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By *orthern Stars OP Couple
over a year ago

Durham

Would you class yourself as a social butterfly, or a wallflower, or somewhere in between?

Do you go up to strangers at social events/clubs and make an effort, or do you wait for people to approach you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very much sit back and wait to be approached. I'm the absolute worst at just walking over to strangers and making conversation

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By *orthern Stars OP Couple
over a year ago

Durham

"I very much sit back and wait to be approached. I'm the absolute worst at just walking over to strangers and making conversation "

It's not always easy.

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I people watch mostly. Learn about people as I observe. Gives me something to talk about when I approach eventually

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

"Would you class yourself as a social butterfly, or a wallflower, or somewhere in between?

Do you go up to strangers at social events/clubs and make an effort, or do you wait for people to approach you?"

I try to be somewhere in the middle but I always do try to make an effort. But I have been known to be patient and wait for someone to approach me

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I am a social butterfly, but. I have habits of singling people out who I want to speak to. I don't just go around the room chatting to everyone as I might have travelled a long way to meet certain people and not have the chance to see them again for a while

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By *00KissesCouple
over a year ago

Stourbridge

Somewhere in the middle. Don't usually approach but try and give eye contact and smiles to let people know I am approachable

Oh to be there again soon

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I tend to sit back and anxiously watch what’s going on around me, I’m awful at initiating conversation.

Unless I’ve had a drink, then I’m a chatterbox and everyone is my best friend.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Yes. I love going up to others at events to chat. It’s not natural though. l have to work at it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll literally chat to anyone

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Definitely a wallflower - I get very tongue-tied and awkward if I have to approach people in any "real life" setting if I don't know them already or don't feel comfortable in myself.

That said if people approach me and initiate conversation it doesn't take much for me to feel comfortable in most instances, and once I am prized out of my shell I can be quite chatty.

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By *orthern Stars OP Couple
over a year ago

Durham

"I people watch mostly. Learn about people as I observe. Gives me something to talk about when I approach eventually "

I love people watching.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Social butterfly mainly, though I do enjoy at times just sitting back and people watching.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ll literally chat to anyone

Love people who can do that watch them in awe!

I’m so socially awkward- I’d run if I was approached..lol I’m not impolite but sometimes new people and social situations can be overwhelming as I can be painfully shy - working on it .... sigh!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in between. At a club I've felt a bit more awkward (I don't think clubs are really for me!). At a social it's different, there's not the assumption I'm talking to someone because I fancy them so I will talk to most people who look interesting. I don't think I'm a social butterfly, more a caterpillar.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Oh and people watching! It's fascinating seeing the little looks, the alterations in body language, the intent. Yes, that's always interesting at a forum social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We attended social twice and did bit of both ,approached people at times and also waited for someone to approach us.

Once we waited for nearly an hour and half till we found friendly faces in the crowd .

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By *herry OnatopWoman
over a year ago

Just over there

I'm completely comfortable approaching anyone! I'm on full speed mingle as soon as I walk in!

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I'm a bit of both...I love to people watch, but also like talking to people (usually in the smoking area, it's where all the cool kids hang out

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

A bit of both here too. I wouldn't go over to a group of people that I didn't know but a single or couple on their own who seem approachable I would. Very confident people can intimidate me so I wouldn't make the first contact with them usually.

At socials or clubs I do prefer it if I have at least chatted to someone a bit on here first. Makes it much easier.

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By *hrough the looking gla55Couple
over a year ago

Epsom

People watcher in the non stalker kinda way but hoping to come out my shell once things open up

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Would you class yourself as a social butterfly, or a wallflower, or somewhere in between?

Do you go up to strangers at social events/clubs and make an effort, or do you wait for people to approach you?"

I’m very well known throughout Cumbria because of the job I do, and would class myself as a social butterfly, finding it quite easy to talk with strangers, whether I am selling things to them, or socialising in the vanilla world.

Having been to several swinger clubs as a solo guy, you have to make an effort to speak with people, as nobody approaches single guys. I do find it hard work in the clubs as a single guy, people aren’t as friendly and welcoming as the forums would have you believe, but I do make an effort.

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By *ustfulmusingCouple
over a year ago

ilpseich

Bit of a social butterfly here ,l love talking to people .l usually find they open up to me to which is nice ,love to have a giggle with them as well.once someone told me their life history whilst we were waiting in a passport queue .

Love people can’t wait to get out and meeting them again .

Annie

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I’m definitely a social butterfly in fab and vanilla life.

I’m not afraid to attend or arrive to events alone and I’ll happily chat with most people.

On the flip side I do enjoy people watching

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Depends on the social setting.

Forum social I tend to run up to people I know or recognise and shockingly can be in their face (I know, who'd have thought it!)

People I don't recognise I'll do the whole "right then, who are you?" once I've said hello and verbally or physically assaulted (called a cunt then tickled/jumped on/given a mega hug to) those I know.

I also people watch and if there's someone giving me curious or uncomfortable looks I won't approach them and assume they don't particularly like my presence so leave them to it and let them come to me if they wanna say hello. Let's be honest, my face is normally showing on my profile so it ain't hard for them to work out who I am, I think they must know and don't wanna engage.

Club setting, again, those I know I'll talk to first. I don't blank other people but I'll not just go straight up. I tend to smile or nod in a pleasantry acknowledgement.

Work meetings I've been sent on where I might not know anyone, I'm normally the first one to attempt an ice break.

Other places, I pretty much keep myself to myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socials same as sex. 3 minutes max. Don't want them to get bored and I can get through more that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I and hubby kinda wait with that approachable sign on us lol . Then mingle as it goes on in a club etc

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I’m somewhere in between. If I sat there and waited I’d miss some opportunities and that seems a shame so I talk to people.

