FabSwingers.com forum: Ghosting

By *he Devils Daughter! OP Woman
over a year ago

some where in yorkshire

So how many of u have been ghosted??... how did it make u feel and did they ever get back in touch months down the line?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Back in my younger days yes

Come over do the deeds say they leave a verification when home nother messaged a couple off days later read delete

Message me again in a months time asking if I was free

Made me feel used and like I was a dirty little secret and I was only a hole for him to get his end away on

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

Yep, been ghosted and not heard from him yet he hasn’t taken me off fab. Been 1.5 years

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

Yep got ghosted by a guy

and then every month or so he makes a new profile and messages me again

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By *he Devils Daughter! OP Woman
over a year ago

some where in yorkshire

"Yep got ghosted by a guy

and then every month or so he makes a new profile and messages me again

What a knobhead x

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By *he Devils Daughter! OP Woman
over a year ago

some where in yorkshire

"Yep, been ghosted and not heard from him yet he hasn’t taken me off fab. Been 1.5 years"

Knobhead ... ur better off without him x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, it is the worst of nobheady things to do

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By *B 4099Man
over a year ago

North West, Outer Letterkenny area

Yep ghosted a few times I'm the past. Get a message ,all good then ghosted again. When I replied it was who is this? And repeat. Happened in vanilla life a load of times..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. It hurts !

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I haven't but then I keep my circle small x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I assume it's happened to everyone at some point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep happened me twice in past couple months.

One is someone met, we had fun, been messaging throughout lockdown then radio silence. Messaged a few times on here, even texted. Messages read but not replied then out the blue she's gone, profile either hidden or closed and number is blocked.

Other is similar though we not met. Arranged a meet though I had to cancel as had symptoms so isolated. Ever since we chatted but every time I ask about rearranging meet get no answer.

Bit despondent.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Yes unfortunately I have and it hurt.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I think anyone who is experience in Internet dating as well as fab has come across this. It can be annoying, frustrating and/or a dam right let down. Especially when you have invested time and got your hopes up. I think anyone with any experience of the online dating or hook up game knows its the nature of the beast sadly. Disappointing but you just have to grow a thicker skin and hopefully get a better feel for avoiding the flaky ones in the future.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Yes have been and yes he got back in touch almost a year later! I took to much pleasure in telling him I've moved on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, more so when I was dating about 7 years ago... It hurt a lot at the time.

Had a couple of profiles delete themselves out of the blue today.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes one couple they winked I messaged we got chatting and just because I wouldn't meet up this was the other week I just thought it's their loss not mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, it’s happened to me a few times but I don’t take it too personally.

I feel annoyed & perplexed to begin with but figure I don’t know what’s going on in peoples lives or what their true agenda is and just move on.

Plenty more fish in the sea..

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Many, many times. Although it was so much worse on dating apps than its been on here. Not much you can do apart from make a note, block, move on

LvM

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Put it this way I was played like a fiddle.

Lol.

Can deal with it now but unfortunately it’s made me very wary of people, well men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So how many of u have been ghosted??... how did it make u feel and did they ever get back in touch months down the line? "

I have been yes - but to be honest - same as when people here don’t reply or something ...

I just suck it up & think it’s their loss & carry on

Positivity

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"So how many of u have been ghosted??... how did it make u feel and did they ever get back in touch months down the line?

I have been yes - but to be honest - same as when people here don’t reply or something ...

I just suck it up & think it’s their loss & carry on

Positivity

Good philosophy. It’s their loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So how many of u have been ghosted??... how did it make u feel and did they ever get back in touch months down the line?

I have been yes - but to be honest - same as when people here don’t reply or something ...

I just suck it up & think it’s their loss & carry on

Positivity

Good philosophy. It’s their loss. "

The best philosophy!

Without being big headed or arrogant- I know how much of a Nice guy & good fun I am ... so for whatever reason they have/had to Ghost or ignore ... it’s not their fault - they just don’t know me - and missed out

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull

Yes by the same woman twice. She comes & goes on the site. Asked me to give her a second chance. I did & she did it again. The worst thing was that I believed in her.

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

I'd rather be told straight than ghosted, at least you have clarity about something being wrong, is it some kind of mind game people like to play?

