding about the appeal of whatever it is - armed with that you can then make an informed decision as to whether it's something you'd be comfortable with indulging.

There have been a few things that have cropped up over time like that where gaining that understanding of the appeal has seen me willing to try it."

The reason we play apart is because we find very different people attractive - I prefer younger & not buff, but that way on, he prefers older & heavier set

There are some guys that do it for us both that we've played with, I won't fuck a guy my age & build, but I'm quite happy to 'share' my OH with another guy my age & build

That's the way we've always played when we've been together

I find the idea of bringing someone in purely to watch me shag them is a bit offputting - I'd feel like I was performing as opposed to being part of the fun

I think that's what is making me question it

Anyway, we'll see what happens

I think I might be more open to exploring the idea in a sauna environment as opposed to explicitly seeking out someone online to meet at home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A sauna sounds like a good compromise. Perhaps more likely to find people watching shagging and not joining in.

Does he not want to be involved at all and just watch?

Could it be a cuck type thing moving on from being sub?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A sauna sounds like a good compromise. Perhaps more likely to find people watching shagging and not joining in.

Does he not want to be involved at all and just watch?

Could it be a cuck type thing moving on from being sub? "

It's looking that way

I guess a change is as good as a rest

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