If this happens to you and you want to get rid of me, just tell me there’s free cake in the next room

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no difficulty in talking to strangers, what's the worst that can happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t talk to strangers but I naturally find that before I know it there are people in my company. I miss socialising

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I don’t talk to strangers but I naturally find that before I know it there are people in my company. I miss socialising "

You have an approachable face just going by your pics.

Friendly eyes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I very much sit back and wait to be approached. I'm the absolute worst at just walking over to strangers and making conversation "

And omg there must be a que forming!! Stunning looking lady!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no difficulty in talking to strangers, what's the worst that can happen

You could meet someone like me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t talk to strangers but I naturally find that before I know it there are people in my company. I miss socialising

You have an approachable face just going by your pics.

Friendly eyes."

Thanks but it’s just who we are, different personalities there is room for us all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a functioning introvert and pretty much asocial

I get no enjoyment from group happenings

I tend to withdraw

People pushing me to join in makes me withdraw further

Works do's, socials and even family gatherings leave me with a sense of dread

I will avoid them wherever possible

That may surprise those that meet me in a group, because I am happy, outgoing, witty, smiley and have ready conversation

Inside however, I am panicky, disjointed, head racing and looking for a way out

I know I am not on my own in this

The fact I don't drink is a hinderance, because I don't rely on alcohol to 'take the edge off'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am a functioning introvert and pretty much asocial

I get no enjoyment from group happenings

I tend to withdraw

People pushing me to join in makes me withdraw further

Works do's, socials and even family gatherings leave me with a sense of dread

I will avoid them wherever possible

That may surprise those that meet me in a group, because I am happy, outgoing, witty, smiley and have ready conversation

Inside however, I am panicky, disjointed, head racing and looking for a way out

I know I am not on my own in this

The fact I don't drink is a hinderance, because I don't rely on alcohol to 'take the edge off'

1 on 1 is fine

I am also happy, chatty and friendly with strangers and customers

I find no difficulty with that and actually quite enjoy having a good natter

The anxiety of meeting in groups is when I feel it

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I people watch mostly. Learn about people as I observe. Gives me something to talk about when I approach eventually

I love people watching."

I also enjoy a people watch. It's amazing how you can spot someone making another person uncomfortable and they don't pick up on it themselves. I've been known to go in for the rescue before now.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Somewhere in the middle. I'm naturally a wallflower but force myself out of it when it seems warranted.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’m usually the lass by the buffet holding two glasses of wine and looking like I wish I was somewhere else.

I don’t approach strangers as I’m a rubbish conversation starter. I have been told this makes me appear to be aloof and unapproachable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m usually the lass by the buffet holding two glasses of wine and looking like I wish I was somewhere else.

I don’t approach strangers as I’m a rubbish conversation starter. I have been told this makes me appear to be aloof and unapproachable."

Peoples opinions of us tends to come from how they feel about themselves. I’m respectful and friendly if someone doesn’t like me for me I don’t let it bother me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to people watch too, then hone in on those who look friendly enough not to tell me to sod off

I'd love to say I'm a social butterfly naturally but that takes a glass of wine to get there. After that, I can ramble on to anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wallflower - the invisible kind usually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Socials same as sex. 3 minutes max. Don't want them to get bored and I can get through more that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m usually the lass by the buffet holding two glasses of wine and looking like I wish I was somewhere else.

I don’t approach strangers as I’m a rubbish conversation starter. I have been told this makes me appear to be aloof and unapproachable."

The answer to that is ‘nah it’s my ravishing beauty that scares people off’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on my mood and if I've had a drink. I like to people watch first, then maybe initiate conversation if someone looks welcoming. I'm happy to talk if someone approaches me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This social butterfly is waiting to fly again once the clubs are allowed to reopen!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Wallflower - the invisible kind usually"

Nonsense. I noticed you and I even practised my kegels for 10 seconds to say hello to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wallflower - the invisible kind usually

Nonsense. I noticed you and I even practised my kegels for 10 seconds to say hello to you.

That was a very unusual ‘handshake’ but novel all the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no difficulty in talking to strangers, what's the worst that can happen

You could meet someone like me.

Lol I'm sure I'd be happy to be in your company

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By *orthern Stars OP Couple
over a year ago

Durham

Thank you for all your comments. I've just got chance to get back to this thread.

Its really interesting reading the replies. Some of you have surprised me. I get an idea of how I think forumites personalities are, they aren't always how I have perceived them. Just proves people can be totally different online to how they are in person.

Mrs

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Sort of both....it very much depends on how I'm presenting.

As Sophie im all over the place but still get shy, as a guy I tend to sit and people watch and won't approach anyone I don't know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely a wallflower - I get very tongue-tied and awkward if I have to approach people in any "real life" setting if I don't know them already or don't feel comfortable in myself.

That said if people approach me and initiate conversation it doesn't take much for me to feel comfortable in most instances, and once I am prized out of my shell I can be quite chatty."

Me too (mrs), hubby will chat away with anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social. I speak to anyone and everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I people watch mostly. Learn about people as I observe. Gives me something to talk about when I approach eventually

I love people watching."

Me too, you learn a lot just from watching...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just have fun and have the crack! Not butt or drugs before anyone comments

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Oh I usually am happy to approach and chat away to friendly looking sorts who are at the bar or in an area that’s quite open. I love meeting new folks and have met a lot of brilliant friends this way.

I’d never approach someone sitting down though in case I’m interrupting them.

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