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours

Yes and when he contacted me later on it was very easy to walk away

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Depends how you define ghosting - if you mean cessation of all contact by one side without explanation, then no hasn't happened to me - if you mean a connection has naturally fizzled over time with neither person necessarily taking that step then yes it's happened

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Having tried online dating you kinda get used to it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah happened few times. Happens quite often on tinder dont use it anymore.

Once the chat was going really well she mentioned going for coffee, she then asked was I really 5'6 I was like yeah (it's on my profile on tinder) never heard back from her. Assuming she wanted someone taller because rest of message was lovely. Would rather her say she prefers taller men I'd be like ok

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Oh yes! It was shitty. I eventually got an apology though so line drawn.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I have and yes they have, a few times. By then I don't want to know though. That's not a way to treat people.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Many times, unfortunately it is common practice these days (though not everyone does it I know).

And true ghosted though, complete removal of contact. Never to engage in it again. Even had old friends do it.

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

"Yep got ghosted by a guy

and then every month or so he makes a new profile and messages me again

What a knobhead x "

Lol yeah he is.

Shame as he's hot, and wears a uniform and is a good fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep! Start chatting, going really well, sharing, chatting on other apps etc. No sign of anything but positive.....then nothing!!

No idea why, is more frustrating than anything. I have been more offended by a poorly made cup of tea!

Still would prefer if the simply told me to piss off if things were not fir them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes of course and I've done it too. Lifes a bitch, I dont take it personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gosh I've been ghosted lots of times . It used to bother me wondering what I've done wrong.

It doesn't worry me too much these days. I'm not one to chase and I'm a big believer of if they want to talk to me then I'll talk back. One message in and one message out. I'm very stubborn so probably not done myself any favours by not sending that second message as I don't want to be one of those single guys that pester.

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By *r SxxMan
over a year ago

ashford

Yepp I have! In the dating world and here..... But the dating one really hurt. Pretty sucky!

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By *isces WomanWoman
over a year ago

West London

Yep been ghosted and I've shut them out. You only get 1 chance.

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

"Yes of course and I've done it too. Lifes a bitch, I dont take it personally. "

Exactly this. I don’t like it (either way), but it happens. If someone doesn’t want to talk to me, then there’s no point wasting my time (and vice-versa)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes me too. But never dwell on it. People come and go ( excuse the pun) and I'm ok with that now. I don't expect anyone to hang around anymore I've got so used to it

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

"So how many of u have been ghosted??... how did it make u feel and did they ever get back in touch months down the line? "

I’ve been ghosted a few times by the same person.

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By *man91Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Sadly been ghosted a few times. Worst has been when they make me excited for a meet all arranged and then when I travel all the way to meet them I got blocked and no reply to calls and text messages.

A polite no would have been nicer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone ghosted on me after I travelled to meet her and eventually she replied and asked

"which one are you now?"

Then she asked me to come back but before texting me her shopping list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So how many of u have been ghosted??... how did it make u feel and did they ever get back in touch months down the line?

I’ve been ghosted a few times by the same person. "

Still not learned the lesson aye

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

"So how many of u have been ghosted??... how did it make u feel and did they ever get back in touch months down the line? "

it's the worst feeling, makes you feel worthless. sometimes they come back months later like nothings wrong, luckily im strong enough to walk away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not happened to be in years and years on here, but maybe that's because I never contact anyone first, I just reply. I never instigate further conversation or meetings either, so I wouldn't know if they had ghosted me.

It's happened a few times in real life though.

Some years ago it happened with a real life friend from childhood. It affected me so badly I had to have counseling

Mostly over it now, but still don't know why it happened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I felt like I was being ghosted the other week and to be fair I was gutted as me and the lady in question had been having some great conversations! Then yesterday she messaged and apologised and said fab had been getting too much for her. Happy days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, one guy in particular. More the fool me as he did it twice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads of times! It's very annoying and a complete time waste. A few did then get in contact later but got blocked xx

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

"Someone ghosted on me after I travelled to meet her and eventually she replied and asked

"which one are you now?"

Then she asked me to come back but before texting me her shopping list.

Sounds a nice lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone ghosted on me after I travelled to meet her and eventually she replied and asked

"which one are you now?"

