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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was chatting to my friend recently about what makes great sex and thought this would be a good place to open up the chat! What do you think?

Is it the chemistry, the diversity of positions, the flow? Is it when you feel comfortable to just go for it? Spill the beanz

Cx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chemistry is massive thing for me, feeling that connection, building trust so you can push boundaries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's me "

That's a very good answer!

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Chemistry

Relaxed fun

A bit of lust x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Vulnerability, trust, experimentation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Willingness to experiment, communicate and explore another person's desires.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

For me - my OH

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Chemistry, communication and confidence x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chemistry, connection and undivided attention for me

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

Knowing u want 2 do it again .connected. click .x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When the moods the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The connection & reading the other persons body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Desiring and being desired.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

1. The desire to please each other. I've been in situations where it's been very one-sided.

2. Being on the same wavelength sexually is important too, so partners enjoy similar or compatible things.

3. And of course social chemistry, as in liking somebody just for who they are not just for what they can do for you.

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By *ublinGirl92Woman
over a year ago

Hell

Chemistry and communication

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s definitely the chemistry for me

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

Chemistry, compatibility and mutual desire

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Its the relaxing and letting go aspect that makes it great for me, to fully immerse ourselves in each others pleasure

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

In the past I’ve def been guilty on worrying how I look, or that the other person is or isn’t enjoying themselves. The times I let myself go fully - def makes the best experience. I guess just feeling comfortable right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Chemistry

Relaxed fun

A bit of lust x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chemistry + understanding/communication + good health/physique/equipment + an abundance of stamina.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's definitely about chemistry, but defining what thst is is much harder!

To be able to connect on a mental, emotional, physical, and even spiritual level is where its at for me.

Not seeing sex as the goal, but actually almost a side benefit of the connection. I guess this is what people mean when they talk about soul mates.

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By *mooth Operator 07Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"Chemistry is massive thing for me, feeling that connection, building trust so you can push boundaries "

I concur 100%, without it sex can feel a bit flat.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

The chemistry, being how much you turn each other on and excite one another.

The compatibility in the kiss.

The energy you both put into it.

The adventurous mind at least one of you has to have.

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By *mooth Operator 07Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys


"In the past I’ve def been guilty on worrying how I look, or that the other person is or isn’t enjoying themselves. The times I let myself go fully - def makes the best experience. I guess just feeling comfortable right? "

I suppose another way to look at it, who is compatible for and what your looking for to have great sex. Once you meet that person, the rest of worries will not exist

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Chemistry, communication, trust, wanting to pleasure each other and being able to have a laugh while having sex. All these combined and it usually means great sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The chemistry, being how much you turn each other on and excite one another.

The compatibility in the kiss.

The energy you both put into it.

The adventurous mind at least one of you has to have.

"

Yes. The kiss tells so much about how the sex will be.

And confidence goes a long way too. Not arrogance (necessarily), but being happy in your own skin, and knowing what you want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A mutual liking of each other and a have at it attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's definitely about chemistry, but defining what thst is is much harder!

To be able to connect on a mental, emotional, physical, and even spiritual level is where its at for me.

Not seeing sex as the goal, but actually almost a side benefit of the connection. I guess this is what people mean when they talk about soul mates.

"

My earlier reference was to raw hardcore sex.

Spiritual sex on the other hand is an explosion of pure love, sexual energy that goes beyond physical sensations and what I would call sacred sex which is meeting at the heart. This I’ve been fortunate to have encountered only once with someone very special (albeit for 6months, which ended the day she had to return back home).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was chatting to my friend recently about what makes great sex and thought this would be a good place to open up the chat! What do you think?

Is it the chemistry, the diversity of positions, the flow? Is it when you feel comfortable to just go for it? Spill the beanz

Cx "

Sex is when you’re both (or more!) at your most open and vulnerable state, I reckon, so it implies that, in that moment, you’ve placed your complete trust in that person/people, so you must have made a connection that makes that state of mind possible, a connection that has to be more than just physical attraction, I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wont be found on here whatever it is.

A complete respect and selfless desire to pleasure.

Bed hopping with multi partners is the antithesis of that.its not even sex people are looking for on here,its a quick fix.a meaningless shag.

Like free prostitutes for penniless kerb crawlers.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"The chemistry, being how much you turn each other on and excite one another.

The compatibility in the kiss.

The energy you both put into it.

The adventurous mind at least one of you has to have.

Yes. The kiss tells so much about how the sex will be.

And confidence goes a long way too. Not arrogance (necessarily), but being happy in your own skin, and knowing what you want"

If the kiss works for me the sex is usually really good.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"It wont be found on here whatever it is.

A complete respect and selfless desire to pleasure.

Bed hopping with multi partners is the antithesis of that.its not even sex people are looking for on here,its a quick fix.a meaningless shag.

Like free prostitutes for penniless kerb crawlers."

I beg to differ.

I've had some amazing sex with men I met through Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It wont be found on here whatever it is.

A complete respect and selfless desire to pleasure.

Bed hopping with multi partners is the antithesis of that.its not even sex people are looking for on here,its a quick fix.a meaningless shag.

Like free prostitutes for penniless kerb crawlers."