Then she asked me to come back but before texting me her shopping list.

OMG

Sounds a nice lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, over weekend! It made me laugh more than anything, as showed his true colours. I wanted a man, not a boy, so it helped lots really. Such a knobby and childish thing to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do it all the time.

Message a woman.shes snotty and blocks and then I message her again off a different profile.

It's pretty easy and it entertains me for about 20 seconds.i just like to have the last word but then again I'm an arsehole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep got ghosted by a guy

and then every month or so he makes a new profile and messages me again

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and I keep trying to meet you.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

It depends on what your definition of ghosting is really.

Someone you chat to who just stops chatting I don't consider ghosting. It's just realising you don't have much in common or one has said or done something the other doesn't like.

Someone who doesn't show for a meet or arranges one and stops chatting beforehand or even after if you arranged another is more ghosting I think.

It's only happened once tho when I had a meet arranged and the guy stopped chatting a day or so before.So on the day I messaged again and cancelled the meet I'd never just not show. He got on touch a few months later trying to get to chat again but there is no second chance.

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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"Yep got ghosted by a guy

and then every month or so he makes a new profile and messages me again

Do you remind him that you know him? That is so much worse than ghosting!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

By people I've been having casual sex with loads of times.

It doesn't bother me as I don't form attachments to men, even if I have an emotional bond.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I’ve been ghosted once, but I didn’t realise until years later because I didn’t really notice or care at the time - so I guess we ghosted each other.

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By *lueEyesEnigmaMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I have only heard of this recently. It sounds awful.

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

"So how many of u have been ghosted??... how did it make u feel and did they ever get back in touch months down the line?

I’ve been ghosted a few times by the same person.

Still not learned the lesson aye "

To nice for my own good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hasn't everyone at one point in their lives? Oh it hurts for a while xxxx

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I got ghosted quite recently. The sad thing about it was, the person and I had a very honest and open relationship. All they needed to say was I don’t want to see you again. Simple. After two and a half years they should have known me enough to realised they could say that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So how many of u have been ghosted??... how did it make u feel and did they ever get back in touch months down the line?

I’ve been ghosted a few times by the same person.

Still not learned the lesson aye

To nice for my own good"

Definitely their loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea been ghosted to the point it arranging a meet then nothing.

Doesn't phase me at all though, it is what it is.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Yea been ghosted to the point it arranging a meet then nothing.

Doesn't phase me at all though, it is what it is."

Worse than that is people who actually don't turn up.

It's never happened to me (yet) but you hear of it.

It totally bad form to say the least!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ghosted 4yrs ago by my 16 yr old daughter... I was getting married following separating from her mum ten years before

She’s 20 now

Every day hurts

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I got ghosted quite recently. The sad thing about it was, the person and I had a very honest and open relationship. All they needed to say was I don’t want to see you again. Simple. After two and a half years they should have known me enough to realised they could say that. "

Yes..after all that time I think that's the least than one deserves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes got ghosted on here she sucked me off and swallow my cum said she love it with me not blocked me on here and mobile,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes got ghosted on here she sucked me off and swallow my cum said she love it with me not blocked me on here and mobile,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ment now blocked me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BoooOOO000

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep ghosted 3 yrs ago...

Deeply hurt as not closure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think anyone who is experience in Internet dating as well as fab has come across this. It can be annoying, frustrating and/or a dam right let down. Especially when you have invested time and got your hopes up. I think anyone with any experience of the online dating or hook up game knows its the nature of the beast sadly. Disappointing but you just have to grow a thicker skin and hopefully get a better feel for avoiding the flaky ones in the future. "

i agree with this ... im amazed at the folk saying it’s happened once

it happens to me on at least a weekly basis ... even worse with covid people talk of future plans , then cant keep up that chat because its not allowed to happen get bored and vanish , ive had it happen with people ive know much longer and been more involved with too

i tend to just not get attached to folk unless i know they are all in then its not an issue

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"BoooOOO000"

I see you

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

It’s happened but that is part of online life. Years ago it used to bother me, but the last 2/3 years it hasn’t, it’s not worth the energy.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

i agree with this ... im amazed at the folk saying it’s happened once

i tend to just not get attached to folk unless i know they are all in then its not an issue "

Indeed. Though people need to be sure that ghosting is not simply just getting bored after 1 or 2 brief conversations and ending the conversation with no warning, or returning to a convo/messaging after a brief hiatus - not that is what you are saying. But much more the sudden and abrupt end to a connection that has had a mid level amount of effort put in to it. All forms of communication ceased and blocked.

Simple ghosting is common practice with no strings situations. Always has been, even before the Internet. Giving out a fake number etc. Plus who really cares when it's just a stranger, you have barely conversed with. But when it is somebody you have been in depth with, physically or just mentally, then that shit hurts. It hits hard and deep.

Currently going through being ghosted right now it seems, none fab I will add.

2 years of getting to know and then actually knowing somebody only for them to just cease contact. No explanation or warning just gone.

Just to add, I know they are safe and well, so nothing has happened to them.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

i agree with this ... im amazed at the folk saying it’s happened once

i tend to just not get attached to folk unless i know they are all in then its not an issue

Currently going through being ghosted right now it seems, none fab I will add.

2 years of getting to know and then actually knowing somebody only for them to just cease contact. No explanation or warning just gone.

Just to add, I know they are safe and well, so nothing has happened to them."

As long as they are well then I think that's a really shitty thing to do to you and I hope you're ok x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i agree with this ... im amazed at the folk saying it’s happened once

i tend to just not get attached to folk unless i know they are all in then its not an issue

Currently going through being ghosted right now it seems, none fab I will add.

2 years of getting to know and then actually knowing somebody only for them to just cease contact. No explanation or warning just gone.

Just to add, I know they are safe and well, so nothing has happened to them."

i think its both , obviously they impact you to varying degrees, but if you engage with people at all , swap contact details and then just cut that off with no explanation its still ghosting and its just plain rude - nobody is saying because you’ve been chatting with folk a few days you need to follow through on anything, but people have forgotten how to have a little respect and just say sorry im not interested in it going further - no harm done and instead ghosting breeds insecurity where the other person wonders what they might have done wrong to warrant this behaviour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yea been ghosted to the point it arranging a meet then nothing.

Doesn't phase me at all though, it is what it is.

Worse than that is people who actually don't turn up.

It's never happened to me (yet) but you hear of it.

It totally bad form to say the least!"

That would probably annoy me if it goes further than messages and more time is wasted (getting ready, travelling etc) feel for anyone that had to put up with that shit

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Yea been ghosted to the point it arranging a meet then nothing.

Doesn't phase me at all though, it is what it is.

Worse than that is people who actually don't turn up.

It's never happened to me (yet) but you hear of it.

It totally bad form to say the least!

That would probably annoy me if it goes further than messages and more time is wasted (getting ready, travelling etc) feel for anyone that had to put up with that shit"

Yes..me too...the person who dies that is a complete arehole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, plenty of times over the years. And yes, most usually try to initiate contact again.

One of the oddest ones was a guy off here replying to my "meet today" ad a few years back. We'd known each other a while and we'd arranged to meet at mine. Agreed a time (a couple of hours on). He messages online to say he was just setting off and would be half an hour. Then he went missing off Fab for weeks. Seen him online weeks later, never chased him up. Then months later he messages like nothing happened. Eventually apologises for standing me up but he decided his hair needed a cut and he didn't want to meet without a fresh haircut

He still pops up every now and again, trying to chat like nothing happened. Most recently asking "you still in a mood?"

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Yeah, plenty of times over the years. And yes, most usually try to initiate contact again.

He still pops up every now and again, trying to chat like nothing happened. Most recently asking "you still in a mood?""

Are you still in the mood!

Well..are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i love that are you still in a mood shit haha ... me telling you i expect higher standards and therefore wont be engaging with you anymore is not a mood pal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah, plenty of times over the years. And yes, most usually try to initiate contact again.

He still pops up every now and again, trying to chat like nothing happened. Most recently asking "you still in a mood?"

Are you still in the mood!

Well..are you?

Lol. Not overly upset by it. Just found it weird to be honest.