Do you work in Marketing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chemistry. Chemistry is key to it for me and I’m incredibly lucky to have found someone on here who not only compliments my sexual appetite and desires but has just been amazing in every way. Best sex I’ve ever had. All down to chemistry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All good answers above. The one I’d put as most important is communication which can take many forms. With some people the chemistry that’s been mentioned is so immediate that few words are needed. With others there isn’t that instant spark but taking time to know and understand each other’s tastes and fantasies can still lead to great sex, and that dialogue can be ongoing.

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By *abrina59TV/TS
over a year ago

moved to cuckold land

Where everyone involved gets enjoyment from the sexual activity although that may be 8n many different forms

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact


"I was chatting to my friend recently about what makes great sex and thought this would be a good place to open up the chat! What do you think?

Is it the chemistry, the diversity of positions, the flow? Is it when you feel comfortable to just go for it? Spill the beanz

Cx "

I find I enjoy sex more when no beans are involved.

Oh, I see where I've been going wrong now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its the relaxing and letting go aspect that makes it great for me, to fully immerse ourselves in each others pleasure "

I agree with this.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Like minded sexy people

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By *..FirstMan
over a year ago

london

Trust that leads to relaxed experimentation with open communication to ensure the right spots, metaphorically speaking, are hit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was chatting to my friend recently about what makes great sex and thought this would be a good place to open up the chat! What do you think?

Is it the chemistry, the diversity of positions, the flow? Is it when you feel comfortable to just go for it? Spill the beanz

Cx

I find I enjoy sex more when no beans are involved.

Oh, I see where I've been going wrong now. "

Nothing like a tin of heinz to spice things up in the bedroom

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think chemistry yes, but actually communication more - obviously you wanna hit it off and be in synch with the person, but there has been people where it hasn’t been explosive to begin with but we’ve grown together and learned and it becomes amazing over time. So patience too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 people would be a start. My hand isnt able to answer that.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact


"I was chatting to my friend recently about what makes great sex and thought this would be a good place to open up the chat! What do you think?

Is it the chemistry, the diversity of positions, the flow? Is it when you feel comfortable to just go for it? Spill the beanz

Cx

I find I enjoy sex more when no beans are involved.

Oh, I see where I've been going wrong now.

Nothing like a tin of heinz to spice things up in the bedroom "

I'm meant to flick them? In which direction? What trajectory?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Chemistry is massive thing for me, feeling that connection, building trust so you can push boundaries "

Same here..

Chemistry all the way...that crazy animal attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tea breaks.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

First and foremost above all others - connection and chemistry.

Once those are in place though many of the other qualities already mentioned around mutual desire, communication, open mindedness, being on the same wavelength etc.

I think sexual compatibility counts for a lot too - I've met people who were absolutely lovely and as a person I've got on with but sexually there just wasn't a compatibility there - neither of our faults, it just didn't work between us.

One that hasn't been mentioned though is understanding - not only each other, what makes a partner tick, and which buttons to press, but understanding each others limitations or that things don't always go as you'd like or were expecting.

Oh and one more, an ability to laugh and see the funny side and make it fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First and foremost above all others - connection and chemistry.

Once those are in place though many of the other qualities already mentioned around mutual desire, communication, open mindedness, being on the same wavelength etc.

I think sexual compatibility counts for a lot too - I've met people who were absolutely lovely and as a person I've got on with but sexually there just wasn't a compatibility there - neither of our faults, it just didn't work between us.

One that hasn't been mentioned though is understanding - not only each other, what makes a partner tick, and which buttons to press, but understanding each others limitations or that things don't always go as you'd like or were expecting.

Oh and one more, an ability to laugh and see the funny side and make it fun."

What he said ^^

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"First and foremost above all others - connection and chemistry.

Once those are in place though many of the other qualities already mentioned around mutual desire, communication, open mindedness, being on the same wavelength etc.

I think sexual compatibility counts for a lot too - I've met people who were absolutely lovely and as a person I've got on with but sexually there just wasn't a compatibility there - neither of our faults, it just didn't work between us.

One that hasn't been mentioned though is understanding - not only each other, what makes a partner tick, and which buttons to press, but understanding each others limitations or that things don't always go as you'd like or were expecting.

Oh and one more, an ability to laugh and see the funny side and make it fun."

Omg all of this!!!

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By *rben112Man
over a year ago

worcester

It certainly helps if there are at least 2 people there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely chemistry!

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

When it’s someone you really like and respect and you know they feel the same about you. It’s a good start. Oh and you fancy the pants off them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Emotional connection, physical attraction and rhythm ??

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By *andyMinx_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

Leeds

Passion.

Sexual attraction/chemistry.

Stamina.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chemistry and trust.

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By *armupartistMan
over a year ago

York

Attraction

Taking time

Touch

Mutual pleasure

Respecting boundaries

A sense of adventure

A sense of humour/fun

And love...?

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Good vibes and the right atmosphere. Plus the people who you're fucking Feeling the same vibe!!

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Like minded sexy people "

And I like your mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plastic sheets

Nutella

Lots of licking x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chrmistry, communication, trust, down to earth people, and lately trust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chemistry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good vibes and the right atmosphere. Plus the people who you're fucking Feeling the same vibe!!

Jo.Xx "

Agree jo. Atmosphere and people with good vibes make the sex much more enjoyable.

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