More upset that I'd gone to the effort of shaving my legs unnecessarily. That always puts me in a mood. Total waste of a shave. I'm almost over it

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By *hampagne_Supernova_91Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I've been ghosted once, wasn't a great feeling. Knocked my confidence a bit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i love that are you still in a mood shit haha ... me telling you i expect higher standards and therefore wont be engaging with you anymore is not a mood pal

Yep, nothing like a "You still in a mood" message to get you frothing at the flaps

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By *hampagne_Supernova_91Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"i love that are you still in a mood shit haha ... me telling you i expect higher standards and therefore wont be engaging with you anymore is not a mood pal

Yep, nothing like a "You still in a mood" message to get you frothing at the flaps

Frothing at the flaps! Not a mental image I needed before bed

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Yeah, plenty of times over the years. And yes, most usually try to initiate contact again.

He still pops up every now and again, trying to chat like nothing happened. Most recently asking "you still in a mood?"

Are you still in the mood!

Well..are you?

Lol. Not overly upset by it. Just found it weird to be honest.

More upset that I'd gone to the effort of shaving my legs unnecessarily. That always puts me in a mood. Total waste of a shave. I'm almost over it

I feel you.

When you go on a meet we make a real effort..shave hair makeup. Put together a great outfit and to be ghosted! I would not be happy at all.

But, yeah you gotta let it go, and the person who ghosted you.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I've been ghosted once, wasn't a great feeling. Knocked my confidence a bit!"

Don't let it do that x

It says more about them than you.....it's on them x

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By *hampagne_Supernova_91Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"I've been ghosted once, wasn't a great feeling. Knocked my confidence a bit!

Don't let it do that x

It says more about them than you.....it's on them x"

Yeah I've learnt alot since then, just is a bizarre thing to do to someone you've been interacting with for ages that's all! X

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By *offee27Man
over a year ago

Wiltshire

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By *ilo_Stitch69Couple
over a year ago

NOTTINGHAM

We have bin ghosted by a couple who we spent months talking to ‘ literally woke up one weekend and was blocked ?! fast forward down the line went to a club & they was there literally spent most of the night chatting to us wanted to go to a playroom & play we went to add them by there fab name & what you know couldnt find us because we was blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got ghosted last night, they even set up a new profile 20 mins later and tried again, so I played them at their own game, leading them on till they went again. Just don’t get some people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

^^ He’s the ghostbuster.

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

"Yep got ghosted by a guy

and then every month or so he makes a new profile and messages me again

Do you remind him that you know him? That is so much worse than ghosting!

He knows lol he apologises every time

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By *r DiveMan
over a year ago

St Helens

Happens all the time on fab. People bottle it and disappear haha

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By *ottoncandy42Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

"Put it this way I was played like a fiddle.

Lol.

Can deal with it now but unfortunately it’s made me very wary of people, well men. "

Same, not a nice way of finishing something with someone you built up a thing with. That dreaded block

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I just block and move on...no worries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So how many of u have been ghosted??... how did it make u feel and did they ever get back in touch months down the line? "

I've been Ghosted so many times I should team up with Derak Acorah. They always get back in touch with a half arsed apology or claiming that they thought i would cancel plans. I have arranged to meet again and guess what?!!!!! They ghosted. I have a couple of people on here that put up new profiles and try again. This is where the face pic request comes in handy. Sadly it goes with the territory on these sites.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Yea been ghosted to the point it arranging a meet then nothing.

Doesn't phase me at all though, it is what it is."

This happens all the time when n Fab. That just normal here.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

If I had a pound for every time someone said to me do you want to meet this weekend. I then message them back asking what day and time is best for them and .........nothing.

I’d be rich.

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By *offee27Man
over a year ago

Wiltshire

100's of times. Used to it now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep got ghosted by a guy

and then every month or so he makes a new profile and messages me again

"
lol same

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

"Yep got ghosted by a guy

and then every month or so he makes a new profile and messages me again

lol same"

Hes back again with a new profile

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Ice only been ghosted by 1 or 2 people.

No-one's perfect i suppose.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Don't think there'll be many of us who haven't. Can't say I've been upset or hurt by it to be fair: it is what it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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happens all the time!thats a norm on here

so it seems.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I had a meet ghost me, when I was v new here.

He got back in touch a couple of years later, apologised and asked to meet again

I accepted the apology, but gave no second chance.

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

I've been goasted so many time I was thinking of changing my name to Casper

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been ghosted before. It happens to everyone and most of the time it’s just because they don’t have the minerals to say they aren’t interested. I never let it bother me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have bin ghosted by a couple who we spent months talking to ‘ literally woke up one weekend and was blocked ?! fast forward down the line went to a club & they was there literally spent most of the night chatting to us wanted to go to a playroom & play we went to add them by there fab name & what you know couldnt find us because we was blocked

What happened next?

Did you still go play?

Call them out for blocking you?

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By *ilo_Stitch69Couple
over a year ago

NOTTINGHAM

What happened next?

Did you still go play?

Call them out for blocking you?

KJ"

Wouldnt say we called them out we dint take life to seriously & but the bloke wouldnt leave The wife alone all night so we “ politely “ said thanks but no thanks seeing as you blocked us how could things possibly changed now x

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By *averockrockMan
over a year ago

swindon

Getting ghosted a lot! I don’t get it but fab is like that!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was the last act of love and mercy

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

My best friend of over 10 years. He met a girl and just went out my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whats ghosting?

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

They always get back in touch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup! And he actually had “what goes around, comes around” tattooed on his hands...... i bloody hope it did for him!

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

It’s quite normal in here. It’s like putting on socks

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

"It’s quite normal in here. It’s like putting on socks "

Ghosted ... you move on... like you do in real life...

Plenty of fish in the sea....

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By *iobhan123Woman
over a year ago

Deal

Ghosted in real life, having been with him for 20 months, bastard asked me to marry him, walked away one day and never heard from him since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ghosted in real life, having been with him for 20 months, bastard asked me to marry him, walked away one day and never heard from him since"

Thats a whole new level

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been, it’s highly annoying, especially when they do get back in touch

boy bye!

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I just block and move on...no second chances!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the gent above block move on and upwards

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

bristol

Happens all the time. There's a couple that does it to me and they keep creating new profiles.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

It may take a day or even a week but, everyone either blocks me or ghosts me.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Ghosted in real life, having been with him for 20 months, bastard asked me to marry him, walked away one day and never heard from him since"

Jeez that sounds really rough!

Bet you couldn't get your head around that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been haunted by previous ghosters after putting new pics up.

"I've been busy"

Bye

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By *averockrockMan
over a year ago

swindon

"Ghosted in real life, having been with him for 20 months, bastard asked me to marry him, walked away one day and never heard from him since"

Flipping heck! Feel for ya!

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By *iobhan123Woman
over a year ago

Deal

"Ghosted in real life, having been with him for 20 months, bastard asked me to marry him, walked away one day and never heard from him since

Thats a whole new level

Yeah, very hard to have closure when none is forthcoming, just learnt to tuck that shit away and try never to let it resurface but it does

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By *iobhan123Woman
over a year ago

Deal

"Ghosted in real life, having been with him for 20 months, bastard asked me to marry him, walked away one day and never heard from him since

Jeez that sounds really rough!

Bet you couldn't get your head around that!"

Nope, nearly finished me off, but very happy that I didn't succumb to that and have made it through...most of the time.x

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By *iobhan123Woman
over a year ago

Deal

"Ghosted in real life, having been with him for 20 months, bastard asked me to marry him, walked away one day and never heard from him since

Flipping heck! Feel for ya!

Thank you, I don't need him, made it through on my own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened once, after 18 months of quite intense contact, meetings, sex... Really hurt.

I'm tougher now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's difficult.

Happens to us all.

Don't chase move on.

Be good to yourself

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By *inkyfilthymindMan
over a year ago

Berks / Heathrow

"So how many of u have been ghosted??... how did it make u feel and did they ever get back in touch months down the line? "

Yes. It is worse when you spend half the night talking and connect before going again. A week of chats and plans, the exciting second album gets booked and cancelled last minute. Silence, active on fab - ego lowered and belief in courtesy eroded

Thanks OP, that was cathartic even though I went with a dramatised version.

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By *inkyfilthymindMan
over a year ago

Berks / Heathrow

"Happened once, after 18 months of quite intense contact, meetings, sex... Really hurt.

I'm tougher now.

18 months and not even the decency to do a warm goodbye - mad!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happened once, after 18 months of quite intense contact, meetings, sex... Really hurt.

I'm tougher now.

18 months and not even the decency to do a warm goodbye - mad!"

Mad, rude, unfeeling.... whatever you want to label it.

Shitty, lazy behaviour.

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By *inkyfilthymindMan
over a year ago

Berks / Heathrow

"Happened once, after 18 months of quite intense contact, meetings, sex... Really hurt.

I'm tougher now.

18 months and not even the decency to do a warm goodbye - mad!

Mad, rude, unfeeling.... whatever you want to label it.

Shitty, lazy behaviour. "

His loss and the philosophy guilds gain

But he sounds like a mad b**tard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Casper's a right prick

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Yes, happened to me last summer.

Had got chatting with a woman from here, spent a week or two sending quite long messages back and forth, then had a social meet one evening that lasted a good 4 hours and got pretty steamy by the end and then suddenly nothing.

I assume I said something untoward, but I don't know for sure

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Several times ... They always get back in touch though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, happened to me last summer.

I assume I said something untoward, but I don't know for sure

Did you ask her? Could be real life stuff that she doesn't want to talk about.

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"Yes, happened to me last summer.

I assume I said something untoward, but I don't know for sure

Did you ask her? Could be real life stuff that she doesn't want to talk about. "

Yes, several times, both through here and other media (written communication was the only way we'd communicated) but got no reply to any of the messages.

I took the hint and gave up, as I didn't want to be seen as THAT needy

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Ghosted constantly. It's how people terminate personal relationships these days.

I'm always left wondering what I did wrong. The messages just stop coming without a word of explanation.

It always feels a bit like Invasion of the Bodysnatchers. Looks like the person I thought cared about me, sounds like the person I thought cared about me... might as well be an alien shapeshifter now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been ghosted about 6 times in last 12 months

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We made a particular friend here who has now ghosted us. It was purely a social thing. Nothing sexual had happened and it probably wouldn't have, but we got on really well and have been in regular contact for over a year and have met. Now she's just not returning our messages.

She found a regular playmate last year and we suspect it's to do with that. We think it might be more romantic than she expected it to be. But there's no reason we couldn't carry on socialising. It's odd and disappointing.

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By *aRmaTV/TS
over a year ago

Enfield town

Yes my first time as a cd

So shocked I stop to dress up for years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So how many of u have been ghosted??... how did it make u feel and did they ever get back in touch months down the line? "

Thats a norm on here,being ghosted...

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By *nblemishedhotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Stourport

Been ghosted more times than we care to remember.

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

"So how many of u have been ghosted??... how did it make u feel and did they ever get back in touch months down the line?

Thats a norm on here,being ghosted...

So much so, Most Haunted did an episode on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep got ghosted by a guy

and then every month or so he makes a new profile and messages me again

The worst!!

I hate those people

I been ghosted IRL by my first boyfriend ... and a few times online. The first time fucked me up so bad I was basically on sleeping drops for weeks

Just couldn’t process it

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I've had it where they stopped initiating contact. If i texted i always got a reply but when i stopped texting first radio silence. I called him out and asked if it meant we were done and got a snotty reply that of course not he would tell me. Then again radio silence so i just let it go. I don't chase after guys. Shame he made me laugh and was a great cook.

On here i find chats fade in and out but the guys i really connect with i have never been ghosted and am still seeing even through all the times we can't meet. Love fab!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More times than I can remember, Not from guys though only from Women and couple's

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Yeah, I've been ghosted but I have to admit I don't think about it. If I'm not someone's type then fair enough. It's sometimes happened before they know me, but if they don't want to try, then they really aren't for me either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes this happens to all at some point and will happen more than once.

It’s a shame people can’t just be honest

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South

I just get on with life. And if they get back in touch you tell them to do one. Plenty more folk out there who will chat, no point pining for ones that won’t.

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over a year ago

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

Yep last week no reason given. Its so bloody frequent on this site I simply block them breath a sigh of relief they diddnt get s chance to fuck up my life and move on.

Disnt do much for my faith in people on here though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, the last time was after a brief 3 month relationship. One day he just didn't reply.

I didn't chase, I left it. It was about to fizzle out anyway.

So maybe in reality we ghosted each other. Or maybe we both just took the hint.

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